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  1. I met my ex bf/ex sponsor sa kremlin 3 years ago. And sobrang parang fairy tale lang ang lahat hanggang sa he decided to broke up with me last year. Sobrang sakit kasi may asawa siya and gusto na niya ayusin ang buhay niya, wala naman akong katapatan na sakanya kahit maglumpasay pa ;)) but the thing is kahit nakilala niya ako sa ganung klseng trabaho ay minahal niya ako ng sobra. Yun nga lang may hangganan din. Kaya ngayun back in the business ulit and leason learned sabi niya "Ayokong papatol ka ulit sa may asawa" <3

    I commend you for setting him free. I could only imagine the pain you went through to give him that. That is love right there when you think of the other person's happiness and well-being besides your own. I also am commending you for ceasing to be his girl on the side as he fixes his differences with his wife. That means you have respect for yourself. And because of that you have my respect.

     

    Even though you got hurt, you managed to learn and you are now a better person because of it. Best of luck to you, Miss. I hope you get your happiness one day.

  2. you love someone, that someone doesn't love you, but he cares... sometimes. hmmm.. he's the only reason why you are still sane or your love for him/ her is the reason why sabihin na nating why you stick on being 'you' ( being matino ) lets just say he/she is your sanity. this may sound so funny but you are thinking kasi '' i need to be and stay like this, kasi baka one day he/she wants me again kaya dapat i dont fool around para when he/she loves me na im 'clean' padin and wala sia masusumbat'' but its also your love for him/her that causes you too much pain... what would you do..?

     

    continue loving, waiting and hoping that someday somehow fate will help you,and he/she will love you too....even if it hurts like hell..

     

    or just walk away............... hold for nothing ... hope for nothing.. then just wait when you will self destruct..?

    From how you described your feelings, I think this can be limerence love. Intense devotion, wanting reciprocation, intrusive thoughts. These are some of what defines limerence.

     

    "Limerence is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person and typically includes obsessive thoughts and fantasies.

     

    It can be experienced as intense joy or as extreme despair, depending on whether the feelings are reciprocated. Limerencey can be difficult to understand for those who have never experienced it, and it is thus often dismissed by non-limerents as ridiculous fantasy or a construct of romantic fiction.

     

    In cases of unrequited limerence, transient relief may be found by vividly imagining reciprocation from the limerent object." Source

     

    Could it be limerence, Miss Sitti? How you describe your feelings reminds me much of my younger self. I vividly remember those feelings too. Those were also the times when I discovered this concept of limerence. Because if it is limerence, then I'm not sure if there's anything I can say to you to influence your feelings and train of thought.

     

    My experience with limerence is that it really is a roller coaster ride. You have to stay through its ups and downs, so you can give yourself a sense of reason as to why you're going through this. If it goes well and it pushes through, it can then turn into love. If it doesn't go well, you just have to wait for it to lose its momentum and eventually stop.

     

    I hope this helps, and that you feel better soon.

  3. Would you follow your heart kahit na it means your love story would be "you and me against the world?", meaning your whole clan would deny you being a member of the family.. would it be worth it?? :unsure:

    This exact thing happened to me and my partner. And it turned out good :)

     

    My girlfriend's family is affluent and influential. They didn't like me, and they cut ties with her when she chose to stay with me.

     

    Of course, we had a lot to prove. And we managed. She proved that she could stand on her own. I proved that I can be a better man and will care for her no matter what. A few months later, her family was the one who reached out to us. They saw my efforts and welcomed me into their family.

     

    Now four years later, my girlfriend and I are happier than ever before. Her parents have even asked me to address them as Daddy and Mommy now. We keep in touch with them and stay in their house during the holidays.

     

    I'm happy that I chose to follow my heart, and that my girlfriend chose to as well. And that we were sincere and chose to make things work. We fought for our love and well, we succeeded :)

  4. I'll just repost what I wrote from the other thread.

     

    What if you are already married, then found someone better in all aspects with the one you are married with and that some also reciprocates that love. Would you still follow your heart?

    So just to clear this out: you're a man and you're married. You met someone that you think you're very compatible with. Now you want to leave your marriage to pursue something more with this somebody. Is that right?

     

    To answer your question, if you think being with that someone will make you happy in the long run, then go for it. It's your life. You get to choose your own happiness.

     

    But unfortunately, you don't get to choose your casualties.

     

    Like my previous post, there are some things that you need to think over. These are the ones at the top of my head:

     

    1.) You need to make sure that this will grant you long term happiness. Like decades from now. Do you still see yourself being with this person? Do you see yourself still being happy with her? More importantly, do you see her still being happy with you?

     

    2.) You need to live with the fact that you chose to leave your wife behind, just because you found someone "better" in all aspects. I'm not sure how your relationship is with your wife, if you have children etc. But I can tell you that (usually) if a woman has given herself to you in marriage, and you decide to leave her just because you found someone more attuned to your disposition, it will affect her negatively. Her self-esteem will go down. It will take her a while to recover. You, on the other hand, have, in a way, already moved on. You have someone new to love and to cherish now.

     

    3.) You need to be willing to sacrifice. At the expense of possibly hurting those around you. At the expense of your reputation. You need to make sure if this really is worth going through.

     

    It seems to me that you asking for advice means that something is already making you hesitate. I don't know what that is but I doubt anything we tell you can significantly influence what your heart really wants. I'm not sure if you want to be encouraged our discouraged. But if you're hesitating, that already means something.

     

    I would suggest for you to think things through. On your own, and really reflect on everything. Find out if you're willing to sacrifice for this, and make sure whoever it is you're devoted to is worthy.

     

    Most importantly, make sure that whatever decision you make will make you happy. Make sure that attaining this happiness for you is so important that it worthy of every ounce of effort you're willing to put in.

     

    Have a good night.

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  5. What if you are already married, then found someone better in all aspects with the one you are married with and that some also reciprocates that love. Would you still follow your heart?

    So just to clear this out: you're a man and you're married. You met someone that you think you're very compatible with. Now you want to leave your marriage to pursue something more with this somebody. Is that right?

     

    To answer your question, if you think being with that someone will make you happy in the long run, then go for it. It's your life. You get to choose your own happiness.

     

    But unfortunately, you don't get to choose your casualties. Is this what's making you hesitate?

     

    Like my previous post, there are some things that you need to think over. These are the ones at the top of my head:

     

    1.) You need to make sure that this will grant you long term happiness. Like decades from now. Do you still see yourself being with this person? Do you see yourself still being happy with her? More importantly, do you see her still being happy with you?

     

    2.) You need to live with the fact that you chose to leave your wife behind, just because you found someone "better" in all aspects. I'm not sure how your relationship is with your wife, if you have children etc. But I can tell you that (usually) if a woman has given herself to you in marriage, and you decide to leave her just because you found someone more attuned to your disposition, it will affect her negatively. Her self-esteem will go down. It will take her a while to recover. You, on the other hand, have, in a way, already moved on. You have someone new to love and to cherish now.

     

    3.) You need to be willing to sacrifice. At the expense of possibly hurting those around you. At the expense of your reputation. You need to make sure if this really is worth going through.

     

    It seems to me that you asking for advice means that something is already making you hesitate. I don't know what that is but I doubt anything we tell you can significantly influence what your heart really wants. I'm not sure if you want to be encouraged or discouraged. But if you're hesitating, that already means something.

     

    I would suggest for you to think things through. On your own, and really reflect on everything. Find out if you're willing to sacrifice for this, and make sure whoever it is you're devoted to is worthy.

     

    Most importantly, make sure that whatever decision you make will make you happy. Make sure that attaining this happiness for you is so important that it worthy of every ounce of effort you're willing to put in.

     

    Have a good night.

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