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    Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

    in Matters of the heart

    Posted · Edited by DiabolikRuki

    Miss Sitti and Kingkongphils, you both took the words right out of my mouth. I couldn't have said it any better. Thank you for that :)

     

    Pag na in love ka within this industry, there's bound to be complications on both sides. One might get hurt and end up detesting the other for their pain. But then again we are all consenting adults. We all have the capacity to think for ourselves and in all the choices we make, we are responsible for it. We love, we get hurt, we learn and then we move on.

     

    Kuha ko din ang sinasabi ni budoyski17. Reminds me of the 5 Stages of Grief by Kübler-Ross:

     

    1.) Denial The first reaction is denial. In this stage individuals believe the diagnosis is somehow mistaken, and cling to a false, preferable reality.

    2.) Anger When the individual recognizes that denial cannot continue, they become frustrated, especially at proximate individuals. Certain psychological responses of a person undergoing this phase would be: "Why me? It's not fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to blame?"; "Why would this happen?".

    3.) Bargaining The third stage involves the hope that the individual can avoid a cause of grief. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek compromise.

    4.) Depression "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"; "I'm going to die soon, so what's the point?"; "I miss my loved one, why go on?"

    During the fourth stage, the individual becomes saddened by the mathematical probability of death. In this state, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and spend much of the time mournful and sullen.

    5.) Acceptance "It's going to be okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."

    In this last stage, individuals embrace mortality or inevitable future, or that of a loved one, or other tragic event. People dying may precede the survivors in this state, which typically comes with a calm, retrospective view for the individual, and a stable condition of emotions. (wiki)

     

    I think those who are expressing disappointment or grief are working on recovering from their pain in their own pace. And there's always a way to express those in a way that's not too harmful to the other person involved as well as to their own psyche. But another factor in there would be the person's level of maturity. Some people heal faster while others take a while to recover. I just hope that in the end, love and respect still overrule the feelings of pain and regret. For me, its very liberating to be able to say you are happy for someone else even if their happiness doesn't involve you anymore.

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    Falling For A Client - The Other Side Of The Coin.

    in Matters of the heart

    Posted · Edited by DiabolikRuki

    kaya nga sna makatagpo kmi ng sobrang maintndhin peru mahirap prin un..d mwwla mgaaway,,hehe..

     

    dnmn kmi forever dito so maybe qng mahhintay f tlgang mahal kmi..y not maalis din kmi s ganitong buhay..

     

    dqnmn cnabi n dna q maiinlab ulit s client kc nsaktan nq..hnd prin mappigilan ang aking malambot n puso!hheheheh :P :P :P

    I'm sure there exists a man that can love and take care of a thera in the best way. As long as both parties are willing to make it work and are willing to forego bringing up the past, I'm sure it'll be worth the shot.

     

    Quote ko lang yung post ko dun sa other thread na Falling in Love with a Thera :)

     

    But that's me, and I'm pretty simple when making my decisions. Of course, therapists' lives aren't as simple as ours. They might have people depending on them financially. They might have boyfriends/husbands already. Or they might think they are being played as well. They might not want to reject clients that fancy them for fear of lost profit. There are a lot of things they need to think through.

     

    I'd just like to add that there is a difference between a client claiming that he's in love with a Thera and a client actually going a mile further to show her that he's in love with her. Just saying that a lot of men go to spas because they're lonesome. In that circumstance, falling in love with a Thera is inevitable. What are therapists to do when GMs are confessing to them left and right? Should she reject them all and feel bad after breaking all their hopes and perhaps also sabotaging her profits? And what about those other GMs with less than good intentions? Those GMs that played theras for the fun of it? So in a way, I understand why some theras have walls built so high around them. I understand why they they are afraid to trust the wrong person. They are already vulnerable.

     

    The side of the GM and the side of the Thera when falling in love, both have consequences. There are those rare few couples that have managed to conquer these consequences, and are happy together now. They found love where they shouldn't, but they made it work. Good endings are possible. I just don't want to rule out that possibility. It's very rare, but there are relationships in this industry that have actually worked. Both parties just have to be willing to make it work, both the GM and the Thera.

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