Mang.J Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 As much as I'd like to say to try your best to avoid this kind of relationship, to those who are indeed pushed to follow this course by their L, their heart or by their own free will, just some words for you. My opinions at the most, but if it helps, you're welcome. Respect, understanding and trust are key. If you do fall for your thera, make damn sure you're capable of understanding what they have to go through just to support themselves or their families. If you can't pull them out and bring them to live another life, your selos, or drive to be the one and only to them only makes their lives harder, and has no place in the relationship. Understand that should the feeling be reciprocated and you do get max mileage, it's always a tough time thinking others get max mileage as well (just without the feelings, perhaps). It's also always a tough feeling to have feelings reciprocated and then you seeing the other actively seeking other clients to continue making a living. You better have what it takes to understand she needs the clients, no matter how much you might feel that she no longer has to because of you. They're people like you too, meaning they're also looking for that break in their lives to feel good despite what they have to do. Make sure you're the person who treats them well, who makes them feel alive, and makes them feel appreciated despite their position. Throw any normal notions of a relationship out the window, and if you do truly love her, help her. She has needs, fulfill it. Listen to her. Make her life easier. Understand that success here is probably the smallest and slimmest of chance in the world, and at the most, know you're most probably just a supporting actor watching over her, and there whenever she needs you. And once again, I'll have to suggest one to stay clear as much as possible. If you do find yourself in it, however, make the best out of it. Everything might and most probably would not work out, but make sure it's an experience that brings out the best in you as much as it gives her one of the best moments in her life. Getting really hurt is a real thing in this kind of relationship, while you're in it and almost always at the end, but...that's the way it is. Cheers. Carry on. 2 Quote Link to comment
filibustero Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 To all those looking for love in all the wrong places, I hope you do find the right person for you there. Learn from the stories of those who have been there, and may it serve to guide you when it's your time to make that choice whether to be with the other person or not. True that most love stories here do not have happy endings, but what matters is the experience of love. And who knows, maybe your story will be one of those rare fairy tales that does end in happily ever after - the kind that warms the heart of even the coldest thera or any GM in heat. If all fails, there are a lot of GMs here who can sympathize and say "I know that feel bro." All the best to you all. 1 Quote Link to comment
toruk makto Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 no problem falling for a therapist if you have the same values and upbringing. same background and same status in society. all is well. Quote Link to comment
walkingdildo Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 This shouldn't be a problem bros lalo na kung she's worth it naman. Hindi lahat ng therapist cheap. May iba dyan matatalino at may delikadesa in their vanilla life. Business is business kung baga. type ko ung isang manager ng spakol na napuntahan ko. nothing beats a woman with beauty and brains ika nga. 1 Quote Link to comment
bughaw1 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 kaya pumupunta sa spakol o mp eh para hindi kumplikado ang buhay. pagkatapos makaraos,bayad and move on..yan ang tamang galawan,hindi yung fall fall na yan...sakit sa ulo yan. 1 Quote Link to comment
glut_func Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 ^kung magpaparaos ka lang bakit ka pa pupunta sa mga ganyang lugar? pwede naman magparaos sa loob ng bahay na lang libre pa.... Quote Link to comment
BRAIN FOR HIRE Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 As much as I'd like to say to try your best to avoid this kind of relationship, to those who are indeed pushed to follow this course by their L, their heart or by their own free will, just some words for you. My opinions at the most, but if it helps, you're welcome. Respect, understanding and trust are key. If you do fall for your thera, make damn sure you're capable of understanding what they have to go through just to support themselves or their families. If you can't pull them out and bring them to live another life, your selos, or drive to be the one and only to them only makes their lives harder, and has no place in the relationship. Understand that should the feeling be reciprocated and you do get max mileage, it's always a tough time thinking others get max mileage as well (just without the feelings, perhaps). It's also always a tough feeling to have feelings reciprocated and then you seeing the other actively seeking other clients to continue making a living. You better have what it takes to understand she needs the clients, no matter how much you might feel that she no longer has to because of you. They're people like you too, meaning they're also looking for that break in their lives to feel good despite what they have to do. Make sure you're the person who treats them well, who makes them feel alive, and makes them feel appreciated despite their position. Throw any normal notions of a relationship out the window, and if you do truly love her, help her. She has needs, fulfill it. Listen to her. Make her life easier. Understand that success here is probably the smallest and slimmest of chance in the world, and at the most, know you're most probably just a supporting actor watching over her, and there whenever she needs you. And once again, I'll have to suggest one to stay clear as much as possible. If you do find yourself in it, however, make the best out of it. Everything might and most probably would not work out, but make sure it's an experience that brings out the best in you as much as it gives her one of the best moments in her life. Getting really hurt is a real thing in this kind of relationship, while you're in it and almost always at the end, but...that's the way it is. Cheers. Carry on. I salute you sir. While, I always tell my compadres to steer clear of extra complications in life, one doesn't always get to choose when one trips and falls into the tender trap. Well as someone who always has one finger on the ejector seat button, it is real bravery to be willing to accept the challenge of what normal people might find unthinkable- loving a "commodified" person. It's a profession legal in some parts of the world, but human nature, particularly that of men tends to be the same worldwide- we'd we don't play well with others. So yeah, Carpe Diem, but try not to get there to begin with. 1 Quote Link to comment
~sp Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Falling for someone can happen in any places. Spa/MP place is not a cursed land or even a trap. As i Have shared with my previous post, I for one have a relative who found true love who stayed together through thick and thin, sickness and in health, rich or poor and it happened that they parted ways due to death. Let's not be self righteous in giving feedbacks. I agree, it's not an easy road, not just for the GM but also for the Therapist. As mentioned by some GMs, there are risk for the GM, as well as for the Thera. Someone wrote GM should understand and accept the background of Thera, and Thera's should also accept background of GM because for a time, GM who decided to be exclusive to a love one was once a patronizer of SPA/MP. Both should layout parameters that is doable and acceptable for both. Not just for love found from these places but from any place that you've found love. Again, not to contradict everyone but just be gentle in giving comments, GM and Thera are just same human being regardless of their status... 4 Quote Link to comment
hamtaro Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 ang dali magbigay ng advice pero kapag ikaw na pala yung nasa sitwasyon ang hirap. i always say to myself na everytime na lalabas na ako ng spa or mp dapat naiiwan na sa loob ano man nangyare. but iba ngayon im falling for her. ang hirap pilit ko iniiba atensyon ko pero sya at sya ng naiisip ko. Quote Link to comment
rey.etder Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 very difficult situation. unless Physical Therapist Quote Link to comment
toruk makto Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Change spa and look for another thera to replace her and the problem is solved until u fall for this new one. LOL Quote Link to comment
hamtaro Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 ito baka si ms. ginger kasagutan sa problema. joke! haha. Quote Link to comment
Kentmarlo Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 ang hirap ng sitwasyon na yan. Pero kadalasan pag nakahanap kana ng ibang gusto mo tsaka mo sasabihin mas ok ito sinayang ko lang oras ko sa dati. Kailangan pag isipan at planuhin mabuti yan, at kailangan matanggap at malaman mo ang lahat ng bagay tungkol sa ginagawa nya para hindi na mabalikan kung ano nakaraan. Quote Link to comment
holygrail_24 Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Napakahirap talaga pag naranasan mo ito Quote Link to comment
boybanana Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 posible talagang mangyare yan kaso kung ipag lalaban mo siya. dapat tanggap mo cya kung ano man ang naging past nya. that's love. Quote Link to comment
Manto5 Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 I go to Spas for purely carnal and physical desires, not to fall in love or to give romance a chance.Once the 'deed' is done, i come out satisfied without guilt or carry on baggage. It is simply a business transaction. Quote Link to comment
suade Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 ako muntic na sa physical therapist na engaged Quote Link to comment
toruk makto Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 ako muntic na sa physical therapist na engaged maybe you want to share with us kung ano ngyari? Quote Link to comment
MTBCommuter Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Sensitive topic ito. Been there before nung bata pa ako Quote Link to comment
haroots2 Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 kuha ka na lang ng ibang attendant. para divided yung attention. When you already fell for her, even if you took another thera it just won't work. You will not be satisfied with her kahit GFE sya or PSE which ever you prefer. Siya pa rin ang hahanap hanapin mo. Others can try but didn't work for me before. Quote Link to comment
haroots2 Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 I go to Spas for purely carnal and physical desires, not to fall in love or to give romance a chance.Once the 'deed' is done, i come out satisfied without guilt or carry on baggage. It is simply a business transaction. Everyone goes to Spas with that intention. You don't plan to fall for a thera, It just happens. I think the best way to avoid this is don't get a regular thera. Just jump on different thera everytime. Sayang nga lang sa mga opportunites that having a regular thera gives. Quote Link to comment
nuttymags Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 siguro mas mabuti nga twin massage para doble romance and doble bayad Quote Link to comment
suade Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 maybe you want to share with us kung ano ngyari?bale yung physical therapist me bf na at engaged na siya we stay in same dorm Quote Link to comment
~sp Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 mahirap, especially pag committed ka na... i think if going to other spa won't help, avoid espa muna for a time or just stop completely. but if you're not committed to somebody else, what's wrong with loving a therapist? especially if the therapists feels the same... if both of you pursue the love, then agree on doable terms not commit to terms that you guys cannot commit... be honest if you can't do the parameters... work together on how you can make it work.... Quote Link to comment
kulkat Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 everybody and anybody could fall in love to a therapist... it's a matter of acceptance and trust... acceptance of the work she's into and giving her your full trust... for sure, she will reciprocate this too... Quote Link to comment
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