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A woman that reads Harlequin Romance novels.

 

The point here is to avoid women who have unrealistic views of men. You are not her knight in shining armour. You are not going to rescue her life from its current pathetic or semi-pathetic state. You're just her companion and lover. If she consumes like popcorn books and movies that portray men as sweeping women off their feet and making their lives all better, you have to know that she thinks that her life sucks and it's going to be your job to make it all better. (No, you can't.)

 

A woman who says "You don't know what I've been through!" (A consequence of her own irresponsibility, perhaps?)

 

Any woman who can't put her past behind her is either: a) suffering the after effects of a terrible life, which means that you have to put up with the suffering and the after effects, or B) is setting the stage for future bad behaviour by laying out her reasons up front. Of course, it feels more defensible to get rid of her in the latter case, but you should in the former as well. Let her sort out her problems on her own and then find love. Your job is not to save her. Your job is to find yourself a good companion.

 

A woman that has no sense of humour.

 

Well, there are senses of humour and senses of humour. Totally humourless women are bad news, unless you're the type who likes to be ordered around. For me, the real message of this one is to avoid women who can't take what life throws at them with a shrug and a laugh. If you go on a trip and the airline loses your luggage, what does she do? Does she laugh and adapt to the situation, rail against the stupidity of airlines and demand that "someone" fix the problem, or does she turn in the Princess in Distress and wait for someone to rescue her? You want the first one. When she plans a wonderful dinner but the roast chars to a crisp, what does she do? Does the adapt or go on the warpath? If you tell her that you don't like her music, does she accept the comment with a laugh, or rip into you for being an uncultured boor? In other words, as I said, can she take life's disappointments in stride and laugh about them, or is she brittle and demanding?

 

A woman who dresses nice, but can never seem to keep her phone bill paid for.

 

This should be simple, but so many men fall down on this one. She makes about as much money as you do, but she just seems to spend it all every month. Or, she's totally scatterbrained and as such seems totally incapable of looking after the more mundane aspects of daily life. This speaks in part to her priorities (clothes are more important than credit ratings), or her capabilities. Looking after day-to-day finances is, like washing dishes, washing clothes, cleaning, and ironing, part of daily life. Anyone who is utterly incapable in a big "daily life" item is, in essence, waiting to thrust that job onto someone else. Oh, and don't think that because you're handling the day-to-day bill paying that she will have nothing to say about money. On the contrary: out of sight means out of mind, and she will shortly be asking why you can't both fly to Italy once a year. You'll get no thanks for paying the bills, but will instead by roasted for "spending all of the money," or treated as the ogre who won't loosen the purse strings. I know from firsthand experience. Trust me.

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