complicated8 Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 Hmmm..... Story of Us? Quote Link to comment
jgc813 Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 For me, this is really hard to fathom. I cannot see how this is possible, i.e., you love someone, then, you are no longer happy with the person. I believe true love brings about true happiness. So, when such a thing happens: "I love him/her, but in my heart, I'm no longer happy," I would, maybe even the love has waned, if not, has gone already. It may be possible that the "not happy anymore" line is simply an excuse. Maybe, the person is simply NOT CANDID enough to say, "I don't love you anymore." Quote Link to comment
baboyx Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 Case in point -- you both are in love with each other, so it seems. Nothing is wrong, everything is smooth sailing. Even the sex is great. Then, one day, you get the shock of your life. You hear from your significant other -- or worse, you hear it from someone else -- I love you or him/her, but I'm not happy anymore. Is this possible? Can you really claim you love someone, and not be happy with him/her anymore? If you're the person who claims you love, and you're not happy, what would you do? Would you try to save the situation? How would you do it? Would you tell your 'loved one?' If you're the person who is loved, but your significant other is not happy with you anymore, what would you do? How would you try to win him/her back by bringing back her to be happy with you? If she is not happy, then for me there is no more love anymore. Talk about it first. Why your significant other is not happy anymore. Would you rather exert more than you can give so that you can save the relationship? If so, then you will be the one suffering. I've been through that and been burned to cinders. Well, that's my opinion though. Quote Link to comment
Gaston Le Foix Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 Hope someone can help me with this one... I just got into a relationship, it's been 3 weeks, and it's gonna be our 1st monthsary next month, but the thing is, parang nag-sawa na kagad ko... I love her pero parang hanggang dun nalang, well siguro I'm looking for something more thatn what we have. To be honest ang boring kasi ng set-up namin, Typical date after work, watch a movies and stuff like that. Now parang isip=isip ko, buti pa yung time na nililigawan ko siya, may konting excitement pa, and ngayon wala na talga. Is it my fault na ganito ako, yung may hinahanap pa ako? What should I do? Should I break up with her? or Talk to her about this problem? Quote Link to comment
Miss Zelda Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 Hi Ganman i know exactly how you feel. My advice is just break-up because women often times expect a lot on a relationship and it would hurt the more if you still stick to this relationship. If you talked it over, and you know you don't want her to cry a bucket of tears, she would talk to you in staying and you'd promptly say yes because you don't want to hurt her feelings which is honestly emotional blackmail lang. Don't talk na lang, or if you do, tell her you're not ready to commit( since girls here would be in a relationship and be committed) or better break-up. 1 Quote Link to comment
Gaston Le Foix Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 Hi Ganman i know exactly how you feel. My advice is just break-up because women often times expect a lot on a relationship and it would hurt the more if you still stick to this relationship. If you talked it over, and you know you don't want her to cry a bucket of tears, she would talk to you in staying and you'd promptly say yes because you don't want to hurt her feelings which is honestly emotional blackmail lang. Don't talk na lang, or if you do, tell her you're not ready to commit( since girls here would be in a relationship and be committed) or better break-up. Well... thanks for that tip, I'll keep that in mind tomorrow, when I break up with her. I also realized that, I just like her, but I'm not INLOVE with her... should I use the infamous line "It's not you! It's me... well it is you"? Quote Link to comment
maniaclara Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 Well... thanks for that tip, I'll keep that in mind tomorrow, when I break up with her. I also realized that, I just like her, but I'm not INLOVE with her... should I use the infamous line "It's not you! It's me... well it is you"?what? you're already breaking up with her and it's her fault you're breaking up with her? i say, ditch the line. too much of a cliche, too self-righteous as well. if i were you, i'd stick to the "i'm not ready to commit" line. otherwise, you can tell her she doesn't deserve a fickle guy like you. (sorry, but that's just how i see it.) Quote Link to comment
complicated8 Posted December 28, 2010 Share Posted December 28, 2010 Affair - yes , love - no Quote Link to comment
jgc813 Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Case in point -- you both are in love with each other, so it seems. Nothing is wrong, everything is smooth sailing. Even the sex is great. Then, one day, you get the shock of your life. You hear from your significant other -- or worse, you hear it from someone else -- I love you or him/her, but I'm not happy anymore. Is this possible? Can you really claim you love someone, and not be happy with him/her anymore? If you're the person who claims you love, and you're not happy, what would you do? Would you try to save the situation? How would you do it? Would you tell your 'loved one?' If you're the person who is loved, but your significant other is not happy with you anymore, what would you do? How would you try to win him/her back by bringing back her to be happy with you? I wonder why my topic "I LOVE YOU BUT I'M NOT HAPPY ANYMORE" was deleted and merged with this. It doesn't seem to be the same. Quote Link to comment
erato Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 I was wondering the same. I used to follow this thread, now I'm just confused. Quote Link to comment
heatseeker0714 Posted December 29, 2010 Share Posted December 29, 2010 Secret Love Affiar, no....... Secret Sex Affair, hell yeah! Quote Link to comment
don210 Posted January 31, 2011 Share Posted January 31, 2011 May secret affair kami ni 1st cousin. Quote Link to comment
ashcanman Posted February 8, 2011 Share Posted February 8, 2011 Who was it that said... "It's not cheating if you don't fall in love..." Quote Link to comment
ambidextrous00 Posted February 10, 2011 Share Posted February 10, 2011 (edited) Who was it that said... "It's not cheating if you don't fall in love..." i used to think the same. as of writing, im nt quite sure anymore... ay off topic. would i indulge in a secret love affair? i think i would. why havent i learned anything Edited February 10, 2011 by ambidextrous00 Quote Link to comment
lotus08 Posted February 16, 2011 Share Posted February 16, 2011 secret love affair .. In in one now... yes its SECRET her live-in partner and my wife dont know about it...yes there is LOVE .. we both feel it..(for six years now..) ... AFFAIR... its unfair..heheheh I want out.. she dont want... hay.. why??? i dont know.... I should have not indulge...lesson learned... every now and then thinking of ways to separate with her.. without hurting her...waste of time and resources.... Quote Link to comment
DaKingLeaves Posted March 18, 2011 Share Posted March 18, 2011 Ako? Hindi na siguro.Been There.Done That.Not a good ending to a beautiful beginning. Hindi na siguro secret love affair. SEB at ONS na lang siguro. Quote Link to comment
koraptor Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 secret love affairs? I did...and always will... Quote Link to comment
dfgpat Posted March 20, 2011 Share Posted March 20, 2011 if it's with lia cruz... why not Quote Link to comment
zooeey Posted March 24, 2011 Share Posted March 24, 2011 Maybe I would, if it will make me really happy. It's difficult to be absolutely sure of anything nowadays. I have a friend who seemed happily married. She and her husband has a daughter and they seem to have a perfect family. Her husband has a great job, she's a housewife, and their daughter is this lovely and smart little girl. But she shares that the passion in her marriage is waning. She says her husband no longer woos her, no longer takes her out on a date, and doesn't seem to show the same passion as before. When they go out, it's always as a family, and somehow she is expected to be "motherly". The problem is that she is the type of woman who wants the fire always burning. She says, there are times I want to feel like I am a woman-- not a mother but a woman. She says, I want to be treated the same way as when we were still dating. I want him to pay attention to everything I say, careful not to miss a word. But what's happening is awful, she confesses. We are this normal, boring family, and our marriage is turning out to be normal and boring, too. On the outside they really are a perfect family. But she and I know that inside she is dying. Then, as if to test her, an old flame comes to her life again. For months, the man is on a one-way street, wooing her and almost like courting her. But she wouldn't budge. She won't let him even hold her hands. But time passes and still her home situation doesn't change. She is still this beautiful but caged trophy wife to a successful and overly jealous husband. Then one day she decides to just give in. She tells me, my life is so short so be spent wishing that my husband would change. My resentment will just grow and God forbid, this marriage will end if it goes on like this. So now my friend, who is the least person you'd expect to cheat on her husband, meets her lover once in a while. They go out on dates, he treats her the way she wants to be treated. She says that this is the only way she can keep her sanity and her marriage--indulging in a secret love affair. Quote Link to comment
broughame_69 Posted March 25, 2011 Share Posted March 25, 2011 Secret affair? No way!!! ... But it happened. Now its over. Haay. Quote Link to comment
tagpi Posted March 25, 2011 Share Posted March 25, 2011 yes, and never get into something you cannot get out of. always. Quote Link to comment
romyg Posted April 25, 2011 Share Posted April 25, 2011 Maybe I would, if it will make me really happy. It's difficult to be absolutely sure of anything nowadays. I have a friend who seemed happily married. She and her husband has a daughter and they seem to have a perfect family. Her husband has a great job, she's a housewife, and their daughter is this lovely and smart little girl. But she shares that the passion in her marriage is waning. She says her husband no longer woos her, no longer takes her out on a date, and doesn't seem to show the same passion as before. When they go out, it's always as a family, and somehow she is expected to be "motherly". The problem is that she is the type of woman who wants the fire always burning. She says, there are times I want to feel like I am a woman-- not a mother but a woman. She says, I want to be treated the same way as when we were still dating. I want him to pay attention to everything I say, careful not to miss a word. But what's happening is awful, she confesses. We are this normal, boring family, and our marriage is turning out to be normal and boring, too. On the outside they really are a perfect family. But she and I know that inside she is dying. Then, as if to test her, an old flame comes to her life again. For months, the man is on a one-way street, wooing her and almost like courting her. But she wouldn't budge. She won't let him even hold her hands. But time passes and still her home situation doesn't change. She is still this beautiful but caged trophy wife to a successful and overly jealous husband. Then one day she decides to just give in. She tells me, my life is so short so be spent wishing that my husband would change. My resentment will just grow and God forbid, this marriage will end if it goes on like this. So now my friend, who is the least person you'd expect to cheat on her husband, meets her lover once in a while. They go out on dates, he treats her the way she wants to be treated. She says that this is the only way she can keep her sanity and her marriage--indulging in a secret love affair. sad. the thing is, we men are not as intuitive as women, we really won't know what you exactly want if you wont tell us or give us a hint.... got me thinking, am i being like your friends husband. nice reminder for me...you have to excuse me now but i have to ask my wife for a date Quote Link to comment
usptowshingtondc Posted April 26, 2011 Share Posted April 26, 2011 yes i am. . . . and i don't care if it is forbidden.... i dearly love her.... Quote Link to comment
peterforester Posted April 27, 2011 Share Posted April 27, 2011 Of course. But no commitments especially since we have our own separate commitments. The excitement is in the secret and the risks involved. Quote Link to comment
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