denimhead Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 f*cking aye bro... see! this is sh1t that I'm supposed to already know, but what do I do - I take a brick and smash it right over my head repeatedly. heres what u do focus all yr attention on the sh!t she does that annoy you .. eventually it grates u so much u got no choice but to dump her .. works too good for me Quote Link to comment
blow_gobi Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 I agree, money is still the # 1 consideration. Generally, a girl becomes attached to and maybe fall in love with someone because he is "husband" material, which means hindi si girl pababayaan, tinatrato siyang asawa at sinusustentuhan. Of course, some girls would maintain a relationship with guys who don't spend for them, but this is possible only if she's making money or someone else is spending for her sustenance. But how can she maintain her relationship with a "freeloader" if she decides not to work anymore. Kailangan talaga may monetary consideration. Kaya ako, I'd rather have a club girl who's actively working. Konti lang ang ka-share mo sa babae kasi may budget naman kahit walang ES, OK lang magbigay ng tip at OK lang din yung amount ng tip. Unlike an MPA/PSP na parang SOP yung ES (in fact for PSP the work involves sex). Pero once a club girl confesses she's quitting work, I start to worry because that means mas malaki na ang kailangan niyang allowance. Quote Link to comment
Wyld Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 so yeah, I posted somewhere about this thing me and an MPA had, it's an old post and I might have asked the mods to delete it, anyway some of you old timers probably remember it... so anyway the same sh1t happens again, different MPA, different MP, but jesus christ it happens again. Only this time it's so much more intense than the last time. Last time there seemed to be an unspoken agreement between the chick and me, that she had her life and I had mine, and those two are separate. This time, it seems like she really wants to be part of my life (I have a normal life where I'm about to be married, why I do this? Go figure...), asking me out, girlfriend type stuff.......and day by day I find it harder and harder to resist (but I must). before you get any ideas, this girl doesn't want money (nor do I have any to give her), it seems like she's genuinely interested. anyway that's beside the point, the point is...why does this type of sh1t always seem to happen to me? I don't even try to woo them, I do the Charlie Sheen thing and pay them to get out, but dammit there's always that one girl.... So have you guys/gals been in this situation, where you always seem to do the wrong thing? That no matter how hard you try you do the wrong thing because it feels right (at the time)? *note to the mod from hell (I mean you Wyld, just kidding you know I love you girl )please don't merge I want to get legit opinions from girls too, and merging it with another thread would negate that, kthxbye. Dear Larry: Unbelievable but true - people find something in you that they like. Thats why you always end up in these situations. I think it could be because you actually treat these girls like .... girls. By that I mean that when they are with you, they feel less like a paid sex worker and more like a woman. That's why they want to keep you. Or at least try to. The decision is up to you - do you want to take your relationship with this girl further and risk your soon-to-be nuptials or not? I wont give you a course of action suggestion because I know youre grown up enough to know what you need to do. Best regards from the Mod from hell, -W ps - I dont really mind being called the mod from hell, especially by you. Quote Link to comment
_Honey_ Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 History repeats itself. Once in a while, you'll bump into someone you will find so hard to resist. And before you know it, you are already falling. At first, you say to yourself you can manage it, then later on, you'll find yourself finding it hard to last the day without even receiving SMS messages from this person. Days later, you will find yourself hearing her voice. Weeks later, you'll find yourself wanting to see this person as often as possible. PS,More to come. Marami pang darating. Quote Link to comment
angel0nf1re Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 my two cents - its prolly better when the line between lust and emotions are clearly defined from the onset of the encounter. constant communication usually lead to nasty attachments. did the same thing with an ex-fubu and learned from it. and yes, it pays to be an a-hole. what goes around comes around Quote Link to comment
Larry Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 Dear Larry: Unbelievable but true - people find something in you that they like. Thats why you always end up in these situations. I think it could be because you actually treat these girls like .... girls. By that I mean that when they are with you, they feel less like a paid sex worker and more like a woman. That's why they want to keep you. Or at least try to. The decision is up to you - do you want to take your relationship with this girl further and risk your soon-to-be nuptials or not? I wont give you a course of action suggestion because I know youre grown up enough to know what you need to do. Best regards from the Mod from hell, -W ps - I dont really mind being called the mod from hell, especially by you. my dad raised me to be a gentleman, to women at least... nah im not risking anything, everything goes as planned nothing changes its just annoying that it still happens I guess...I mean will it still keep it happening when I'm 40? I seem to just grow older not smarter great to still see you keeping the kids in line W Quote Link to comment
Larry Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 exactly my point. asking why this happens is asking why a cycle never ends. you're into me aren't you..i can tell luv Quote Link to comment
Larry Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 History repeats itself. Once in a while, you'll bump into someone you will find so hard to resist. And before you know it, you are already falling. At first, you say to yourself you can manage it, then later on, you'll find yourself finding it hard to last the day without even receiving SMS messages from this person. Days later, you will find yourself hearing her voice. Weeks later, you'll find yourself wanting to see this person as often as possible. PS,More to come. Marami pang darating. yeah I know the drill been through it before...except its not supposed to happen twice now is it? Quote Link to comment
Larry Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 --- Larry, did you do or even attempt to do this? or are we back to the unwritten-rules-BS again? uhm yeah I think handing money over after sex pretty much covers it Quote Link to comment
Wyld Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 (edited) my dad raised me to be a gentleman, to women at least... nah im not risking anything, everything goes as planned nothing changes its just annoying that it still happens I guess...I mean will it still keep it happening when I'm 40? I seem to just grow older not smarter great to still see you keeping the kids in line W you are. a gentleman, i mean. it will happen as long as you let it happen. maybe be a little less nice? iono. srsly tho - remember its a business transaction first and foremost. they provide a service, you pay and go. i dont get attached to the lady who threads my brows and does my pedi ... thats really the simplest way to handle situations like that. Edited August 23, 2010 by Wyld Quote Link to comment
chunkyhunk Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 people still in most cases mistake the groin beats as heartbeats because both are connected to the same circulatory system... Quote Link to comment
denimhead Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 uhm yeah I think handing money over after sex pretty much covers it lol Quote Link to comment
AnakngTootToot Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 maybe it's what you really want to happen... subconsciously, the situation puts you in a comfort zone...i believe this will keep repeating itself until you're ready to move on... exactly my point. asking why this happens is asking why a cycle never ends. you're into me aren't you..i can tell luv I don't think it is even subconscious. Perhaps not what you really intended or want but certainly gives you the kick doesn't it ? Back of your mind you know you can get away with it anyway. Then you 'unintentionally' start again and you're caught up in the cycle but maybe you are simply too proud to admit you are. ( Shows already how you answered the comments above compared to your answers with others.) You're addicted perhaps not so much on the girl as to the situation. How the girl genuinely wants you and desires you not your money when you are just being a gentleman and sensitive to them. Being able to do that, with MPAs not wanting money, is also extra points...and bragging rights. Speaking of MPAs and building further on the why this s@%t happens to you, I think for many it is want they really want. They are already doing it for the money. One time or another they have been courted, proposed and promised financial security. It's pretty common to them. But a guy who treats them nice, listens to them, tries to understand.. well that's still quite uncommon. It's a breath of fresh air to them and they fall for it. Not that you plan for it but it happens. Just the way you are right ? And to some, it is so uncommon that they will do everything to hang on to it even if they know it will probably won't last. You, on the other hand, find it interesting for MPAs to take this path when they should really be interested in money. The situation is somewhat of an exception on both sides that's why it becomes all the more appealing. Actually, we are exactly in the same situation. I'm just a bit far down the road than you coz I'm past asking those questions. Be careful. It gets more addictive and harder to resist the more you encounter yourself in this type of situation. It can snowball into multiple parallel cycles if you know what i mean. Then it becomes elastic like the shrinking and growing of your dick. You cut down, start anew and it grows back again. The solution is really a change in lifestyle. I know and I will. But not now. There's too much to explore and experience so I plunge into the abyss. It's a bit of a paradox. It is not suppose to happen but it does. Exceptions and outliers are simply too good to give up at this point. Good luck. Quote Link to comment
Seishi Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 Interesting... Things happen because we let it happen. And even loving someone we shouldn't be, we still let it happen. If you want to know why it happened again, you have to know what made you attracted to her in the first place. this girl doesn't want money (nor do I have any to give her), it seems like she's genuinely interested. A straight answer. This is why she seems to have gotten your attention. As an MPA, we expect them to be only interested in money. But she seems different. She's interested in companionship, I think, or to some, a relationship, maybe. And that made her way to touch your heart... why does this type of sh1t always seem to happen to me? I don't even try to woo them, Of course you don't woo them, they're MPA. You went there to get a satisfying service... but she didn't just give you a blast, she got your full attention. Your emotional side/sensitivity made you see her through that you must have realized something good in her. Even if you didn't woo her, if you have spent much time with her (girlfriend stuff), you would even up admiring her more, especially if she's naturally nice and kind within. So have you guys/gals been in this situation Yes. I bet you know how to stop. The question is, are you willing to let go? If you truly like her, then that's an addiction that is hard to resist. Good luck Quote Link to comment
JayZip Posted August 23, 2010 Share Posted August 23, 2010 heres what u do focus all yr attention on the sh!t she does that annoy you .. eventually it grates u so much u got no choice but to dump her .. works too good for me still works and worked for me. hehehehehe!my two cents - its prolly better when the line between lust and emotions are clearly defined from the onset of the encounter. constant communication usually lead to nasty attachments. did the same thing with an ex-fubu and learned from it. and yes, it pays to be an a-hole. what goes around comes around --- Larry, did you do or even attempt to do this? or are we back to the unwritten-rules-BS again? kinda hard to do when you're exchanging bodily fluids and all... uhm yeah I think handing money over after sex pretty much covers it LOLd on this one too. hard to say NO to freebies as well huh? === yep had been in this sitch before and but bailed out as soon as I started to feel "different" toward the girl.some say its worth it...some say it aint...but for sure its one experience you wont forget. honestly, i think you know what to do already so enough of this pep talk.you juz gotta do what u gotta do bro Quote Link to comment
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