Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[countrystyle]

I broke up recently with what was supposed to be just a fling with a GRO. Her name starts with a K. It started out as a casual thing but little by little it became more than that. We both really liked each other. I wanted to see her everyday and she did for me as well. It came to the point she was like my girlfriend already because we would have dates almost every other day after work, during days off, etc.

 

The problem is I already have a legitimate girlfriend. My real girlfriend also noticed I changed with the way I was treating her and she had a feeling I was already falling for someone else.

 

Eventually I noticed my GRO girlfriend drifting away. I do not know whether it was her other GRO friends advising her that this relationship will go nowhere but that is what happened. It used to be a mutual thing but all of a sudden I was giving more and more and she was treating me like crap. At the same time, I was also drifting away from my real girlfriend. One day, I asked my friends to help me out of the situation before I lose my real gf. I tried my best to stop any communication with K but she kept calling me on my cellphone.

 

I could not resist replying. I told K if she really loved me, then why did she always disrespect me and treat me badly. I said all I wanted was for her to love me and take care of me the way I do for her. I asked her if this is too much to ask. I also let her know if she felt the real love I showed to her. K replied she did and she was sorry but she has to break up with me. It was for the best she said. It is reasonable to say that she cannot be in a serious relationship at the same time being in her current occupation.

 

I wished her to take care always and save enough money soon so she can already quit. She told me to take care as well and may I find someone who can love me truly. She called a couple of more times on my cellphone and just listened to my voice. After that it was over.

 

I am hurting badly right now but as my friends told me, it would hurt 10x more if it was my real gf that I lost.

 

it sounds like you love the GRO more than the other girl. it also sounds like you want to maintain 2 gf's. correct me if i'm wrong.

 

anyway, you mentioned:

"I was giving more and more and she was treating me like crap", and

"I wished her to take care always and save enough money soon so she can already quit"

 

this is the way i see it -- she needs [a] someone to love and at the same time someone to give financial support her so she can stop working in a club. i think you have [a] covered, but not and that's why she pushed you away. it's because of [a] that she still calls you, but she feels that things won't work because you won't be able to support her if she stopped now.

 

does she know about the other girl?

Edited June 11, 2010 by countrystyle

[StoicVampire]

I broke up recently with what was supposed to be just a fling with a GRO. Her name starts with a K. It started out as a casual thing but little by little it became more than that. We both really liked each other. I wanted to see her everyday and she did for me as well. It came to the point she was like my girlfriend already because we would have dates almost every other day after work, during days off, etc.

 

The problem is I already have a legitimate girlfriend. My real girlfriend also noticed I changed with the way I was treating her and she had a feeling I was already falling for someone else.

 

Eventually I noticed my GRO girlfriend drifting away. I do not know whether it was her other GRO friends advising her that this relationship will go nowhere but that is what happened. It used to be a mutual thing but all of a sudden I was giving more and more and she was treating me like crap. At the same time, I was also drifting away from my real girlfriend. One day, I asked my friends to help me out of the situation before I lose my real gf. I tried my best to stop any communication with K but she kept calling me on my cellphone.

 

I could not resist replying. I told K if she really loved me, then why did she always disrespect me and treat me badly. I said all I wanted was for her to love me and take care of me the way I do for her. I asked her if this is too much to ask. I also let her know if she felt the real love I showed to her. K replied she did and she was sorry but she has to break up with me. It was for the best she said. It is reasonable to say that she cannot be in a serious relationship at the same time being in her current occupation.

 

I wished her to take care always and save enough money soon so she can already quit. She told me to take care as well and may I find someone who can love me truly. She called a couple of more times on my cellphone and just listened to my voice. After that it was over.

 

I am hurting badly right now but as my friends told me, it would hurt 10x more if it was my real gf that I lost.

 

You already have a girlfriend so why fall in love with someone else? Isn't she enough for you? Like what others have said, treat the girl and situation as it is. We know that falling in love with them is like falling in a rabbit hole. It will be hard for you to get out once the situation gets complicated. Does your girlfriend knows about your GRO-girlfriend? Vice-versa? Your GRO-girlfriend is treating you like crap but don't you think she's doing that intentionally so you would stop bothering her? Sometimes emotion tends to overcome our senses and it will be better if you will control it. From what you've written, you were expecting her to reciprocate the things that you were doing for her. But how about the other clients that were feeling the same way as you do? Being treated like crap, taken for granted. Hey! These are the risks that we took for them right? What you're feeling right now is just the consequence or your actions. It will hurt badly but it will heal in due time. Love your real girlfriend even more. That could be the only way to get over these things.

[dudecrush09]

Thanks for the advice guys. You are right, I put myself into this situation.

 

It used to be that I loved my non-GRO gf more but as time passed, it became my GRO gf. I've gotten so used to seeing my GRO gf almost everyday or going to the club that its become an addiction. It's scary to think that this happened but maybe it is karma for me cheating. Yes, I did want to have two GFs but that would have never worked in my case.

 

My non-GRO gf knows about my problem because she saw through my eyes that I was hurting inside so I confessed. Fortunately, she is still by my side helping me through this. I hope to get over my GRO gf soon. I want to get back to living a simple life.

Edited June 12, 2010 by dudecrush09

[dirtypop]

First, she would have stopped being an MPA, not because she retired, but rather because I would have made her one of my wives...

Second, I would have put her on the pill, and let her stop only when I want her bear me a child, then put her on it again...

Third, in case she did cheat, and f#&ked someone else and gotten pregnant...drop her like a bad habit

Fourth, if you want to make sure it's your child, get it tested, Amniocentesis can be done 14-20 weeks into the pregnancy...

Lastly, I wouldn't even let her think that she even had the right to mock or bicker...

 

Mr. I don't think amniocentesis is the right test if you wanna know whether that child is yours or not..? amniocentesis is more on detection of genetic anomalies if my memory serves correctly.

 

the test you need is DNA test, and it's around 50k i guess?

Edited June 12, 2010 by dirtypop

[mrbigtime]

Mr. I don't think amniocentesis is the right test if you wanna know whether that child is yours or not..? amniocentesis is more on detection of genetic anomalies if my memory serves correctly.

 

the test you need is DNA test, and it's around 50k i guess?

 

 

Aready been praparing for that, though I still have to wait 8 months or so to get the test...

[monazario]

Mr. I don't think amniocentesis is the right test if you wanna know whether that child is yours or not..? amniocentesis is more on detection of genetic anomalies if my memory serves correctly.the test you need is DNA test, and it's around 50k i guess?

yup... DNA test is the correct procedure though you have to wait for the child to be born...

bakit kasi di nag p'pills?

 

Aready been praparing for that, though I still have to wait 8 months or so to get the test...

there are hospitals that offer a lower rate,,, or better yet request the NBI 30k lang dun...

tell them its for filiation matters that would be filed in court soon... but i think you can afford

whatever amount it is... nasa pangalan mo palang eh

 

50k is a lot, you could get a nice hot college student out of that haha...

hmmm..... 50k for a pop on a college stude?

di kaya bro.. taas hehehe diskarte nalang

[Rearden]

Mr. I don't think amniocentesis is the right test if you wanna know whether that child is yours or not..? amniocentesis is more on detection of genetic anomalies if my memory serves correctly.

 

the test you need is DNA test, and it's around 50k i guess?

 

correct, but to do genetic testing, you will have to get a genetic sample, which you can use for DNA testing, thus amniocentesis is the procedure used to obtain genetic material for DNA testing before birth! it is not only for detecting genetic anomalies, but also can be used for determining paternity...

 

think of it this way...amniocentesis is to DNA testing before birth, as shedding of skin or swabbing the cheeks or drawing blood is to DNA testing after birth...

 

and I did mention that 14-20weeks into the pregnancy, which means I was referring to DNA testing before birth...that is if he doesn't want to wait for the child to be born, and stop all financial support for prenatal care!

 

50k is not bad compared to 30k/month to support a child that isn't yours!

Edited June 14, 2010 by Rearden

[Rearden]

yup... DNA test is the correct procedure though you have to wait for the child to be born...

 

to clarify...amniocentesis is not a test! it is a procedure used to obtain amniotic fluid from a pregnant woman.

 

the amniotic fluid is what is used to...

 

1. test for foetal abnormalities (which is what amniocentesis is generally used for)

 

but, since the amniotic fluid contains genetic material from the foetus, it can also be used to...

 

2. test for paternity (which is what DNA testing can determine)

 

...if issues of trust are raised by the woman, you can just say your purpose is #1! this way you can k*ll two birds with one stone!

Edited June 14, 2010 by Rearden

[monazario]

to clarify...amniocentesis is not a test! it is a procedure used to obtain amniotic fluid from a pregnant woman.

 

the amniotic fluid is what is used to...

 

1. test for foetal abnormalities (which is what amniocentesis is generally used for)

 

but, since the amniotic fluid contains genetic material from the foetus, it can also be used to...

 

2. test for paternity (which is what DNA testing can determine)

 

...if issues of trust are raised by the woman, you can just say your purpose is #1! this way you can k*ll two birds with one stone!

i am not familiar with the procedure, thank you for enlightening me on such matter.

[mrbigtime]

50k is a lot, you could get a nice hot college student out of that haha...

 

 

Yup I do...maintain one, that's why we GM's are here for right?! har2

[mrbigtime]

yup... DNA test is the correct procedure though you have to wait for the child to be born...

bakit kasi di nag p'pills?

 

Maybe at the back of my mind I wanted to have a lovechild with her...however stupid it may seem!!!

 

there are hospitals that offer a lower rate,,, or better yet request the NBI 30k lang dun...

tell them its for filiation matters that would be filed in court soon... but i think you can afford

whatever amount it is... nasa pangalan mo palang eh

 

Need to... have established if its really mine!!! but hey, thanks for the info. Got to scout hospitals that offer lower rates.

 

hmmm..... 50k for a pop on a college stude?

di kaya bro.. taas hehehe diskarte nalang

[josol9]

similar line of work. almost similar life experiences. still, they have different personalities but i'm sure that the last thing they want is another heartbreak/trial.

 

tao lang tayo. pwedeng ma-in love sa kahit kanino at sa anumang sitwasyon.

 

sa kasulukuyan ok ang lagay ng samahan niyo. paano ang future? unti-unti ma-i-involve ang mga kaibigan at pamilya niyo dahil hindi na ninyo maiiwasan na hindi ipakilala ang significant other. madaming lalabas na opinyon (good & bad). pareho kayong masasaktan at magkakaroon ng duda sa isa't-isa. kung hindi nakayanan ng isa, hudyat na ito na matatapos na ang relasyon. kung nagsurvive at going strong kayo, more power to you dahil madami pang dadating na pagsubok.

[monazario]

a fair warning... some GROs cannot change the way they are.

some but not all... warning lang. touche

[Guest hastati]

@dudecrush

 

You're saying she keeps calling you on her cellphone and just listens to your voice. Are you even sure it's her? In all probability, it might be her legitimate boyfriend.

[dudecrush09]

@dudecrush

 

You're saying she keeps calling you on her cellphone and just listens to your voice. Are you even sure it's her? In all probability, it might be her legitimate boyfriend.

 

Yes, it was her. I meant she just called me a couple of times and I ask her "bakit?", "sorry talaga", replies "o?" or "oo.." then I tell her to take care because I need to wake up early the following day. After that, she hangs up.