Sex Or Love? What Makes Relationship Work?

[mightyone]

dapat pareho, be considerate

[vulcanboy]

My 2 cents ... with REAL love - you can get sex. Sex normally comes with the package - sooner or later.

with ONLY sex - you may not get love. Sex can be "sub-contracted" and with no commitments involved.

 

SO with a RELATIONSHIP WITH COMMITMENTS - IT IS LOVE !!

[complicated8]

I think for a relationship to work, it must have an equal dose of both sex and love.

 

I know of some people who cheat on their partner because although they're in love, they are sexually incompatible. Their primal urge is suppressed and so they look for another person to fill that gap. It's instinctive, just like you would want to drink when you're thirsty.

 

Conversely, I know of some people whose sex life is great, but whose love life is in shambles. One time the woman told me that yes she enjoys the sex part, but deep inside she longs for tenderness from her man. She doesn't want to be treated as a sex object, but a woman in the fullest sense of the word--cooked for, treated to dinners, given attention, massaged, etc.

 

As I posted in another thread, sex is good while you're young. But when you get old, you don't have to put it in just to share a heartbeat or a good time together. There must be something other than sex which the two of you can enjoy and build on.

 

Sex is a primal urge, while love is a mark of sophistication. Both are necessary. Neither one is more useful than the other.

 

But of course it varies from person to person. Know yourself as a person well, including your needs, before you enter a relationship.

Or maybe it depends on the timing. Sex more when you're younger, love more when you're older since sex drive is lower....

[ndn]

LOVE,good communication and space

[cHinitababe86]

i think its more on LOVE.

kasi hindi naman sex ang MAIN INGREDIENT bakit nagwowork

or nagkakaron ng isang magandang relationship. its just a factor.

at sabi nga ng ibang nagpost, part lang ito ng relationship.

kusa lang nangyayari. hindi mo dapat inaasam/inaantay na mangyari.

naturally, it would just flow.

pag sincere/true ang love mo sa isang tao, it doesn't necessarily mean

na dapat may mangyari sainyo. kaya nga may couples na existing na

nakakapag antay ikasal bago un mangyari eh. hindi sila nagmamadali.

it is connected on the saying, "true love waits"

for me, hindi matatawag na isang matibay na foundation ang sex,

mas maganda if its based on 'sincere' love.

Edited November 13, 2010 by cHinitababe86

[ReDBaByBuRn]

it is LOVE and MAKING LOVE...

[borjy]

it's a little bit of everything...

[robsalvador]

Love is not all that matters, in all cases..

 

Sex is not all that matters, in all cases..

 

Both are necessary ingredients in a good relationship..

 

From sex love may not come..

 

But from love, sex may come..

 

But only if there is love both ways..

[friendly0603]

what about if there's love? and the sex is missing (quantity/quality/whatever)? Will the relationship still work?

[kingarcher]

Love will always be the foundation.

[friendly0603]

^^I think that's already a given.

[ziljan]

^^I think that's already a given.

trust and love.. sex hindi gaano

[friendly0603]

Why is it when there are sexual escapades it automatically breaks a relationship? Tiger Woods, Tony Parker, etc. If sex ain't important?

[wastedsunshine]

That's what is sex is all about, it spices up the relationship a little bit so dapat balance lang.

[omegared]

It's not just about love and sex, mutual respect and patience also goes a long way