Falling In Love But Not Getting Horny, Not Wanting Or Having Sex

[ndn]

this is so possible. Saludo ako sa mga taong ganito ang pananaw.

[olop]

its a rare breed. sometimes its because of genetics or sickness or what not. just have to remember if one of them doesnt want to do it, its called rape.

 

besides thats why we have bars for

[markus_cruzade]

Though it exist. I don't think I'll ever reach that point.

[Miss Zelda]

i think if a guy is a religion fanatic, just too scared of sex and seeing a REAL vagina, just saying EEW when you say something dirty ( i'm wet)...i think gay gay GAY

[raiku]

Well i have a friend.. yup he is a guy.. he falls in love but still is a virgin.. i think it has something to do with breeding...

[UncleFrancy]

I'm thinking about lolo's and lola's falling in love ...I guess it's more for the companionship....and even if they wanted to have sex...it'll be a miracle if the lolo get's a stiffy....

[vanillaLatte]

It happens. I am committed to someone but somehow I've lost the desire. I used to be a horny fairy, a very horny one at that. The problem used to be overactive hormones, which I have feared is running a flat line now. There were times I'd actually force him even if was tired because I was so damn hot. Then... gone. The thought of getting dry was a joke. So when the moment came when we needed lube, I stared into the thing as if it's a reminder of failure. (the former problem was being so wet that there was hardly friction anymore.)

 

Maybe I got bored in bed. It's not stress since the more tired I was, the more orgasms I wanted. I am losing it and I could only hope it would go back.

[LuSciousNess]

It happens. I am committed to someone but somehow I've lost the desire. I used to be a horny fairy, a very horny one at that. The problem used to be overactive hormones, which I have feared is running a flat line now. There were times I'd actually force him even if was tired because I was so damn hot. Then... gone. The thought of getting dry was a joke. So when the moment came when we needed lube, I stared into the thing as if it's a reminder of failure. (the former problem was being so wet that there was hardly friction anymore.)

 

Maybe I got bored in bed. It's not stress since the more tired I was, the more orgasms I wanted. I am losing it and I could only hope it would go back.

 

same here dear. im a very hottie gal. very active one. and i must admit i enjoy doing it. the only thing that's different is that i still get wet. but not totally turned on anymore.

i haven't reached the point wherein i needed to use some lubes, but i can really feel im not into the act

anymore. sometimes, i think about it, what to do to bring back the excitement, the passion,

the desire, but oh no. im thinking what if i thought of someone hot for me to be turned on..? :lol:

 

but i guess, im just bored. we need to work it out to bring it back. and hopefully, it would go back to its

normal intensity.

Edited February 21, 2011 by LuSciousNess

[UncleFrancy]

It happens. I am committed to someone but somehow I've lost the desire. I used to be a horny fairy, a very horny one at that. The problem used to be overactive hormones, which I have feared is running a flat line now. There were times I'd actually force him even if was tired because I was so damn hot. Then... gone. The thought of getting dry was a joke. So when the moment came when we needed lube, I stared into the thing as if it's a reminder of failure. (the former problem was being so wet that there was hardly friction anymore.)

 

Maybe I got bored in bed. It's not stress since the more tired I was, the more orgasms I wanted. I am losing it and I could only hope it would go back.

 

it could be because as time goes by we mature and our priorities change...

[friendly0603]

Does it make it ok for your partner to satisfy his/her libido elsewhere if you don't have the libido/desire to keep up? Must be frustrating....

[kingpopoy]

this actually happened to me way back in college.thinking of it now and seeing that girl made me regret everything i should have done but did not.

[diladede]

experienced it before..was truly inlove with a very young girl..she was 16 i was 24 then. i don't want to rush doing it, she was so "mapusok". but i just couldn't do it..kept thinkin her parents trusted me..and she was underage so legal issues and i'm older and should know better.i said we could wait for two more years..well,she got pissed and we parted ways..sigh..

[rachelleferrariz]

meron pbang ganyan??

[SaintPeter5858]

It happened to me in high school. angelic face but not sexy. So parang kulang sa sex drive

[draxxm]

I would say that when two people truly love each other, sex comes almost naturally and instinctively. It may not be the only form of expression, it may not be the highest form of expression, but definitely, it is an important form of expression.

 

I must say, too, that in a love-relationship, there is a thin line separating love and lust. More often than not, it is pretty hard to distinguish when you feel in love or in lust as the two intertwine so very succinctly.

 

However, I do believe that, true love is found in the times when one partner just doesn't feel horny (for whatever reason), and the other partner being able to respect that.

 

My significant other used to feel bad whenever she doesn't feel well enough to allow me the privilege of sexually loving her. At times, she would even just allow me to do her, even if she doesn't feel it, or would not be enjoying it.

 

I definitely appreciate her on that. BUT, I'd always reply with a "thank you, but no thanks all the same." Why? Because, I could not imagine touching during those moments. And, I would often assure her that it's no big deal for me, and that, I don't loose any interest if there such times when she's not in the mood, or not feeling well, or has something in mind that does not allow her to feel horny.

 

Once, in fact, during a date, her visitor suddenly arrived. All of a sudden, her face fell because she felt bad for me. I might feel disappointed. (Her ex's would, she said.)

 

I assured her that I didn't feel anything close to that. We could still enjoy the date. (And we did!) In fact, I did date her two days after even while she had it. I just wanted to assure her sex is not everything, and that, I can appreciate and enjoy her even in the times she just wouldn't be disposed to it. (She told me that her ex's wouldn't be dating her during her red days. That's something not me.)

 

In any love-relationship, anything and everything done should be consensual, and both partners should be enjoying. To engage in something whereby only one is enjoying, and the other is not, goes against the grain. There is no exchange of anything, there is no relationship, there is no intercourse (even if you're doing it physically).

 

it's kinda one sided actually (at least for me). when the woman asks, you can never say no even if you're not in the mood. but if it's the other way around and the woman said no... then you know your way into the bathroom

 

on topic:

yeah happens to me. i'm not your typical knight-shining armor. i'm more of a pussycat guy. i yearn for love, cuddling, intimacy. kinda makes me less-manly but thats who i am. gusto ko lagi ako naglalambing. when i embrace i close my eyes and hold her tight with all the love in the world. even if im just laying my head on her chest (i never notice na tigas na tigas na pala ako)... i just lay there, feel her heartbeat and savor the moment... thats when i feel love. there is this girl in school and i tell her i love her... everyday! 10 years after - she got fed up hehehe.