Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[thisislife00]

para di OT, break na kami ni girl. may iba siyang bf umamin sa isa kong number na di niya alam na ako. i ask her kung may bf siya kunyari manliligaw ako, sinagot ibang name na guest niya rin. shite huli! putek, they can't be trusted girls at clubs... ang sakit pa ng mga sinabi niya, mahal niya daw yung guest kahit may asawa na... di niya raw alam ang dahilan, bakit kelangan daw ba may dahilan parati kapag nagmamahal? saka mas nauna daw yun sakin... sayang seryoso pa naman ako sa kanya.

 

and for the record, hindi gwapo yung guy at maitim. holy shite nasayang gandang lalake ko! sabi ko sa kanya ang panget ng may asawa na bf niya bat nya ko pinagpalit sa may sabit pa! sabi sakin mayabang daw pala ako at mapanlait lalong ayaw nya na daw sakin... hindi ako ganyan tao, natapakan lang talaga pride ko. pasensiya na mga sir kung mayabang, BITTER lang talaga ako ngayon at nilalabas ko sama ng loob. di naman talaga ako mayabang sa totoong buhay. pero ang sakit sobra ng ginawa niya... buti nalang nakinig parin ako kay tagalupa at di ko binitawan original gf ko, kahit muntik na...

 

add this to 90% here that didn't work out...

 

aww tnx bro.

 

about your story, nakakalungkot naman isipin na ganun ang nangyari bro. ung sakin naman, kahit meron siyang iba, ok lang sakin kasi mas importante sakin ung mahal ko siya kesa sa mahal nya ako tsaka malaki din tiwala ko sa kanya bro. kahit na malayo kami sa isa't isa. as in malayo literally, luzon - mindanao. everyday naman kami nag-uusap, everyday ko siyang tinatawagan kahit na mejo magastos in my part. isip ko nga parang tanga ako pero ganyan naman talaga pag mahal mo ung tao, nagagawa mo ung mga tangang bagay. di ba bro?

 

 

bsta this goes out to everyone:

 

"to love unconditionally should definitely the best feeling to have and the best thing to do."

Edited March 9, 2009 by Wyld

[tagalupa]

para di OT, break na kami ni girl. may iba siyang bf umamin sa isa kong number na di niya alam na ako. i ask her kung may bf siya kunyari manliligaw ako, sinagot ibang name na guest niya rin. shite huli! putek, they can't be trusted girls at clubs... ang sakit pa ng mga sinabi niya, mahal niya daw yung guest kahit may asawa na... di niya raw alam ang dahilan, bakit kelangan daw ba may dahilan parati kapag nagmamahal? saka mas nauna daw yun sakin... sayang seryoso pa naman ako sa kanya.

 

and for the record, hindi gwapo yung guy at maitim. holy shite nasayang gandang lalake ko! sabi ko sa kanya ang panget ng may asawa na bf niya bat nya ko pinagpalit sa may sabit pa! sabi sakin mayabang daw pala ako at mapanlait lalong ayaw nya na daw sakin... hindi ako ganyan tao, natapakan lang talaga pride ko. pasensiya na mga sir kung mayabang, BITTER lang talaga ako ngayon at nilalabas ko sama ng loob. di naman talaga ako mayabang sa totoong buhay. pero ang sakit sobra ng ginawa niya... buti nalang nakinig parin ako kay tagalupa at di ko binitawan original gf ko, kahit muntik na...

 

add this to 90% here that didn't work out...

 

 

Another tragic story..Wala ba magpopost ng may happy ending jan hehe.

 

Anyway Una bro, so sorry for what happend sa nyo ni girl..Dapat maging msaya ka narin kc nde ka nag give up sa gf mo, kung pinagpalit mo cia ke girl eh di doble bukol sau hehe..Bawi ka na lang ke gf and mas mahalin mo pa cia..Cgro trials eto sa relasyon mo and dont give up..

 

About ke girl..Yaan mo na lang cia..Isipin mo na lang na cia ang nawalan nde kaw..Kung pinagpalit ka sa panget eh di twanan mo na lang and hope for the best ka parin sa kanya..Kung dun cia magiging masaya dapat masaya ka na rin kahit kapalit nun eh sakit para sau..Hindi naman nawala un gf mo diba and sana wag mawala parin un RESPETO at UNAWA sa kanila..Babae parin sila katulad ng mga kapatid,mother natin and babae din cla katulad ng GF mo..Ingat bro and goodluck sa nyo ng gf mo..

Edited March 9, 2009 by Wyld

[thisislife00]

yan rin akala ko nung una. nung hindi niya nasusuklian pagmamahal ko na i will continue on loving her in spite of that. pero hindi niya na nga sinuklian nagsinungaling pa siya sakin.

 

pero bro kahit di siya magsinungaling sayo, eventually you'll get tired of it and will let go. lalo na sa situation mo. i'm starting to think unconditional love is really was just infatuation... it is not the best kind of love you'll experience.

 

 

well for me bro, it is. di lang nga natin alam kung anong mangyayari in the mere future pero i'm doing my best to keep our relationship alive.

anyway, wala pa nga pala kaming 1 month. pero malapit na.

 

kasi bro dati, mahilig ako sa i love you if... pero di rin talaga ako sumaya kaya nagbago ako at ngayon masaya na ako kahit na ganito lang. in fact, we only saw each other once. it was when i paid their spa a visit. dun kami nagkakilala we became friends tapos nung after ilang days, ayun na.

[truellusion]

Another tragic story..Wala ba magpopost ng may happy ending jan hehe.

 

Anyway Una bro, so sorry for what happend sa nyo ni girl..Dapat maging msaya ka narin kc nde ka nag give up sa gf mo, kung pinagpalit mo cia ke girl eh di doble bukol sau hehe..Bawi ka na lang ke gf and mas mahalin mo pa cia..Cgro trials eto sa relasyon mo and dont give up..

 

About ke girl..Yaan mo na lang cia..Isipin mo na lang na cia ang nawalan nde kaw..Kung pinagpalit ka sa panget eh di twanan mo na lang and hope for the best ka parin sa kanya..Kung dun cia magiging masaya dapat masaya ka na rin kahit kapalit nun eh sakit para sau..Hindi naman nawala un gf mo diba and sana wag mawala parin un RESPETO at UNAWA sa kanila..Babae parin sila katulad ng mga kapatid,mother natin and babae din cla katulad ng GF mo..Ingat bro and goodluck sa nyo ng gf mo..

yan rin sinasabi ng mga friends ko. magfocus nalang sa orig and sabi pa niya sigurado mas mamahalin ko gf ko ngayon nalaman ko ang worth niya. yes, lalo ko nakita kung gaano kahalaga gf ko, nang ibigay ko pagmamahal ko sa iba na di manlang pinahalagahan. and yan nga rin sinasabi nila, di ako ang nawalan kundi si girl... pero kahit na sinasabi nila yan masakit parin yung nalaman ko. bat niya ko sinagot kung may nauna na pala? at ang masakit pa dun sinabi niyang pinaglaruan nya lang daw ako kasi galit siya sa mga lalake. eh kung galit nga siya sa mga lalake bat shite may asawa pa yung pinili niya ganong 17 palang siya? hindi ko siya maintindihan pero tulad ng sabi mo rerespeto ko parin siya uunawain. kahit na hindi niya ko nirespeto at tinuring na tao, kundi laruan lang...

[ChickBenetto]

Another tragic story..Wala ba magpopost ng may happy ending jan hehe.

 

Anyway Una bro, so sorry for what happend sa nyo ni girl..Dapat maging msaya ka narin kc nde ka nag give up sa gf mo, kung pinagpalit mo cia ke girl eh di doble bukol sau hehe..Bawi ka na lang ke gf and mas mahalin mo pa cia..Cgro trials eto sa relasyon mo and dont give up..

 

About ke girl..Yaan mo na lang cia..Isipin mo na lang na cia ang nawalan nde kaw..Kung pinagpalit ka sa panget eh di twanan mo na lang and hope for the best ka parin sa kanya..Kung dun cia magiging masaya dapat masaya ka na rin kahit kapalit nun eh sakit para sau..Hindi naman nawala un gf mo diba and sana wag mawala parin un RESPETO at UNAWA sa kanila..Babae parin sila katulad ng mga kapatid,mother natin and babae din cla katulad ng GF mo..Ingat bro and goodluck sa nyo ng gf mo..

 

 

I don't think we'll get to see a happy ending here, not because it is not a possibility, but simply because it won't be shared here. My instincts tell me that happy endings here means a 180-degree and complete focus on their continuously unfolding tale. Misery loves company while happiness is meant to be relished.

[truellusion]

I don't think we'll get to see a happy ending here, not because it is not a possibility, but simply because it won't be shared here. My instincts tell me that happy endings here means a 180-degree and complete focus on their continuously unfolding tale. Misery loves company while happiness is meant to be relished.

Damn right, but i dunno i'm still hoping someone would share so that we'll know that this is not a fairy tale where a prince found a hot devil witch, who he then later turned into an angel like princess. haha! I still believe that no matter how nice these GRO's are they still have that devil inside them that cannot be trusted. so i will never trust my heart to a GRO again. aral na sila magtake advantage when opportunity comes. what's worse babaligtarin kapa sasabihang ikaw ang babaero at wala siyang tiwala sa mga lalakeng tulad mo... so all the blame is on you, i'll just accept it and move on.

[mwah]

Oh happy endings do exist. My sister's college friend fell in love with a GRO with a kid, much to the dismay of his family, friends and officemates. He had a longtime GF but things didn't work out between the two of them. Everybody thought it was a rebound thing but they eventually got married early this year. And yes, he gave her that fairytale wedding complete with pre-nup pictures by the lake and a reception at a quaint farm east of the metro. Oh yes, the guests were a happy mix of yuppies and yup, the girl's longtime friends and colleagues.

 

It was a big risk on both parties when they first started out but a woman would always know if a guy's intentions are good or not. The thing is, if you treat her like an option - chances are that she'll treat you like an option too.

[ChickBenetto]

It was a big risk on both parties when they first started out but a woman would always know if a guy's intentions are good or not. The thing is, if you treat her like an option - chances are that she'll treat you like an option too.

 

Couldn't have said it better. But the instance of "treating one like an option," applies to all relationships in general, but is greatly emphasized here considering the difficulty in developing trust ("complete trust" is a misnomer in my mind) and taking that leap of faith. Success in this type of relationship takes a lot of mental strength, more than one could ever imagine. Only strong minds can survive the numerous tests along the way. And what about feelings/ emotions? Well, they're just but more signals that the mind can control.

[truellusion]

Couldn't have said it better. But the instance of "treating one like an option," applies to all relationships in general, but is greatly emphasized here considering the difficulty in developing trust ("complete trust" is a misnomer in my mind) and taking that leap of faith. Success in this type of relationship takes a lot of mental strength, more than one could ever imagine. Only strong minds can survive the numerous tests along the way. And what about feelings/ emotions? Well, they're just but more signals that the mind can control.

very right on this sir. women who work on this kind of industry should understand that we (men) are facing more risk when courting or having a SERIOUS relationship with them, than just having a relationship with a kolehiyala or an office mate. there's a lot of pressure on your friends, family, society, etc. there's nothing we can do about it, that's how the world see them... they should understand that in spite of all those risk we still accept them and choose to start a relationship with them because we love them. if we're just playing we would not enter a serious relationship and will be contented as a guest. but unfortunately men fall in love too. men are into a lot more risk in this kind of relationship than women.

 

@mwah

that's a very sweet happy ending story. but marriage is just a beginning, i hope they will continue living happy. the guy did so much effort on that (based on your comment) i'm glad the girl appreciated him and didn't played with his heart.

 

but i couldn't agree on this 100%

a woman would always know if a guy's intentions are good or not. The thing is, if you treat her like an option - chances are that she'll treat you like an option too.

my intentions are good, she didn't saw it instead she choose a guy who's already married and looks serious than me. ang pagkakamali nya, kung asawa nga nun di nun sineseryoso, siya pa kayang GRO?

 

tinatawagan nga siya nung asawa minsan, ewan ko kung anong masasakit na salita sinasabi sa kanya. pero ako as a friend nalang pinapayuhan ko siya na tigilan na kasi kasalanan yun. don't commit adultery ika nga sa commandments. pero parang minamasama pa niya payo ko. concern lang ako as a friend. siguro dapat nya muna maranasan ang isang bagay bago mapatunayan na mali siya, kasi bata pa siya.

[thisislife00]

Oh happy endings do exist. My sister's college friend fell in love with a GRO with a kid, much to the dismay of his family, friends and officemates. He had a longtime GF but things didn't work out between the two of them. Everybody thought it was a rebound thing but they eventually got married early this year. And yes, he gave her that fairytale wedding complete with pre-nup pictures by the lake and a reception at a quaint farm east of the metro. Oh yes, the guests were a happy mix of yuppies and yup, the girl's longtime friends and colleagues.

 

It was a big risk on both parties when they first started out but a woman would always know if a guy's intentions are good or not. The thing is, if you treat her like an option - chances are that she'll treat you like an option too.

 

true true. a woman would always know if a man's intentions are good or not.

 

now we have one.

 

mine is still a work in progress.

 

hoping for a happy ending too.

 

as they say, things always end right/happy. if it doesn't, don't lose hope coz it's not yet the end.

[mwah]

my intentions are good, she didn't saw it instead she choose a guy who's already married and looks serious than me. ang pagkakamali nya, kung asawa nga nun di nun sineseryoso, siya pa kayang GRO?

 

tinatawagan nga siya nung asawa minsan, ewan ko kung anong masasakit na salita sinasabi sa kanya. pero ako as a friend nalang pinapayuhan ko siya na tigilan na kasi kasalanan yun. don't commit adultery ika nga sa commandments. pero parang minamasama pa niya payo ko. concern lang ako as a friend. siguro dapat nya muna maranasan ang isang bagay bago mapatunayan na mali siya, kasi bata pa siya.

 

 

Dude, stop comparing yourself with this guy and stop judging her decisions. For all you know, the married guy is just another option for her too.

 

When a woman is being told what she's supposed to do all her life and is in a profession that gives her little options to decide what she wants for herself - then chances are, she won't stick it out with a guy who would practically dictate her actions and decisions. Let her enjoy her youth and let her learn life's lessons on her own - and let her find the guy who would treat her as the one and only option there is.

[gilghost]

our happy ending is coming soon.... i just hope wala na mangugulo samin

[MidKnight_Tranz]

para di OT, break na kami ni girl. may iba siyang bf umamin sa isa kong number na di niya alam na ako. i ask her kung may bf siya kunyari manliligaw ako, sinagot ibang name na guest niya rin. shite huli! putek, they can't be trusted girls at clubs... ang sakit pa ng mga sinabi niya, mahal niya daw yung guest kahit may asawa na... di niya raw alam ang dahilan, bakit kelangan daw ba may dahilan parati kapag nagmamahal? saka mas nauna daw yun sakin... sayang seryoso pa naman ako sa kanya.

 

and for the record, hindi gwapo yung guy at maitim. holy shite nasayang gandang lalake ko! sabi ko sa kanya ang panget ng may asawa na bf niya bat nya ko pinagpalit sa may sabit pa! sabi sakin mayabang daw pala ako at mapanlait lalong ayaw nya na daw sakin... hindi ako ganyan tao, natapakan lang talaga pride ko. pasensiya na mga sir kung mayabang, BITTER lang talaga ako ngayon at nilalabas ko sama ng loob. di naman talaga ako mayabang sa totoong buhay. pero ang sakit sobra ng ginawa niya... buti nalang nakinig parin ako kay tagalupa at di ko binitawan original gf ko, kahit muntik na...

 

add this to 90% here that didn't work out...

 

It has been a while bro... I feel for you.

 

Don't worry it will eventually pass. I do hope that you take some learnings in what happened to you and be able to apply it to your life.

 

A different happy ending: My ex and I are friends right now and I think were better off as friends

 

Edited March 10, 2009 by Wyld
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[thisislife00]

today, my love for her bacame stronger. i feel like i need her more each day. still hoping for my happy ending.

 

I LOVE YOU SOPHIE.

kahit na malayo ka sakin, titiisin ko wag ka lang mawala.

 

hinding hindi kita ikakahiya sa kahit kanino man. isa ka sa pinakamagandang dumating sa buhay ko.

 

mahal na mahal kita. sana man lang mabasa mo ito.

[truellusion]

It has been a while bro... I feel for you.

 

Don't worry it will eventually pass. I do hope that you take some learnings in what happened to you and be able to apply it to your life.

 

A different happy ending: My ex and I are friends right now and I think were better off as friends

thanks sir, i too hope my heart learn something here. honestly iniyakan ko pa siya sa phone asking na wag nya ko break (tanga ko). tinawanan nya lang ako at sabing wag daw ako makulit. she's more than a player than i am, shite talaga... i dunno if i can accept her as a friend cause she faked everything. it's easier to share love than trust, and it takes a lot of trust to win a friend.

Edited March 10, 2009 by Wyld
PLS BRING EB PLANNING DISCUSSIONS TO PM MODE.

[truellusion]

Dude, stop comparing yourself with this guy and stop judging her decisions. For all you know, the married guy is just another option for her too.

 

When a woman is being told what she's supposed to do all her life and is in a profession that gives her little options to decide what she wants for herself - then chances are, she won't stick it out with a guy who would practically dictate her actions and decisions. Let her enjoy her youth and let her learn life's lessons on her own - and let her find the guy who would treat her as the one and only option there is.

you know madam i think this time i will agree with you on this. siguro nga nasakal ko siya masyado sa parating pangangaral ko sa kanya na wag na ituloy ang pagjajapan, na ituloy studies niya at kumuha ng scholarship, na tutulungan ko siya sa studies niya... kaya mas pinili niya yung walang plano sa kanya... i dunno i maybe wrong, siya lang nakakaalam ng dahilan bat niya ginawa sakin yun.

 

@thisislife00

sir you sound so in love. good luck again pero magiwan kaparin ng para sa sarili mo para kapag dumating yung di mo inaasahan, handa kana at di masyadong masasaktan. falling in love with them is so risky.

[beloved]

truellusion,

 

I cannot help myself but be awed by the transparency of your emotions... Anyway, as i told you before "with all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world".

 

It is futile to tell you to cheer up now, i know, but just the same, hey! it is not the end of the world. You have your gf and even though you know how bad you had been with her (the fact that you have deteriorated in showing her your affections) she is still there and i believe you have to focus on her now... show her that she is important and that she matters to you...

 

as for the girl, by her commision of 'adultery', she may not realize things at this time, but, all relationships has its own highways and byways. even if the married guy leaves his family for her, in time, she will feel bad, too. Not that there is a tinge of condemnation but "whatever you sow, you will reap" and "when you sow one seed, its coming back to you tenfold"...

 

it is not fair, however, that you become so bitter about all these... at least, swim in your tears and waddle in your sadness for a time, but don't stay there for long... life is beautiful beyond all the pretense of what we all call loving!

 

all the best!

[truellusion]

truellusion,

 

I cannot help myself but be awed by the transparency of your emotions... Anyway, as i told you before "with all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world".

 

It is futile to tell you to cheer up now, i know, but just the same, hey! it is not the end of the world. You have your gf and even though you know how bad you had been with her (the fact that you have deteriorated in showing her your affections) she is still there and i believe you have to focus on her now... show her that she is important and that she matters to you...

 

as for the girl, by her commision of 'adultery', she may not realize things at this time, but, all relationships has its own highways and byways. even if the married guy leaves his family for her, in time, she will feel bad, too. Not that there is a tinge of condemnation but "whatever you sow, you will reap" and "when you sow one seed, its coming back to you tenfold"...

 

it is not fair, however, that you become so bitter about all these... at least, swim in your tears and waddle in your sadness for a time, but don't stay there for long... life is beautiful beyond all the pretense of what we all call loving!

 

all the best!

thanks madam. you're the one who's always reminding me how beautiful life is even if things don't work the way we want them to be. i really don't have an idea who you are as i can see that your nick is new, i hope you're not someone i know coz i would be embarrassed with myself...

 

i'm always transparent with my feelings. yan ang sabi ko kay girl, totoo akong haharap sa kanya hindi ko man sabihin lahat ng lihim ko basta ang mahalaga totoo ang mga emotions/feelings na ipapakita ko sa kanya.

 

thanks talaga for inspiring me to move on. honestly i don't want her to reap whatever mistakes she's facing now. that's why i'm still being an Ahole giving her advice, but i think she won't accept my words and would think i'm just a jealous loser wanting her back. when ang totoo i don't want her back na, i just want her to be safe. pero tulad nga ng sabi ni mwuah, i should let her decide on her own, enjoy her youth and let her learn life's lessons on her own.

 

so i'll let bygones be bygones nalang. time to move on, be happy, focus on those people who really care and love me, and look for some other hobbies that are better than going to ktv bars. godspeed to us.

Edited March 10, 2009 by truellusion

[jetpilot_88]

bro truillusion, halos sabay tayo pumasok dito ha... sad to hear of ur loss (or hers). eitherway, natakot ako. baka our time is up too....

[truellusion]

bro truillusion, halos sabay tayo pumasok dito ha... sad to hear of ur loss (or hers). eitherway, natakot ako. baka our time is up too....

don't think like that bro. basta give your best shot, be true to your feelings.

sakin kasi basta i know binigay ko yung best side ko sa kanya, na halos pabayaan ko na yung isa...

para kahit na di kayo magworkout alam mo sa sarili mo wala kang shortcomings na sa side nya yung bumigay at wala kanang magagawa dun.

good luck always bro.

[wEbStAr]

I don't see anything wrong with falling in love as long as the feeling is true.

 

Let us not be judgmental and see the brighter side of things.

 

They are also human beings like us.

[Rasc]

there's nothing wrong to fall in love to someone, but there are times love is just not enough and where not able to follow the path that we need to walk to... i also had a short relationship with a GRO, or let's just say MU, walang nangyaring ligawan or sagutan basta we just tag along. i met her in one of the beer house not in a bar... when we had to time to date, i did not think of her as a GRO, i think i am with a friend who just need some time off from our jobs, and we share expenses when were going out, ayaw nya na hindi sya naghahati sa gastos. coz im not like her clients as she said. but every beginning has its end, she just left manila, just saying "thank you" i tried to contact her but no avail i even ask her co-workers but they don't no where she is or they promise something. well its a learning experience for me.

[truellusion]

@Rasc

yan rin bro yung kinatatakot ko sa girl ko dati na baka bigla nalang mawala umuwi province or magpunta na ng japan without letting me know... pero now i have no worries na kasi wala na kami and she played with me. i just want her to realize na dapat di niya ko niloko at tinuring niya kong tao hindi laruan. dahil mabait naman ako sa kanya, sobrang bait na siya narin nagsabi nung una na iba ako sa lahat ng guest niya...

 

ganyan lang talaga ang buhay, kung sino pang mabait siya pang napaglalaruan. ngayon halos mag 3 weeks nako di bumabalik sa club nila. di rin ako nagrereply sa text niya kahit dun sa mga kasama niya rin sa club na nagtetext di ko na nirereplayan. ayoko na sila maalala, yung mga maling tinuturo sa kanila sa club, yung mga panlalamang sa lalake, pa-sweet effect at pa love effect para bumalik balik dun. siguro babalik nako dun pag ok nako at babalik ako dun para magsaya, uminom, kumanta, at hindi para mainlove.

 

actually yung bantay rin mismo sa may pinto nila nakachikahan namin dati at sinabing aral na nga yung mga babae dun, alam na nila mga gagawin nila sa guest... nakausap 2 weeks bago pa niya ko binreak. so dapat pala nakinig ako sa bantay. hehe. so aral narin ako na wag magseryoso sa kanila...

[pixel888]

Its so much different when you start to live together. A lot of certain issues would certainly surface. Primarily, she's in the business of selling pleasure to earn big money. So if she quits, fine. Supporting her is your main goal, but dealing with her relatives who often ask for financial assistance will be a major source of conflict. Somehow the love just fades away when persistent monetary conflicts arises.

[justaboy]

huwag na, ang dami nyan