kikomatsingmatos Posted December 27, 2023 Share Posted December 27, 2023 hindi na. para saan pa? Quote Link to comment
HappyPill Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 Saka na lang pag di na sila. Quote Link to comment
Bluelantern Posted January 19 Share Posted January 19 This happened to me long ago. There was a woman I liked, but she had a long distance boyfriend far far away. We started flirting and spending lots of our free time together. There were definitely some vibes developing. However ultimately I wouldn't cross the line and get intimate with her. I refused to do that to her relationship. So I eventually cut contact and we drifted away. Years later she later reached out and hinted at hooking up, but at that time I was in a relationship and had to turn her down. Looking back I'm proud of my previous actions. I stuck to my morals and beliefs. Sure I could have had wild and crazy sex, but at the cost of destroying a relationship she obviously treasured, or vice versa later on. I believe that if we are meant to be, an opportunity will happen where we are both available for each other. Destroying relationships for my selfish desires isn't a way I want to live my life. Quote Link to comment
Why Not Posted January 20 Share Posted January 20 17 hours ago, Bluelantern said: This happened to me long ago. There was a woman I liked, but she had a long distance boyfriend far far away. We started flirting and spending lots of our free time together. There were definitely some vibes developing. However ultimately I wouldn't cross the line and get intimate with her. I refused to do that to her relationship. So I eventually cut contact and we drifted away. Years later she later reached out and hinted at hooking up, but at that time I was in a relationship and had to turn her down. Looking back I'm proud of my previous actions. I stuck to my morals and beliefs. Sure I could have had wild and crazy sex, but at the cost of destroying a relationship she obviously treasured, or vice versa later on. I believe that if we are meant to be, an opportunity will happen where we are both available for each other. Destroying relationships for my selfish desires isn't a way I want to live my life. I hope everyone shares this same line of thinking. It all starts with respect, respect for the other relationship and most importantly respect for yourself. You don't want to be the reason for someone else's failed relationship. Quote Link to comment
Bondoe Posted January 20 Share Posted January 20 hindi na, may possiblity din na makuha sya ng iba. Quote Link to comment
Nahoon Posted January 20 Share Posted January 20 Depends on the girl… but Def for sure as a fun challenge Quote Link to comment
mrjohnnydoexiv Posted January 20 Share Posted January 20 I feel bad kase feel ko ako lang iba opinion but if I can see that kaya ko naman kunin, I would and I will and with the intention of making the other man feel bad. Kink ko din na may cuck cos of me... I might even let him see that im fuckin his girl infront of him. Hehe Quote Link to comment
redintor2000 Posted January 21 Share Posted January 21 No, I'm not the kind of person who ruins someone else life Quote Link to comment
BoredSenpai Posted January 21 Share Posted January 21 Definitely no. It's a source of a while slew of avoidable problems. Quote Link to comment
nikkilauda Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 yes and no? hahaha pero paano pag gusto mo talaga? Quote Link to comment
socratesaristotle Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 On 1/19/2024 at 4:59 PM, Bluelantern said: This happened to me long ago. There was a woman I liked, but she had a long distance boyfriend far far away. We started flirting and spending lots of our free time together. There were definitely some vibes developing. However ultimately I wouldn't cross the line and get intimate with her. I refused to do that to her relationship. So I eventually cut contact and we drifted away. Years later she later reached out and hinted at hooking up, but at that time I was in a relationship and had to turn her down. Looking back I'm proud of my previous actions. I stuck to my morals and beliefs. Sure I could have had wild and crazy sex, but at the cost of destroying a relationship she obviously treasured, or vice versa later on. I believe that if we are meant to be, an opportunity will happen where we are both available for each other. Destroying relationships for my selfish desires isn't a way I want to live my life. I respect you for your stand @Bluelantern. i have a different opinion though. If the girl was truly happy in her relationship, would she have even given you the chance? Attraction is not a choice and in your case there was tons of it from both parties. She gave you an opening because you clearly had something that she was missing in her relationship. In such a case, if it was me, I would have gone for it. But, that’s me. I seriously believe in survival of the fittest. If you are able to give something to the other party that their current partner can’t, then it boils down to a matter of choice between consenting adults. To each their own.  Like I said, I respect your choice and I’ve done it many times but if I felt instant chemistry with the other party and it was an option, I’d go for it. Quote Link to comment
nAvG03 Posted January 22 Share Posted January 22 Agree sa sakit sa ulo at guilt in some extent. Quote Link to comment
Bluelantern Posted January 24 Share Posted January 24 On 1/21/2024 at 9:20 PM, socratesaristotle said: I respect you for your stand @Bluelantern. i have a different opinion though. If the girl was truly happy in her relationship, would she have even given you the chance? Attraction is not a choice and in your case there was tons of it from both parties. She gave you an opening because you clearly had something that she was missing in her relationship. In such a case, if it was me, I would have gone for it. But, that’s me. I seriously believe in survival of the fittest. If you are able to give something to the other party that their current partner can’t, then it boils down to a matter of choice between consenting adults. To each their own.  Like I said, I respect your choice and I’ve done it many times but if I felt instant chemistry with the other party and it was an option, I’d go for it. I appreciate the response! It's tough to say looking back. LDRs in general are difficult because of the distance and lack of being with one another. It's possible that I was just convenient stand-in when she was lonely and horny. IMHO it's just a bad foundation to start a relationship by cheating on a current one. It leaves some paranoia of "If she cheated on her past bf with me, what's stopping her from cheating on me?". Not to mention all the drama that the cheating, and possibly ending the LDR would bring. Sure it leads to some great short term benefits, but at the time I really liked her and wanted more than just some casual sex. I wanted more from her, and she wasn't willing to break up with her bf, so I cut contact to try and move on. I'm not sure how long that relationship lasted, but it was probably 3 years later when we touched base and she hinted at hooking up again. 1 Quote Link to comment
notIen Posted January 24 Share Posted January 24 No, not worth the drama it brings to your life. Kahit maganda pa sya (actually all the more so) Quote Link to comment
gentlemanyak_007 Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 Done this twice and got both of them. Quote Link to comment
Amber of Daje Posted January 27 Share Posted January 27 NO ! Masakit sa ulo yan . Quote Link to comment
Eraserhead69 Posted February 4 Share Posted February 4 sakit sa ulo gagamitin ka lang kasi di kaya bigay ng asawa nya. Quote Link to comment
Rhapsody Posted February 4 Share Posted February 4 It takes two to tango. Kung naahas mo sya sa previous relationship nya, you'd always be doubting if it can happen again. But now this time, ikaw naman ang magiging victim. Quote Link to comment
Owlman Posted February 4 Share Posted February 4 Big NO for me. Remember that this can also be done to you. Quote Link to comment
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