A Complicated Relationship

[cHinitababe86]

lahat ng relationships, nagiging complicated, if walang challenges,

then it would not be as exciting and it wont make u both strong.

sabi nila, sa pagtagal ng panahon na magkasama kayo at sabay niyo

nalalagpasan ang bawat trials, it makes u love ur partner more,

and appreciate him/her too.

 

pero may hangganan ang lahat, as they say, sometimes, may pains,

may troubles, may hassles.. pero if nararamdaman mo na ung mga

pananakit, pagsisinungaling, at lahat ng uri ng bagay kasama na

ang pagtapak sa pagkatao mo sa pamamagitan ng INTENTIONAL na pananakit,

well hindi na un pagmamahal. lying is one. if niloloko ka paulit ulit,

naglilihim sayo, hindi proud sa meron kayo,

i dont think its a good sign of staying. as for me, mas malaki

pa sa 11 years age gap ung sa partner ko, but i was NEVER ashamed of

having him in my life, i even introduced him sa family ko.

at kasundo siya ng mga kapatid ko at parents ko. actually,

boto ang dad ko sakanya. may mga small conflicts kame,

pero ang saken lang na sikreto is give and take. hindi palage ako

ng ako masusunod or vice versa.

anyway, nasabi ko nalang din ang signs if worthy ituloy ang relationship,

pero for me, sa nakikita ko sa nilagay mo, u deserve someone better.

if hindi niya nakikita ang efforts mo, someone else will.

and will love u even more than u love that silly gal.

Edited November 11, 2010 by cHinitababe86

[friendly0603]

How's this for complicated?

 

I love someone but I'm away literally from her. I couldn't commit because of complications with our situation. I do not want to her to give up her life & be with me. She has a good life, work, etc.

 

When I left, I told her nothing has changed. I still love her. But she decided it was time to move on and she met someone new. Now, she's pregnant. She says she still loves me.

 

Would I give up everything and come back and take her? What about her baby? What about the rights of the dad? Very complicated - I really don't know what to do.

 

I guess I'll just have to suffer. I told her the baby took me by surprise. I was hoping that at least she really has ended our relationship first before doing that. A year or so with another guy, get engaged or something then a baby. It all happened so fast.

 

I'm suffering and I can't do anything about it. I think I'll have to say goodbye to the one who was really the one who I thought I could spend the rest of my life with. I love her and that may be forever. But it's wrong for me to love her.

[wfman]

lahat ng relationships, nagiging complicated, if walang challenges,

then it would not be as exciting and it wont make u both strong.

sabi nila, sa pagtagal ng panahon na magkasama kayo at sabay niyo

nalalagpasan ang bawat trials, it makes u love ur partner more,

and appreciate him/her too.

 

pero may hangganan ang lahat, as they say, sometimes, may pains,

may troubles, may hassles.. pero if nararamdaman mo na ung mga

pananakit, pagsisinungaling, at lahat ng uri ng bagay kasama na

ang pagtapak sa pagkatao mo sa pamamagitan ng INTENTIONAL na pananakit,

well hindi na un pagmamahal. lying is one. if niloloko ka paulit ulit,

naglilihim sayo, hindi proud sa meron kayo,

i dont think its a good sign of staying. as for me, mas malaki

pa sa 11 years age gap ung sa partner ko, but i was NEVER ashamed of

having him in my life, i even introduced him sa family ko.

at kasundo siya ng mga kapatid ko at parents ko. actually,

boto ang dad ko sakanya. may mga small conflicts kame,

pero ang saken lang na sikreto is give and take. hindi palage ako

ng ako masusunod or vice versa.

anyway, nasabi ko nalang din ang signs if worthy ituloy ang relationship,

pero for me, sa nakikita ko sa nilagay mo, u deserve someone better.

if hindi niya nakikita ang efforts mo, someone else will.

and will love u even more than u love that silly gal.

 

hi ms chinitababes86,

 

i was reading ur reply and then suddenly, at the bottom part, these lines happened to catch my eyes:

 

wala namang taong sadyang

pinanganak na MANLOLOKO,

ndi lang tlga naitanim sa utak nila

ang kahulugan ng mga salitang

SERYOSO, KONTENTO at RESPETO.

 

i guess partly correct and partly wrong. very general kasi yung statement eh. maybe it's easy for you to say that because you have never been to a situation where you feel exactly the same thing towards two different individuals. believe it or not, contentment is only temporary. u would reach a certain point when you would ask urself what you think you are missing in your life. trust me. we're just human. isa yun sa pinakamahirap harapin sa buhay mo. for me kasi, there are two types of manloloko: one who is intentionally fooling around, and the other one who is just trying to be honest to him/herself and in effect, unintentionally fools his or her loved one. and if ever that thing is what you call destiny, well it sucks big time!!

 

just stating my opinion here.

 

[malisyosa_ako]

my relationship status is always complicated,... i must prefer it...

its for my own good,. para hnd ako nasasaktan kht lokohin ako or iwan..

and kht lokohin ko at iwan ko wla akong lilingunin.

[Miss Zelda]

yes marriage disillusions a lot of people, just think that you'd be sleeping with the same person every night and listening to some badgering crappy nagging disputes of who knows when the last time you cheated with whos who. Thank god i'm not married.

[TanglewoodBoy]

yes marriage disillusions a lot of people, just think that you'd be sleeping with the same person every night and listening to some badgering crappy nagging disputes of who knows when the last time you cheated with whos who. Thank god i'm not married.

 

and i admire those who have been married for a long time...

 

it's really hard to maintain a marriage....

 

[cbestonactor]

I do say that mine is a bit complicated in a sense that its not a relationship yet, but ive told someone that i do like her, we communicate through text and chat., i told her that i do like her a lot., she really made me feel different in everything., i do like her and been frank with her, but she told me the same thing as well that she cant commit just yet., still stick to what i have in mind i do like you chel, aka wetkiss...

[cHinitababe86]

hi ms chinitababes86,

 

i was reading ur reply and then suddenly, at the bottom part, these lines happened to catch my eyes:

 

wala namang taong sadyang

pinanganak na MANLOLOKO,

ndi lang tlga naitanim sa utak nila

ang kahulugan ng mga salitang

SERYOSO, KONTENTO at RESPETO.

 

i guess partly correct and partly wrong. very general kasi yung statement eh. maybe it's easy for you to say that because you have never been to a situation where you feel exactly the same thing towards two different individuals. believe it or not, contentment is only temporary. u would reach a certain point when you would ask urself what you think you are missing in your life. trust me. we're just human. isa yun sa pinakamahirap harapin sa buhay mo. for me kasi, there are two types of manloloko: one who is intentionally fooling around, and the other one who is just trying to be honest to him/herself and in effect, unintentionally fools his or her loved one. and if ever that thing is what you call destiny, well it sucks big time!!

 

just stating my opinion here.

 

masyado mo palang siniryoso ung signature ko,

fyi, ung signature is just plain signature.

i posted it just for the sake of having a signature. literally.

nothing personal, ni hindi connected sa buhay ko.

i got that from a quote that was sent to me via sms

hahaha

 

dont react negatively, wala naman akong sinabing para sa majority

yang sinagot ko eh. another thing, its just an OPINION.

and i think, everybody is entitled to express what they have in mind.

kaya nga forums eh. may kanya2 tayong opnion, at madalas run,

answers are influenced based on our experiences.

so hindi tlga magiging pare2pareho

ang bawat bagay.

jusko naman, kung hindi mo yan alam, aba..

 

chill, kasi nakakatanda ang masyadong pagseseryoso sa buhay.

 

 

MIND YOU: read my nick again, its NOT chinitababes86,

but chinitababe86

 

ayt?

Edited November 14, 2010 by cHinitababe86

[wfman]

masyado mo palang siniryoso ung signature ko,

fyi, ung signature is just plain signature.

i posted it just for the sake of having a signature. literally.

nothing personal, ni hindi connected sa buhay ko.

i got that from a quote that was sent to me via sms

hahaha

 

dont react negatively, wala naman akong sinabing para sa majority

yang sinagot ko eh. another thing, its just an OPINION.

and i think, everybody is entitled to express what they have in mind.

kaya nga forums eh. may kanya2 tayong opnion, at madalas run,

answers are influenced based on our experiences.

so hindi tlga magiging pare2pareho

ang bawat bagay.

jusko naman, kung hindi mo yan alam, aba..

 

chill, kasi nakakatanda ang masyadong pagseseryoso sa buhay.

 

 

MIND YOU: read my nick again, its NOT chinitababes86,

but chinitababe86

 

ayt?

 

hi ms chinitababe86 w/o s,

 

just like what u said, this is a forum. and we can discuss anything under the sun. too bad, ur signature lies under the sun eh. just kidding. well i am not here para makipag-away. but im not saying that u are not a worthy opponent ha. it was just my personal understanding i guess na u were a victim of a heinous crime of pagtataksil. kasi naman, u could have chosen a line from forrest gump (e.g. life is like a box of chocolate, u'll never know what u'll gonna get). or rizal's ang hindi marunong magmahal sa sariling wika ay blah blah blah... suggestions lang naman yun. kasi if i use, "legalize prostitution in the philippines". i am sure u wud think that i'm a pervert di ba? and i guess, what we write reflect what we think. ayan di ako uli nakikipagtalo sa yo ha? sabi mo nga its just an OPINION.

 

well, come to think of it? sino kaya sa tin ang mas seryoso? what if i tell u na what i did was purely intentional? that i posted an opinion that would make u react the way i expected u to do just to get ur attention? and my reason behind this? wag na at baka maging subject pa to ng iyong OPINION eh.

thanks sa reply ha.

wfman69

" chill, kasi nakakatanda

ang masyadong pagseseryoso sa buhay

- chinitababe86"

[Seishi]

^^^ Amusing

 

On topic:

 

A certain few complexities in a relationship are pretty normal... Without them, well I don't personally call it a relationship. It's always a work in progress, helping each other to grow.

 

 

A relationship, for me, turns complicated when one practically is unsure where s/he truly stands. When your mind dictates that you're in an "uncommitted" relationship.... but your heart, in a slightest truth, feels you're getting serious with your emotions.

 

 

To some, the situation appears unavoidable. But to some, it's a vicious cycle they simply prefer to be "in" that status... less painful as they say.

[robsalvador]

^^^ Amusing

 

On topic:

 

A certain few complexities in a relationship are pretty normal... Without them, well I don't personally call it a relationship. It's always a work in progress, helping each other to grow.

 

 

A relationship, for me, turns complicated when one practically is unsure where s/he truly stands. When your mind dictates that you're in an "uncommitted" relationship.... but your heart, in a slightest truth, feels you're getting serious with your emotions.

 

 

To some, the situation appears unavoidable. But to some, it's a vicious cycle they simply prefer to be "in" that status... less painful as they say.

 

Ano daw? (Cheesy time?)

 

Seriously.. Life without complications is just not possible.. And if there was such a thing as a "perfect" relationship.. Then congratulations to the lucky winner!..

 

But I somehow think that its those very complications that make life worth living.. Its where we learn how to grow and how to really live life fully..

 

But then again.. I must just be getting old..

[friendly0603]

How's this for complicated?

I love someone but I'm away literally from her. I couldn't commit because of complications with our situation. I do not want to her to give up her life & be with me. She has a good life, work, etc.

 

When I left, I told her nothing has changed. I still love her. But she decided it was time to move on and she met someone new. Now, she's pregnant. She says she still loves me.

Would I give up everything and come back and take her? What about her baby? What about the rights of the dad? Very complicated - I really don't know what to do.

I guess I'll just have to suffer. I told her the baby took me by surprise. I was hoping that at least she really has ended our relationship first before doing that. A year or so with another guy, get engaged or something then a baby. It all happened so fast.

I'm suffering and I can't do anything about it. I think I'll have to say goodbye to the one who was really the one who I thought I could spend the rest of my life with. I love her and that may be forever. But it's wrong for me to love her.

Any comments?

Edited November 15, 2010 by friendly0603

[cHinitababe86]

hi ms chinitababe86 w/o s,

 

just like what u said, this is a forum. and we can discuss anything under the sun. too bad, ur signature lies under the sun eh. just kidding. well i am not here para makipag-away. but im not saying that u are not a worthy opponent ha. it was just my personal understanding i guess na u were a victim of a heinous crime of pagtataksil. kasi naman, u could have chosen a line from forrest gump (e.g. life is like a box of chocolate, u'll never know what u'll gonna get). or rizal's ang hindi marunong magmahal sa sariling wika ay blah blah blah... suggestions lang naman yun. kasi if i use, "legalize prostitution in the philippines". i am sure u wud think that i'm a pervert di ba? and i guess, what we write reflect what we think. ayan di ako uli nakikipagtalo sa yo ha? sabi mo nga its just an OPINION.

 

well, come to think of it? sino kaya sa tin ang mas seryoso? what if i tell u na what i did was purely intentional? that i posted an opinion that would make u react the way i expected u to do just to get ur attention? and my reason behind this? wag na at baka maging subject pa to ng iyong OPINION eh.

thanks sa reply ha.

wfman69

" chill, kasi nakakatanda

ang masyadong pagseseryoso sa buhay

- chinitababe86"

actually, kahit ilagay mo ung signature na "legalize prostitution" wala naman akong kebs dun.

ni hindi ko pakekelaman at mag aassume kasi alam kong possibly iba ang intindi mo kaya mo nilagay yan,

at iba rin ang magiging understanding ko. hindi ko gagawin makelam ng signature ng may signature.

dko naman papansinin yung signature mo, at kesa may assume what's the meaning of it, maybe

in a safe way itatanong ko nalang para sure. para malaman ko kung tama ung intindi ko or not.

 

about getting my attention, wala naman rin akong pakelam, normally, if feel ko mag post maglalagay ako

if not, wala. i dont mind intentional or hindi. dont worry, im just posting just to past time,

hindi rin naman ako nagpopost para makelam ng signature ng may signature eh.

swerte ko lang at agaw pansin ang signature ko kaya pinakelaman mo at inintepret mo agad by assuming something

out from it. anyway, lastly, ayoko ng binabasa ng mali ang nickname ko. kaya kita kinorek.

pwede rin ako tawagin tulad ng tawag ng iba rito its chinee/CB.

[wfman]

actually, kahit ilagay mo ung signature na "legalize prostitution" wala naman akong kebs dun.

ni hindi ko pakekelaman at mag aassume kasi alam kong possibly iba ang intindi mo kaya mo nilagay yan,

at iba rin ang magiging understanding ko. hindi ko gagawin makelam ng signature ng may signature.

dko naman papansinin yung signature mo, at kesa may assume what's the meaning of it, maybe

in a safe way itatanong ko nalang para sure. para malaman ko kung tama ung intindi ko or not.

 

about getting my attention, wala naman rin akong pakelam, normally, if feel ko mag post maglalagay ako

if not, wala. i dont mind intentional or hindi. dont worry, im just posting just to past time,

hindi rin naman ako nagpopost para makelam ng signature ng may signature eh.

swerte ko lang at agaw pansin ang signature ko kaya pinakelaman mo at inintepret mo agad by assuming something

out from it. anyway, lastly, ayoko ng binabasa ng mali ang nickname ko. kaya kita kinorek.

pwede rin ako tawagin tulad ng tawag ng iba rito its chinee/CB.

 

hi again ms chinitababe86 w/o s,

 

medyo high blood ka yata? naiimagine ko na nga na while u were reading my post eh medyo naniningkit na ang mga mata mo. i'm not saying that i'm wrong here. kasi nga accoding to u eh forum ito so we can freely express anything we wanted to say here. malas mo nga lang at i happened to scrutinize ur signature. pinanganak yata talaga akong makialam ng signature mo eh. well, since i do feel very ungentleman here with all my annoying responses to you, it's better siguro to apologize na lang sa yo. okay u win. it's my bad. ayan ha, siguro naman hindi na maniningkit ang mata mo sa pagbasa ng reply ko na to? oh by the way may i quote u again?

"swerte ko lang at agaw pansin ang signature ko kaya pinakelaman mo at inintepret mo agad by assuming something

out from it.".

 

i think hindi yata ako ang assuming sa ating dalawa ryt?

 

 

wfman69

" chill, kasi nakakatanda

ang masyadong pagseseryoso sa buhay

- chinitababe86"

[robsalvador]

To simplify would be to omit..

 

To embrace would be to admit..

 

But to love despite..

 

Would be stupid..

 

But it will still be love nonetheless..