Solaryan

locked ang falling for a therapist thread. pauwi na lang ako ngayon tapos nakita ko locked na.. bukas nako magbabackread pero nabasa ko mukhang dahil dapat magpalamig, so baka nagkainitan?

Anyway, sad ako...

 

 

Ganito.... first leave the industry, start fresh, then if there is a chance na magkita kayo ulit then date... and see if you feel the same way and can work to start a good romantic relationship. By that time you would have been different people already. Wala ng dapat ika-insecure. Basta siguraduhin mo wala ka pang sabit nyan. Huwag naman gawin kabit yun babae.

Hahaha! Parang Serendipity( yun movie) naman ata yan. I believe that we make our own fate, so bakit pa iaasa sa "pag nakita" ulit? di ba pedeng after she leaves the industry, bakuran na yan at todo ligaw na ang gawin?

At bro, hypothetical lang mga usapan mo with me ah. Kasi wala man akong sabit, di rin naman ako ang trip. LOL nagtatry ako mag rhyme...

^^ OO eh, tinawag na nga ako. Ano ba kasing kaguluhan ito?

 

Anyway andito na din lang ako, so share ko na lang experience ko dito

 

I have Filipina friends here who work in clubs. Bale equivalent na ng GRO satin. Pero mas dignified naman trato sa kanila dito. Of course kahit papano me mga indicent proposals pa din sa kanila, lalo pa at encouraged sila lumabas kasama guests nila para mas kumita yun club. Yun iba nakikipagrelasyon na talaga, at dun sila nagkakaproble-problema. Andyan yun pinasusundan na sila ng asawa. Andun yun me nabubuntis at hirap yun arrangement pagkatapos. O kung pakasalan man sila, idi-divorce din. Bottomline is, sa personal kong pananaw, mahirap talaga magnurture ng healthy romantic relationship sa setup na ito.

 

Now there people I really consider them as friends. Nung lumindol sa kumamoto sama sama din kami sa evac center. And sabi ko nga pag sunday, andun ako sa bahay nila, at nagluluto pa kami. Minsan pumupunta din ako sa club nila pag me mga event event sila. Katuwa nga sila, kasi pagpasok ko dun one of them would go "O si..... asikasuhin nyo yan, galing yan lab, malamang di pa yan kumakain lol".

 

I know one na parang female bestfriend ko dito. Kalapit lang kasi bahay namin eh. Me itsura at morena. I think one time nung nalasing ako sobra I must have IMed her about sleeping with me.... I think nagpakita naman na payag.... Pero kinaumagahan tanong ko "Uy nabastos ba kita kagabi? Pasensya ka na ha. Hindi ko talaga alam na sinasabi ko". And mabuti walang ganun samin. I would not want to f#&k up a good friendship just because I can't keep it in my pants. lol

Thanks for sharing your opinion and that story sir! Di ko alam nasa abroad ka pala.. Hehe. I think you have a good thing going. Wala naman masama na may mga female friends ka in the industry at kudos for being a gentleman enough to apologize...and most importantly for respecting them. Lalo na yun last part LOL

Love is a like the recent transport strike, you expected more...

Ano nanaman at dinawit nanaman ako dito? Lol. Tagal ko ng di dumadalaw dito eh.

 

Look anybody with decent reading comprehension skills and an open mind would have no problem understanding that I was of course referring to a particular group of people THAT DO EXIST. Mga lalakeng sa bisyong ito na umiikot mundo nila at ginagamit na sukatan ng galing ng pagkalalake nila. Mga lalakeng walang ibang pinagkakaabalahan kundi ito. Me isa pa ngang kaso years back na lahat ng pinadadala ng misis nya na OFW ginagastos sa isang MP sa rizal. Meron ba akong sinabi kahit kelan na lahat ng lalakeng pumupunta sa KTV or MP ay ganito? Again I was referring to a particular group of people. Parang nung sinabi ni Donald Trump na ayaw nya sa illegal immigrants na me criminal records pa, hindi yun pareho sa ayaw nya sa immigrants in general.

 

Hey, to each its own! lahat naman tayo me bisyo. Nasa kung papano mo na lang dalhin yun. Ang iba kasi bisyo nila nagdadala sa kanila. And I believe at that time (matagal na yun kasi) I said that out of ilan dito na akala mo kung sinong mga white knight sa mga thera dito, pero mamaya sa kabilang thread kung pagusapan sila eh parang..... huwag na nga, baka me mapikon pa lalo.

 

Thing is, I have nothing against theras. I know one whom I really consider a friend. Here, I have friends who work in clubs too. And I spend sunday's sa bahay nila. My consistent stand lang naman sa issue na ito, is that hindi ang ganitong klaseng trabaho ang pwede magnurture ng isang healthy romantic relationship. Mas maganda, umalis sa trabaho na ito, then saka magumpisa ulit.

 

Totoo lang, mas kawawa nga minsan babae. Like yun isang kaso dito na umabot pa sa thread eskandalo. Kung kelan nakawala na yun babae sa trabaho saka ineeskandalo sya ng misis ng nakarelasyon nya.

Lol. Nadawit ka sir kasi andami mo pala alam.. hahaha!

Kumbaga sa kaso, isa kang star witness. hahaha

Personally, di ko kinu contest ang bahagi ng sinabi mo, kung saan naayon sa iyong kataga: hindi ang ganitong klaseng trabaho ang pwede magnurture ng isang healthy romantic relationship. Mas maganda, umalis sa trabaho na ito

Pinutol ko hanggang dun lang talaga, kasi bakit uumpisahan pa ulit, di be pedeng ituloy nila? Kung nasimulan man nila sa isang kasalanan (yiiie drama!) or sa spa man nagsimula, di ba pedeng pag ready na si thera at kusang umalis sa industriying ito, tsaka nila sa labas ituloy ang kanilang relasyon? Ang pinakapunto naman natin edmund ay pareho. Di nga dapat tayo pupunta ng spa na umaasang dun makakakuha ng gf. Strongly agree ako sa notion na mejo "K" yun, pero sa kabilang dako, di rin naman natin pwedeng pigilan kung may mga taong nauwi sa ganun? Di ba?

Segue, naisip ko lang, 2 years from now, sana mabalikan ko mga pinagpopost ko dito, at wag kong makitang kasing tigas ako ni carding.. hehe biro lang bro

Kain tayo mga brod

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@Solaryan and gandamegumi

 

Tinawag ko na si ED. Hintayin niyo na lang yung punta niya dito kung nasa mood pa siya.

Wow. Thanks Johnny. I would like to hear him out too. More than 2 years since that post, I don't how if his perception may have changed or what his sentiments are, but again free forum about falling for a thera and what our thoughts are regarding that...

Maybe he thinks that since the GM is too preoccupied with the therapist and spends too much time in spas instead of spending time with hobbies that are beneficial to your health.

 

The hobbies that he mentioned are beneficial to the health. Of course, getting a massage and getting a release are beneficial for the health too. But, I guess, what he wants to point out is that getting a hobby is better than getting into a complicated and, more often than not, tempestuous relationship with a therapist, which, I think, would be detrimental to your health given the stress that it causes.

 

Makes a lot more sense. Personally, I run, hit the gym and started taking boxing lessons. I'm considering trading the boxing lessons for Muay Thai.

But, to my point earlier, ED did not have a way of determining if the "veterans" were indeed just engrossing themselves in this vices. I think I can name 3 veteran posters/GMs here that also have other hobbies besides going to the spa. One of which just posted a few minutes ago.

Anyway, thanks Johnny. I like having this discussions with you sir it beats the monotony of just talking about ES and other things. Haha, not that it doesn't interest me, it is just a welcome respite to all of that.

No argument here, ED. Although, it is very blunt, it makes a lot of sense.

Thanks for re-posting this Johnny

Una, natawa ako, di ko alam anu yun mills and boons novel so napa-google pako.

Pangalawa, agree ako sa sinabi nya, about sa napakadali mainlove. He makes a good point there.. I share his sentiment.

Pangatlo, although I am far from being a veteran, I think he was overstretching with what he stated there. How does he know for sure (to make those claims) that they don't have other hobbies besides going to the establishments he mentioned, he can't have known all or most of the veteran GMs at that time, for all he knows, some of those GMs are filthy rich that they collect sports cars or vintage guns. Or that they buy houses just so they can light it up and watch burn at as an evening bonfire.

He made a great point and it is interesting this was posted more than 2 years ago, but it still hits the mark in terms of his parting wisdom. Ever heard of the phase "love smart"?

Most studies say that the online gen is the culprit why many younger men visit 'personal service providing establishments'; thus, being more vulnerable to 'falling for their service partner' (either genuine, perceived true, or fake)...

 

The demographic is changing towards younger professionals because younger men’s preferences are changing, "A ‘professional service’ with a therapist creates a mutual understanding of what the client wants and gets. All do’s and don'ts are pre-discussed and fantasies are more easily explored." With some partners there’s a connection, an emotional "nourishment" as they call it, but that most of the time it’s "purely transactional", feeding a sexual need, getting that professional service. But of course, that thing called 'spark' may creep in without you being aware of.

 

That dependency has led to even more encounters, something studies doubt would’ve happened in the pre-internet age. "We spend half our lives online now," before explaining that lingering online is addicting – thus serving as a gateway to getting services. Studies also believe the 24/7 lifestyle of so many young professionals plays a part in how they get their sexual kicks. "The faster pace of life, the increase in pressure at work and longer hours mean that many young professionals look for quick instant gratification when they feel stressed," studies relate. "The fast speed of the internet has made this all the more possible."

 

In the end, nalalayo na sila sa totoong mundo na walang ads at spontanuity...dahil may 'conditioning' na na nababahagi na ng lintik na Internet...

 

Just want to add 'though..."In every norms, there're exceptions" HINDI LAHAT...

Agree with you sir, mejo nasapul pa nga ako nito: The faster pace of life, the increase in pressure at work and longer hours mean that many young professionals look for quick instant gratification when they feel stressed

I know someone here posted an almost similar yet less harsher message than what am about to say; not all GMs who indulges in this service industry are lack wits or men who have no way of getting women in the real world. Hehe. di ko pinatulan before kasi I know better. Alam ko kung anu kaya at di ko kaya.

I guess I connect this response to your post because, it makes sense. Instant nga siguro gusto ko. May instant noodles, may fast food, bakit di pedeng instant attraction that leads to a mutually beneficial arrangement? We're all adults here (I hope), so to fall or not to fall, to be an exception or to be like the embittered common those are just a few things that can happen to us while exploring this ever-growing world we call Espa Lifestyle. I say to that, welcum and enjoy!

Interesting thread. Even more interesting with the inputs of my 2 former co-theras. Hahaha

 

To May/Mavic,

 

My unsolicited advise. be very careful on who you give your heart to. Always ask the question why do these GMs like me. Remember, the spa business is very competitive, there are a lot of other theras there who could be prettier, sexier than us and how can you have the assurance that the GMs promising you his heart won't go running to the next fresh face out there? Most of the time, a lot of these clients are very good at the start, but once they get their benefits, that's when things really change. I did not experience that myself, but I have seen it happen to a lot of my closest friends in the spa. Liligawan kuno but being left out in the cold once nagsawa na c guy. After all, there are always a fresh supply of theras coming into the business so meron at meron bagong star thera na darating.

 

May, I happen to be a bit updated sa luvlife mo....all i can say is...one of the names being linked to you, all i can say is wow, swerte mo sa knya. He is single,totoong single nde gaya ng ibang manliligaw mo (yes, i know some) na meron mga asawa o jowa. Sana cya na c Mr. Right mo, he is also successful enough in life that he can take you out d2 sa work na to anytime you want to quit. Its your decision of course, but I am just saying why go for a Nokia when you can have an Iphone 7.Lol

 

Mga GMs, umayos kau. Some of you are familiar to me and I know some names here who have partners. If you can't respect your own relationship, how can we expect you will respect your would be relationship with a thera?

lol nagbabasa kanina si Mr. Right/ Iphone 7. hehe

I strongly agree with this post. Aminin man ng lahat o hindi, may mga GMs na nanligaw nga or "nagfall" sa thera kahit na in a relationship sila.. So thanks gandamegumi for being concerned about your fellow therapists.

I for one will admit this openly, ako ganda at alindog ang hanap ko. kaya ako napa visit sa spa, kasi "H" ako at that time at gusto ko mapamper for a few hours. At ang unang tintignan ko sa MTC spa thread eh yun magaganda at may "alindog" na nakakapukaw ng inaantok kong diwa. Now, having said that, di ko din maiwasan na may thera na, di naman ganun ka exaggerated ang gfe sakin at wala naman mashadong malayong narating ang mileage namin, pero sinud sunod ko pagkuha sa kanya. hahaha I thought dahil nagandan lang ako. So I tried other beauties. Pero wala pa rin. So sya ulit kinuha ko as a thera. Pamasko at pambagong taon ko na sa sarili ko..

Bottomline, tama ka gandamegumi dapat mag iingat nga mga thera sa aming mga GMs. Kasi marami samin baka ganda o katawan nga lang habol. Pero, alam mo, minsan, kahit ganun unang intensyon o motibo namin, nababago rin yun. Minsan, nagbibiro o naglalaro ang tadhan at may mga may asawa o pamilyadong tao na sinisira at winawasak ang meron sila makasama lang yun thera na mahal nila. Di ko po niroromanticize ang ganun. All I am saying is take everything you read, you hear and you see here with a grain of salt.

The same thing goes for my fellow GMs. Kung si thera ay sweet at "handsy" saten (pun intended) wag din naman tayo agad agad ma inluv (lol, naalala ko post ni sitti about jan, kaya ako ingat sa pagsabi ko rin na love ko yun thera na crush ko, it's another story altogether), marami na nagpost sa thread na to how to determine if a thera really likes you and most of it, I think are reliable.

So let's all enjoy the sessions in the cubicle, both GM and thera. Pero if at some point may naiba, then judgment call nyo yan. Just make sure na sana kaya nyo panindigan mga ginagawa nyo. wala na naman ata sa inyo ang bata di ba?

fruit juice

tea or water?

oks lang yun kung girl ka sana eh. hehe

i crush ipis with my hands? hahaha

middle of the week to come sooner

is often online...

Tera poster! [in a candy crush tone]

yeah, more for me

I eat exotic food? i.e. frogs. insects etc?

kakatapos lang ng merienda kiss - kung pede kay Queen. D

work til 10PM

what's the nature of your work?

soon? haha

has another side of himself/herself that he/she only shows in the bedroom

Monday merienda kiss

(sayang di ko matyempuhan si blue violet... hahaha )

di na.. sorry, need na ng bullet to the brain pag ganun

i am into BDSM?

eager

yun nabasa ko na announcement na excite ako ng sobra! haha

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