Magkaiba ang love at relationship. That there's a duality in love, but it does not inform another person. In it's most basic form, love is the unconditional giving of oneself to the other. Yung movement ng magmamahal ay, pagbigay ng sarili sa iba ng walang hinihinging kapalit. Pag ng bigay ka ng bulaklak sa partner mo, PS5 na anak mo, vacation tour pa parents/kapatid mo. There's no 50% in loving, it's always all out. Yung mga binigay mo sa mga taong mahal mo, embodiment yun ng magmamahal mo sakanila. Kaya nga noong highschool ka, tinatago at iniipit pa sa notebook ng gf mo yung bulaklak na bigay mo. At pag may ngtapon na gagalit. Kc kahit pa palitan palitan yung ng parehong flower. Iba pa din yung galing sayo.
However, meron palang second at simultaneous movement na kasabay ang ang first movement ng love. Dapat mahal mo din yung sarili mo. You also need to value yourself. Why? Kc nga sa pagibig, sarili mo binibigay mo. So naturally, dapat mahalaga din yung ibibigay mo, which is sarili mo. Otherwise, if wala kang pakialam sa sarili mo, basura ang inibigay mo. Kaya itatapon ka lang.
And that's what love is. Hindi puro first movement lang na palabas. Because that would be codependency, obsession, infatuation or just emotional enmeshment. Hindi rin pwede, yung other extreme na inward lang at sarili lang, you will be egocentric or narcissistic, etc, naman pag ganun.
Pero masakit pag ngmahal tapos hindi na suklian. Yes, that's how you know it's true. Also love and relationship is related but not synonymous. they're not the same. Yes, you need love as the foundation in a romantic relationship. But it needs more than that to keep it. It needs mutual commitment, hard-work, trust and respect. If you want your relationship to last, corny pero tuwing umaga, kailangan mo sabihin sa sarili mo na, "YES, I choose to be with her/him." May Pogi a maganda ka makakatrabaho o kilala, pero sasabihin mo, "but yes, I chose her/him" and tuwing gabi, kahit ng away kayo, sasabihin sa sarili mo "I love and choose to be with you." And this needs to be done by both individual. Otherwise yung relationship ay magslide doon sa two extreme kc hindi na siya love.
PS
just increasing my post to get my access back to other areas. But everything I said is truly what believe in.