performance Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought? Quote Link to comment
hneyhoney Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Would you go after somebody who's taken? (Not Married for the sake of Moral Issues)..... This is not about cheating (so dont go after me ) What if you meet the right one, and that person already has a boyfriend/Girlfriend? would you go thru it? Are we doing them a favor by testing thier relationship? What are your thought?<{POST_SNAPBACK}>Why not? Everybody deserves another chance.It happened to me, it can happen to anyone.As the song goes.."Over hearts I have painfully turned every stones just to find I have found what I've searched to discover.I've come much too far for me now to find the love that I sought can never be mine.."U see..love will always be just as it is..silently mysterious and deeply profound.. Quote Link to comment
Curima0 Posted March 24, 2005 Share Posted March 24, 2005 Thinking that finding the right one but the person is already taken, is being selfish. How can you say you found "the one" kung ganon ang sitwasyon? Di ba dapat if you found the right one, it should be in the right place at the right time? 1 Quote Link to comment
morose_as_hell Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 go for the one you love even if he is taken! my personal motto: inflict pain or be in pain! Quote Link to comment
performance Posted March 26, 2005 Author Share Posted March 26, 2005 A contriversial topic, but nevertheless worth discussing:) Nobody really wants to lose somebody, but who are we to stand in the way of love... or is it just based on seduction... if thats the case, what is love then... are we just merely pressing the right buttons or is there really to be said about a real connection between two individuals.... :hypocritesmiley: Quote Link to comment
cho_clitz888 Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 I dare not, steal somebody else's guy. But if I didnt know he has a gf.. then, I will pursue! but if he cheated on me by not saying anythin about being attached... and I found out.. GOODBYE! Quote Link to comment
best_X_girlfriend Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 do not do unto others what you dont want others do unto you. (tama ba?) period. Quote Link to comment
Expedia33 Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 One man's loss is another man's gain... Love is...contradicting on this one... One side would say if you love him/her, go after them...Another would say, if you love him/her wait for them to come to you.... That's love I guess...pleasantly wierd... Quote Link to comment
Curima0 Posted March 26, 2005 Share Posted March 26, 2005 Kung alam mo na may sabit, wag nang kakabit! Quote Link to comment
Manticore Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 I'd never pursue a relationship with a girl who's already spoken for. It doesn't sit well with me, knowing that I would be responsible for a breakup. Incidentally, it has happened to me already. The situation was ripe for just this type of scenario, because I was in a long-distance relationship. They were colleagues; both nurses in the States. It's a commonly held notion that pre-existing long-distance relationships do not pose any hindrance to courtship between fellow Filipinos there. Given the circumstances, I suppose one cannot fault the parties involved. Homesickness is no picnic. It's all a matter of faith that the relationship would survive such an onslaught. It may seem unfair at that instant, but I believe whatever was meant to be shall prevail. Quote Link to comment
private5star Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Sorry to hear about that brother. . . but your right homesickness is not picnic. . . it is really hard on anyone to be apart from their family and friends. . . the hardest time was when the holidays are coming. . . you will really feel so miserable. . . Quote Link to comment
Manticore Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 Sorry to hear about that brother. . . but your right homesickness is not picnic. . . it is really hard on anyone to be apart from their family and friends. . . the hardest time was when the holidays are coming. . . you will really feel so miserable. . .<{POST_SNAPBACK}>Thanks, Bro'. Since it takes people to make a relationship work, then I believe there are many variables we have to consider. My situation is just one such example. Even if the relationship failed, at least I know that I did my best to work it out. I won't be bothered by "what-if's." I've been given a real sense of closure, that way. Quote Link to comment
macx98 Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 i'll not actively court the girl or even try something that may be percieved as leading to something more intimate. friends? maybe. more than friends? i wouldn't even dream of it. though if she's the one who decides to break up her current relationship and i soon end up being with her, that wouldn't qualify as me going after somebody who's spoken for, right? Quote Link to comment
Manticore Posted March 29, 2005 Share Posted March 29, 2005 (edited) i'll not actively court the girl or even try something that may be percieved as leading to something more intimate. friends? maybe. more than friends? i wouldn't even dream of it. though if she's the one who decides to break up her current relationship and i soon end up being with her, that wouldn't qualify as me going after somebody who's spoken for, right?<{POST_SNAPBACK}>If she broke off her relationship because she was interested in you, even if you never hinted on one, then that wouldn't be your fault. My ex's present husband approached her as a friend at the time. In the course of our conversations while we were still together, she gave away details which led me to believe he was interested in something more than friendship. I pointed them out, but she refused to attach meaning to his gestures. From a guy's point of view, his moves were pretty obvious. I suppose she never wanted to put malice into them, which was why she was comfortable sharing such details. As he ingratiated himself to her with all his favors, it came to a point wherein she even wanted me to befriend him. I knew where this was all leading to, so after telling her that he would confide his true feelings in due time, I decided to avoid playing the jealous card. While I was still in the process of making travel arrangements to spend some time with her, all I had going for me then were our conversations over the phone and the internet. Rather than being confrontational about the whole matter, I just said my piece whenever appropriate, and left it at that. True enough, he eventually proposed. The decision fell on her shoulders...it was out of my hands. It was rather unfortunate that being practically alone in the States left her emotionally vulnerable; otherwise, I think we stood a pretty good chance. She's been through quite a lot, really. That decision was a heavy burden, and I tried to do my part to ease it. All's well now. Her close friends speak of how happy she is with her married life. I'd do anything to make her happy; I'm glad it all worked out for her. Edited March 30, 2005 by Manticore Quote Link to comment
bill lomita Posted March 30, 2005 Share Posted March 30, 2005 Don't we all like to be like that to our ex's. . . It was a sad story yet memorable and uplifting. . . I hope that you will meet a better woman than her. . . I'm sure you will, cause you are a good man, a gentleman indeed. . . Quote Link to comment
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