Edmund Dantes

kumain ng champorado at mag karaoke sa may ermita. playlist: im all out of love, open arms, muling ibalik, chicksilog

Hehehehe bat naman chicksilog parekoy?

^^^

Hehehe, ok lang yan parekoy. Kahit naman abang mortal lang tayo. Kahit pa wala tayong mukha ni Tom Cruise, katawang ng cosmo bachelor, o yaman ni Hugh Hefner, hindi naman ibig sabihin nun na born-loser na tayo. Tama ka, ang buhay nga ay parang gulong, kaya habang ikaw yung nasa itaas, make the most out of it. Pag ikaw naman nasa ilalim ng gulong, pilitin mong iikot sarili mong kapalaran para bumalik ka sa taas.

What does this got to do with the topic? Everything! We gotta believe in ourselves. We gotta dig deep enough each day and find the things we can appreciate about ourselves and really develop it so it shines. This is key to having a good destiny. Kung puros swerte lang, eh bakit naman si pareng Michael Jordan? Sino ba magiisip na magiging pinakamagaling na basketball player sya na kikita ng milyones para lang maglaro sa court? Nung binatilyo nga sya hindi naman kita talent nya, nacut pa nga sa HS varsity nila. Tiwala sa sarili dapat.

Para sakin kasi, fate and destiny are two very different things. Fate is talagang wala kang magagawa, minsan ipapanganak ka na mahirap o di maganda genetics mo. But destiny is a decision. If you wanna be somewhere you have to want it, work for it, commit to it, and never ever give up. Papano mo mararating yung gusto mo paroonan kung umpisa pa lang di ka na magtitiwala sa sarili mo?

Unang una, self-destruct mode muna. Naglasing ng sobra at panay iyak din.

Pero ok lang naman yan, kasi winasak ko yung dating ako at tinayo ko yung bagong ako na mas mahal ko na ngayon at di ko na basta basta ipagkakatiwala kung kani-kano lang. Mas natutunan ko mahalin yung sarili ko at maapreciate sarili kong value sa process na ito. Hindi naman ito pagiging narcissistic. Pero yun ang kelangan eh, mahalin ko sarili ko.

That its ok to be selfish sometimes, because you need to love yourself also.

May pera ka ba dyan? Lol!

I guess some people need to fall down before they learn to stand up, pero hopefully through this thread they don't need to go through hell just to know kung mainit talaga dun.

Hmmmm, as far as the thread naman is concerned, we can offer lang our perspective of the issue itself. If they offer themselves as a volunteer specimen, hindi maiiwasan na we dissect them. Pero personally, wala naman akong messiah complex. Kung may matulungan ako sa mga pino-post ko di ok. Kung magagalit din sila, at tingin nila nagmamarunong lang ako, ok din lang lol.

Pero tama ka din dyan. Minsan kasi maraming tao ang hindi nagtatanda hangang hindi nasasaktan. Kaya nga whenever I reflect din, naiisip ko mabuti na siguro na nasaktan ako ng sobra. At least nagtanda ako at di ko tuluyang sinayang ang buhay ko.

I am married to it.

This is not just a job to me, this is my profession, this is my calling.

When it inspires you to be a better person for them.

Exactly my point Ed. I don't know kung bakit madami pa din naniniwala sa kasabihang "kung san ka masaya, dun ka" as if nobody needs to take into consideration ung ibang tao sa buhay mo or ung consequences sa sarili mo para lang maging masaya or dahil sa pag-ibig. Many of worst tragedies in life are the result of such thinking.

Well, siguro naiintindihan ko naman sila kasi at one point sa buhay ko, ganito din ako magisip. Pursue what makes you happy, focus on the positive lang at huwag negative. Pero you grow older, you become wiser, and you learn na hindi lang yan pala puro puso lagi. May mga bagay na maganda pakinggan na lang.

Like I always say in this thread, lahat ng tao pwede mainlove. Kahit gaano kamanyakis o kasama marunong sila mainlove. Pero it takes maturity to nurture a healthy kind of love and relationship. The one that makes you a better person. At di sapat yung basta kilig lang o libog

Hard work, determination and free will are the logical answers.

 

But things still happen no matter how hard you try to avoid them. Or sometimes, things don't happen no matter how hard you work for them.

 

Is that destiny? I don't know what it is. But it's sure beyond free will.

That is not true, for every action there is a reaction. That is a universal law. Hard work does pay off, you just gotta be willing to see it through the end. If you fail at something, if one door closes, surely another will open. You just gotta keep trying and trying and trying.

Maraming beses na ito nangyari sakin, di matanggap tanggap sa mga trabaho na gusto ko. Pero di ako sumuko sa pangarap ko, hinanap ko lang ng hinanap ibang pinto na magbubukas at di ako nagsettle for consolation. Eventually, meron naman nagbukas, and as it turned out it was a better opportunity pala.

There is always a reward to hard work, kasi even if you do fail ok lang, its an opportunity for you to learn and grow from it. Just dont give up

Without being judgmental, are they predestined at birth to have the mindset of a winner or a loser? How about luck? Is there such thing as luck? Are some people just lucky? And some people are just born na malas? Ginagawa mo ba ang suwerte mo? Or dumadating yan sa iyo? Some people say that you work on your luck. They say we are all presented the same opportunities but some can see it and prepared themselves to recognize the opportunity presented to them. Case in point, two girls with practically the same background, same intelligence, same looks, almost same everything, why does the other gets the guy? WHY? (Advertisement ng Salon de Manila)

Yes some people are born lucky, but that does not mean the rest of us have to be slaves of fate. Fate maybe predetermined, but destiny is a choice. All the luck in the world will do you no good if you are lazy and unmotivated. Losers will always blame their predicament to luck, winners are those who choose to make their own luck.

I really feel insulted when people tell me "maswerte ka lang kasi kaya....." hindi nila kahit kelan maintindihan na sobrang dugo, pawis, at luha din ang pinuhunan ko para makuha yung mga opportunities na dumating sakin. Lahat ng meron ako sa buhay ko pinaghirapan ko ng husto at pinaglalaban ko pa. Kasi kung tatangapin ko lang yung "fate" ko, di ko na sana narating itong kinalalagyan ko. Cuz looking back, there was no sense Id make it this far.

Well mahirap talaga mag debate kapag love ang pag uusapan.. Even the Supreme Court in the landmark case of Chua-Qua vs. Clave (1990) had a hard time deciding a case which involves LOVE. In 1976, a teacher married her student and got fired. The Supreme Court, quoting "The heart has reasons of its own which reason itself does not know," took her side!

 

AGAIN, "The heart has reasons of its own which reason itself does not know".

 

Your reasons and arguments are true on a case to case basis. To the lady who sought advice, miss just follow what your heart desires. Do what will make you happy. :-)

If I may argue here.

Hindi pwedeng puro puso at ito lagi gagawin mong palusot. May utak pa din tayo na kelangan gamitin. Kundi yan gagamitin baka imbes na maging masaya ka, eh lalo pa masira ang buhay mo. Para sakin, use your heart to feel you are still human, but make decisions with your mind not with your heart.

Also happiness is not a gauge if you should pursue something or not. Because hindi lahat ng nakakapagpasaya sayo nakakabuti sayo. Parang adik na masya sa shabu, yan din ba sasabihin sa kanya? Do what makes you happy? O kaya yung mga nasa extra-marital affairs, pwede mo ba magamit dahilan na yan? Hindi kasi may ibang tao ka na masasaktan.

Eto case in point. Yun MPA nainlove sa client, pumayag magpabahay, tapos it turned out nambubugbug pala ng babae yung lalake. Gustuhin mang hiwalayan nung MPA, hindi pwede kasi may anak na sya dito at walang ibang skillset para sustentuhan bata. Nung finally iniwan na lang ng lalake, bumalik na lang sa dating trabaho. Ito ang nangyayari kung puro ka "the has reasons of its own blah blah blah..."

A person who would resort to something like this is a pathetic loser who does not deserve to be in a romantic relationship. I really hate hate hate people like this. So ano yun? ho-hostage nila sarili nila para makuha gusto nila? Eh tapos ano mangyayari pag hinayaan mo sila manalo? Buhay mo naman sisirain nila. Dahil alam nila na madali ka makuha sa ganitong blackmail, asahan mo gagawin na nila ito lagi sayo. Hangang umabot na sa punto na ikaw mismo mawalan na ng respeto sa sarili mo.

If you are threatened with this, automatically leave the person. Do not be unfair with yourself at huwag papadala sa blackmail na ito. First of all, you are not responsible for his/her life. Choice nya yun. Second if the person is someone na gagawin ito sayo, then hindi ka nya mahal. Kasi kung mahal ka nya, that person wont put you through that.

umiyak nang umiyak until gumaan ang loob...

Healthy naman talaga pag-iyak kahit sa lalake. Don't even get started with "ang tunay na lalake di umiiyak", thats a lot of bullcrap. Kung hardcore MMA fighters nga umiiyak pag natatalo. Si Rocky at si Rambo umiiyak din naman sila. Mas maganda na linisin mo sugat mo talaga ng mga luha at ubusin mo yan.

Yun din ginawa ko, umiyak ako ng umiyak ng umiyak. Hangang sa tapang at galit na lang natira.

Being single again can be a cathartic experience. Being in a relationship can be exhausting and depleting. You have to commit yourself to it. You get polluted with so much emotions. Its a full-time job that you need to take a break from sometimes.

Sa umpisang umpisa, syempre masakit yan. Napakalungkot. Parang ayaw mo na ituloy ang buhay mo. Pero once you learn to better carry your pain, and once you rebuild yourself, you will thank the experience. Tama yung kasabihan na whatever does not k*ll you will make you stronger.

Whatever happens, never ever lose yourself to self-pitty. Dito ako nahirapan noon talaga. Minsan awang awa talaga ako sa sarili ko, o kaya minsan galit na galit for ending up the way I did. Pero lahat naman tayo nagkakamali eh. Ang importante natututo at nagtatanda. Tulugan ang sarili at huwag kastiguhin. Start by forgiving yourself. If you will not appreciate your own value, you can never expect others to do that for you.

After that, you will see na maraming pintuan magbubukas para sayo. Being suddenly free and all. That it can be an adventure.

Yung mga emotionally manipulative. Yung mahilig sa emotional blackmail. With all my biases, that is one department na mas magaling babae.

para sakin?

Gusto ko yung kay Rain sa Ninja Assasin. Simple lang, athletic at di naman parang puno na sa laki. Tsaka pag malaki ka, mas mabagal ka naman at mas madalas pulikatin

Nung umpisa syempre sobrang depressing. Ang metaphor ko noon, para akong tinapon sa malalim na balon, nakikita ko yung liwanag pero di ko naman maakyat. Tapos nalulunod pa ako sa loob.

Pero nung nagtagal, through efforts din na I make para tulungan sarili ko, dun ko bigla na lang naenjoy yung freedom ng pagiging single. See, being single again provides an opportunity na maalagaan at mahalin natin sarili natin ulit. Kasi pag may partner tayo, sobrang iniaasa na lang kasi natin ito sa kanila. Masarap yung pakiramdam na wala kang kailangan pagpaalamanan kung san ka pupunta. Lahat ng gusto mo gawin para sa sarili mo, madali na lang. Masarap din ispoil sarili mo.

Kaya nga ako, ang lagi kong sinasabi, after a breakup, huwag muna maghahanap agad ng susunod na relationship. Dapat spend sometime muna being single. Kasi kung papalit palit ka lang ng relasyon, hindi ka na matututo maging emotionally independent, lagi ka na lang aasa sa iba. Tsaka masarap maging single eh.

Maybe a better title for the topic is "Not Embarrassed to be Fat". If you put it that way, then you could ask if there is a reason to be embarrassed about being fat. I don't.

 

And yes I am overweight. Most people don't see it because most of the extra pounds are on my legs. I am currently trying to loose the weight for health concerns.

 

In my younger days, I was obviously fat. I resisted loosing the extra weight. I was teased, and I know it hindered success with the ladies. But my thinking was I would be a sell out. That I would just be following others superficial way of thinking.

 

Before anybody reacts, I am not saying exercising is superficial. I know all its benefits. More power to those who try to keep fit.

 

That being said, the people around me in my youth, were doing it for reasons other than health. They wanted to show off their physique, they wanted to try this gym or that gym because it was "in". They wanted me to loose weight so I can look better.

 

The only ones concerned with my health was my family. Especially my parents.

 

My thinking was why should I try to loose weight just to be more acceptable for people like them. Health reasons aside, why do you need to loose weight?

 

There's my two centavos folks .

Let me share brother,

Exercise helped save my life. It helped me deal with my depression better. I did not enroll in the gym because I wanted to look like an underwear model. In fact, having success with the ladies was the last thing on my mind. I needed to escape a lot of bad habbits. When I am out there exercising, I am not home drinking, or eating junkfood. Or moping around all day and add salt on my wounds. I figured, yes running is free, but if I didn't have to pay for it, I would not take exercise seriously.

See, I really started becoming a more positive individual when I started training. In fact, it changed my whole perspective on what exercise is about. Exercise for me is therapy. I need it like a diabetic needs insulin. Exercise is meditation. In that hour where I am lifting something, or runnning, or punching something, my mind clears. All the pollution in my emotions suddenly go away. I am not bothered by my demons, and I am at peace. I walk out the gym a more pleasant individual. See exercise is more mental than physical. Because your muscles do nothing but carry the stress. Its your mind you have to force to do one more rep, one more min etc. So that is a way of saying, that exercise is an excellent way to improve your focus.

It also develops discipline. Because you have to pay for it, you have to keep going. Because you train you gotta learn to eat right or you will just get sick. With better mental focus you develop also a better routine by changing a lot of habits till before you know it you get a whole life-style overhaul.

Its a bonus to see yourself look better and be able to see yourself fitting better in your clothes. It brings out confidence and so much positivity. For me, if your only motivation to go to the gym is to look better to attract the opposite sex, then most likely within a few months you'll quit. Or paminsan minsan ka lang dadalaw sa gym. But if you wanna live a disciplined lifestyle, develop better focus, and have that way to just not be bothered by your demons, then it will be a part of you like brushing your teeth is.

Marie - Cocker Spaniel

I was a big kid ever since I could remember, but 5-6 years ago, I really went downhill due to improper lifestyle. Puro inom, yosi, kain ng matataba at matatamis tapos puyat pa. Went from 34 inches to 40 inches, and for the first time, bigla ako nagkaroon ng potbelly tsaka manboobs.

 

It was really hard for me back then, walang damit na kakasya sa akin, had to upsize my clothes tapos pag gusto mo bumili, even the largest sizes won't fit me. Tapos hingalin pa, sa sex wala pa one round, hingal na. and of course, di mawawala yung tukso sa paligid, pati sarili kong pamilya tinutukso ako na mataba. Tapos dinedeny ko pa sarili ko na mataba na ko until the doctor showed me the truth: I was Class 2 obese tapos pre-diabetic na ko and mataas na uric acid tsaka cholesterol levels ko. He recommended me to undego gastric bypass surgery para daw pumayat ako, which I declined. Isip ko nun di ko kelangan yun, I can lose weight on my own.

 

From there, I decided to live a much healthier lifestyle, I quit smoking and consumed alcohol sparingly. Limited my carbs and sugar tapos dinamihan ang gulay, kung dati araw araw ang softdrinks, ngayon sobrang madalang na. Went back to the gym again, I make sure na at least 3 times a week nasa gym ako.

 

Now, I still have a long way to go, medyo malaki pa rin ako but compared to before, laki na rin nabawasan sa akin. Clothes fit me well, mas di na ko hingalin tsaka kahit round 2 pa kaya hehe. Managed to return my blood sugar levels back to normal and dramatically reduced na rin uric acid levels ko.

 

But the most rewarding part is the fact that I did something that I thought could never do before. Kala ko dati habambuhay na ko mataba at adik sa bisyo, but I was able to attain a much healthier lifestyle because of discipline and self-control, two things that I lacked back then.

Congratulations my man! Keep up the good work. Sana mashare mo before and after pic

sakit tyan

The lantern parade and the UP fair

Yung laging pagsasabi ng

"nakapagabroad ka lang, yumabang ka na!"

Ok Ok Ok.... Sige na, Ill do a Mayweather or Mike Tyson na lang. Ako na magpapakumbaba. Tutal ako naman ang supalpal dito. Ayoko ng papangitin ang thread na ito ng mga palitan pa ng insulto. May pinagaralan naman ako and one can't be a good winner if he can't be a good loser.

You guys are right, I went a little low there. Argument got heated, potshots were thrown at both sides, I went a little out of control and I am Sorry. I would re-edit my post and delete that meme, pero right now I am not allowed to do it. Right now all I can do is say I am sorry.

Larry,

You win this one. If you visit the boxing gym more often than I do, or have been following this sport a lot longer, then I am not gonna challenge your knowledge about the sport. Like I said, since I got to this thread I never claimed that I am an expert on boxing nor do I seriously train for it. You made your point, I made mine. All I wanted to say is that in as much as Floyd is the obvious villain in the sport, I do respect his skills and I think that its not fair people dismiss him so much as an elite athlete (if you do not wanna call him a fighter). You do not like the way he fights and projects himself, I can respect that. So again, I am sorry for the potshots and insults I threw. If you still wanna take one at me, then go right ahead but I will not retaliate anymore.

To the rest of you Pacquiao fans,

Lets be honest, many of you are casual fight fans as well. Nothing wrong with that. I respect Pacquiao for what he did to the sport. I am a fan as well. Its just that I give credit din naman to his opposition when I feel it is due. Its not also na I do not want Pacquiao to win, I just feel like Mayweather is a better fighter thats all. If he does win, and I am proven wrong again, then congratulations. I hope lang, kung matalo si Pacquiao, you will be gracious about it also and not make excuses for him. Its all I am asking. Kung nainis man kayo sakin, then I am sorry. Huwag na tayong parang mga bata dito na nagaawayaway. Kung magkainitan man ulit usapan, ok lang yun pero life is too short to go on hating each other, right?

So again, I concede, I got my ass kicked in this debate, I got pawned/trumped/owned. Ganyan naman lagi sa kahit na anong tunggalian, may panahon na talagang matatalo ka at kung si Pacquiao gracious loser naman so tularan ko na lang. I'll try not to get too carried away. Hopefully you guys will find sincerity in this apology and we can all just move on with future healthy discussions.

to put cherry on top here is my peace offering. The LA press con of Mayweather Pacquiao

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JnKfnOJYgSc