Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[terry bolea]

 

sorry sir but upon reading this post, medyo overgeneralizing ata yung reach. A "case study" of how they'd approach your offer doesn't show a one-track mind. To me kasi, yung pag-ooffer mo ng job would make them feel na "kailangan ba namin ng tulong ng GM para lang makabalik sa totoong mundo"? It's kinda true na you ought to teach these women how to fish rather than just giving them fish.

 

kung titignan mo ang sitwasyon nila hindi naman sila basta basta makakabalik sa sinasabi mong totoong mundo, kailangan nila minsan ng opportunity sa kanila para magkaroon sila ng mga pintuan para sa ibang opportunity. at saka hindi naman ako nag overgeneralize kasi wala akong sapat na sample para gumawa ng conclusion. yung study base siya sa mga thera na aalukin ng work na kilala ko at doon ako magfoform ng sarili kong conclusion, its not generalizing but its based on what i experienced. yung mga conclusion ko ay based sa years ng pakikipagusap sa mga thera. observing how they behave and react to certain situations.

 

kaya nagisip ako na gawin itong study na ito para pag-aralan ang motivations at thinking ng isang therapist. para sa personal consumption ko ito.

 

kung titignan mo yung offer na yon hindi naman para sa akin, para sa kanila yon. and im not asking na magka utang na loob sila sa akin dahil hindi ko naman business yung offer ko, sa friend kong babae. parang referral ito.

 

kung totoo sinasabi mo na hindi naman nila kailangan ng tulong para bumalik sa totoong mundo. Madaling sabihin yan dahil hindi naman ikaw ang nasa sitwasyon nila. put yourself in their shoes and tell me kung madali para sa kanila na umalis na lang.

 

bakit yung mga kilala kong thera matagal na sa ganyang trabaho at ganyan pa rin ang estado nila? years ang pinaguusapan natin dito. may thera diyan lampas 6 years na pero thera pa rin hanggang ngayon. walang pagbabago.

may thera diyan na 30 na baka hindi niyo alam dahil hindi halata. matagal na siya sa industry pero ganyan pa rin.

 

tama yung sinasabi mo, tinuturuan ko sila na magfish at hindi ko basta basta kailangang bigay yung fish. dahil hindi matututo. pero sa majority ng nakikita ko, parehas ang takbo ng mindset nila na easy money at living in the moment lang. at that young age, dapat nga nagiisip sila tungkol sa kinabukasan nila at magipon para sa sarili nila lalo na ang mga wala pang anak. pero ano ginagawa nila? gimik dito, inom doon, bili ng bili ng mamahaling gadget.

 

by the way yung comment tungkol doon sa hindi sila nagiipon at puro gastos sa gadget at gimik, hindi galing sa akin. galing sa isang ex-thera na matagal ko nang kilala. at least yung thera na nag comment na yon bilib ako dahil may naipundar na pera at may sariling negosyo. pero ang mga tulad niya mahirap na makita

Edited October 24, 2015 by piqoy

[Cap™]

 

kung titignan mo ang sitwasyon nila hindi naman sila basta basta makakabalik sa sinasabi mong totoong mundo, kailangan nila minsan ng opportunity sa kanila para magkaroon sila ng mga pintuan para sa ibang opportunity. at saka hindi naman ako nag overgeneralize kasi wala akong sapat na sample para gumawa ng conclusion. yung study base siya sa mga thera na aalukin ng work na kilala ko at doon ako magfoform ng sarili kong conclusion, its not generalizing but its based on what i experienced. yung mga conclusion ko ay based sa years ng pakikipagusap sa mga thera. observing how they behave and react to certain situations.

 

kaya nagisip ako na gawin itong study na ito para pag-aralan ang motivations at thinking ng isang therapist. para sa personal consumption ko ito.

 

kung titignan mo yung offer na yon hindi naman para sa akin, para sa kanila yon. and im not asking na magka utang na loob sila sa akin dahil hindi ko naman business yung offer ko, sa friend kong babae. parang referral ito.

 

kung totoo sinasabi mo na hindi naman nila kailangan ng tulong para bumalik sa totoong mundo. Madaling sabihin yan dahil hindi naman ikaw ang nasa sitwasyon nila. put yourself in their shoes and tell me kung madali para sa kanila na umalis na lang.

 

bakit yung mga kilala kong thera matagal na sa ganyang trabaho at ganyan pa rin ang estado nila? years ang pinaguusapan natin dito. may thera diyan lampas 6 years na pero thera pa rin hanggang ngayon. walang pagbabago.

may thera diyan na 30 na baka hindi niyo alam dahil hindi halata. matagal na siya sa industry pero ganyan pa rin.

 

tama yung sinasabi mo, tinuturuan ko sila na magfish at hindi ko basta basta kailangang bigay yung fish. dahil hindi matututo. pero sa majority ng nakikita ko, parehas ang takbo ng mindset nila na easy money at living in the moment lang. at that young age, dapat nga nagiisip sila tungkol sa kinabukasan nila at magipon para sa sarili nila lalo na ang mga wala pang anak. pero ano ginagawa nila? gimik dito, inom doon, bili ng bili ng mamahaling gadget.

 

by the way yung comment tungkol doon sa hindi sila nagiipon at puro gastos sa gadget at gimik, hindi galing sa akin. galing sa isang ex-thera na matagal ko nang kilala. at least yung thera na nag comment na yon bilib ako dahil may naipundar na pera at may sariling negosyo. pero ang mga tulad niya mahirap na makita

 

well, first off, I didn't say na wag sila tulungan. My point is that iba yung galing sa GM, someone who saw them as MPAs kasi kaysa yang referral. Kumbaga, you've painted an image of them on what they could achieve. My point in saying na teaching them how to fish is by trying to maximize what their interests are. Are they good enough to be receptionists to begin with? Are they willing to be receptionists talaga? It's about conversing with them. Malay mo may talent din pala sila maging mga entrepreneurs. You harvest their interests and lead them to a way. Recommending one you think is what's best for them is trying to steer them the way you want it, not how they want it.

 

And yes, I agree with you sir na may mga talagang maluho. Pero again, the idea isn't to overgeneralize things. I'm taking up my post-grad and I know when you say "conclusions" and "case studies", you're speaking about your own interpretation on the data you've gathered yourself. A sample speaks of fact but it's a representation of a given sample size, not the entire population.

 

Just my two cents sir

[Trey150]

this post is not directed at anyone nor do i wish to engage anyone in any dialogue or debate ...these are just my thoughts..about the topic.

 

There are a lots of reasons and factors to consider why they don’t want to leave the industry…. And each and every girl has her own reason why.. I agree with the GM when he said we cannot generalize. We can only assume.

 

First, is the normal job going to earn more? On a good day a thera can earn from 1000 to 3000 /day some even more multiply that by 30 days that’s significantly more than what a normal skilled employee working a 9 to 5 job would earn. Some might say that’s a small price compared to their dignity . Yes I agree…. But can you say that to someone who provides for the family. I think any one in their situation would do the same given the chance. Again it has been mentioned before that money is the primary motivation here. It also has something to do with the mentality na at the end of the day the money is in their pockets rather than waiting for 15/30 payday

 

Second, Fear of the unknown It’s a big gamble for someone to leave the industry unless she has a back up plan. What if the normal job doesn’t turn out well for her? Then what she goes back again only to find out that her regulars are not there anymore and she has to start from scratch. Age also comes in to mind too. Remember a shelf life of a thera is short .

 

Third, the lifestyle. It has been mentioned that some theras just go to work when they want to. That cannot be with a normal job. The friendship that they develop through out the years. They eat, sleep, hang out together day in and day out . I’m pretty sure some of them maybe even be Godparents to each others kids.

I agree some of them are “maluho” can you blame them? Barely out of their teens and forced to work by circumstance they might be just trying to enjoy and gift themselves with material things (such as gadgets, shoes, clothes make up etc) that they are only able to afford now. Besides it’s the industry that dictates that they look great and presentable. I also encountered some that have bad vices… such as going to casinos and drugs.

I also heard stories that some of them even go to gay bars.. which got me curious so I asked why aren’t you getting enough at work? One girl replied. “kasi dito kami ang pinipili pag andun kami namimili” how ironic,

They work their ass of then spending it there. Another girl said its their way of escaping from their reality… I said to my self that is so SAD…

 

Bottom line is these girls have had enough already. Lets not make it any harder than it already is…

 

To quote Miss Sitti’s words “self consuming tong job na to... araw araw may mababawas sa pagkatao mo..”

 

And If that does’nt affect you then I believe you have no right to live in a civilized world

Edited October 25, 2015 by alex_corvis
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[global4]

Sometimes you can not avoid falling in love to a therapist especially if she possess the things you want in life. Just make sure that you are the only one to her.

[toruk makto]

May inofferan na rin ako dati ng trabaho. Ang sabi lang sa aken eh wag ako maawa. Ok na daw yung mpa sya dahil tamad sya. Easy money kasi. Pero sayang if my opportunity na magbagong buhay.

 

this is very true, many of them are lazy. i offered a thera a scholarship, she said she cant wake up in the morning. there are afternoon classes i replied. im so lazy to study. thats the last time i got her. i feel that the money i spent should go to somebody worth giving money to and also enjoy their service at theb same time.

[Cool Fool]

Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces. Matthew 7:6

[RED2018]

I also knew of a very attractive and sexy thera who has been offered a job as gym receptionist. The offer came from a well off client whose friend owned a more than modest gym somewhere in qc, which she accepted. During her stint as gym recep, she was getting much attention from habitues- mind you, mga gwapo at macho. But alas after a few months, she quitted and went back to being a spa therapist. That was when I met her, in her ckmeback stint. I was dumbfounded habang ikinukwento nya ito. She didn't give a compelling reason for her decision. Apparently, according to her the guy who recommended for her job was dumbfounded as well...

Edited October 25, 2015 by artedpro

[Stallon6]

Putting into consideration everything I said, thinking about the possible backstory of a thera and why she is doing this kind of work, the sacrifice and fear of being found out by her family and friends, and the shame she feels for choosing this industry rather than working elsewhere. I can't help but think about that. They are so young and once innocent. They are someone's precious daughter, beloved sister, favorite cousin, best friend, bff, etc. In any other day, I can and may have passed them by in the mall. Doing regular things like grabbing a bite to eat, hanging out with friends, watching a movie, going to a concert, or simply hanging out. They are human beings with emotions. Even better, they are women.

 

They have a story. They too are suffering. Yes, I know not every girl is in the same situation. Some might say most are really slutty and low class girls who have no remorse and don't mind the work. They actually find it attractive and better than a regular job that pays less. Like Mia said, not all deserve or want a second chance to change. But I'm talking about the ones that never wanted to be here. The student, the naive probinsyana looking to help her family, the desperate single mother left alone and broken...

 

I read Sitti's story. It broke my heart. She fell in love with a GM who treated her so well. She hoped. She fell in love with someone who she thought would be her knight in shining armor. She enjoyed and appreciated being cared for by someone, to feel loved by someone and accepted for who she is... Then to be told "kung nakilala lang kita sa ibang lugar at hindi sa spa..." That is so brutal and painful. It breaks my heart. Kung mabasa mo ito sitti, I hope and pray you find a way out of this life. Sana makahanap ka ng paraan makaalis sa ganitong buhay at sana mahanap mo yung lalaki na iibigin ka ng totoo at tapat. Di ako nagtataka kung bakit maraming babae sa industriya na ito ay nagiging bato. Pagkatapos sa lahat ng naranasan nila at nakita nila...sino bang hindi magiging manhid?

 

Every one deserves a shot to a better life. Every person deserves to be treated properly. Every one should know that they are loved. I believe in love and hope. Please people, you make take away a person's pride, dignity, and morale. But never ever...NEVER take away someone's ability to hope. To hope for a better day, to hope for a better life, and to hope for a better future. You never know, maybe the only thing that person has left in their life is hope. Let us be better.

There's a good in your heart sir...

[jepong]

mahirap na ma in love .. kumplikado

[BRAIN FOR HIRE]

On a good day a thera (in the top ten) can easily clear 10K, what the cost of that is mentally and physically I wouldn't care to guess. Many of them develop some form of psychological problem- particularly borderline personality disorder, or already have it to begin with. It is very doubtful that they can really transition to a more "normal" career as they grow older or more set in their ways. I am certain there are successes when a guy is willing to get them out or really financially support their needs- though I think that is more of the exception to the rule. I have never been in a relation with one that was not purely transactional which lasted more than a year- after all sex only goes so far. Still and all that is not to say I never felt anything approaching a deep and intimate affection.

 

I agree, we should not unduly burden them with our judgment or our own analysis of their "situation". The ideal is to leave them better off than when you found them. Of course, I strongly advise against a very serious relationship between clients and Theras, I think the complications often outweigh the perceived benefit. I think many have been blunt before, including myself, that for any male of a "normal" mainstream upbringing- the jealousy; the cuckolding; the financial burdens; and other issues are near insurmountable as to make such a relationship a losing proposition.

[manananggol]

On a good day a thera (in the top ten) can easily clear 10K, what the cost of that is mentally and physically I wouldn't care to guess. Many of them develop some form of psychological problem- particularly borderline personality disorder, or already have it to begin with. It is very doubtful that they can really transition to a more "normal" career as they grow older or more set in their ways. I am certain there are successes when a guy is willing to get them out or really financially support their needs- though I think that is more of the exception to the rule. I have never been in a relation with one that was not purely transactional which lasted more than a year- after all sex only goes so far. Still and all that is not to say I never felt anything approaching a deep and intimate affection.

 

I agree, we should not unduly burden them with our judgment or our own analysis of their "situation". The ideal is to leave them better off than when you found them. Of course, I strongly advise against a very serious relationship between clients and Theras, I think the complications often outweigh the perceived benefit. I think many have been blunt before, including myself, that for any male of a "normal" mainstream upbringing- the jealousy; the cuckolding; the financial burdens; and other issues are near insurmountable as to make such a relationship a losing proposition.

 

This summation is on point...

 

Despite the stiff competition among spas and from MPs and PSPs, KTVs etc, the money that they have made and still can make is really good..hence prostitution is still thriving.. despite being illegal and degrading, a lot of these girls will eagerly do it.. for every sales lady from SM who breaks her back by standing for hours, and make a pittance, there will always be the therapists who will make 100000 x more by just being sexy and pretty and giving all variations of "extra service" to any horny guy with a few thousand pesos to burn...

 

All told, based on being a simple client to intimately engaging them for the past few years, I concluded the following:

 

1. dont over analyze their plight nor their motivations; their psyche and values are broken are distorted; they are in the fringe of everything...

2. dont try to be a knight in shing armor; they dont need you to save them; or as said, they dont want /deserve to be saved..save yourself the mindf#&k hehe..

3. those veterans who are still in it are hardened, street wise, practical and shrewd, ..dont try to play mind games with them because you'll lose ..

 

If you still enjoy going to spas, do so but dont think you can find true love ..

Edited October 27, 2015 by manananggol

[dibdba]

As in any situation, people develop defense mechanisms to help them cope or rationalize whatever it is they have to do. Ladies in the industry are not exceptions. We can claim to understand them, but the reality is we can only guess as each girl's situation is unique.

 

Most girls have been forced into the industry because of financial reasons. Some to support their family and some to support their lifestyle. But it's not always about money. I got acquainted more than a decade ago with an MPA and she said that she's in the industry because she loved sex. I used to give her name when someone asked for a reco, and she never complained about money but only about customers who didn't perform. Up to now, I still think of her when I hear the phrase "get paid for the things you enjoy doing."

 

So is it possible to find love in spas? Of course, it is. And it has happened before, but the odds are against you. Much, much, much against you.

 

Good luck.

[Mistress Mia]

As in any situation, people develop defense mechanisms to help them cope or rationalize whatever it is they have to do. Ladies in the industry are not exceptions. We can claim to understand them, but the reality is we can only guess as each girl's situation is unique.

 

Most girls have been forced into the industry because of financial reasons. Some to support their family and some to support their lifestyle. But it's not always about money. I got acquainted more than a decade ago with an MPA and she said that she's in the industry because she loved sex. I used to give her name when someone asked for a reco, and she never complained about money but only about customers who didn't perform. Up to now, I still think of her when I hear the phrase "get paid for the things you enjoy doing."

 

So is it possible to find love in spas? Of course, it is. And it has happened before, but the odds are against you. Much, much, much against you.

 

Good luck.

 

As in any situation, people develop defense mechanisms to help them cope or rationalize whatever it is they have to do. Ladies in the industry are not exceptions. We can claim to understand them, but the reality is we can only guess as each girl's situation is unique.

 

Most girls have been forced into the industry because of financial reasons. Some to support their family and some to support their lifestyle. But it's not always about money. I got acquainted more than a decade ago with an MPA and she said that she's in the industry because she loved sex. I used to give her name when someone asked for a reco, and she never complained about money but only about customers who didn't perform. Up to now, I still think of her when I hear the phrase "get paid for the things you enjoy doing."

 

So is it possible to find love in spas? Of course, it is. And it has happened before, but the odds are against you. Much, much, much against you.

 

Good luck.

Quite guilty here about the reason hahaha!. Well, that's apart from a distinct and creative marketing and training for my staffs but as I have said numerous times, ATW is not allowed in our spa yet, I enjoy the pleasure of being pleased. Cheers!

[manananggol]

 

Quite guilty here about the reason hahaha!. Well, that's apart from a distinct and creative marketing and training for my staffs but as I have said numerous times, ATW is not allowed in our spa yet, I enjoy the pleasure of being pleased. Cheers!

Wow... a girl who can tease your senses and blow your mind, hehee...

I have to meet you Ms Mia before you decide to retire:)

[Mistress Mia]

Everyone is correct. Falling for a therapist is risky but let's face it, it applies to both parties.

 

As for clients, finding a gem surrounded by rocks is truly hard to find, you must have a keen eye and a broad conceptualization about a unique and treasure like personality in doing so.

 

You will have to save her and be there for her. To support her until maybe, she is finally ready to stand up on her own. It is risky for a Therapist for she will be nothing without you and yes. It will be incomparably hard situation.

 

I for my case just like what I have mention is building a different marketing strategy and a training ground to my therapists. If just in case everyone is not yet aware, I am Mia, the manager of Midas Touch, yet I take requests and reservations.

 

Why? Do I need to?

 

The answer is yes and no.

 

In this industry, the newbies are usually the ones on the peak. The veterans are left behind. Let's face it, larger scale of men want fresh faces.

 

Now, these veterans are also on their edge. They are usually lazy, with no discipline and may sila ang may mga sungay na.

 

When I first entered the spa industry, I was appointed as a manager of the spa. Here comes the gossips, backstabbing complaints and personal attacks. Why am I appointed if I barely know anything about what they do?

 

I came from a corporate industry. A previous IT escalation team member. So they can't seem to understand that "Why would the boss hire someone inexperienced in this field?" I say, probably I'm that open minded, flexible and believe that your diploma is nothing because your experience will be your best teacher.

 

Now going back, these veterans would always complain, "why would I follow her orders?". I have no choice but to penalize them. I was so strict with the rules and compliance is a must. I saw their anger and tiredness. But who cares? They are just giving a massage and an extra service and they are earning bigger than I do. Ayaw pa? Pera na nga. So I would just tell them to accept the clients, there is no room for rest because you are working and earning here. Those were my mistakes.

 

Until one day, only 3 therapists came to work and there was a burst of clients waiting to be catered. 7 horny clients and all of them are willing to wait. And so, that was my very first experience. I was forced to handle a client. Massage wise it was good but the ES part. Oh come on! I may have been the worst lady back then.

 

Infact, because of fear and shame, I couldn't even do what they were doing. I couldn't even take off my clothes nor touch the thing of the guy. I told myself, I don't need to do this.

 

But I tried to understand them. I don't think empathy is enough for me to feel my people and so, not only I sympathize with them, I started being them. And slowly I improved.

 

Most veterans think that the reason why a Therapist is most requested is because they are new. And yes, it was true. But I always tell them, new or old, you should never feel that way because there are clients who are always after the quality of service and that I have proved to them.

 

The most number of GMs that I was able to accommodate in a day was 7. On the fourth client, I was already feeling the tiredness and pressure. I Told myself, I can't decline this client, I can do this yet my body is sore and I was not able to go to work the next day. I feel so tired, drained and weak.

 

Like them, I also encountered being short changed, and mind you, that's all the time, forced and takbuhan. I felt like, "was that just my worth?". I cannot complain. I am not exempted to the rule. No haggling and bargaining. I must be a good example.

 

But I feel degraded and insulted. The humility in me is being eaten and I always think I don't need to do this. That I need to stop and I am better than all of them.

But upon realizing it, none of those differentiate me from them. They are human too.

 

 

Back then I started to apologize to my therapists. I was so sorry for not understanding them. I was sorry for I didn't know how tiresome and degrading it is. I was sorry for being suck a jerk. They are human too. They feel jelousy, hatred, tiredness and the feeling of being fed up. And right now, I won't deny that I too feel the same way.

 

I may not be polygamous enough so when I was approached by my ex 2 years ago, I would always feel guilty for taking a client yet he himself has a girlfriend. We are not together but admittedly we are dating. But everything has its own ending. When I was about to leave the industry thinking that it will be the best for the two of us, I suddenly remembered on thing, he is taken. Yet, I will still be stopping, momentarilyz forever, who knows? What matters is, me.

 

One of you said, If a therapist wants change and start off fresh, if she wants to save herself from an everyday degrading tasks and activities, leave this industry; but you should only do it because you want it not because someone asked you to.

 

It will never be too late for a Therapist and for a GM. It will never be that wrong to fall but it will always be wrong to judge people. Always remember this. We have our own reason, we have our own purpose. What matters is. We didn't closed our doors.

 

Have a good afternoon everyone.

[temurlenk]

Miss Mia thanks for sharing. Wish you all the luck and happines Respect!

[DarthRevanX]

Everyone is correct. Falling for a therapist is risky but let's face it, it applies to both parties.

 

As for clients, finding a gem surrounded by rocks is truly hard to find, you must have a keen eye and a broad conceptualization about a unique and treasure like personality in doing so.

 

You will have to save her and be there for her. To support her until maybe, she is finally ready to stand up on her own. It is risky for a Therapist for she will be nothing without you and yes. It will be incomparably hard situation.

 

I for my case just like what I have mention is building a different marketing strategy and a training ground to my therapists. If just in case everyone is not yet aware, I am Mia, the manager of Midas Touch, yet I take requests and reservations.

 

Why? Do I need to?

 

The answer is yes and no.

 

In this industry, the newbies are usually the ones on the peak. The veterans are left behind. Let's face it, larger scale of men want fresh faces.

 

Now, these veterans are also on their edge. They are usually lazy, with no discipline and may sila ang may mga sungay na.

 

When I first entered the spa industry, I was appointed as a manager of the spa. Here comes the gossips, backstabbing complaints and personal attacks. Why am I appointed if I barely know anything about what they do?

 

I came from a corporate industry. A previous IT escalation team member. So they can't seem to understand that "Why would the boss hire someone inexperienced in this field?" I say, probably I'm that open minded, flexible and believe that your diploma is nothing because your experience will be your best teacher.

 

Now going back, these veterans would always complain, "why would I follow her orders?". I have no choice but to penalize them. I was so strict with the rules and compliance is a must. I saw their anger and tiredness. But who cares? They are just giving a massage and an extra service and they are earning bigger than I do. Ayaw pa? Pera na nga. So I would just tell them to accept the clients, there is no room for rest because you are working and earning here. Those were my mistakes.

 

Until one day, only 3 therapists came to work and there was a burst of clients waiting to be catered. 7 horny clients and all of them are willing to wait. And so, that was my very first experience. I was forced to handle a client. Massage wise it was good but the ES part. Oh come on! I may have been the worst lady back then.

 

Infact, because of fear and shame, I couldn't even do what they were doing. I couldn't even take off my clothes nor touch the thing of the guy. I told myself, I don't need to do this.

 

But I tried to understand them. I don't think empathy is enough for me to feel my people and so, not only I sympathize with them, I started being them. And slowly I improved.

 

Most veterans think that the reason why a Therapist is most requested is because they are new. And yes, it was true. But I always tell them, new or old, you should never feel that way because there are clients who are always after the quality of service and that I have proved to them.

 

The most number of GMs that I was able to accommodate in a day was 7. On the fourth client, I was already feeling the tiredness and pressure. I Told myself, I can't decline this client, I can do this yet my body is sore and I was not able to go to work the next day. I feel so tired, drained and weak.

 

Like them, I also encountered being short changed, and mind you, that's all the time, forced and takbuhan. I felt like, "was that just my worth?". I cannot complain. I am not exempted to the rule. No haggling and bargaining. I must be a good example.

 

But I feel degraded and insulted. The humility in me is being eaten and I always think I don't need to do this. That I need to stop and I am better than all of them.

But upon realizing it, none of those differentiate me from them. They are human too.

 

 

Back then I started to apologize to my therapists. I was so sorry for not understanding them. I was sorry for I didn't know how tiresome and degrading it is. I was sorry for being suck a jerk. They are human too. They feel jelousy, hatred, tiredness and the feeling of being fed up. And right now, I won't deny that I too feel the same way.

 

I may not be polygamous enough so when I was approached by my ex 2 years ago, I would always feel guilty for taking a client yet he himself has a girlfriend. We are not together but admittedly we are dating. But everything has its own ending. When I was about to leave the industry thinking that it will be the best for the two of us, I suddenly remembered on thing, he is taken. Yet, I will still be stopping, momentarilyz forever, who knows? What matters is, me.

 

One of you said, If a therapist wants change and start off fresh, if she wants to save herself from an everyday degrading tasks and activities, leave this industry; but you should only do it because you want it not because someone asked you to.

 

It will never be too late for a Therapist and for a GM. It will never be that wrong to fall but it will always be wrong to judge people. Always remember this. We have our own reason, we have our own purpose. What matters is. We didn't closed our doors.

 

Have a good afternoon everyone.

I would say this is really coming from one who really experienced it. And I do wish you all the best. You can find a better man out there no matter what....

[renskahils]

Everyone is correct. Falling for a therapist is risky but let's face it, it applies to both parties.

 

As for clients, finding a gem surrounded by rocks is truly hard to find, you must have a keen eye and a broad conceptualization about a unique and treasure like personality in doing so.

 

You will have to save her and be there for her. To support her until maybe, she is finally ready to stand up on her own. It is risky for a Therapist for she will be nothing without you and yes. It will be incomparably hard situation.

 

I for my case just like what I have mention is building a different marketing strategy and a training ground to my therapists. If just in case everyone is not yet aware, I am Mia, the manager of Midas Touch, yet I take requests and reservations.

 

Why? Do I need to?

 

The answer is yes and no.

 

In this industry, the newbies are usually the ones on the peak. The veterans are left behind. Let's face it, larger scale of men want fresh faces.

 

Now, these veterans are also on their edge. They are usually lazy, with no discipline and may sila ang may mga sungay na.

 

When I first entered the spa industry, I was appointed as a manager of the spa. Here comes the gossips, backstabbing complaints and personal attacks. Why am I appointed if I barely know anything about what they do?

 

I came from a corporate industry. A previous IT escalation team member. So they can't seem to understand that "Why would the boss hire someone inexperienced in this field?" I say, probably I'm that open minded, flexible and believe that your diploma is nothing because your experience will be your best teacher.

 

Now going back, these veterans would always complain, "why would I follow her orders?". I have no choice but to penalize them. I was so strict with the rules and compliance is a must. I saw their anger and tiredness. But who cares? They are just giving a massage and an extra service and they are earning bigger than I do. Ayaw pa? Pera na nga. So I would just tell them to accept the clients, there is no room for rest because you are working and earning here. Those were my mistakes.

 

Until one day, only 3 therapists came to work and there was a burst of clients waiting to be catered. 7 horny clients and all of them are willing to wait. And so, that was my very first experience. I was forced to handle a client. Massage wise it was good but the ES part. Oh come on! I may have been the worst lady back then.

 

Infact, because of fear and shame, I couldn't even do what they were doing. I couldn't even take off my clothes nor touch the thing of the guy. I told myself, I don't need to do this.

 

But I tried to understand them. I don't think empathy is enough for me to feel my people and so, not only I sympathize with them, I started being them. And slowly I improved.

 

Most veterans think that the reason why a Therapist is most requested is because they are new. And yes, it was true. But I always tell them, new or old, you should never feel that way because there are clients who are always after the quality of service and that I have proved to them.

 

The most number of GMs that I was able to accommodate in a day was 7. On the fourth client, I was already feeling the tiredness and pressure. I Told myself, I can't decline this client, I can do this yet my body is sore and I was not able to go to work the next day. I feel so tired, drained and weak.

 

Like them, I also encountered being short changed, and mind you, that's all the time, forced and takbuhan. I felt like, "was that just my worth?". I cannot complain. I am not exempted to the rule. No haggling and bargaining. I must be a good example.

 

But I feel degraded and insulted. The humility in me is being eaten and I always think I don't need to do this. That I need to stop and I am better than all of them.

But upon realizing it, none of those differentiate me from them. They are human too.

 

 

Back then I started to apologize to my therapists. I was so sorry for not understanding them. I was sorry for I didn't know how tiresome and degrading it is. I was sorry for being suck a jerk. They are human too. They feel jelousy, hatred, tiredness and the feeling of being fed up. And right now, I won't deny that I too feel the same way.

 

I may not be polygamous enough so when I was approached by my ex 2 years ago, I would always feel guilty for taking a client yet he himself has a girlfriend. We are not together but admittedly we are dating. But everything has its own ending. When I was about to leave the industry thinking that it will be the best for the two of us, I suddenly remembered on thing, he is taken. Yet, I will still be stopping, momentarilyz forever, who knows? What matters is, me.

 

One of you said, If a therapist wants change and start off fresh, if she wants to save herself from an everyday degrading tasks and activities, leave this industry; but you should only do it because you want it not because someone asked you to.

 

It will never be too late for a Therapist and for a GM. It will never be that wrong to fall but it will always be wrong to judge people. Always remember this. We have our own reason, we have our own purpose. What matters is. We didn't closed our doors.

 

Have a good afternoon everyone.

grabe! Thank you for this Mia! nakaka enlightened

[pabebe_egg]

Mga manloloko at pera lang talaga habol nila kahit nga isang friend ko na veteran thera siya mismo na sabi sakin wag kang tanga pag wala na sila makuha sayo iiwan ka din nila and it took me two theras to realise that totoo yung sinasabi niya aawayin ka pa sasabihan ka ng masasamang bagay at sisirain ka sa ibang kasama nilang thera grabe anyway lesson learned what happen inside must stay inside at iwan sa labas ng spa yang tangang puso at dalhin ang matalas na utak

[Jack_Raiden]

Mga manloloko at pera lang talaga habol nila kahit nga isang friend ko na veteran thera siya mismo na sabi sakin wag kang tanga pag wala na sila makuha sayo iiwan ka din nila and it took me two theras to realise that totoo yung sinasabi niya aawayin ka pa sasabihan ka ng masasamang bagay at sisirain ka sa ibang kasama nilang thera grabe anyway lesson learned what happen inside must stay inside at iwan sa labas ng spa yang tangang puso at dalhin ang matalas na utak

 

tama.

[lukeAbyssmal]

 

tama.

 

i hate to dis agree pero meron naman cguro kasi ako nakaranas ako only thing that led to fail situation is ung part na too much attachment minsan nagiging negative mind ka na rin to the point na makakalimtan mo na ang work nya saka un ung isang dagok dun kasi gaano sya katotoo sayo maglalambing at magg lalambing pa rin sa guest un kahit alam mong wlang emosyon hirap pa rin sikmurain un diba dun papasok ung ndi ka na sigurado hehehhehee had same senario twice same pa sila ng pinagtatrabahuhan

[UPSTART69]

Dati na-inlove ako sa isang thera sa isang spa sa Kamias Road. Niyaya ko siyang pakasalan pero tumanggi siya dahil hindi pa siya handa at bread winner siya ng kaniyang pamilya. After 5 years nagkita kami sa isang spa sa Cainta dun na pala siya nagwowork. Pero wala na ang dati niyang seksing katawan. Sobrang taba na niya pati ang kaniyang mukha kahit wala pa siyang anak. Dalaga pa rin siya pero nakahiligan niyang magkakain sa bagong spa niya na puro matataba ang mga thera.

Edited November 2, 2015 by UPSTART69

[Mr.Tondo]

Ung iba sobrang tamad, gusto ibahay cla pero ayaw mag aral o bigyan ng trabaho, iba sobrang sipag mag mpa peperahan ung guest tapos ung ka live in nilang bf d nagtratrabaho ginagawang prinsipe!

[Mr.Tondo]

Pag tanda ng thera 35 or 40 magkita kyo pangit na sya ewan ko lng kung mafafall ka pa.

[Mr.Tondo]

Nag sex kyo ng walng protection , tpos may mararamdaman ka at nagka std ka, sya na purgahan sa bakuna walng symptoms pero carrier ng sakit, ewan ko lng kung mafafall ka pa.