Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[longhairdude]

Pag ibig nga naman, well during sa experience ko mga kakosa kailangan talagang may pera para matustusan ang mga needs and wants ng girl to stop doing the darksides.In that case pwede na sya mag stop pero hindi mo rin sya masisi kung yan ang source of living nya kasi thats the only way para mgkapera at jan mo na kilala. SO kung inlove talga busog din dapat ang bulsa.

Edited June 12, 2014 by longhairdude

[lelouch2000]

@edmund cant seem to send a pm right now. Ill try once i get a hold.of a computer. You can pm me haha .

Btw i appreciate what your saying. Really cant talk abput it.with ny friends because last time i tried they did not take me seriously. Hear from you soon bro

 

maganda mga advice ni Edmund Dantes.. xa ang nakatulong sakin ng malaki, iba kasi ang feeling pagnapaxok ka sa ganyang situation.

nakakatulong lalo na sa mga tulad natin na dumadaan sa ganitong situation.

sa ngaun medyo ayos na ako kahit papano.. dumating kasi ako sa punto na halos mangalahati na ang bank account ko..

hanggang sa tignan ko ung passbook ko at nagulat na naisip ko lintik na tong pinaggagagawa ko.

Magastos masyado ang ganung situation pero di ko naman masisi ang sarili ko dahil nanggaling ako sa break up with my ex gf...

Ganun pa man nalaman ko na nandyan lang naman ung reg mpa ko at nagttxt dahil palagi akong napunta for her..

pero ngaung di na ako napunta dahil gusto kong ibalik ung nawalang ipon sa passbook ko ehh wala na xa...

 

Kung titignan kong mabuti ang sitwasyon, hindi ko gusto ang makipagtalik sa mpa kundi ung mabuting pag aaruga nya sakin.

Pero kung iisipin ko, isa mang illusyon ang magandang ipinapakita ng reg mpa ko ehh para ding isang panaginip na nagkakatotoo sa isang oras na magkasama kami.

Isang pangarap na makasama ang isang magandang babae.. Alagaan at arugain na parang isang nanay sa kanyang anak..

Isang pagpapanggap na pagmamahal na pinarararamdam nya sakin na kahit kelan di ko naramdaman sa ex gf ko..

 

mahirap ikwento sa mga kaibigan ang mga ganitong sitwasyon dahil tatawanan ka lang nila at sasabihin na tanga lang ang nakakaramdam ng ganyan..

Ngaun medyo natatauhan na ako, dahil nagkakaubusan na ng mga project sideline.. nawawalan na ako ng pera..

Naiisip ko na kung gano kahirap ang buhay, kung gano kahirap kitain ang pera.. At dahil dyan natitigil ang aking pagpunta sa mga mp...

 

pakinggan mo lang ung mga advice ni Edmund.. malaking tulong ung mga salitang sinasabi nya..

nakaka enlighten ng mga situation.

Goodluck sayo bro..

[boybaog]

^bakit nga ba kapag kinukwento mo sa kaibigan mo pinagtatawanan ka lang? I had the same exact experience sa barkada ko before

[Edmund Dantes]

maganda mga advice ni Edmund Dantes.. xa ang nakatulong sakin ng malaki, iba kasi ang feeling pagnapaxok ka sa ganyang situation.

nakakatulong lalo na sa mga tulad natin na dumadaan sa ganitong situation.

sa ngaun medyo ayos na ako kahit papano.. dumating kasi ako sa punto na halos mangalahati na ang bank account ko..

hanggang sa tignan ko ung passbook ko at nagulat na naisip ko lintik na tong pinaggagagawa ko.

Magastos masyado ang ganung situation pero di ko naman masisi ang sarili ko dahil nanggaling ako sa break up with my ex gf...

Ganun pa man nalaman ko na nandyan lang naman ung reg mpa ko at nagttxt dahil palagi akong napunta for her..

pero ngaung di na ako napunta dahil gusto kong ibalik ung nawalang ipon sa passbook ko ehh wala na xa...

 

Kung titignan kong mabuti ang sitwasyon, hindi ko gusto ang makipagtalik sa mpa kundi ung mabuting pag aaruga nya sakin.

Pero kung iisipin ko, isa mang illusyon ang magandang ipinapakita ng reg mpa ko ehh para ding isang panaginip na nagkakatotoo sa isang oras na magkasama kami.

Isang pangarap na makasama ang isang magandang babae.. Alagaan at arugain na parang isang nanay sa kanyang anak..

Isang pagpapanggap na pagmamahal na pinarararamdam nya sakin na kahit kelan di ko naramdaman sa ex gf ko..

 

mahirap ikwento sa mga kaibigan ang mga ganitong sitwasyon dahil tatawanan ka lang nila at sasabihin na tanga lang ang nakakaramdam ng ganyan..

Ngaun medyo natatauhan na ako, dahil nagkakaubusan na ng mga project sideline.. nawawalan na ako ng pera..

Naiisip ko na kung gano kahirap ang buhay, kung gano kahirap kitain ang pera.. At dahil dyan natitigil ang aking pagpunta sa mga mp...

 

pakinggan mo lang ung mga advice ni Edmund.. malaking tulong ung mga salitang sinasabi nya..

nakaka enlighten ng mga situation.

Goodluck sayo bro..

 

Huwag mo na masyado panghinayangan pera, kikitain mo lang naman ulit yan eh. Pero yung pride mahirap hirap bawiin yan. Glad to see you are doing better. Just keep working on yourself improvement lang parekoy, at isang araw makakatingin ka ulit sa salamin at magiging proud ka sa sarili mo

[Edmund Dantes]

^bakit nga ba kapag kinukwento mo sa kaibigan mo pinagtatawanan ka lang? I had the same exact experience sa barkada ko before

 

Kasi emotionally detached sila. So sa utak nila lahat black and white lang lagi. Hindi sila tumatapak sa gray area kung baga.

 

Hindi sa sinasabi kong ok lang na tawanan natin at husgahan ang mga taong sumasabit sa ganito. Pero sa isang banda mga parekoy, dapat kasi pilitin natin maging emotionally detached. Kaya nagkakanda lito lito tayo, dahil masyado natin pinapakinggan emosyon natin. Kaya minsan magandang humingi ng payo sa isang taong emotionally detached at sasabihin sayo kung ano yung totoo at hindi yung gusto mo lang marinig.

 

Ganun pa man, ang tunay na kaibigan dapat gumabay at umalalay hindi dapat mangutya. Maging honest pero huwag kastiguhin. Lahat naman tayo pwede pumalpak sa mga naging decisons natin. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na yung pagkakamali ang magdikta ng buong pagkatao natin. Karamihan naman satin gusto bumangon at matuto at kelangan lang ng konting pagalalay.

 

Ganito na lang siguro, isang araw pag magaling na lahat ng sugat at nahanap na natin kaligayahan at kapayapaan, babalikan natin itong mga karanasan natin at tatawa na lang tayo. Nagkaroon ako ng ex maraming taon na ang nakakaraan na iniyakan ko ng sobra, at tinawanan din ako ng barkada kung bakit ko pinanghihinayangan yung babaeng yun. After some time, nahimasmasan din ako. Ngayon sinasabi ko na lang "Kung maalala ko ang sarili ko kung pano kita iniyakan noon, natatawa na lang ako".

[boybaog]

Kasi emotionally detached sila. So sa utak nila lahat black and white lang lagi. Hindi sila tumatapak sa gray area kung baga.

 

Hindi sa sinasabi kong ok lang na tawanan natin at husgahan ang mga taong sumasabit sa ganito. Pero sa isang banda mga parekoy, dapat kasi pilitin natin maging emotionally detached. Kaya nagkakanda lito lito tayo, dahil masyado natin pinapakinggan emosyon natin. Kaya minsan magandang humingi ng payo sa isang taong emotionally detached at sasabihin sayo kung ano yung totoo at hindi yung gusto mo lang marinig.

 

Ganun pa man, ang tunay na kaibigan dapat gumabay at umalalay hindi dapat mangutya. Maging honest pero huwag kastiguhin. Lahat naman tayo pwede pumalpak sa mga naging decisons natin. Pero hindi ibig sabihin na yung pagkakamali ang magdikta ng buong pagkatao natin. Karamihan naman satin gusto bumangon at matuto at kelangan lang ng konting pagalalay.

 

Ganito na lang siguro, isang araw pag magaling na lahat ng sugat at nahanap na natin kaligayahan at kapayapaan, babalikan natin itong mga karanasan natin at tatawa na lang tayo. Nagkaroon ako ng ex maraming taon na ang nakakaraan na iniyakan ko ng sobra, at tinawanan din ako ng barkada kung bakit ko pinanghihinayangan yung babaeng yun. After some time, nahimasmasan din ako. Ngayon sinasabi ko na lang "Kung maalala ko ang sarili ko kung pano kita iniyakan noon, natatawa na lang ako".

 

 

Wow sir thanks. the way you express yourself. parang nakakailang reincarnation ka na sa mundo, wise man and dating hehehe

[Edmund Dantes]

Wow sir thanks. the way you express yourself. parang nakakailang reincarnation ka na sa mundo, wise man and dating hehehe

 

Hehehe, tumatanda na siguro din tayo, dumadami na din puting buhok eh

[DorkVader]

Happened to me too. I have a lot of Thera friends who know her. Most of them told me to stay away. I did not listen because I did not care. All I knew was she really liked me and she was forced into that line of work because of circumstances. She had a lot of bad fr's and some good ones too. . .really graphic ones after some time. Then she just changed over time. Instead of telling me straight that she doesn't want to even talk to me anymore, she treated me like dirt. She stopped answering my calls and ignored my texts. The very few times when she did, ang sasakit ng mga sinabi for no reason at all. Para siyang naka experience ng crash pag bumaba na ang high or tama. She was always irritated with me. I know this is not reflective of all theras but this was my experience. By the way, just a couple of months ago she texted me to see how I am doing these days. I must admit old feelings came back but I can sense that after a few days, she hasn't lost her talent for sharp and hurtful words. Sabi ko na lang "I wish you all the luck and that you find someone who will be good to you, sincerely." And I meant it for I still care for her, but I said my goodbyes.

[Bloodaxe]

I dont see anything wrong with that man. Just do whatever makes you feel happy regardless of what others might say.

even the best ones fall down sometimes... heheheh ok lang yan.

 

if you doubt what youre doing, don't do it

[Edmund Dantes]

I dont see anything wrong with that man. Just do whatever makes you feel happy regardless of what others might say.

 

Hmmm, if I may offer the flip side to that.

 

Siguro its safe to say na karamihan ng mga kwento dito, kadalasan sa umpisa lang nagiging masaya at sa huli marami rami din ang nasaktan at nahirapan.

 

Masyado kasing simplistic kung yan lang ang magiging katwiran natin. Na gawin natin ang makakapagpasaya satin. OO tama naman yun. Nga lang, hindi naman ibig sabihin komo masaya ka sa isang bagay ay tama na yung ginagawa mo para sa sarili mo di ba? Yes life is about taking risks, but learn also to calculate your risk properly. Never take a chance if the reward does not outweigh the risk. And like what I always say, when it comes to partnerships as much as possible never shortchange yourself. Ayos ba parekoy?

 

I know, malamang gusto mo sabihin na hayaan natin sila kasi nga naman buhay nila yan. Kung sumablay sila eh di learning experience. Yeah well true, but sometimes we can avoid learning things the hardway naman. Kaya nga sa huli ang isang taong nasasaktan laging sinasabi "Kung alam ko lang dati pa, kung natutunan ko noon ang natutunan ko ngayon, kung mas nagisip lang sana ako etc."

 

Anyway for the sake of discussion lang naman ito hehehe

[lelouch2000]

Just want to ask something guys...

Nararamdaman nyo ba na kapag ung reg MPA nyo or the MPA that you like ehh pinagpipiyestahan ng mga lalaki dito sa MP forum

ay parang nasasaktan kayo? It's been a long time na di ko na nakita ung reg mpa for some financial reason. I want to save kasi next year try ko mag invest or stocks..

Bakit ba ako nasasaktan tuwing nakikita ko ang name nya dito sa MP forum..

Dpat ang nararamdaman ko ehh dapat maturn off ako sa kanya pero bakit ako nasasaktan pag nakikita ko ang pangalan nya???

Edited June 17, 2014 by lelouch2000

[kali7]

Just want to ask something guys...

Nararamdaman nyo ba na kapag ung reg MPA nyo or the MPA that you like ehh pinagpipiyestahan ng mga lalaki dito sa MP forum

ay parang nasasaktan kayo? It's been a long time na di ko na nakita ung reg mpa for some financial reason. I want to save kasi next year try ko mag invest or stocks..

Bakit ba ako nasasaktan tuwing nakikita ko ang name nya dito sa MP forum..

Dpat ang nararamdaman ko ehh dapat maturn off ako sa kanya pero bakit ako nasasaktan pag nakikita ko ang pangalan nya???

 

Because its not yet fully healed and puso mo. And may selos din ba na nararamdaman? Deep inside you may still want na masolo mo siya and take her out sa industry. Best thing is don't read yung thread na yun, I know its hard kasi di ko rin magawa. Hahaha. Nasa iwas mode ka pa lang and yung feeling mo sa kanya may natitira pa kaya ganyan nararamdaman mo. Same here. Lol

[Edmund Dantes]

Because its not yet fully healed and puso mo. And may selos din ba na nararamdaman? Deep inside you may still want na masolo mo siya and take her out sa industry. Best thing is don't read yung thread na yun, I know its hard kasi di ko rin magawa. Hahaha. Nasa iwas mode ka pa lang and yung feeling mo sa kanya may natitira pa kaya ganyan nararamdaman mo. Same here. Lol

 

Yes I totally agree, very well said. Ito nga talaga yung mga pagkakataon na huwag na huwag ka makikinig sa nararamdaman mo kasi ipapahamak ka nyan. Kung di man yan kaya matanggap pa ng puso mo (Kasi nga ang puso daw parang batang paslit na matigas minsan ang ulo), itanim mo na lang muna yan sa utak mo.

 

Dagdag ko lang

 

Pag dating talaga sa babaeng pagbibigyan ng emotional investment, bad investment talaga yung mga babae na bibigyan ka ng ganitong insecurity. Dapat sayong sayo lang ang babae at di papahawak sa iba.

[Intuition]

i am currently in a relationship with a PSP. she is also pregnant with my child (presumably). i dont know how long we would last. but here are some things worth noting:

 

 

-she is 18 years old, and has no children.

 

-she never asked for money. but if and when she runs out of money, she will go back to being a PSP. she'd rather be a PSP than ask her bf (me) for money.

 

-she is very low maintenance. below 10k living expenses. having said that, she is also very poor. she hates the things that typical girls like. i had to force her to get something from Forever 21. until now, she'd rather shop at divisoria. she is not as materialistic as most PSPs.

 

-she doesn't give much money to her family. i made a deal with her that if her family begins treating me like an ATM, she would have to choose between me and them. she told me "ikaw na ang pamilya ko, ikaw ang pipiliin ko."

 

-she compromises, although she is very very stubborn

 

-if we break up, she is going back to being a PSP. a psp will always be a psp when she is in financial troubles and when someone is still willing to pay for them

 

-all psp's have vices, mine is meth. she has given it up because of her pregnancy. i made it clear that i will break up with her if she goes back to it.

 

-we would have already broken up if i did not get her pregnant. but being in this situation, we saw ourselves in a different light, and in the process, fell deeper in love. back when she wasn't pregnant, she was still being a PSP, and doing meth. she just gave me free sex but never kept promises. when i told her i was already in love with her before she even got pregnant, she could not believe it. all she knew was that we were playing a game and she enjoyed it, but really could not sacrifice anything for me.

 

-we are very much in love, and are doing our best to make it work. she is trying to go back to normal life, trying to finish her highschool and all. while i am preparing myself for our child. i also told my family about it (only half of the story, of course). i am currently in hell for it, but the good thing that came out of it is now she trusts me. she saw what i sacrificed and in turn, she is committing to me too.

 

-her motivation is having a normal family, with a child who has a father. that is why she is doing things to keep me in the relationship. i almost left her once. i told her: i am going to leave her because she will always be a PSP no matter what, and i do not have time to deal with a meth addict. i will pay for child support and i will get lawyers involved when the child is 7, so our child will live with me. when i said it, i left her money and broke up with her. she went for me and told me she will do her best to be normal. she also returned my money.

 

-i am always ready to break up with her. while i love her very much ... i always keep it to myself that if she betrays me, i will not allow myself to feel bad if she does so. i keep telling her "you have a chance to live a normal life with no financial problems, with a man who loves you very much and is willing to be a family with you. do not betray my trust." i guess you can say it is important to always be prepared with PSPs ... you cant give them your everything and you should not allow yourself to keep on forgiving them for the same mistakes

 

-having said that, i am also careful not to betray her trust, because she will go back to her old life.

 

the way i see it, MPs and GROs and PSPs are just like us ... they have a lot of things to lose if they commit to a GM and leave their jobs. they are hesitant at first, because after all, it is not the first time they tried to have a relationship with a client, and they have had their hearts broken. if they can trust you, perhaps they can leave their old lives behind.

 

but then again, what do i know? ... to be honest, i dont even know what will happen to us.

Edited June 18, 2014 by Intuition

[boylib]

Damn. I wonder how many untold stories of situations like these are. Hahaha magical talaga maging romantico/tanga no offense meant guys I am also in the same boat.

 

Also if any of you guys have happy endings with the same situation, please do share.

Edited June 19, 2014 by boylib