Falling In Love But Not Getting Horny, Not Wanting Or Having Sex

[Seishi]

It's a lot sweeter, more romantic, and loving if you're able to touch someone's heart beyond your carnal desires.

 

But of course, this is tough... as sex is the greatest expression of love.

[geek70]

if you really LOVE the girl, mangingibabaw yung respect mo sa kanya so, having sex with her is like disrespecting her...

 

 

I agree. I can love a girl even without sex. Just to spend time with her without doing it is enough to make me happy. Besides, there will be a time and place for that though it may not be now.

[nhagel]

parang ako to ha

 

halos wala akong nararamdaman ewan ko ba pero sa iba oo meron pero mahal ko naman siya

 

di naman siya mataba o mapayat ok lang naman

 

siguro para sakin meron lang talaga na pangbahay at pang kama meron din naman na both

 

un lang napili ko ung pang bahay

[maniaclara]

this probably rarely ever happens. i think it's either just a phase, or you have some other issues with her which you are in denial of. worse, if she's throwing herself at you already and you find yourself just shying away, maybe you have ED (erectile dysfunction) or are just a complete saint. AS IF.

[Lord Superb]

Interesting viewpoints here. Let's put it this way. We have three basic needs: physical, spiritual, and emotional. Depending on how you were raised, the society in which you move, or the impressions and nuances you've acquired from people, you might predominantly pay attention to one need at the expense of others. That, or you develop just one aspect of yourself instead of the whole.

 

Just think of the men and women who've been satisfying mostly their physical needs. Once they've had their fair share, which probably took years, they may now focus on their emotional needs. Thus, it's no surprise that a person in love, so-called, no longer feels the urge or the tendency to have sex because the emotional need is more important now. Sometimes, though, the inhibition or lack of desire to have sex stems from guilt or self-loathing over past misdeeds.

 

Again it's about knowing yourself well and developing yourself completely before entering a relationship.

[Rasc]

well actually its a reality... nangyayari din naman sa atin, kahit once... when I'm with her, I don't feel a thing of lust, parang ayos lang, asaran kahit ano gawin kakulitan, basta masaya lang kami, but pag sa iba... that's a different story... hindi pa masyado nakakadikit... lahat naman tayo may iba't ibang opinyon, kung paano natin i-handle ang ganitong sitwasyon...

[nancyneurotic]

Hindi ako 'nagnasa' sa ex ko siguro platonic love lang pala ang na-feel ko for him before. But our relationship lasted for only 9 months & i probably wasn't ready.

[Zach G]

if you really love the girl and know how to respect her, sex will not cross on your mind when you're with her. not unless you both agreed to do it

[complicated8]

Hahaha!!! :evil: How come sex = bad and making love = good?

Coupled with premarital sex = bad :evil: and marriage sex = good?

 

Both are the same but we always have to attach a feeling of guilt with sex.

 

Are we fooling ourselves? Lust/horniness is a natural feeling but we associate it with something evil.

 

If you want this girl and not want sex, there must be something wrong. You can have platonic relationships with anyone. Plus you are cheating with her if you want sex with another and not with her.

 

Confused?

[orionquest]

up ko lang tong interesting topic.

 

it could happen. for those who have experienced this, it must be purely bliss..

[BRONX]

Just show considerations for your partners well-being if she don't want to have sex with you , yes i agree with lord superb post above that we have

basic needs ( physical, spiritual , mental, emotional ) , depending on how we grow in the society that we live...just respect if your partner grows in different way

Ika nga - waiting is a test of true love- Love is patient, Thats about as simple as it gets. We can learn the sincerity of our partner's love by willingness,

or lack thereof , to wait.., LUST is everywhere,but i don't mean that you can do it whenever or wherever you wanted it too,w/o respecting your partner.

LUST is easy come easy go, but LOVE that involves feelings and respect..

Finding true love..that's hard to find. better if you don't find it, but wait instead.

From Philippians 2:3

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;

 

The word LOVE has many different meaning, it can be describe as an intense feeling of affection, an emotion or an emotional state.

Corinthians 13:4-5

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking

 

To those who already find LOVE in there hearts..Goodluck! but don't easily laid

To those who enjoy LUST , will better better start to look for LOVE now..or if already in a relationship, better STOP doing it.

and respect LOVE with your partner..Mahirap na makarma, right??

Edited July 14, 2010 by BRONX

[bayag060310]

you could fall in love without sex - but you'll definitely need sex (later) to keep the relationship going.

 

... sex during happy occasions reinforces relationships.

... sex after heated fights calms the relationship

... sex during sad occasions comforts both partners

 

just my two cents ...

[dorkas]

nrnsan ko na rn yn,kakaiba ang feelin,d ko mlman kung pgod lng tlg or wla s mood.....

[getsumei]

This is possible. Hindi ko inakala na mangyayari sa akin un. I was totally enjoying her company and talking with her and super maalaga. It was short-lived nga lang, much to my dismay hanggang ngayon.

[richdadpoordad]

This kind of question pops up normally sa mga guys na hindi familiar sa idea na sex and love go hand in hand, yung mga tipong ipinepedestal masyado ang babae. You place her on that pedestal, so ayaw mo tuloy babuyin with something dirty like sex. So it's also tied to attitudes about sex and love.

 

In contrast, sa girls, this question can actually come up in a typical conversation, since unlike the male perspective, females do not even give focus to the sex even if they enjoy and need it.