Solaryan

no. bakit naman? haha. pag lov emo maski 4ft lang yan or 7ft okay pa rin.

 

Happy to see you have 3 kids and happily married to a former thera.

 

I freely admit sir that being in a guest-thera relationship is difficult because of what the job entails. On the contrary, your own experience is the ideal scenario. A guest falls for a client, thera reciprocates the feelings and the guy has enough financial clout to ask the girl to leave the industry and support her needs. What about guys who are genuinely nice but doesn't have the resources to "carry" the responsibilities of the thera? Are we going to stop ourselves from falling for these people because of that reason? You all have to understand we are into this job because of a pressing need that usual employment opportunities would not be able to meet. The spa industry is not a high end vice(P1000 lng solves na!), we have customers from the high rollers, to the middle class and yes, even to the low end bracket. We meet people of all types and professions and we could never predict who we might fall in love with. ;P

 

If the scenario that I begin to like an average (mabait pero d mayaman) guy, I am still holding on to the hope that a long term relationship is possible. He will just have to accept the fact that this job is temporary, time will come I will move on from this type of work (malapit na actually..hihihi). But while I am in the industry, he will just have to be secure in the thought that while I have to be physically intimate with other men, my heart belongs only to him.

gumaganda na mga testimonials ah

I guess this is what it means to love and sacrifice just to be with someone.

Hello!What you shared would be the ideal, fairy tale type of dealing with a guest-thera relationship..But sorry to say- it is not.

 

Most relationships fail because it started with the wrong intention. In this case both parties initially will 1) USE each other for their specific needs- MAG GAGAMITAN LANG KAYO...kung ma in love man kayo sa isat isa, then good! Kaso a relationship built on 2) LIES, DECEIT and MANIPULATION will also not work because there will be times when the girlfriend might conceal or mask information which she thinks might agitate the relationship (ie. client advances, sexual details, etc...).So she keeps this to herself to save the relationship..On the other hand- Si Boyfriend naman will tell her that he Is okay and understands that she is just doing her job.Pero deep inside he is paranoid and hurting.Nabuhay ang relasyon sa 3) PAGPAPANGGAP.Hindi na authentic and the level of trust is low.

 

For the relationship to work in the long run- The girlfriend must quit the industry while the BF should be ready to support the financial needs of the girlfriend.Eto lang ang alam kong paraan para ma save ang relationship.

 

Kaya kung nagbabalak kayo na magiging okay ang relationship ninyo habang nasa SPA/MP pa si girl...It is far fetched. ☹️. If you are not willing to do these conditions for love, then just be happy with what you have together at this point and stop complaining at wag na mag E-EMO EMO diyan.

 

Just my practical advice lang mga tol. Take it or leave it.

 

Meiji-(Happily Married to a former therapist and has 3 kids)

Wow sir! I guess you know what you're talking about... congrats to you and your fairy tale ending. it gives the men me hope

keep holding on - Avril Lavigne

oo...ganun lang talaga katanga at katindi ang pagmamahal ko at the time. haha "kahit pride ko or self-respect kakainin ko. kahit maging kabit mo na ako at ipagpalit sa kanya. wag mo lng akong iwan". yun tipong ganyang mga drama. dati.

hay. kainis! hahaha! haba tuloy ng hair ng ex kong yun..

anyway, good for the peepz here who never begged.

yun tipong winuwork mo at relationship mo kasi on/off kayo this year, tapos naiisip mo, $%& kung si anu kaya ang gf ko, ganito kaya kami?

tapos madedepress ka na lang dahil inisip mo nanaman sya..

goodbye...

love may start from desire, it leads to surrender, and the hardest part is letting go...

 

Kahit saan near ortigas pre magkakwentuhan na nang malupit. haha

haha bro CatMan sama ako dyan!

Sana mas maganda ang adaptation ng ng Green Lantern..

Just watched ep 6 earlier. Sana makabawi na mga bida. Haha

Westworld ep9

Hay.. everyday, I check if she's on duty... somehow sana magaya ako sa post na nasa taas.

no, bakit mo isiskreto kung mahal nyo isat isa. panindigan nyo at pakita nyo sa lahat!

 

Goodluck sa balak mo sir na pag abstain sa SPAs. Kaya naman yan. Mas mahirap pa nga pigilan yung feelings kesa sa pag punta sa SPA eh. I'm not sure pero baka may dahilan ka bakit na in love ka sa iba. May something kang nakita dun sa thera na wala o nawala na sa gf mo. In that case, work it out with your gf. Kausapin mo sya kung may problema man. Kasi first of all, gf mo sya. But that experience, I mean, falling in love with the thera, might teach you something. You might realize who you should really treasure. Either your gf, or the new one, I can't tell, case to case basis naman. But at the end, lahat lang naman tayo nag mahal. Basta pag isipan mo lahat ng gagawin mo and make sure wala ka pag sisisihan, kasi at some point, naging masaya ka rin naman.

 

Active din ako dito before sa thread at sa topic na to. It just happened na nag lay low ako to move on. Hahahaha, so seeing someone experiencing the same situation I've been is like a dejavu. Though different endings.

Feeling ko sir marami akong pedeng matutunan sayo.. Salamat po!

tomato

coffee or tea?

 

1. As for SPA-Addicts, hanap ka ng ibang pag kakaabalahan like sports, games or other hobbies na kakain ng time, money and effort mo.

 

2. Makahanap ka man ng sponsor na pipigil sayo. Walang mangyayari. Lalo na kung yun nararamdaman mo e something special towards a thera. Kahit sino bumangga giba. So it will be useless. Ikaw lang makapipigil sa sarili mo.

 

3. Nakakabobo mainlove. May bf sya, may gf ka. Pero nawawala yung rationale at sige ka parin. At most, mag sisimula yan sa infatuation. The moment you saw her, hindi na sya mawawala sa isip mo hanggang pag uwi mo. Everyday sumisingit sya sa isip mo hanggang palala ng palala na ultimo boses nya iniisip mo at gusto mo marining. Basically, you will think of her every single day. Minsan, pag mas madalang kayong mag kita, mas nang gigigil ka na makita sya uli dahil hindi ma feed yung kagustuhan mo na makasama sya. Everything isn't enough and you want more of her. Of her time, attention, love, care, everything. You become possessive. It is very easy to fall in love. Mahirap lang talaga yung to stay in love.

 

4. If it bothers you, then you must have fallen already for her.

 

I dunno, I wanted to answer your questions as someone who experienced it all, much worse I can say. I have fallen deeply and hit the rock bottom. Hindi ako makaahon even if I already threw everything. All I did is give it some time until I rise to the surface again. Love is a good thing. I wouldn't say that you should stop what you are feeling now. Cherish it, as only few experience it. So you are lucky. Love but don't expect too much. And if things went wrong, or love wasn't reciprocated to you. For the last time, love, until all your love for that person will be drained, until then you can only get out of the situation with no regrets.

 

And most important thing, you can't really tell that the thera is for real sayo until the day she throws everything she have just to be with you, for good. GFE can go to some scary extent. One can even act as far as being your wife, go to your place, care for you etc. But only few will stay with you in your worst.

MrCPA, thanks for taking the time to write this sir.

I can tell that the things you said came from your own experience. I am thinking of abstaining from visiting Spas. But, let me see if I have that kind of self-control.

As for your first point, I guess it's something I am going to try. Maybe focus on a hobby or find a new obsession. I have been meaning to enroll at a boxing gym...

Totally agree with the second point. Pero parang sa addicts lang din, dapat may taong tlagang makakapitan mo pag alam mong malapit ka na mag give in sa bagay na gusto mo na sanag i-quit.

Third, yes. Sobrang nakakabobo.. At nakaka guilty rin. kasi kasama ko si gf tapos naalala ko sya. At alam ko naman din mag bf sya, at todo kwento pa nga sya,. kapag kasama ko sya. Kaya nakakabobo kasi nasasaktan ako sa kwento pero gusto ko pa rin kasi naririnig ko sya at natutuwa ako sa pagsasalita nya at sa mga maliliit na expressions nya tuwing nagkukwento sya..

Fourth, infatuation lang sana to'. or obsession... kasi kung love, mejo malabo.. wala naman nga akong mashado alam pa tungkol sa kanya at di pa nga sya kilala ng lubusan..

Last, tama ka. I have to let it all out. Kaya nga ako post ng post eh. Para mailabas na sana to. Para mejo maging normal naman ulit mundo ko...

I wonder if there is a support system for recovering Spa-addicts?

Although, di pa naman ako addict (ata) pero baka dun ako makahanap ng sponsor, na tutulong sakin na awatin tong nararadaman kong to'.

May bf sya, may gf ka. Ni hindi nga ninyo alam ang last names ng isat isa. Ni hindi nga kayo nakalabas pa or nagkaron ng matagal na interaction outside of a cubicle. Panu mo masasabing nagfafall ka na?

These are the questions that keeps me awake at night. These are the questions that gnaws at my head as I try to do my work...

Anyway, padaan po. hahaha (tumatawa na lang para mapilit na maging masaya)

yun pagka prangka nya na tipong aray tama na sa pagshare, masakit na eh.. pero na-attract pa rin ako sa kanya.. hahaha #baliwnaako

it's time to let go. it was surreal. Thank you for all the fond memories we had and i'm sorry for all the heartaches.

if only, I can train my heart not to be the ways it is..

baka pedeng minsan i-pause muna. para maka focus sa work at iba pang bagay. di yun puro sya lang. to kasing si heart eh, anlakas ng impluwensya kay brain..

stop if you've heard this before...

 

you go to the spa (or mp) section of mtc. scan through the different threads until you see a thera who's picture catches your eye. you send her a pm and get a reply. you send her another one and soon you 2 are having a conversation. you find her funny and amusing so yet set a date to see her. when the day comes, you come in preparing yourself for any possibility. so you hook up and then you realize that you seem to hit it off. you leave with a smile and decide to get her again if only to check that you did hit off. soon you find yourself and your thera are getting comfortable with one another that you start exchanging digits. you also open up yourself to her and she offers her shoulder to cry on. she also opens up and you find yourself getting close to her. soon you think you're falling for her and start to wonder if it's all real. you check the site regularly and are sometimes agitated by the different FRs about her and other men expressing their intense attraction to her. so you set off wondering if the closeness is real or not or if you can take it to the next level.

 

sounds familiar. now substitute girl for the word thera, friends for mtc and frs with FB, and vibr (or whatsapp, fb messenger) for pm and coffee (or lunch/dinner) for the session in the cube. everything that you do when you enjoy a thera's company is the same thing you do when you are attracted to a lady introduced to us by friends. the only thing that is holding you back is the knowledge of what she does. but what if the lady you like has a reputation of having had a lot of bfs and it makes you think that she's slept with so many men. will you stop seeing her? if you really like her then all of this shouldn't matter for in the end, you like being with her and want to try and take it to the next level. so if you really like then go for it. what have you got to lose?

EXACTLY! I could not have put things in better perspective than the way you sir have said it.

The circumstances of how we met them and what they do for a living doesn't matter. There are people who met the woman they end up marrying because that woman was their best friend's GF. OR there are people who came from feuding families but still ended up together.

I find reading the posts in this section cathartic. Thank you guys for sharing your thoughts and opinion.

Love,Lust or Infatuation?How does one know?When confronted with this dilemma try "Spanking the monkey" first. If after doing it and there is still longingness to see the thera and you cant seem to get her out of your mind, then we can rule out lust . Some tell tale signs na nahulog ka na would be:

1. Paranoia( You keep on checking FRs about her)

2. Possessiveness( galit ka sa ibang GMs na may pantasya sa thera mo)

3.Sacrifice everyrhing (Time, money, effort, reputation-bahala na si Batman makita mo lang siya)

4. Extra sweet ka (pasalubong na food or anything she likes)

5.Feelng heaven when you receive a text message from her

6. Willing to pay the extra hours just to be with her

7.At times wala nang deed/ES.Usap na lang....

 

Might have missed some salient points but this list is just based on my experience.Masarap na mahirap talaga ma in love sa isang thera guys.

Hahahaha! I'm done for...

Lalo na sa 5, 6 at 7. Hahaha! Nakakatawang mejo nakakaiyak.. Pero sa 2 mejo pigil pa ako..

Thanks for sharing this bro! I can relate

GFE at PSE. Depende sa mood.. HAHA!

Pero seriously, of course I want more than to fulfill my base desires. I want a woman who can make my heart beat faster than usual just by being with her. Yun pag kasama mo na maski wala naman hanky panky eh masaya ka pa rin.

women with crazy eyes