Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[eyjey]

Pwede ka naman mainlove sa thera. As long as mutual ang feelings. Like normal relationships.

[Sitti of TVS]

its been long since i last posted in this thread.

 

it's so hard for a thera to trust a gm ( vice versa ) but once the walls are down and she completely let you in. just imagine how long it will be for her to build it again once you leave her. yes in some cases or in most cases yung mga gms lagi yung parang naaargabyado. kasi they invest 'financially' . but we, (theras) we invest our reputation, our emotions, binababa namin yung defense namin. some may be monsters. i personally know some. pero nag cross kaya sa mind nyo na that 'monster' was once a princess, a damsel in distress, imagine how being in this industry can suck the life out of us. nauubos din kami. nag dedeteriorate. only time can tell when we will start to lose our self respect. or even ourselves. then we become numb. and when that 'prince charming' finally comes. will a prince charming be able to love a monster that we become..?

 

 

i agree na yes mas malaki yung succeeding level if you fall for a thera na bago pa lang sa industry. kasi di pa sia durog eh. maybe di pa sia nasasabihang p#ta ng harapan ng ibang gms. maybe di pa sia nababato sa muka ng pera. maybe di nia pa naeexperience ma pin sa wall.. maybe it's easier for her na makaalis sa industry kasi di pa sia nakakain ng sistema. maybe that thera still believe in happily ever after. then came this gm na lalaruin lang sia. will make her fall. then wooshoong will break her heart.. then the outcome..? another monster.

 

paulit ulit lang paikot ikot lang. yung bagong thera sasaktan ng gm. then yung gm sasaktan ng thera. paulit ulit na cycle. then they will hate each other. hayst i really dont know what im trying to say. this thing just crossed my mind. but the bottomline. spakols are just a place where you should relax and temporarily forget your problems in the outside. and we should only provide the service na pinunta nyo. you didnt go here for love. we also didnt work here to find love. just let things be what they should really be.

 

sa mga nasa sitwasyon nato. just think about this. for gms, isipin mo muna if totoong kaya mong tanggapin yung past nia.. yung totoo ha. hindi kunwari lng. and if she really love you to the point na she's willing to leave the 'comfort' or lahat ng luho that this industry can give . and have a decent job without you asking. for theras, loving with your heart, and 'loving' with your mind are two different things. if you love a client with your heart, then do what you should do i know your heart knows. but if you love a client with your mind, please stop. and just work hard. you can leave this industry without hurting anyone.

 

just my two cents.

[Puting Van]

personally I think mas mabuti nang mareject kesa mapaglaruan.

 

 

tama, iba kasi kapag feelings na.

[❤️Bb.A]

its been long since i last posted in this thread.

 

it's so hard for a thera to trust a gm ( vice versa ) but once the walls are down and she completely let you in. just imagine how long it will be for her to build it again once you leave her. yes in some cases or in most cases yung mga gms lagi yung parang naaargabyado. kasi they invest 'financially' . but we, (theras) we invest our reputation, our emotions, binababa namin yung defense namin. some may be monsters. i personally know some. pero nag cross kaya sa mind nyo na that 'monster' was once a princess, a damsel in distress, imagine how being in this industry can suck the life out of us. nauubos din kami. nag dedeteriorate. only time can tell when we will start to lose our self respect. or even ourselves. then we become numb. and when that 'prince charming' finally comes. will a prince charming be able to love a monster that we become..?

 

 

i agree na yes mas malaki yung succeeding level if you fall for a thera na bago pa lang sa industry. kasi di pa sia durog eh. maybe di pa sia nasasabihang p#ta ng harapan ng ibang gms. maybe di pa sia nababato sa muka ng pera. maybe di nia pa naeexperience ma pin sa wall.. maybe it's easier for her na makaalis sa industry kasi di pa sia nakakain ng sistema. maybe that thera still believe in happily ever after. then came this gm na lalaruin lang sia. will make her fall. then wooshoong will break her heart.. then the outcome..? another monster.

 

paulit ulit lang paikot ikot lang. yung bagong thera sasaktan ng gm. then yung gm sasaktan ng thera. paulit ulit na cycle. then they will hate each other. hayst i really dont know what im trying to say. this thing just crossed my mind. but the bottomline. spakols are just a place where you should relax and temporarily forget your problems in the outside. and we should only provide the service na pinunta nyo. you didnt go here for love. we also didnt work here to find love. just let things be what they should really be.

 

sa mga nasa sitwasyon nato. just think about this. for gms, isipin mo muna if totoong kaya mong tanggapin yung past nia.. yung totoo ha. hindi kunwari lng. and if she really love you to the point na she's willing to leave the 'comfort' or lahat ng luho that this industry can give . and have a decent job without you asking. for theras, loving with your heart, and 'loving' with your mind are two different things. if you love a client with your heart, then do what you should do i know your heart knows. but if you love a client with your mind, please stop. and just work hard. you can leave this industry without hurting anyone.

 

just my two cents.

 

On the overall, the whole post really does make a lot of sense and offer a lot of perspective from the other side.

 

2 areas struck me especially

 

1. Trust - since i have been harping on it very recently

2. Acceptance of the past and loving with either mind or heart

 

Kaya pala yung trust e namention sa isang movie na "BIG WORD." It's a vital to any relationship. Especially from the ones that originate under these circumstances. Mahirap lang din siguro mag expect since nabanggit din sa post na GMs come here for one thing and theras work here for another. Then something would unexpectedly find one, if not both, parties. Minsan, trust nalang panghahawakan mo talaga considering e. But if that aspect of it is shaky, ano pa yung sense dba.

 

Accepting the past is one thing, the present is something else, and the future is quite another. Personally, I don't mind the past since ano pa yung sense to dwell in that. pero the controllable ones like the present and future, well, respeto at dignidad naman sana ang consideration for both parties.

 

The last big eye opener for me was loving with the heart and loving with the mind. May ganito pala. It's a simple concept but may be true in some cases. I thought it was the only the heart but I do see the other part of it na pwede nga naman. and kung may mismatch pala between the 2 parties on which loves which, then malas nalang I guess. Time to lick your wounds and live your life.

 

 

Miss S.I.T.T.I, thanks for offering this insight. I picked up a lot (no pun intended).

IMO, this is worth a hell of a lot more than just the 2 cents that you're peddling. MIght even be worth millions in the hands of the right person.

 

I'll value it as mga 143,440 in my book. hehehehe

[Sir Galahad®]

This is hard actually. You need to be able to distinguish if it is just GFE or if it's the real thing. Some little things, like giving her her real name (which is actually a big thing to me), or talks to you about nonsensical things without actually inviting you to go to her workplace.

 

It could be friendship, or it could be more than that.

 

Maybe in this world she works in what she wants is just a friend to talk to without mentioning her job too much.

 

Or maybe she cares.

 

Now as the guy, you need to be supportive no matter what, and never try to leave her if you are not getting what you want from her.

[LordVhin]

I tried to get other thera's but still sya pa dn pumapsok sa isip ko

Dpat bang mainlove sa alam mong GFE lng ang kyang ibigay sau?

Ang hirap pala...

[haroots2]

I tried to get other thera's but still sya pa dn pumapsok sa isip ko

Dpat bang mainlove sa alam mong GFE lng ang kyang ibigay sau?

Ang hirap pala...

 

Why would you have to fall in love kahit above GFE ang ibigay sayo. Wala namang one and only ka lang na GM that she would treat that way. All her good regular GMs pareho lahat ng treatment nila dyan kasi kailangan silang i maintain to be their regular clients.

 

And also it doesn't mean na inlove ka sa thera and you treat her right kailanagan ma inlove sayo yung thera and hindi porket napaka bait at GFE sa yio ng thera dapat mainlove ka sa kanya.

Edited August 6, 2016 by haroots2

[LordVhin]

Why would you have to fall in love kahit above GFE ang ibigay sayo. Wala namang one and only ka lang na GM that she would treat that way. All her good regular GMs pareho lahat ng treatment nila dyan kasi kailangan silang i maintain to be their regular clients.

 

And also it doesn't mean na inlove ka sa thera and you treat her right kailanagan ma inlove sayo yung thera and hindi porket napaka bait at GFE sa yio ng thera dapat mainlove ka sa kanya.

Sa dami ku kc nkuha na thera sa kanya lng aq tinamaan

Tama ka i'm just 1 of the GM's that she treat like that

Tnx bro! This really helps

[haroots2]

Sa dami ku kc nkuha na thera sa kanya lng aq tinamaan

Tama ka i'm just 1 of the GM's that she treat like that

Tnx bro! This really helps

 

Been there done that. Love is blind kaya dapat may bumulong sa iyo to see.

[flashman]

Remember GMs you're only as good as your last visit (payment).

 

Sa next guest niya, yun na next "BF" niya.

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Why would you have to fall in love kahit above GFE ang ibigay sayo. Wala namang one and only ka lang na GM that she would treat that way. All her good regular GMs pareho lahat ng treatment nila dyan kasi kailangan silang i maintain to be their regular clients.

 

And also it doesn't mean na inlove ka sa thera and you treat her right kailanagan ma inlove sayo yung thera and hindi porket napaka bait at GFE sa yio ng thera dapat mainlove ka sa kanya.

It depends on the theras. You are right to "Most" of them but not to "All" of them. Like ms. Sitti posted. You will need a big deal of trust and acceptance. There are limitations given by the theras. So hindi lahat ay same treatment. A sincere heart can distinguish what is real and what is not to your feelings. Pero like what i always say. Mahirap since kailangan mo intindihin yung work environment nya or unless kaya mo sya ialis dun. Most of GMs kasi find it very hard to trust them dahil nga sa sabi nyo "the next client is her next bf". But it also applies to you, nakalimutan mo ata na kng san2 spa tayo napapadpad so the feeling is vice versa. The real challenge is how will you reach in each other's heart na manhid na dahil sa mga challenges sa life and industry. I'm not saying this out of being idealistic. Im saying this because i sincerely believe to a certain someone which i see as a "princess". Edited August 7, 2016 by MrAnime

[koga]

Bawal mainlove.

[Seijuro Hiko]

Just ask yourself this, is she still worth it pag hindi na sha maganda? That's the reason why you marry mga "matinong" babae, those with an education and breeding, it's not that that's a guarantee that they are "matino", but at least the chances are better that they will be worth something when they grow old.

[Mimo]

lagi mong iisipin na GFE lang ang lahat. Wag bastabasta magpapahila

[Don Cachupoy]

Ako kasi ilang beses na rin ako nakikipagMU sa Thera. pero wala pang naging GF talaga.

[Seta Sinestro]

Just ask yourself this, is she still worth it pag hindi na sha maganda? That's the reason why you marry mga "matinong" babae, those with an education and breeding, it's not that that's a guarantee that they are "matino", but at least the chances are better that they will be worth something when they grow old.

Horyshiz the master of the Hiten Mitsurugi Ryu has spoken! (Mejo OT sorry! Hehe)

 

Ok, back on topic. I kind of disagree with the "chances are" - or maybe I've seen rotten examples of the "matino" ones, and saw amazingly good-people theras on the other hand... so yeah maybe you're right. Chances.

 

Just.

 

Chances.

 

That's all we get. And not everyone gets one. Fate is a cruel bastard.

Edited August 7, 2016 by Sinestro

[dcxyno]

yup just recently. got hurt. but that's the risk right?

[ejpogi]

lagi kong naiisip yung thera ko sa Ohanna haha!

[whackpter]

If the feelings are real, go! Now if you have the littlest doubt, no. Because if later on you get into a fight which is normal for all married couples, the fact that she used to work where she is working now will most likely come up and it is unfair for her because you took her in with full knowledge of what she is doing now.

[Sam of Tosen]

[somo]

I never tried.

[twopops]

Yung kaibigan ko dati may naging GF sa massage parlor, para lang makalibre.

[❤️Bb.A]

hahahaha hindi na ako objective sa pag nagcomment pa ako dito.

 

About the topic, kung ano nalang yung sinabi ni Han Solo re the force and the jedi dun sa The Force Awakens, yun na ang opinyon ko dito.

[ARIES💋]

kadalasan patibong to e

 

pero minsan din, makakatagpo ka ng katapat mo

 

Sana lang sabay magtagpo kasi sayang

[darkspider]

wag kang maniniwala sa sayo ko lang ginawa to