Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Bloodraven]

I so agree... Take it one day at a time. Enjoy the moment while it's there. Remember, these women have undergone (or has experienced) extreme deprivation and are overwhelmed with the money and favors they get because of you know what. So live and let live, life will go on regardless.

[alexiv]

THE THING IS THIS.. if you think you are falling in love that's fine.. but again don't be blind about the harsh truth about what they have been true.. if you fall in love with them,let it be just a bit.. not too much..keep some for yourself.. balance it with your brain.. IF YOU THINK SOMETHING'S GOING ON.. ACT FAST..di ba.. wag ka ring papatalo.. basta all i can say it all boils down... is she worth it?

[MarriedInMLC]

I so agree... Take it one day at a time. Enjoy the moment while it's there. Remember, these women have undergone (or has experienced) extreme deprivation and are overwhelmed with the money and favors they get because of you know what. So live and let live, life will go on regardless.

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I can't begin to tell you guys how much this thread has helped me deal with my grief over losing my MPA girlfriend. Oh man, it's complicated beyond belief but after 9 months, she finally had the sense to end it. I was out of control. I'm married with kids and going through mid life crisis and really fell for this gal. There were no secrets between us. Obviously I knew what she was doing to support her family and she knew about me. Anyway, thanks guys for sharing your heartaches/advice when it comes to this topic. I'm usually just a lurker but felt compelled to say thank you coz your experiences have really helped me see that I'm not alone. Love is love I guess, no matter what the circumstances.

The quote I'm replying to (above) I thought was brilliant, "...these women have undergone (or has experienced) extreme deprivation and are overwhelmed with the money and favors they get...). So true man. My gal lived in a shack over a pawn shop supporting 7 people with no father... been to the house, saw the father's grave, yaddah yaddah yaddah... like I said, there were no secrets. But PHEW, I'm really emotionally wrecked but it's all for the best. Whether it's with an MPA or whoever, love is love and you just have to be careful with your heart I guess. Thanks again all.

[50fd]

50fd great words.

 

Honestly, I can relate to Viz888 because I'm currently undergoing the same "situation". Never thought it would happen. Didn't want it to happen. That's why I'd go to thier respective places of work to have some fun with no strings attached. But then.. without warning.. WHAM!

 

All the things you've pointed out are true if not accurate. That's why although I've totally lost my mind over this lady, Im just letting each day pass one day at a time. Don't really know how far this here road is going to take me but then again is anybody really sure of thier chosen route in this little hell hole called life.

 

Yes, the frequent FRs you get to read on the side (when ur girls mentioned) does sting, especially when they are regarded with so little respect by such infantile males who call themselves men, and yes, these girls are really only doing all this for thier family (at least mine is). If you only get to see how they've sacrificed themselves for thier families well being..talaga it will blow you away. That's why I still regard her as a person "working" hard for love of family.

 

Her insecurities regarding how serious I am will always be there given your earlier point, but then again, believing will only be up to her. Believe it or not since I started seeing her outside of work, never had I asked her for sex, guess I got passed that. sheesh...

 

I don't know how long this relationship will last if it will anyway. But one things for sure. While we're together I will love her. Support her. And teach her about life. So that whatever may become of us, she can look back and remember that once long ago I geved her something that she thought she had already forsaken in return for her family's well being.

 

The honest, repectful, sincere and warmth of a mans love.

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Thanks.. i guess we have something in common.. we have a soft heart regarding these hard working women.. i fall in love with mine because i saw her true self, i saw her heart. believe me i'm constantly giving her money whenever she needs it cause it kills me to see her cry everytime she has to do something she does not like. (and i know it's not acting) most of the time i don't let her know i saw her crying.. but i'm gettig off topic her..

the point is we are in love, there's no denying that, but we must protect your self, give everything you could, but save some for yourself, (both financial and emotional.)

 

The honest, repectful, sincere and warmth of a mans love.

 

-- nice words, that's excatly what i gave. i hope yours does reciprocate what you are giving, (i'm not taking about sex, i guess you already know that) cause mine does not. still i continue to give. it's very hard for them to become totaly honest. they are surrounded with lies.. well that was before.. hey man good luck with your life. :hypocritesmiley:

[MarriedInMLC]

I tell you, this topic fascinates the hell out of me. First of all, I never thought I would actually fall for a girl like this but well, there it was and it happened and now it's over and we're both kind of torn up over it but it had to happen. My gal was perfect to the core. She would sleep with me and hold me all night... ALL NIGHT I TELL YOU! ARRRRGGGGHHH, I can't forget how nice that felt. She was so loving and companssionate... tender, caring, smiling, just a really nice church going girl who's last few words were me were "I'm a prostitute." God, it killed me. I wanted to save her, like what I think I hear a lot of you guys saying out there but alas, it can't happen. Oh but man... I tried. I bought her a car, tried to get her set up in businesses, etc. I guess the 9 months cost me around $7k but she is, bless her soul, dropping about P5k a month in my account to pay off the car. I really don't care about the money. I just miss her.

 

Geez guys, we all ought to meet and drink a bunch of beer and have a good cry over our experiences. As for myself, I'm 40-ish and was really living out a fantasy that this girl knew could not continue. I'm so thankful to her for killing the relationship. We tried to on 3 other occasions but couldn't. I think we were successful on this attempt. But yeah, the thought of her getting banged all day (she would be brutally honest with me on these things and said that at least twice a month, she was doing five guys a day) kills me coz I really believe she's a nice girl in a difficult situation. But the "good" news is, I really don't think she is too bent out of shape over it. She's trying to get enough money to get her family a house and lot and now, after being there for about 2 years, she has about P700k saved up. But then what? I always wonder what happens to a girl like that. When she gets too old to make money laying on her back and then all the money is gone, what does she do then? She quit school and has no real skills. I taught her to drive and gave her a car... maybe that will help somehow?

 

I don't know... I'm just rambling. I guess we do what we can and wish our fellow humans all the best. God though... I still really miss her... I miss my fantasy...

[BossV]

I tell you, this topic fascinates the hell out of me. First of all, I never thought I would actually fall for a girl like this but well, there it was and it happened and now it's over and we're both kind of torn up over it but it had to happen. My gal was perfect to the core. She would sleep with me and hold me all night... ALL NIGHT I TELL YOU! ARRRRGGGGHHH, I can't forget how nice that felt. She was so loving and companssionate... tender, caring, smiling, just a really nice church going girl who's last few words were me were "I'm a prostitute." God, it killed me. I wanted to save her, like what I think I hear a lot of you guys saying out there but alas, it can't happen. Oh but man... I tried. I bought her a car, tried to get her set up in businesses, etc. I guess the 9 months cost me around $7k but she is, bless her soul, dropping about P5k a month in my account to pay off the car. I really don't care about the money. I just miss her.

 

Geez guys, we all ought to meet and drink a bunch of beer and have a good cry over our experiences. As for myself, I'm 40-ish and was really living out a fantasy that this girl knew could not continue. I'm so thankful to her for killing the relationship. We tried to on 3 other occasions but couldn't. I think we were successful on this attempt. But yeah, the thought of her getting banged all day (she would be brutally honest with me on these things and said that at least twice a month, she was doing five guys a day) kills me coz I really believe she's a nice girl in a difficult situation. But the "good" news is, I really don't think she is too bent out of shape over it. She's trying to get enough money to get her family a house and lot and now, after being there for about 2 years, she has about P700k saved up. But then what? I always wonder what happens to a girl like that. When she gets too old to make money laying on her back and then all the money is gone, what does she do then? She quit school and has no real skills. I taught her to drive and gave her a car... maybe that will help somehow?

 

I don't know... I'm just rambling. I guess we do what we can and wish our fellow humans all the best. God though... I still really miss her... I miss my fantasy...

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Here's a guy who's been there, done that... Whew!!! Quite an experience for a guy huh... This thread gets to be interesting by the day. If you think you're alone in falling for a MPA, you should "read and learn" from the experience of those who are writing on this thread.

 

"Will you love a MPA if she really loves you." Let's talk about love. Do we (us & the MPA) love for the right reasons? Do we fall for the MPA just like the way we did to our first girlfriends? Does the MPA really fall for us or is it just a great feeling of being loved rather than being used? What is the basis of our love for the MPA? These are the questions that we ignore most of the time because our minds are clouded with our emotions and feelings. Richard Gere did it in "Pretty Woman" so why can't we guys do it? Is it possible?

 

STOP for a while, re-assess the situation and plan if you really want to pursue the MPA. If she loves you in return, then YOU'RE THE MAN. If she doesn't, then move on and get on with your life. Take the lessons in LOVE from your experience and learn to grow. Love for the right reasons and you shall have all the reason to a right love.

[MarriedInMLC]

Sometimes I just wonder if it wasn't an addiction or something in my case... like just a part of the whole mid-life crisis thing? I hate to say this but I will anyway... while I definitely miss all the fun we had like being goofy together, thumb wrestling, meeting up at 6:30 in the morning at her house while I was on the way to work (on some weeks, EVERY morning), wrecking my NEW Honda VTEC 2.0 TWICE (remember, I was teaching her to drive before I got her a '94 Toyota... the "wrecks were just little fender benders), picking out our stars, scratching our initials in a tree... oh man, it was real puppy love kinds of stuff. Oh yes, back to what I hate to say...

 

The truth is, when I'm finally honest with myself which ain't a lot lately, I miss knowing that a wonderful person who had a wonderful spirit contained in a hot body would always be there whenever I needed it. Don't get me wrong guys, my gal wasn't the prettiest thing you'd ever see. She's never on the top 10 at the MP where she works. But SHEEEEEE-IT, you can't believe the body she has. Gad, it makes me want to whimper just thinking about it. I won't go into to details but suffice it to say, I have thrown thousands of pesos into MPs over the past 3 years looking for something like this and BAM, I found it. It was the "perfect body" for me, mind you... not anything like you might imagine with big boobs, etc., etc.

 

Oh the horror of it all!!! I can't believe I have to start this process all over again! ARRRRGGGHHH. The thing is, more than the body, it was her heart and soul that rounded out the entire package. I am CONVINCED I will never find anything even close to this ever again. And maybe it's for the better anyway. Hell, I've got a family to think about and now that my gal is gone, I guess I may just pack it all up and be content with my wife and slowly decaying body... hmmm... come to think of it, isn't that the way it's really supposed to be? I'm lucky I suppose, however big the hole is in my heart right now.

 

I got to live my fantasy of being in love with a young girl again and fortunately, the girl had the sense to cool me down and end the whole thing before my family found out. That was her biggest concern coz of the 7 people she supports, one is her sister and three young kids who were pretty much out on the streets coz their dad ran away with another woman. She didn't want that for my family. Oh what tangled webs we weave.

 

We've been winding it down for about a month now but the last big fight was this Monday out in he car in the parking lot where I work. We both cried and cried while I yelled and ranted and raved... her telling me I want you for my own and I'm sorry I'm a homewrecker and this is why I have to leave you... oh shee-ut, it was awful. Then she gives me P5000 for her car payment for the month and I stuff it in my pocket and take a teddy bear I'd given her before with me as I leave in a huff. Then after going about 20 steps, turn around and walk back to her... she's just sitting there are tear stained, and I say, "give me my necklace back." Damn, I wish I hadn't done that. It was a special necklace to both of us...not expensive, just special. So, here's the necklace around the teddy bear's neck sitting in my filing cabinet here at work. The bear smells like her car... a mix of dead rat and "going steady" (she had a rat die in her aircon a couple of weeks back). I open the filing cabinet and weap, wondering if I'm losing my mind... any maybe I am.

 

WOOOO-EEEEE, my apologies for this rant. I'll stop there for now.

[xxxpert]

Just say NO to these things.. tigasan mo puso mo.. as hard as your etits when you enter an MP!

[chico]

Just say NO to these things.. tigasan mo puso mo.. as hard as your etits when you enter an MP!

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Easier said than done, but yes thats what we need to do.

[MarriedInMLC]

Just say NO to these things.. tigasan mo puso mo.. as hard as your etits when you enter an MP!

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HA! Good advice man. I reckon the love bug bit me! I'll have to be more careful next time. I've hit the MP three times now in the past two weeks and while the three different girls were all good, man it just wasn't the same... you know, that whole GFE thing was missing but what's more, it's just knowing you're with someone you know really well who can be trusted and also who knows just where to scratch you where it itches to make you go AHHHHHHHH... Damn, now my lip is quivering again. I even tried to fix this thing to tell her that I would just be only a "guest" to her from now on but she didn't feel like that was a good idea... "how can you expect me to move on?" was her rationale. Meanwhile, someone is probably plugging away on her right now that she has never met before. I know she's having her mens starting today and lots of cramps... yet there she will be... laying on a towel while someone gets their fill.

 

God, there's so much to tell but I need to get back to work and give the forum a break. She lost her virginity at this MP. A guy paid her 5k for it. She was 23 at the time and said, "I needed the money so bad." She worked there for a month without giving it up but finally gave in to start earning money. Was her story true? Yeah, I found reference to it in the MPs FRs. Before that, she was just a schoolgirl like all others... first working in a fast food joint part time then as a shoe salesperson. Life is funny... no? I'm sure she never thought she would be doing this kind of work when she was a little girl. I have some of her baby pix... she was so cute...

 

But, I think she's accepted what she does and when it all comes down to it, I suppose she's lucky that she has a somewhat desirable body she can sell. She pulls down about 90-100k a month, has friends at the MP who she likes, has food to eat, can provide for the 7 people she supports, can keep a roof over her's and their heads, can keep the lights on, etc. She's got plans for the future. Hell, when it comes right down to it, who is less moral in this world? A prostitute or a person who does the kind of work I do? Whether it's sales or government or whatever... it's all about trying to earn money, make a living, and exchange something with somebody hopefully for the betterment of both.

 

Life goes on and so shall I. I guess my story could fit in any broken hearts club section. I would be writing the same thing whether she was an MPA or not. We just really hit it off despite our realities. I miss my friend :-/

[xxxpert]

Easier said than done, but yes thats what we need to do.

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I know what you mean... pero we should exercise the mind over heart principle.

[Bloodraven]

You know it's nice to be amongst "real MEN" when dealing with this kind of topic. Ok, reality check, thier sex-workers (granted), but does that make them any less human? if it does, why do the people who often degrade thier "occupation" still patronize these people they consider lesser than human..

 

Honestly, it may be "advisable" to not fall for them, but what do you do when you do... Last time I checked human hearts do not come with an off button...

 

Realize and accept the situation, and if your willing to live with it, then do. I know that my girl has a lot of boys circling her like vultures, in fact during my chauffer days (whenever I take her to work) a bloody horde of phone calls flood her celfone everytime. And although it is hurtful to hear the conversation, she does have to say what she has to say to keep her "regulars" happy...( bitter pill swallowed there ).

 

Guess it all boils down to the fact that these women are people, who should be given the same emotional & social privileges entitled every human being. If some guys think this is pathetic, then I'm sad for you. I've had relationships with normal girls, celebrities, students, gros, and now an mpa. Are they in anyway different? Yes, but not as different as some of you might think. If society continues to stone these women for what they have done or currently doing, then there is something rong with society and not these women.

 

Cheers and Kudos to all of you "MEN" who've looked beyond what "BOYS" often see as the primary trait to guage a womans over-all worth.

 

It may be a losing cause but I do think that its a fight worth fighting. If the battle turns and we end up losing, at least we did what we could to show them that they are still human beings worth a "MAN"s love....

[BossV]

I know what you mean... pero we should exercise the mind over heart principle.

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There is this 3-month rule in an illicit relationship like this. It means that if it goes on after 3 months then be ready to face the challenge. Call it mid-life crisis or ego trip but it's gotta be something else especially if it goes on for 9 months.

 

If you want this to end then you should have a plan on how to get through it. You can't just say NO when you have nothing to back up that NO. You can't STOP if you don't know when and where to apply the breaks. But then again, easier said than done. Be not afraid then, you gotta start somewhere if you want to go on with life. Take it one step at a time. If I have to be religious and biblical about this (I hope it's not out of place in this thread), Jesus took the way to the cross a step at a time with matching falls (3) on this sides. And guess what, He made it and won the price for us.

[ramsstein21]

selos yata ko pag may ibang siniservice

[jumborat]

you know what, sometimes we also need to take a step back and think. if we really love girls in this profession, why don't we just support them and go on with our lives? at least we have saved one girl from disaster! given that we all have money, a wrinkled dick to go with, would you think that these girls would truly love us in return? we sticked our dicks in, paid, left, returned, paid again (probably more), and now you're already expecting alot? seems like we are buying ourselves a relationship, is it not.

 

the problem with us people sometimes is that we expect too much. why cant we just help and not expect anything in return? do they have to really repay us with sex and love us too? cant we just be satisfied and have instant gratification that we have saved a soul? im not saying that you dont have to have sex with them. my point is just that if you really love someone, having an intimate relationship is really not needed. you're old, not good looking, about to die in around 10 years and you have a poor cousin. you give her a condo which is just around 10% of your total assets. do you expect her to f**k and love you at the same time?

 

just rambling...