Falling In Love But Not Getting Horny, Not Wanting Or Having Sex

[complicated8]

for me its a yes. making each other happy in terms of our human desire is logically considerable.

I guess I disagree. Sex is plain when it's just with anyone.

[UncleFrancy]

I've met a lot of couples.....usually church people who have non-sexual relationships....there's something wonderful in a Christ Centered romantic relationship....the best prayer partner is your mate....

[complicated8]

^^isn't just the same as saying that your partner doesn't turn you "on" anymore?

[blastradius]

^^isn't just the same as saying that your partner doesn't turn you "on" anymore?

 

probably, on the sexual aspect.

[knoll1234]

since love, like life has ups and downs and peaks and valleys....so does sometimes 'an episode' in mine own life ....i can feel the love, all over, but not being horny and no sex just as good as having sex......normally it's just an episode.

[darthvader0917]

Priest?

[miguelandal]

i can relate to this. i've been together with my gf for seven years, on and off, and we don't really have sex often. don't really feel the urge to do it on a regular basis. same with what chris said.. to each his own.

[UncleFrancy]

it's kinda cute when couple is saving the virginity for marriage....

[BornAtNight]

I've met a lot of couples.....usually church people who have non-sexual relationships....there's something wonderful in a Christ Centered romantic relationship....the best prayer partner is your mate....

 

 

it's kinda cute when couple is saving the virginity for marriage....

 

I SUPER AGREE FRANCY

[cHinitababe86]

^^is sex plain when it's with one you love?

its NEVER plain. its special when its NOT sex, but LOVE MAKING.

it is plain with its just LUST alone, nothing more.

its different when there's love, passion with lots of emotions.

[johnlove]

imho:

Marriage should come with love, sex should separated from marriage.

In a home, sex should happen only between husband and wife.

Outside your home everyone should have the freedom to have sex with a different partner.

[friendly0603]

^^??

it's kinda cute when couple is saving the virginity for marriage....

just like a puppy is cute or baby sharks or any small animal

 

But then it grows up and bites you

Edited December 27, 2010 by friendly0603

[Leyna]

This is quite perplexing. Although I respect other people's preferences, especially those who are 'saving' themselves for marriage. I, at least, would definitely be glad to know my partner wants to have sex with me. If he doesn't -- I might point a gun at his head or strangle him in his sleep.

[jgc813]

I would say that when two people truly love each other, sex comes almost naturally and instinctively. It may not be the only form of expression, it may not be the highest form of expression, but definitely, it is an important form of expression.

 

I must say, too, that in a love-relationship, there is a thin line separating love and lust. More often than not, it is pretty hard to distinguish when you feel in love or in lust as the two intertwine so very succinctly.

 

However, I do believe that, true love is found in the times when one partner just doesn't feel horny (for whatever reason), and the other partner being able to respect that.

 

My significant other used to feel bad whenever she doesn't feel well enough to allow me the privilege of sexually loving her. At times, she would even just allow me to do her, even if she doesn't feel it, or would not be enjoying it.

 

I definitely appreciate her on that. BUT, I'd always reply with a "thank you, but no thanks all the same." Why? Because, I could not imagine touching during those moments. And, I would often assure her that it's no big deal for me, and that, I don't loose any interest if there such times when she's not in the mood, or not feeling well, or has something in mind that does not allow her to feel horny.

 

Once, in fact, during a date, her visitor suddenly arrived. All of a sudden, her face fell because she felt bad for me. I might feel disappointed. (Her ex's would, she said.)

 

I assured her that I didn't feel anything close to that. We could still enjoy the date. (And we did!) In fact, I did date her two days after even while she had it. I just wanted to assure her sex is not everything, and that, I can appreciate and enjoy her even in the times she just wouldn't be disposed to it. (She told me that her ex's wouldn't be dating her during her red days. That's something not me.)

 

In any love-relationship, anything and everything done should be consensual, and both partners should be enjoying. To engage in something whereby only one is enjoying, and the other is not, goes against the grain. There is no exchange of anything, there is no relationship, there is no intercourse (even if you're doing it physically).

Edited January 4, 2011 by jgc813

[UncleFrancy]

^^??

 

just like a puppy is cute or baby sharks or any small animal

 

But then it grows up and bites you

ha ha ....so true and well said.....