What Comes To Mind When Your Gf Is Not A Virgin?

[MTBCommuter]

Another result of the wrong notion of society.

Every one expects a girl to be a virgin, yet be able to perform great in bed upon marriage, how on earth will a woman do that? hehehe

If you really love the girl, go for it dude. What is important is that the woman loves you much. Virginity is not an issue. Move on pre

[perriwinkle]

hey common' men...dont be like that.so do you mean all na hindi na virgin e walang 'k' na seryosohin at pakasalan? lahat ng tao ay nagkakamali,kung talagang mahal mo sya ay wala ka nang denial reason,"love is blind" ika nga....why,are you still a virgin to pick someone na virgin din?I dont want to hurt your feelings...either your loved ones.PEACE

[lomex32]

Mga hijos hijas

Let us help this fellow think why, naguguluhan na nga, most if not all of the post here are logical, doable, workable, practical and probably the only way through life

 

Sliverhand, what seem to be the problem kung sabi nya virgin and hindi na sya virgin?

 

1. Becasue you suspect her as being a liar? A girl who will just take advantage of your care/love?

 

2. If indeed hindi na siya virgin? Do you find her as damage goods? Marumi? Di karapatdapat mahalin?

 

3. So ano ang criteria mo ng dapat mong mahalin?

 

4. Ano ba ang mga values mo sa buhay mo? MUST

Ano naman ang pwedeng negotiable sa iyo? MAYBE ACCEPTABLE

Ano naman ang talagan hindi pwede sa iyo? UNACCEPTABLE

 

5. Ang sagot ay nasa iyo silverhand

 

Example for your guide :

Ano ba ang mga values mo sa buhay mo? MUST - Dapat may takot sa Diyos

Ano naman ang pwedeng negotiable sa iyo? MAYBE - Pwede na rin kahit naninigarilyo

Ano naman ang talagan hindi pwede sa iyo? UNACCEPTABLE - Ayoko sa lahat ang sinungaling at magnanakaw

 

 

Naguguluhan ako mga tsong. Me mahal na mahal akong girl pero feeling ko inde na siya virgin. Balak ko pa naman siyang seryosohin alam niyo na. Pakasalan balang araw.  Sabi niya virgin pa siya kaya lang pag nag mamakeout kami something tells me she's not and i can tell she knows some things.  one time i got shocked becaused she sat on me facing me and started gyrating hers to me while kissing her.  We still haven't had sex and i don't why.  I have other girls who i can have sex with anytime i want but i really do love her.  She's the one i would want to bring home to my mom. 

 

Please mga tol, kahit sino. Hindi ko masabi sa barkada kasi alam ko pintasero ako nuon saka mapili sa tsiks.  t*ang*na, nakarma ata ako.  Grabe pare mahal na mahal ko siya at talagang pinaghirapan ko un. Pahirapan talaga.  Nalulungkot akong di ko maintindihan.  Nagdadalawang isip kasi ako.  Kaya ba ayokong nagsseryoso sa babae nakakasira ng utak eh.

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[heavygatin_but_cutie]

i agree to what the peeps here say.... virginity should not be a gauge for you to love and seriously consider a girl. it is not a measure of her character. and so what?! kung di na sya virgin...you yourself..di na rin virgin. masyado naman atang nagigin double standard yan eh. kapag ba ang babae di na virgin, di na worth seryosohin at iharap sa dambana, di na worth mahalin at respetohin? i dont think so. eh di dapat ganun din sa inyong mga lalaki. if you really love the girl..you will love her no matter what. and in the first place .. ikaw nga di na virgin..hanap ka ng virgin? hmm unfair.

 

if you love her...love her for what she is and for what she has become...that is true love. kung "preserve" mo sarili mo and virgin ka pa...yun dun..may right ka to look for another "virgin"..but if you are no longer one...wag naman na maghanap...quits na yun.

[Mike Chester]

For me, I think tingnan mo na muna ang naging dahilan kung bakit niya naibigay sa iba ung virginity nya.

 

Kung naibigay niya yun dun sa tao na talagang minahal niya, well you have to admire and acept her kasi that means she can give everything, as in everything, to the one she loves.

 

Pero kung ang dahilan naman ay dahil sa pagiging palikera niya, or ung masyado siyang liberated, then that's the time na kailangan mong timbangin kung kaya mo pa rin ba siyang tanggapin as she is. Especially kung ang character mo ay ung tipong sensitive, mas maganda na hanap ka na lang ulit ng iba.

[Wacky Dreamer]

Thanks sa lahat ng nag post.  I just....I don't know.  But i believe the majority is right.  I't doesn't really change anything. I still love her.  I really do. 

 

Thanks people.

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This is really a matter most filipino men look-up to, truth is this has been a biased conversation. The other side of us never had the guts or balls to state their point (who can stand the bombardment of "Hindi mo siya talaga mahal")

hehehe

Anyway, I'll share my point why you are miserable: It is ideal to marry a virgin. Yes, ideal. But it is not miserable not to marry one.

Ideal:

1) she does not have any past that are not worth cherishing

2) she took good care of herself and you get the rewards

3) fresh is always good

4) she doesn't know much about sex (maybe theoretically) so it'll be a venturous tour in weeks or months

5) the experience will all start from you and if anything happens it will only be you to blame (like when she gets cancer)

6) there is a very slight or zero chance it might come to her mind to have an affair

7) she definitely do not nor surely did not have STD's

Just a few of how it become ideal

[clarkraven]

Now a days...wer in 20th cenruty and its very rare to find a genuine Virgin woman.

 

I guess your mom is still on the stage of "Oldies tradition" what important is you loved the person kahit hindi na sya VIRGIN! and babae hindi sinasaktan minamahal Niligawan mo yung girl w/o hesitation whether or not she's still a virgin diba.

[best_X_girlfriend]

Naguguluhan ako mga tsong. Me mahal na mahal akong girl pero feeling ko inde na siya virgin. Balak ko pa naman siyang seryosohin alam niyo na. Pakasalan balang araw.  Sabi niya virgin pa siya kaya lang pag nag mamakeout kami something tells me she's not and i can tell she knows some things.  one time i got shocked becaused she sat on me facing me and started gyrating hers to me while kissing her.  We still haven't had sex and i don't why.  I have other girls who i can have sex with anytime i want but i really do love her.  She's the one i would want to bring home to my mom. 

 

Please mga tol, kahit sino. Hindi ko masabi sa barkada kasi alam ko pintasero ako nuon saka mapili sa tsiks.  t*ang*na, nakarma ata ako.  Grabe pare mahal na mahal ko siya at talagang pinaghirapan ko un. Pahirapan talaga.  Nalulungkot akong di ko maintindihan.  Nagdadalawang isip kasi ako.  Kaya ba ayokong nagsseryoso sa babae nakakasira ng utak eh.

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I'm Confused: Pano Kung Di Na Sya Virgin --- SO?!?

 

Nalulungkot akong di ko maintindihan.

you're disappointed 'cuz yung pinaghirapan mo e nakuha na pala ng iba [yung gusto mo]. dont you think that more than anything else, you won a very big prize because you got her heart? not just like the guy/s she had, what he/they got is just a small piece of her.

 

feeling ko inde na siya virgin

presumption mo palang, jinudge mo na. tsk

 

love isnt the right word to describe your feelings towards that girl. because if you really 'love' her, you would accept her despite of all her imperfections.

 

people who thinks the same as you do is very rare... as rare as finding [you] a virgin bride nowadays.

 

so what if she's no longer a virgin? would that make her a lesser person? dont you think that you're already degrading her? to think that you're telling us that you love her, sheesh

 

virginity is a long gone issue. and it never is, was, and will never be an issue to those people who really love their partners.

 

she deserves a guy who would accept her as for whatever happened to her, for whatever she is. i think she should be the one who's more confused... if she deserves you or not. :thumbsdownsmiley:

[MaDaMe_PeeYaa^]

what the...

 

ika ilang siglo ka ba ipinanganak?

 

sampu, onse anyos nalang ang birhen iho :goatee:

[ladybug]

bakit inisip mo ba kung virgin sya bago mo sya ginalaw?

[Wyld]

Merging Im Confused - Pano Kung D Sya Virgin[ with an earlier thread What Comes to Mind When Your GF is Not a Virgin .

 

There will be more thoughts and insights in that thread that will help silverhand in his dilemma.

 

Thanks.

[jumpman23]

I don't think virginity is an issue these days anymore. What is important is that you truly love each other.

[zipzamzowee]

I just don't think about it. Keep your mind on the task at hand - everything should be alright.

[the_architect]

some guys like to do virgins as one night stand and still expect their girlfriend or wife to be a virgin? isn't that unfair to the opposite sex?

[Guest JohannYngwie]

It doesn't matter. Nobody is perfect nmn tlaga eh. Hypocrite lng ang pwedeng magsabing ayaw nila ng ganun