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You missed my point entirely. If they don't care what people think. Then it shouldn't be an issue. If they are conscious about people judging them or even being ashamed of how they met then that means they still care what other people think. I'm just talking about the GM and the theras family im not even going to include other people they just met or people they aren't close with.

 

That's why i asked May if she thinks that more 50% of men are willing to be open to their own families and close friends if questions arise from the details of their relationship with a therapist? I am merely pointing out that more often than not, this is the Main reason they lie about it.

 

If GM's are willing to put aside their own egos and pride. They shouldn't be ashamed or fearful of what their own families or close friends might think. It doesn't fall on the families or friends to accept it. But at least the GM would show that he is honest and open to the relationship. Don't build that relationship on a lie.

 

But i doubt that many GM's are open that way. They still have those insecurities. Even those GM's that married their these theras. I base my point on what i've seen and what society dictates of these types of situations.

 

I'm here to point these out because i don't see these being talked about on this thread.

 

I find it rather amusing to your point that theras have to do have all what the pornstars do in order to be compared. You missed the complexity of my point where i was trying to say, the nature of both jobs falls under the same category. The theras don't need to be doing what all the pornstars do in order to be compared. They are under the same umbrella. Pleasuring strange men in exchange for payment.

 

Its like you saying taxi drivers and jeepney drivers are different. These are under the same category. Public Utility Vehicles.

I pointed out that what if it is the thera's wish not to disclose her past. Does that still mean that the GM was not willing to put aside his pride/ego? Like I said, what if the thera wants to start fresh, without her past being disclosed at the onset? Wherein she tells the GM that they select the people to whom they can confide her past to? Does that still mean they they are ashamed of how their relationship began? Or are they simply being selective on whom to trust?

I would like to constructively disagree with this statement: same umbrella. Pleasuring strange men in exchange for payment

I think that this is being too broad. Isn't a simple massage without ES pleasuring people (man or woman) in exchange for payment? LOL

I can think and cite a few examples wherein people's services (jobs) involve around pleasuring clients in exchange for a payment. Albeit, it is not of the sexual nature, but I think that it is too one-dimensional to bucket a therapist doing ES with porn stars. But, again you're entitled to your opinion and ideas.

So to end this, I'll just say, to each his own. hehe

Thanks for the discussion.

Kain muna akong lunch bro.

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Dati nun mas bata bata pa ako at wala pa alam sa mundo, nahihiya pa ako. Pero nun namulat na ako sa bagay bagay, di na. Hingin mo, pag binigay, swerte. Pag hindi, then try again next time. Malay mo pag mas kilala ka na ibibgay nya na. Pag di mo na ulit nakita, then okay pa rin, di lang meant to be. Hahaha!

 

1. are you trying to be slick with how you answer? Treating your friends and paying them and giving them money to spend time with them are two different things. I don't even need to elaborate on this. Self explanatory. SMH

 

2. I wasn't talking about if the thera and GM decide to care what other people think. Nothing wrong with that. I am merely talking about the lying part. Where a friend or family member of the GM or even the thera decide to ask how they met or what she does for a living when they met. And the GM straight up lies. If the GM doesn't care what other people think then it should'nt matter if they tell them right?

 

Omitting the truth and lying are two different things. If they don't care what other people think and it should'nt be a big deal to tell the truth. Instead of making up a story when your family member or friend is asking about it. If you decide to lie, not only are you lying to yourself. But also to your relationship. That's my point.

 

You made your bed. You sleep in it.

 

3. I wasn't comparing Porn stars to the theras in their exposure to social media and the internet. I wasn't even talking about the pictures. I was talking about the details of the work and how it compares to their private lives. That's why i said BF's of porn stars are accepting of their porn star GF's because they know its work and yet they still accept them. From your explanation you make it sound like porn stars can't have private lives.

 

The nature of a thera's work is comparable to a porn star. Same things done, and they get paid to do it. This is my point. Now if the GM who turns out to be their BF. That's a big question on whether they all shout this Love Conquest All cliche and it shouldn't matter to other people. If it doesn't matter to other people then it should'nt be a big issue to lie to your own family about your relationship with a thera.

1. I am not trying to be anything. I am sharing my thoughts on what you posted. I know treating your friends and paying for the services of a thera are different. But, like I said, a GM visited the thera in her place of work, so he had to pay for the entrance, right? Now, if you back read a little, it was even mentioned that sometimes she (May) returns the tip/s of that GM. So basically, somehow, it is like a friend going over to another friend's place of work just to hang out. He paid the establishment to get in, but not the friend (in that 1-time that was mentioned).

2. I already shared my thoughts about this but allow me to expound. Yes, they may lie to people or they may not. That will be their choice. It can be because of shame or a number of OTHER reasons. But, I think it is a bit narrow-minded to just state it as a fact, that they usually lie to people because they are ashamed of how they met.. But, then again, I am no expert. I just want to keep an open mind.

3. If it is the details of their work, then please let me remind you that NOT all theras have sex as part of their ES. And I dunno about you, but the porn I watched have a lot more stuff than what most theras have in their ES arsenal. Allow me cite a few examples. Not many theras allow anal, CIM, CIF, fisting. DP and other things in their ES. So, to compare porn stars to a thera by the services/ things that they do is again, funny to me.

Lastly, like I said. What if it is not an issue to the man (GM) but, it is the lady's wish to be introduced/ not as a former thera, but as someone whom the guy met at the mall or in her new place of work. Should the guy deny his lover's request, just because he wants to show that he is not ashamed of the way/circumstance that brought them together?

Just because she used to be a therapist (who provides ES), does that mean, that she can't re-invent herself in the future?

Imagine this for second, man meets thera. Man and thera hits it off, and the man courts the thera. They end up together. 2 years later, the thera quits her job and she marries that man.

They start a business together and they tell people (that they are not close to) that they met in a mall and hit it off. But to those people they trust the most, they share the real story. Is that a bad thing?

Or if they tell everyone the same story that they met in a mall, does that mean they are ashamed of how they met or just simply, they don't want people judging them? Especially since there are a lot of people who are quick to throw the first stone to the people they think are beneath them.

Anyway, I read that there were a few people who ended up marrying a thera, I would love to hear their stories and what they tell the people around them how they met and all the other things.

Because for me, at the end of the day, I am a believer of sleeping in the bed I made. So, I make sure, it is as comfortable f*ck! hahaha!

 

Sinabi ko rin yan dati. Kaso the moment na andun ka na, there is a chance that you will want more than M.U. Masaklap nito, pag mag isa ka lang na gumusto na mag level up. Hehe

Hehe agree ako bro. I think pag nakakuha nga ako ng daliri, next kamay naman, tapos braso, tapos sya na buong buo na.. hahaha!

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pero onti palang nakapost eh, maaga pa kasi

 

for Feb 2017, ang 7-11 Run (Feb5) at TBR Dream Marathon (Feb19) palang alam ko

Thanks for sharing this

MU lang masaya na ako.. Haha!

Really trying not to... As in, kelangan araw araw iremind sarili ko na wag. haha!

May binigay syang nirequest ko..

Kahit na maliliit na bagay lang, basta galing sa kanya, napapa smile na ako....^______^

 

 

1. I wonder what my girl friends would think if i call them and say. "hey you free this afternoon? ill pay for an hour of your time so i could talk to you". It really makes me wonder a lot what goes on in the mind of that I.T. guy who you said is successful and doesn't have "issues".

 

2. Anyway let's move on I've made my point from all the info you gave me. I wanted to ask you this question and you have to answer honestly. Do you think when a Gm gets into a relationship with a therapist or sometimes even marries them since this coincides with the topic of the thread. Do you honestly believe that 50% ouf of a 100 of the GM's tell their families and friends the truth when it comes to how they met their therapist GF/wife?

 

If they don't tell them the truth. Why do you think they don't? Why would they want to lie? If they can accept their therapist GF/wife then it shouldn't be a big deal for them to tell their own families and friends that their thera GF/wife used to massage different men for a living and perform fellatio and other sexual activities in exchange for money. It would seem hypocritical for these GM's who fell in love to spout that "Love conquers all" cliche and still have the ability to lie to their own loved ones right? Because you can't build Love on a Lie in my opinion because its destined to fail.

 

3. I can probably compare these situations to how pornstars deal with their personal lives. Because I've read that most of their personal relationships are pretty open and they didn't hide who they were when they were doing porn. But realistically speaking i doubt these GM's who fall in love will be as open as the pornstars are.

I have been meaning to get into this discussion, but, did not have the time. Hehe. Now that I do, I would like to throw in my 2 cents. I numbered your points from 1 to 3 and my answers are below:

1. I know we don't call our female friends and offer to pay them to spend time with us. But, I have on several occasions, called on my friends (female) and asked them to accompany me to a movie or eat somewhere new that I want to try out and they sometimes will tell me that they don't have enough money, so I treat them (not always. so don't get any ideas. hahaha) Is that any different from this situation? Where a guy spends some money to have female companionship?

On a few occasions, here in the office, I chat or talk to some of my female colleagues while they are working (and I am lounging about), that is feasible because we are in the same work environment. Now, what you said about the thera and her GM. It just so happens that the thera is on duty and her "friend/GM" wants to spend time with her. So, given that she is in her place of work (Spa) then he has to pay for the entrance/service to avail of her time to hang out with her. Is this really difficult to comprehend?

Now we don't know that this is the only time that they see each other or if on her time offs or after her work they also spend time. Since what they do is their own business.

2. If by circumstances within my control, I do end up with a thera. Personally, I will give the decision to her (thera). If she wants me to tell the world (including my family and work colleagues) that she used to be a thera, I will do it. They can all suck an orange for all I care.

That for me, is what love is. I am happy that I am with that person, devil may care about her past, so long as we are together and that we want to have a future together.. But again, that's just me.

Now, if she (the thera) does not want me to tell people about her past, then I will honor her wishes. Since it is HER PAST. She did the things she needed to do to get by. It's like meeting a former assassin, then you fell in love with that person. Is that really different? Morally speaking isn't an assassin more sinful than a prostitute? Hahaha!

3. Yeah, porn stars are exactly that - STARS. Meaning, they are more visible and less discreet than theras. Why? Because, for most porn stars they make more money, but at the expense of their private lives. People, can save copies of their work and jack off or watch it lustfully whenever they damn want to. As they say, what is in the media nowadays, are forever (haha andun pala ang forever).

So please don't compare porn stars to therapists. Because, therapists still enjoy a certain level of privacy. I know they have picture posted in their thread and all. But, the pictures posted are sexy and gives hints of naughtiness, but it is not and in NO way the same as the pictures of porn stars f*cking or sucking d*cks. If you see a picture of a thera posted here in MTC doing that, please PM me Coz' I haven't seen that one yet.. Hahahaha! Just kidding Mods.

Anyway, like I said. This is me throwing my 2 cents into this discussion, so I look forward to more input from my fellow GMs who may or may not share the same thoughts that I have on this matter.

Good day! =)

People are entitled to their opinion.

But, this here is my own opinion. Even if you met a girl in a bar or in your office, does that guarantee that she was not promiscuous or she touched less dick than a thera you met in a spa? Come on, I for one have met a few ladies who goes to bars or gimmick places and hooks up with a guy they fancy. They do that almost 3-4 times a week. They have full blown intercourse. As for a thera, they may jack off clients but not all of them go all the way.

So, I say, go to where your heart leads you.. Hahaha! It doesn't really matter if they were former hookers or porn stars (who does all sort of things). At the end of the day, is that the person you want to be with or not? If it is, then go for her. Full throttle. Don't hold back.

Just to be with someone you love and who loves you is already heaven her eon earth. What more if you overcome a difficult obstacle like being former client and thera.. Now, that is a big leap.

She made me smile.. I miss her and I am glad that she PMed me..

Skype and other forms of communication will only help prolong your relationship for sometime. If you or your partner is weak, then your relationship will inevitably end.

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may new year's resolution ka?

Nku, malupit yan c May....big time mga nanliligaw jan....itago natin ung isa sa pangalang....Kryptonite.

hahaha! iba na ang usapan ah.. ligawan na. happy new year sa aten!

tapos na bakasyon...

Di muna. Marami pa gagaawin today. Hehe

Haha di tayo talo tol

Kahit na sex addict ako? 😄

Face talaga for me

1st time na mag new year's eve as a single since a very long time.. but, i choose not to dwell on this fact and soldier on.