Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[burnout31]

1 hour ago, PedroPaterno said:

Maraming salamats bossing. Pag may karagdagang katanungan bukas ang aking "wall" (I think pwede magpost mga tao dun?

Limited posts pa kasi ako uli, kakabalik lang sa MTC.

Anyway, to stay on topic.

This has been said countless times sa kahit anong platform na maaring puntahan pero maganda na iremind parin kung sino man ang makakabasa:

"When you meet someone, it's either they're a blessing or a lesson."
(pero para saakin, para saakin lang ah, every lesson is a blessing. )

Amen Sir!

[roxascity12345]

On 2/12/2022 at 2:43 PM, PedroPaterno said:

Ok so nagbackread ako ng konti and natripan ko mag contribute in a small way.

Medyo general yung ilalagay ko dito and this is meant for no one in particular, that being said.

First, The very reason kung bakit marami pangit tingin sa konsepto ng pag "fall" sa isang thera is because of the job not the person, the job itself lang talaga. Bakit? Kasi sa panahon ngayon, marami rin namang babae (o kahit lalake; no generalization) that knows how to push your buttons, leave you wanting for more, give you the experience you're looking for only for them to leave you hanging with your dicks in your hands. Regardless of the profession, may ganyang tao. Sorry pero yan ang katotohanan kahapon, ngayon, at bukas magpakailanman. 

Second, I've backread stories here na and common themes are unrequited feelings and relationships of convenience (pinaganda ko lang yung term pero alam niyo na yun), tanong, hindi ba nangyayari rin yan sa normal na relationships/pseudo-relationships? (ie. panoorin niyo nalang yung mga nagpatulfo for the past year or two haha)

ok namnamin niyo muna hehe

Third, now, considering what I've previously said, regardless of the nature of the relationship or the profession of the person you're falling for, ang tanong, why expect things? When someone falls in love, one should not expect anything, one should give, not take (obviously magtira sa sarili, and when I say give, feelings, hindi pera). Kung nanliligaw ka and nafall ka, bakit ka mageexpect? Kung kayo na and todo ka magmahal tapos siya hindi? Bakit ka manghihinayang? E nagmahal ka eh, wag ka magmahal kung di ka handa masaktan. Simple diba? (obviously hindi, pero ganun dapat, yun yung mindset kasi ng karamihan, palagi may expectations na kaakibat, kung mageexpect ka lang din ng kapalit, wag ka nalang makipagrelasyon, bayaran mo nalang.)

Lastly, eto tip sa peg talaga ang thera (and I bear no judgement kung thera talaga trip mo na babae na maging karelasyon, I'll explain why.),
1 - look past the job (this is very difficult dahil wired tayo na kailangan exclusive satin when it comes to intimate activities) if you can do that, proceed to the next one, if hindi, stop.
2 - treat the person as an equal, applicable ito sa lahat ng bagay, and when I say sa lahat, LAHAT, just like in any "normal" relationship (magagawa mo to kung  nagawa mo yung 1, kaya ko sinabi pag di mo kaya yung 1, di talaga pwede sayo to.)
2.5 -  always remember na nakilala mo yan na thera siya, so kung napamahal ka sakanya ng thera siya, wag mo ipressure na tumigil sa trabaho (even if you have the means to support her, kasi nilalagyan mo ng condition yung pagmamahal mo eh. this is also applicable que-se-joda ano pa trabaho nyan)
3 - just like in any other relationships, be clear with your intentions. (taragis pag eto kailangan ko pa iexplain ewan ko nalang hehe)
So bakit wala ako judgement sayo kung thera talaga trip mo, kasi see point 1, para saakin since trabaho lang yan, wala yan pinagkaiba sa mga tao na trip ang nurses, flight attendants, salespeople, etc etc. May perks kasi if you're dating someone from a specific field, kaya understandable if you're into therapists. 

Ayun lang pero para panapos bigyan ko kayo sample ng isang tropa ko, eto polar opposite talaga sila from estado ng buhay hanggang sa personality (pati sa ichura, sorry men, di mo naman mababasa to eh wahaha)

Premise, guy 22 years old is from a pretty much well-off chinese family (well-off hindi ultra rich, hindi rin rich, well off yung sakto lang kaya mabuhay kahit walang pumasok na pera ngayong pandemic, pero hindi yung tipong kaya bumili ng Ferrari maya't maya) girl is a 24 year old is a single independent guest relations officer and is the sole breadwinner.

X years ago they met sa workplace nung girl, nahumaling si guy, inaraw araw yung workplace, niligiwan, nagkainlove-an, naging sila. The end. 

CHARIZ

The guy decided to take things further and introduce her to his family, pero bago nya ipakilala, ikinwento muna nya sa parents nya ano nangyari to gauge their reaction, surprisingly, sabi ng parents, ok anak, basta importante tao trato sayo, tao trato mo sakanya.

So kung ano man mapupulot niyo dyan kayo na bahala.

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In conclusion, how bout me? Would I date one? Yeah puta why not. Not keeping my doors closed. Would I apply what I just said? Would try my very best to siyempre. Easier said than done, palagi applicable yun sa lahat ng bagay. Iba kasi pag feelings na involved eh.

Anyways, happy afternoon gents. Good luck sa lovelife, sensya napahaba. and this is where I end my TED Talk, don't forget to like, share and subscribe, chariiiz!

Ganda ng words of wisdom mo Sir.

[handsomebob]

On 2/13/2022 at 4:40 PM, Nicole of Clam said:

Grabe baby sa sunog ? Not all 😅

siguro sa 20 na thera, swerte na yung 3 na naghahanap talaga ng tunay na pag ibig, the rest are just after your money!!

lalo na kung maluho yung babae, SUNOG talaga!!  hahaha

[roxascity12345]

Sarap mag backread. Ang galing...may mga happy endings din talaga sa mga theras natin. Good for them.

Pag gusto nyo mahimasmasan, or makakuha ng aral from their experiencea, try nyo mag backread...

[PedroPaterno]

1 hour ago, roxascity12345 said:

Ganda ng words of wisdom mo Sir.

maraming salamats bossing.

 

pag usapang pag ibig kasi, eto lang ah para dagdag ko lang uli. (pangit kasi yung magththank you lang ako sayo bossing tapos yun lang baka masayang yung limited post haha)

 

pantay pantay dapat ang lahat, yung pagiging judgemental kasi natin ang nagiging problema, aminado ako ganyan din ako minsan. pero kailangan natin tingnan ang mga bagay bagay in a third person's perspective (or better yet objectively, which is hard i know)

like for example, "wag ka mang girl friend ng thera kasi mauubos pera mo." which in fact, 50-50 lang yan pwedeng mangyari, bakit?

ang pagiging mukhang pera to the point na manghuhuthot ka na, di yan nakabase sa trabaho nung tao, kundi sa pagpapalaki ng magulang, karakter at prinsipyo. bakit? marami din namang babae na wala sa ganitong larangan ng trabaho na puta nanununog ng kaban ng isang lalake, i'm sure naman alam mo rin naman to. so mas mainam na tingnan mo yung katangian ng isang tao imbis na yung prejudice. kilalanin mo, kilatisin mo, be DISCERNING, hindi yung "ay ang bait nya sakin, baka matino to" NO, di ganun yun, malaki ka na, alam mo na meaning ng discerning.

Yun ay kung trip mo talaga ah, applicable lang to dun sa mga nagkagusto o magkakagusto talaga sa isang therapist.

Pag di mo trip dahil feel mo masusunugan ka, ok lang yun, sarili mo yan, maniwala ka sa kutob mo.

 

(madami pwede sabihin tungkol sa paksang ito pero tinatamad pa ako haha. next time uli :D)

[jtc06091979]

sarap magbackread 👍

[SnoozySnoozy]

I could say I fell in love with a thera once. Around 2016 yun. Fell for her quite hard. After 3months, I learned the hard way, that it's not gonna work, at least in our situation. I am in NO WAY saying that loving theras in a bad idea, but falling in love in the context of client-thera situation is a very difficult path to take. 

They are in the industry for a reason. And so are we (GMs). We should all realize that and stick to the plan kung bakit tayo pumupunta sa spa. Trying to change the dynamics, would most likely end in heartbreak. 

Right now, I have one of the most GFE theras I've met EVER. But mas naeenjoy ko, knowing that we are on the same page. Enjoy lang kami sa experience, but we know where we stand. 🙌 Good luck to us, gents! 

[majoretomakz1022]

mahirap MA fall sa Thera. they are there just for their jobs. they will get as much as they can from you thinking na ang bawi is Yung Alam nyu na. think with your head not with your dick lang. 

[PROJECTCADMUS]

the thin line will break you or make you happy

choose wisely!

[majoretomakz1022]

I think Wala namang masama na MA fall ka sa Thera, but dapat Alam MO sa sarili mo Yung kakaharapin mo. also Kung talagang seryoso ka sa feelings mo ihanda mo na din Yung Plano mo paano mo sya maiaalis dun. if the feelings are mutual naman agad it seems ang pinaka sign nyan sa Thera is mapapa isip na rin sya mag quit sa industry. most of them since galing na sila sa isang kapit sa patalim na industry is someone who can bring stability Para sa pagbabagong magaganap sa kanila. kasi Kung Wala ka ding Plano most likely babalik lang din sila Kung saan mo sila nakita. 

[cloudsolv]

Never fell for a Thera yet. I've had several favorite Theras over-time na binabalik-balikan, to the point na sariling lakad na kami, pero walang emotional involvement. I know where I stand and I don't want to disappoint a favorite Thera by playing with her emotions. Sobrang dami na nilang pinapasan at binu-buno, ayaw ko na dumagdag. 

[Bonked]

kung mayaman na mayaman ako malamang na fall na ako sa lahat ng thera ko. at ibabahay ko silang lahat, kanya kanya sila condo unit pero isang bldg lang para madali palit palit ng floor.

[SnoozySnoozy]

5 hours ago, Qin Nan said:

On my experience, its either I fall and stop seeing her or she fall and I have to disappear. Mahirap pag may sabit.  Haha swerte mo boss @SnoozySnoozy nakahanap ka ng thera like her. Hulaan ko kung sino to may kahawig siyang Korean celebrity, si Jung Yoo- Jin. 

I don't know that korean celeb, but when I saw the photos, ay, haha kilala mo nga sir! Hahaha!! 💕 Yup! I'm really lucky I found this one.  Gotta admit, it's difficult not to fall for her ha! But i like her too much to lose her that way.. Kaya kailangan tibayan ang loob 👊 ayiiii nababasa mo ata to babe eh. 😘 Haha! 

Enjoy lang tayo guys! Cheers! 

[Prey27]

Wala naman masama ma fall sa thera. Ang masama pag mahawaan ka ng aids/hiv

[samlcd]

12 minutes ago, Qin Nan said:

Hahaha nasa Snowdrop siya yung recent Kdrama of Blackpink's Jisoo. Haha nung nakita ko nga yung artista na yun sabi ko ay parang may kamukha tong thera.. Haha madali naman sir mahulaan since siya din ung topic nung isang nafall na GM and recently napatambay ako sa thread ng spa nila (which I rarely frequent kasi sobrang lapit sa bahay).  Mukhang tama nga hula ko na siya since she made an apology. Well I really liked how she handled that case,  hindi nya nilead on si GM.    

It's all good in the hood na bro haha