Grimace Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 oooh no.....i think you should start thinking about yourself, forget about women for awhile and drive.....women are soooo complicated...and you're probably exhausted your last iota for a nobody.....Forget her....not worth it..not worth your time.... Quote Link to comment
zxd168pzz Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 Firstly, we can only see one side of the story .... yours. But based on your account of the relationship, I can infer or even conclude the following things: 1.) she has a big emotional baggage about her ex bf2.) she's not decided on you yet - maybe it's related to #1)3.) she's hiding things from you (e.g. friendster, chatting)4.) there's no buy-in from the parents. The family has not embraced you as a suitor5.) she has exhibited no emotional stability in the relationship I don't really see anything worth clinging on to this relationship not unless you're : a.) getting mind-blowing sex from her; b.) you're unattractive and your options are limited; You got one part of the equation right though. Love is about action even if it's not reciprocated. But you will usually dedicate yourself in this type of relationship if it has matured (to marriage of course). But your relationship seems very young, immature, and based on superficial exchanges of texting love-you messages. From my perspective, you have related a relationship that really has no moral basis. She's not truthful, decided, or firm about anything. This is a one-way street. I suggest you get the f*ck out and use your time more productively. Cheers. Quote Link to comment
Larry Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 told you to run away man... Quote Link to comment
David Aames Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 oooh no.....i think you should start thinking about yourself, forget about women for awhile and drive.....women are soooo complicated...and you're probably exhausted your last iota for a nobody.....Forget her....not worth it..not worth your time.... I second the motion. amidst the complexities and insanity of it all lies our inner self that we lost somehow, somewhere and we've forgotten all about. There'll be always a time for some isolation... for me its like quitting smoking... the addiction is there, but sometimes we have to learn how to quit no matter how many times we fail at least we try sometimes and perhaps just perhaps that sometime will be the time we'll find our true selves minus the insanity and the complexities. Quote Link to comment
Mang Joe Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 or is it just because she hasn't gotten over her ex yet and then jumping into a new relationship already this in my opinion is probably the best explanation....you wouldn't want to be the "boy on the side" right? im not saying she doesnt love you....BUT its pretty obvious shes still into or currently with her ex...dont make yourself suffer bro...right now its not really worth it....you're just exhausting yourself emotionally and psychologically Quote Link to comment
Joie Posted November 6, 2006 Share Posted November 6, 2006 ...And i guess what you have to realize is for you to be loved by others, you have to love yourself first. Think of YOU before her at this time. Please stop letting her walk all over you and move on. Quote Link to comment
prettywoman Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 i checked her secret friendster account and i was surprised to see a pic of her and her ex again in a resto. unfortunately, there was no date there so she can always say that it's not a latest pic but my instinct tells me that it's a latest pic. tsk! tsk! Quote Link to comment
Grimace Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 too much expectations is a poison lot....women,you can't change men even when you marry them and men, women will always be like their mothers and look like them when they get old... Quote Link to comment
lomex32 Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 uchisy is right .... when we expect something from what little shown ... it may just be a recipe for a disaster ...... it is not bad to be Optimistic in MATH and SCIENCE... but such cases only a MIRACLE can It is also easy to give advices .... take your time being with Friends .... isipin mo kng ano ang VALUE na imortante sa iyoif it is LOVE hang-onif it is DIGNITY then move on too much expectations is a poison lot....women,you can't change men even when you marry them and men, women will always be like their mothers and look like them when they get old... Quote Link to comment
Grimace Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 uchisy is right .... when we expect something from what little shown ... it may just be a recipe for a disaster ...... it is not bad to be Optimistic in MATH and SCIENCE... but such cases only a MIRACLE can It is also easy to give advices .... take your time being with Friends .... isipin mo kng ano ang VALUE na imortante sa iyoif it is LOVE hang-onif it is DIGNITY then move on Yes yes yes indeed! lomex...i think some people have unrealistic expectations about their partners, you have to accept them as they are..thats why you got into the relationship..if in the beggining you find something odd and nasty, you have the choice to get out...some people beat around the bush and blame it on love, blame it on the rain ,blame it on peer pressure for being miserable...expectations are yours, and its yours to own and its your fault when you get hurt.. yes take your time being with other people..dignity and self-respect ang konsensya mo...trust it, embrace it Quote Link to comment
lomex32 Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Well if we may put it ... our friend here may have the right to his choices.. and in the given situation ... he could not hardly make one because he is getting different signals.... In life there are crossroads, it is our prerogative to take the left or to take the right.... staying in the crossroad and wait for a miracle may also be one's choice .... Time ticks ... we have no control over time but for every tick and event transpires and believe memost of these events are within our control ....Life is short ..... how many events can we really squeeze into it?Your call..... Yes yes yes indeed! lomex...i think some people have unrealistic expectations about their partners, you have to accept them as they are..thats why you got into the relationship..if in the beggining you find something odd and nasty, you have the choice to get out...some people beat around the bush and blame it on love, blame it on the rain ,blame it on peer pressure for being miserable...expectations are yours, and its yours to own and its your fault when you get hurt.. yes take your time being with other people..dignity and self-respect ang konsensya mo...trust it, embrace it Quote Link to comment
the messiah Posted November 8, 2006 Share Posted November 8, 2006 my advice is give her one hell of a sexperience. cgurado makakalimutan nya ang ex nya Quote Link to comment
lomex32 Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 I agree but it may be more than that .... some counselling, pampering, caring ... ang babae nga naman ... but some really could not just get out of their past dito na ang disapperaing, avoiding, vanishing my advice is give her one hell of a sexperience. cgurado makakalimutan nya ang ex nya Quote Link to comment
wildswans Posted November 9, 2006 Author Share Posted November 9, 2006 if i decided to break with her na, i should tell her the reason why right? that i found her secret friendster account and her going out with her supposed ex? i don't plan to tell her kasi that i found out about it by snooping around her email sent folder although she gave me her password without me asking. Quote Link to comment
complicated8 Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 you don't have to tell her what you found out unless she really wants to. But this doesn't help. Just tell her that you don't feel that you're the one and that she still have hangups with her ex. She can resolve that and if she still wants you then maybe you can try again. But for now, give her time and space. If you just want to be her fubu, then just don't expect more and just enjoy the fubu relationship. I'm happy with this. Quote Link to comment
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