jgc813 Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 (edited) that's thing... they don't want any discussionsit ain't a negotiation what they wanted is start anew/freshbut both can't stop the past from haunting them What they are asking is something impossible. With 7 years behind them, the reality is that they cannot start anew like as if they did not have any previous experience or background. As I said, they just cannot sweep things under the rug. That's impossible. If they cannot face themselves, and face their issues, I would suggest they DON'T get back together. It just won't work. They cannot pretend nothing happened between them and start anew. After 7 years, they should have matured as a couple. If they haven't, better the both of them to move on with their lives separately. Edited February 21, 2011 by jgc813 Quote Link to comment
dfgvan Posted February 21, 2011 Share Posted February 21, 2011 i know... these will always be carried on...and these things will always factor in in their relationship. Quote Link to comment
BrightestStar Posted June 6, 2012 Share Posted June 6, 2012 go to the root of the problem. Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 Focus on what's workable. Quote Link to comment
iRapedSatan Posted June 7, 2012 Share Posted June 7, 2012 what makes it complicated in the first place? Go with what's legal and what's moral! Quote Link to comment
torpe Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 Complicated...Been married for 13 years.My ex had a bf for 6 years. She left him for me. We were together for 4 years... We went our separate ways a couple of years back but we stay in touch. Have casual sex every once in a while... I have a new girl now... She's still with her bf... The've been together for 7 years... Complicated.... Shes in the hospital now.... She underwent emergency surgery... For ectopic pregnancy... She lost the baby... Our baby.... She told me its mine. And i believe that its mine... Not just because i trust her... But because i know... I just had to see her... So i visited her at the hospital... With her current sitting beside her... I didn't care... I just had to be with her... Used every ounce of energy i can muster just to keep my emotions in check. It was the longest hour of my life... Pretending to be someone i'm not... A friend who just wanted to visit... To see if she's ok... All the while my heart hurting... For being helpless... For not being able to be there for her... Its supposed to be me... Because its mine... We lost our baby... Complicated... I guess thats an understatement... Quote Link to comment
juicylici0us_is_back Posted June 24, 2012 Share Posted June 24, 2012 hehe try me, i have a very complicated life. Quote Link to comment
307 Posted June 26, 2012 Share Posted June 26, 2012 Complicated...Been married for 13 years.My ex had a bf for 6 years. She left him for me. We were together for 4 years... We went our separate ways a couple of years back but we stay in touch. Have casual sex every once in a while... I have a new girl now... She's still with her bf... The've been together for 7 years... Complicated.... Shes in the hospital now.... She underwent emergency surgery... For ectopic pregnancy... She lost the baby... Our baby.... She told me its mine. And i believe that its mine... Not just because i trust her... But because i know... I just had to see her... So i visited her at the hospital... With her current sitting beside her... I didn't care... I just had to be with her... Used every ounce of energy i can muster just to keep my emotions in check. It was the longest hour of my life... Pretending to be someone i'm not... A friend who just wanted to visit... To see if she's ok... All the while my heart hurting... For being helpless... For not being able to be there for her... Its supposed to be me... Because its mine... We lost our baby... Complicated... I guess thats an understatement... i can relate.... but in my case i didnt visit her in hospital as I cant find the courage to face her husband and keep my emotions. Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted June 27, 2012 Share Posted June 27, 2012 In any relationship, you should try to dig deeper into any problems and solve them from there. Hiding anything is never a solution; in fact, it's another problem coz it may treated as part of a dishonest strategy. Just be open to any possibilities. Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 Go back to the basics: what she wants and what you want? Quote Link to comment
cHinitababe86 Posted June 28, 2012 Share Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) hi fellow mtc membersi have a big prob and hope you can help mei wanted to get back with my ex gf whom i saw just 2mos. agothe problem is we broke up 8yrs ago and never saw each other since thenshe committed suicide when i left her and her family and friends are so mad at me.she has a 3yr old kid now, but i`m willing to treat the kid as mine. she is married but will be divorced soon.her parents get mad at her every time they see my name calling in her cellphone. but i really want her back. how can i win her back? how can i assure her parents that i won`t leave her again?what can i do? how i see your situation, medyo mahihirapan ka ulit makapasok sa taong gusto mo balikan.since nag inflict ka sakanya ng hindi magandang pangyayari, which is halos mamatay ungtao sa pag suicide after mo siya iwan. kahit sinong magulang in reality, magagalit talaga.at normal un. u cannot blame them for feeling that way. so anong pwede mong gawin, you would be needing much time to gain their trust againsayo. (pero i do hope hindi mo sobrang asahan na totally babalik. kasi may hindi ka ngamagandang record na sakanila) if you need na ligawan pati ang mga magulang at mahahalagangtao sa paligid niya for you to let them know ur intentions are clean and sincere,maganda siguro if i were in your shoes, gagawin ko..at kung gagawin mo man yan, il tell you this, kaylangan mo mag endure sa lahat ng posibleng masasakit na trato at salitang madidinig mo from them, at ung posibilidad nahindi ka na ulit matatanggap. ang sinasabi ko kasi, susubukan mo lang kung pwede pa maibalik ung dati to be able to win her back again. else, you need to accept the realityna kaylangan mo na magmove on at wala na tlgang mangyayari kahit ano pang gawin mo.as simple as that. be real. be sincere. un lang. prove to them you're wortha second try. goodluck. Complexities are there because we FEEL. We have emotions. Many simple things in life are attainable if we detach ourselves from the surge of our feelings. We can rationalize but we can never actually, truly follow the rationale unless we step back and take a look at our situation in a farther spot. Sa case in friendy0603, he knows for a fact that he was the one who allowed the complication to happen. Had you really felt love for the girl, you would have taken her with you wherever you are. Why do I say it? Because love endures. You could've stepped up and been a man and took accountability for her sacrifices are made sure she never regret the things she gave up because you guys are together. And if she loves you enough, she would have jumped at the chance to start a life with you. Because a woman with competence and confidence will stand by her man, if the man proves his worth. Now her pregnancy just reiterates the fact that she has moved on and had no qualms whatsoever about how you would feel. If she loved you, she would have taken into consideration that you were once special to her and vice versa. Depending on the mood of your last conversation, it's her choice to inform you her plans if you ended on a good note. If not, her business is none of yours. Let her be. She is already old enough to decide her own fate. Love her till you can love her no more. Soon, your heart and mind will get tired of loving and waiting. And I can relate to what you're going thru because the waiting is the hardest part. Waiting if there's yet one last text from her. Checking to see if there's one FB status that directly or indirectly pertain to you. It's the not knowing that kills us and makes things complicated. Because we are afraid of the things that we have yet to understand. But what I know, is that I DON'T KNOW. Yet. There are answers. We can speculate but it's up to you to conclude if you want to move on and make your complicated situation a simple one. Good luck and God bless. can relate to this highlighted post. haaays. and now dumating na ung time na "love him till you can love no more" na ang drama ko. kasi i already have no love anymore. hahaha well, dati pakiramdam ko hindi nako makaka ahon ulit. pero pinilit ko talaga ang sarili ko to face the pain with the reality na hindi pwedeng habang buhay akong magdudusa lalo na thinking na baka mamaya ako nalang pala ung nasasaktan. siya, well..hindi na. o baka ni minsan hindi nasaktan o naapektuhan. Edited June 28, 2012 by cHinitababe86 Quote Link to comment
SaintPeter5858 Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 Mag-usap muna kayo to iron out things. Quote Link to comment
BIZMANfan Posted July 1, 2012 Share Posted July 1, 2012 Umalis ka sa relasyon kung hindi talaga pwedeng maayos. Quote Link to comment
ladyboy Posted July 8, 2012 Share Posted July 8, 2012 hirap ng ganito feeling ko ako lang nakakaranas ng ganito hindi pala Quote Link to comment
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