A Complicated Relationship

[wildswans]

We think its about not getting over her former lover is because the guy is still in the picture (yes, pun intended). Dude, you have so many questions and assumptions about why shes doing this and that, and frankly you shouldnt be bothered with it. As a man, you have failed to set your boundaries in the relationship. Thats why this girl has ended up playing games with you, and I doubt that youre having fun with it.

 

Yama, what kind of boundaries are we talking about here? can you please elaborate? i can't think straight anymore.

[badgurl06]

this girl is too immature for a serious thing...let go of the person...save some respect for urself...dame pa dyan mas makaka appreciate sa yo ok?

[Guest lene]

i'm curious, why do most of you think that it's about her not getting over her ex yet and not about her parents being strict?

 

i admit that i really love this girl so i don't want to break up with her on the wrong reasons. i'm afraid she might just use firmly the reason that her parents are strict and i'm not an understanding BF, can that be the case here?

 

Please, please wake up and smell the coffee, dear... she's really not into you. All the signs are there that she is just stringing you along and getting her fix from your love and attention ( and I guess sexual fulfillment) but she obviously doesn't love you. It doesn't get any plainer than that. Don't drive yourself crazy as to her reasons ( more like excuses) why she isn't proud of you, why she is afraid of introducing you to her " strict" parents.

 

I'm sorry to hear you really love this girl, you seem like a levelheaded person to me. However painful our comments are, please understand that we are objective in analyzing the situation. You obviously cannot think straight anymore. Have more respect for yourself and get out while you still have your dignity. There are a lot of girls out there more worthy of your love and attention. Don't waste your time on this girl, she is emotionally immature , probably isn't over her ex but wants the validation that she is attractive to men. That is why she keeps stringing you along.

[Joie]

i'm curious, why do most of you think that it's about her not getting over her ex yet and not about her parents being strict?

 

i admit that i really love this girl so i don't want to break up with her on the wrong reasons. i'm afraid she might just use firmly the reason that her parents are strict and i'm not an understanding BF, can that be the case here?

 

all i have is her secret friendster account with a primary pic of her ex's arms around her and dated during our 1st month. i'm afraid she might just use the reason that she uses that pic to divert attention from our current relationship so her parent or sis won't know. she can also argue that the date she puts there is only a caption which she can change to any date she wants and is just use to also divert attention. is that scenario possible or am i just going crazy now?

 

ma-pride kasi gf ko and very smart, since ako na nga yung hindi niya love, ayaw ko naman makipag break or magbreak kami na ako may kasalanan.

 

 

You are grasping at straws and trying to revive a dead relationship.

 

She is not into you. Shes still into her ex.

 

Chances are, she agreed to a relationship with you on the rebound.

 

Quit dreaming and see the truth thats staring right in front of you - you have been had dude.

 

You yourself said "since ako na nga yung hindi nya love..." --- if you know she doesnt love you, why stay on in that relationship? Instead of beating yourself with this, make the break now and start recovering.

 

Let me say this again.

 

SHE JUST ISNT INTO YOU.

[Mang Joe]

Bro, I can relate based on experience....

 

We almost have the same experience but in my experience, my ex just fabricated excuses so she can go back to her ex....I too had no bday cards nor monthsary celebrations...we lasted 2 months...she left me for her ex and yes your reaction is same as mine but i just had to think hard....The reasons will really confuse you...

 

this girl is too immature for a serious thing...let go of the person...save some respect for urself...dame pa dyan mas makaka appreciate sa yo ok?

 

read this...think...at first sasabihin mo hinde...ayoko...ndi pwede...pero you'll soon find out you're just making yourself suffer...think bro...think about the circumstances...believe me dumaan din ako sa stage mo...

 

just my two cents...peace

[denimhead]

... na na na na... hey hey goodbye....

[wildswans]

i did noticed that she's not into me and i know that she's not completely over her ex yet but what i don't understand is how can you guys tell that she doesn't love me? am i missing something here?

 

i'm confused coz she can somehow love me right and maybe she somehow did or trying but since she haven't gotten over her ex yet then she's having divided attention...that's possible right? coz when you say that she doesn't love me and stringing me along, it sounded like manloloko talaga siya from the start.

 

or is it just because she hasn't gotten over her ex yet and then jumping into a new relationship already and in turn, not being into me kaya niyo nasabing hindi niya ako love at niloloko lang ako?

 

maybe somebody can enlightment on my query.

[awo]

just a piece of advice...wake up dude......

 

 

i did noticed that she's not into me and i know that she's not completely over her ex yet but what i don't understand is how can you guys tell that she doesn't love me? am i missing something here?

 

i'm confused coz she can somehow love me right and maybe she somehow did or trying but since she haven't gotten over her ex yet then she's having divided attention...that's possible right? coz when you say that she doesn't love me and stringing me along, it sounded like manloloko talaga siya from the start.

 

or is it just because she hasn't gotten over her ex yet and then jumping into a new relationship already and in turn, not being into me kaya niyo nasabing hindi niya ako love at niloloko lang ako?

 

maybe somebody can enlightment on my query.

[badgurl06]

read bet the lines...say bye2 to your realtionship

[Yama]

If youre having girl problems, I feel bad for you son. I got 99 problems but a bitch aint one.

[transcience]

i did noticed that she's not into me and i know that she's not completely over her ex yet but what i don't understand is how can you guys tell that she doesn't love me? am i missing something here?

 

i'm confused coz she can somehow love me right and maybe she somehow did or trying but since she haven't gotten over her ex yet then she's having divided attention...that's possible right? coz when you say that she doesn't love me and stringing me along, it sounded like manloloko talaga siya from the start.

 

or is it just because she hasn't gotten over her ex yet and then jumping into a new relationship already and in turn, not being into me kaya niyo nasabing hindi niya ako love at niloloko lang ako?

 

maybe somebody can enlightment on my query.

 

she's not into you. yun lang. no need to explain.

[wildswans]

i checked her secret friendster account and i was surprised to see a pic of her and her ex again in a resto. unfortunately, there was no date there so she can always say that it's not a latest pic but my instinct tells me that it's a latest pic.

[malisyosa_ako]

i checked her secret friendster account and i was surprised to see a pic of her and her ex again in a resto. unfortunately, there was no date there so she can always say that it's not a latest pic but my instinct tells me that it's a latest pic.

maraming babae dude!and2 pa ako.. taken but single.. :boo:

[black cat]

Ayos. Ngayon lang ako nakabasa ng lalake na ginawang fubu tapos yun lalake yun nagrereklamo.

 

I think you're a nice guy who deserves a nice girl. Fubu tingin nya sa yo, di relax and enjoy na lang!

[cool_kojie]

so you guys are pretty sure that this is a case of her not getting over her ex yet rather than age gap or just fooling around?

 

Yup she has hang ups pa if she really recently broke up with her ex. This is dangerous baka rebound guy ka lang. It happened to me and it sucks bigtime. Or worst they are still together and shes playing you. Its hard pero its all up to you. You dont even know us so no matter what we suggest you are still gonna follow what you want. I been in that situation before na no matter what my close friend say, i still do what I want kasi mahal mo nga yung tao maski niloloko na ko and niloloko rin nya yung other guy. Na two time kasi ako and she admitted it to me before i discovered it kaya nga I respected her decision to break up. Pero mahirap talaga. The funny thing is even if hindi na kami we still go out and have sex. Tapos sila pa din naman nung new bf nya. Alam ko na sila pa kasi she makes me wear condoms every time we have sex eh nung kami wala naman. Feeling nya kasi I will get her pregnant. I told my close friends about it and they told me get out of the mess wag ako pumayag na ganon. Leave her Leave her and dont make her choose kung ako or yung isang guy. Kasi if she doing you both at the same time you can never trust a girl like that. She can do that to me also (ayy oo nga nauna na pala akong naiputan hehehe). Tama naman sila but I insisted to be very stupid dragged for 6 moths I think. Until Sabi ko sa sarili ko I will take baby steps out of it kasi ayaw ko na tapos one morning na lang I snapped out of it. Parang Magic ayaw ko nalang. Thats the time naman na sabi nya kami na lang daw ulit wala na yung isa. She needed the guy DAW for her studies not for anything else. Mas enjoy daw sya makipagsex sa kin. Lalo akong naliwanagan. Kaya sabi ko sorry theres no coming back but we can be friends. Tapos sabi nya okey but Magsex muna kami for the last time. Sorry lalaki lang ako so I did have sex with her sa house pa nila. Tapos non wala na. Text text na lang kami tapos nag ka girl friend na ko bago.

 

Sorry guys mahaba. But the point of the matter is its all up to you. Take baby steps, date someone enjoy and seriously avoid her. One day youll snap out of it too.