Rearden

ang lalim sir reareden, but make sense

i think it's apt for this thread, don't you?

the problem is always the same, why did the GRO/MPA leave the guy even if he really loved her...well, there's your answer!

the girl will benefit more from sharing a very rich guy with other women, than having one ordinary guy with limited resources all to herself...

from Psychology Today

3. Most women benefit from polygyny, while most men benefit from

monogamy

When there is resource inequality among men—the case in every human

society—most women benefit from polygyny: women can share a wealthy man.

Under monogamy, they are stuck with marrying a poorer man.

The only exceptions are extremely desirable women. Under monogamy, they can

monopolize the wealthiest men; under polygyny, they must share the men with

other, less desirable women. However, the situation is exactly opposite for men.

Monogamy guarantees that every man can find a wife. True, less desirable men

can marry only less desirable women, but that's much better than not marrying

anyone at all.

Men in monogamous societies imagine they would be better off under polygyny.

What they don't realize is that, for most men who are not extremely desirable,

polygyny means no wife at all, or, if they are lucky, a wife who is much less

desirable than one they could get under monogamy.

Based on experience, it is not worth it to have a GRO girlfriend if you cannot get her out of her current profession. Even then it is very risky to think that she will be faithful to you like a non-GRO gf.

Sorry bro, i think that is a naive assessment! Not the "GROs will cheat" but the "non-GROs are faithful." Don't tell me you never encountered non-GRO women who screwed over their men!

Faithfulness has nothing to do with profession!

I have this friend who has a non-GRO gf, who is a sister of one the new starlets of GMA, they've been together for 5 years and have a son together, yet the girl still cheated on my friend...

GROs, like any other will seek the path that benefits them most!

Why would a GRO or non-GRO stay faithfull with someone who fails to live up to their expectations? (i.e. a lazy bum, a drunk, and so on...or even the most shallow of reasons, not attractive enough, too old, too fat, not rich enough)

It's the same in any situation! Like, why stay faithful to a company that pays you minimum wage, when another company can give you 5x as much?

what is crazy is men who think that they can have relationships with women, GRO or non-GRO without money!

the reason that some (not all) relationships with non-GRO women succeed is because these men correctly asses their own capabilities within their lifetime! the same is true with relationships with GRO women!

let's say you have a monthly income of P100K

1. you got a non-GRO wife with 2 kids

2. you want to make a GRO your wife and have 2 kids with her as well

3. with a modest monthly cost of P30k per household member, 7 household member (incl. yourself), you need P210,000.00 per month

4. what about your savings and emergency expenses?

Conclusion: get real! you can't afford it! the reason the likes of Erap, Revilla, and Lucio Tan have multiple wives with children, is because they can afford it! you can't!

yup... DNA test is the correct procedure though you have to wait for the child to be born...

to clarify...amniocentesis is not a test! it is a procedure used to obtain amniotic fluid from a pregnant woman.

the amniotic fluid is what is used to...

1. test for foetal abnormalities (which is what amniocentesis is generally used for)

but, since the amniotic fluid contains genetic material from the foetus, it can also be used to...

2. test for paternity (which is what DNA testing can determine)

...if issues of trust are raised by the woman, you can just say your purpose is #1! this way you can k*ll two birds with one stone!

Mr. I don't think amniocentesis is the right test if you wanna know whether that child is yours or not..? amniocentesis is more on detection of genetic anomalies if my memory serves correctly.

 

the test you need is DNA test, and it's around 50k i guess?

correct, but to do genetic testing, you will have to get a genetic sample, which you can use for DNA testing, thus amniocentesis is the procedure used to obtain genetic material for DNA testing before birth! it is not only for detecting genetic anomalies, but also can be used for determining paternity...

think of it this way...amniocentesis is to DNA testing before birth, as shedding of skin or swabbing the cheeks or drawing blood is to DNA testing after birth...

and I did mention that 14-20weeks into the pregnancy, which means I was referring to DNA testing before birth...that is if he doesn't want to wait for the child to be born, and stop all financial support for prenatal care!

50k is not bad compared to 30k/month to support a child that isn't yours!

I broke up recently with what was supposed to be just a fling with a GRO. Her name starts with a K. It started out as a casual thing but little by little it became more than that. We both really liked each other. I wanted to see her everyday and she did for me as well. It came to the point she was like my girlfriend already because we would have dates almost every other day after work, during days off, etc.

 

The problem is I already have a legitimate girlfriend. My real girlfriend also noticed I changed with the way I was treating her and she had a feeling I was already falling for someone else.

 

Eventually I noticed my GRO girlfriend drifting away. I do not know whether it was her other GRO friends advising her that this relationship will go nowhere but that is what happened. It used to be a mutual thing but all of a sudden I was giving more and more and she was treating me like crap. At the same time, I was also drifting away from my real girlfriend. One day, I asked my friends to help me out of the situation before I lose my real gf. I tried my best to stop any communication with K but she kept calling me on my cellphone.

 

I could not resist replying. I told K if she really loved me, then why did she always disrespect me and treat me badly. I said all I wanted was for her to love me and take care of me the way I do for her. I asked her if this is too much to ask. I also let her know if she felt the real love I showed to her. K replied she did and she was sorry but she has to break up with me. It was for the best she said. It is reasonable to say that she cannot be in a serious relationship at the same time being in her current occupation.

 

I wished her to take care always and save enough money soon so she can already quit. She told me to take care as well and may I find someone who can love me truly. She called a couple of more times on my cellphone and just listened to my voice. After that it was over.

 

I am hurting badly right now but as my friends told me, it would hurt 10x more if it was my real gf that I lost.

I don't believe that concept, GRO girlfriend and real girlfriend. They are both your "real" girlfriends, the way you qualified them is what messed you up! It should be your GRO girlfriend and your non-GRO girlfriend.

And if it was your non-GRO girlfriend that you lost, it would hurt just the same, if it hurt at all!

I've been backreading this thread for a while now and a lot of good advices have been laid down the table. But this last one from Marblebay is by far the most sound proposition and direct to the point advice we need to observe. Why? Here's my story.

 

I myself is into a relationship with a former MPA, though I'm already married. I was one of her regular then. We started dating for a while after she retired. What's worst now is that she's pregnant and, according to her, it's mine. Problem is, what if she's been with her former clients too? Eventhough she denies it and promises that Im the only one she'd been with. Or am I just being paranoid. I've been true to her all the time but I just can't figure out if she's telling the truth also. Don't get me wrong, I'm willing to support her and the child. Provided it's really mine. As for our relationship, it's getting a bit too shaky with all the mocking and bickering mostly from her.

 

Now let's up the ante fellow GM's. What would you do if you are in my position???

First, she would have stopped being an MPA, not because she retired, but rather because I would have made her one of my wives...

Second, I would have put her on the pill, and let her stop only when I want her bear me a child, then put her on it again...

Third, in case she did cheat, and f#&ked someone else and gotten pregnant...drop her like a bad habit

Fourth, if you want to make sure it's your child, get it tested, Amniocentesis can be done 14-20 weeks into the pregnancy...

Lastly, I wouldn't even let her think that she even had the right to mock or bicker...

Pathetic!!!

and why do I keep reading here from those who had inclinations of suicide because their lover left them the excuse that "he was not worth it"...and they can't admit to themselves that they were PATHETIC for even considering suicide, and for that same reason "they're not worth it" which is why they got left behind from the start???

Chuck it up to EGO! Blame others but not yourself!

Unless you're talking about expats looking for "exotic" looking bargirls, guests looking for trophy wives in the business doesn't happen often. Even if it does, it doesn't last. Every GRO has dreamt of that one guy who CAN an WILL take care of them. And for each of those GROs stands a jaded cynical fellow GRO friend ready to slap them upside the head and knock some sense into them.

 

Practically every guy offering to make a trophy wife out of a GRO has an exit plan. They dangle marriage as bait then yank it out when the girl gets too clingy.

not true! I've met a few, who made their money abroad, and turned GRO girls into trophy wives...

...there were also some independently rich locals, who took GRO girls as trophy wives, simply because their personality does not allow them to submit or grovel to the petty whims of women during the stage of courtship!

and even if there are those that dangle marriage, that's not specific to GROs, that is common to all women in relationship, especially the young! the whole bf-gf concept, has the implied promise of marriage, although not all men follow through! that is why she should make a smart decision, being in the industry, she should be more aware of this.

of course it doesn't happen often! first, I never said it did, and second, rich people are in the minority (about 5 - 10% of the population)! but if you sincerely want to help a GRO friend break the cycle of poverty, this is the best option for her! to enter into a relationship with a man that "CAN'T" take care of her is a waste of her time! and this fact is common for all women (those absent ability)! young and beautiful women are valued commodities, she should learn this fact and use it to her advantage! she could whore herself, or be a trophy wife...i submit that the latter would be better! and if she is one of those rare beauties, there will always be men that will offer her this life!

also, look at Estrada or Lucio Tan or Revilla and their trophy wives (note: multiple trophy wives), all of them and their children have comfortable lives (I'm not saying that they were GROs, but rather just providing a parallel to non-GROs, that made the same choice.)

No. Tell her to find a guy who "WILL" take care of her. Those who can most often don't.

 

A lot of GROs leave the business to shack up with a guy with money only to get dumped after a few months. They eventually wind up back in the club, if they're lucky. A lot of the time, they get knocked up, used up, and can't make a living doing the only thing they know how to do because they're not as desirable as they used to be.

I did say "trophy wife" didn't I?

a trophy wife is different from being a girlfriend, live-in partner, or a fubu!

there are a lot of men who "will" take care of her, and most of them are broke as dirt! she should take advantage of her youth and secure herself a future with a man who "CAN" take care of her! her youth and beauty are keys to success, absent ability (i.e. an education)

A lot of GROs also shack up with men who "WILL" take care of them (you can call it love if you are the sentimental type), and yet still have a miserable life, and go back into clubbing even if they are married with children! In fact, even non-GROs shack-up with men who "WILL" take care of them and be miserable! Women, GRO and non-GRO alike, who do succeed are those that are with men that "CAN" take care of them. (Of course, excluding those women of ability!)

I've posted here before when I "fell" in love with a GRO I met at a bar in QC. However, now there is this one GRO that likes me instead. She is still young about 19 yrs old. I treat her well and try my best to make her into a good girl. I believe she doesn't deserve this kind of life. I tried my best to convince her to go to college. It crushes my heart to know the situation some of these girls are in. I am just a regular middle-class guy.. what is one supposed to do.

if you really care for her, don't be selfish, tell her to be smart and find a guy who CAN take care of her! and when I say "CAN" i mean someone with money!

it's better to be a trophy wife, than a common whore!

Pero di ako tutol sa mga nagmamahal ng kagaya nila. Sa totoo nga bilib pa ko sa mga ganyang lalaki. Tao rin sila...walang pinagiba sa mga nililigawan nating nagtatrabaho sa ibang industriya. Medyo may mga nababasa akong posts dito na napaka-demeaning sa pagkatao ng mga GRO/PSP. Ito lang masasabi ko sa inyo...ANG LILINIS NYO! Lahat tayo may kanya-kanyang baho. Wag nating ibaba pagkatao nila dahil kahit ganun ang trabaho nila, may karapatan pa rin silang respetuhin.

I agree! What I want to know is what the hell made sex so special? Why does society care so much about who we're f#&king? Sex by people is not more special than sex by dogs! Both are driven by the biological imperative to procreate! The only thing that differentiates us from the dogs, is that we can use the act of sex for deriving pleasure, circumventing its main purpose, Reproduction!

Let's realize the fact that we have the Catholic-Christian(and it's predecessor Judaism) tradition to blame! If it wasn't for the pompous, self-righteous St. Agustine, who he himself was a dog and f#&ked anything wearing a skirt, and later at old age suddenly "realized" that abstaining for sex is the way to be "holy" (how convenient for him), that our society now suffers from this glorification of the act of SEX.

Of course let us also realize that, the reason we don't want our women f#&king around with all the men in town, has nothing to do with the naive notions of PURITY nor HONOR nor DECENCY, but rather it is because of our natural instinct of TERRITORIALITY! MY WOMEN! MY PROPERTY! This is the male ego!

A loser is someone who...

...believes that sex is sinful and celibacy is saintly

...believes that using condoms is immoral

...believes that homosexuality is the cause of pedophilia http://ph.news.yahoo.com/afp/20100414/twl-...le-4bdc673.html

A loser is someone who has blind faith (and glorifies it) and no intellectual independence!

I get your point but I think this is far out. These GROs are forced into this circumstance because of poverty and not coz, as you said, all they money they earned must be shared with the community. These are totally different concepts.

Which ones?

Do you mean the GROs being in poverty (as you've stated)? and the principles of "communism" (which I have expounded upon)?

Oh yes! they are totally different concepts! and both concepts contribute to their circumstances! How is that far out??? There can be more than one reason for the situation the girls are in...i just explored another!

I have already defined "communism" in the previous post...do you not agree with my definition? let me rephrase it...they are obligated to spend their money on the "family"...

...this is actually typical of a Filipino family model...which stems from an agricultural society background...which is the inspiration for "communism"

Have you read the books I proposed as references? I suggest you read Atlas Shrugged, this one best illustrates how communism leads to the breakdown of the individual, and the parallel I am trying to make with the GRO.

Hey! This is good to hear. Good luck, bro.

 

Para hindi naman OT. I just want to share a story shared by my current regular MPA. She said, her sister just left the MPA scene coz she is now living in with a separated married man. Bait daw nung lalaki at ang swerte ng kanyang younger sister. The sister now is taking care of the house and the kids of the man. Pinendeho kasi itong lalaki daw na ito ng asawa niya. Seaman ito at mga 2 years ago, nanlalaki yung ex-wife nito at tinira pa sa bahay ng lalaki yung kalaguyo nito. My MPA told me that love comes when you least expect it. And sana nga daw, magkaroon ng happy ending ang buhay ng kapatid niya. Sa ngayon, maayos naman daw. 36 na yata yung lalaki at 20 yung younger sister ni MPA.

 

Anything is possible.

yes it is! may i share my observation on that story?

who is the bigger whore? the MPA or the seaman's ex-wife?

there should be a revolution on our conception of a "whore!"...instead of a single woman having sex for money (which basically is what all women do)...a whore should be defined as a woman who has sex with another man when she is commited to another!

rearden metal?

hmmm...

interesting..

 

sana may dagny taggart din akong makilala..

i'd fall for her easily...

actually, some GROs i know have that attitude.. and perspective

aliw nga eh.

yes! i was actually reading atlas shrugged at the time I registered here at MTC and used the name Rearden!

exactly, dagny taggart is my ideal woman, who is basically ayn rand, but a lot more attractive! :thumbsupsmiley:

some GRO's have that attitude, because of the fact that like Ayn Rand, they grew up in a communist society...in the sense that the family is the basic unit of communism, which extends to relatives and the community...hence the term "communism"...wherein they are trapped into the mindset that there is no private ownership, and all the money they earned must be shared with the "community" regardless of what the others contribute, if any! sad isn't it? it's the same reason that, with all the money they potentially earn, they are still unable to breakout of the cycle of poverty!

maybe you can be their john galt, and show them that their self-sacrificing attitude towards their family is complete nonsense!

As I said, Villar may have used factors other than money such as charm, wit, humor, etc. Money is just one of the considerations a girl will look into when it comes to choosing a guy.

The most important consideration if the girl has any sense at all! Because, unlike charm, wit and humor...money is the only factor that has any pertinence to the girl's welfare! Those other factors, are readily available from friends...

Do you have a daughter sir? Let's say you she has two suitors, one is overwhelmingly charming, witty and funny, but an ordinary worker...while the other is less charming, witty and funny, but a self-sufficient businessman or professional...which one would you prefer for your daughter? Which one would you want her to have the sense to choose?

I can't imagine myself living in a communist country. The fact is the Nacionalista Party standard bearer is a billionaire.

You should try! it will give you a greater appreciation of being born into a capitalist society, where the accumulation and appropriation of capital (i.e. money) is the order.

What? How is he being a billionaire relevant? The Nacionalista Party is not a communist party!

Can you give me the source of this statement? That money is the medium used to measure a man's ability? Coz frankly I find this statement idiotic. That doesn't necessarily mean that a man couldn't make a girl fall for him since he's lacking in finances.

Why is it idiotic? Or maybe you just don't understand it?

There are a lot of sources, the most prominent I would have to say is the philosopher Ayn Rand and her philosophical system Objectivism.

For laymen references, you can read her most popular fictional novels:

1. The Fountainheand

2. Atlas Shrugged

For more academic references, i suggest reading her non-fiction works:

1. For The New Intellectual

2. The Virtue of Selfishness

To help you grasp it's relevance, a background in economics (Adam Smith, the father of capitalism), evolution (Richard Dawkins, ethologist and evolutionary biologist), and psychology (Abraham Maslow, the heirarchy of needs) would also help

...if after all that, you still think it is idiotic, then please share as to why?

P.S. if you are having problem on how my propositions are stated, here is someone else's version on my proposition:

i pretty much agree with Rearden...

 

i noticed that arguments erupt because a lot of ppl cant seem to be able to define "money" as a measure of one's abilities.... but instead, typically define it as "money - something that can BUY something."

 

your wit, humor, skills, looks, etc. hard as it may to believe... actually translate to 'money.' thats what Rearden was saying for quite a few posts now.

thanks sir Intuition for that explanation!

look at it this way sir megalodon...

Manny Villar may have been poor, but he spent all his time and energy to earning money! That small amount of money he earned, sent him to school, and gave him access to Cynthia, who recognizing Manny's ability, chooses him over others, and Manny recognizing Cynthia's background takes her as a wife, ensuring their mutual success in life!

now imagine the same, but instead of being in a Capitalist society, we lived in a Communist society...(with what we know of the history of Communist societies, like China and Russia, and the death toll of those societies) Manny would most likely have died young out of hunger, or may not even have been born, or being a son of poor parents, would have been poor all his life working in a field!

@topic

MPAs/PSPs/GROs, being in the situation that they are, are more basic, than non-MPAs/PSPs/GROs who can afford the luxury of "feelings", but both types are fundamentally the same! it is just politically incorrect to say it out loud, because majority of our society do not understand that money is the medium used to measure a man's ability, and instead were indoctrinated with the "money as the root of all evil" mantra!

Didn't you say that money is the worth of a man in society?

no i didn't...please read!

as I've said, money is the medium for human resources!

-In your definition, money is what makes a man

no, please read the above quote!

As I said, you can't fight money with money when you're trying to win the affection of someone who was born with it.

no you didn't! please read your statements again! here it is...

Do you think you can use money as a weapon in wooing someone who was born with a silver spoon in her mouth? I don't think so. I'll give you an example. Manny Villar. He wasn't as well-heeled then when he wooed his would be wife who was, in fact, richer than him a thousand fold. It's a combination of factors and money is just one of them and not a major factor. Sometimes, money isn't even a factor. Cassanovas use their wit, charm and good-looks (if they have) to get girls. So there.

maybe you should rephrase your statements to make it clearer! let's say use "tool" instead of "weapon"...and so on

or if you are going to use the word "weapon", then use it consistently instead of changing from "weapon" to "factor"

-I wouldn't know but what I know is Manny Villar was a pauper compared to Cynthia when they met.

couldn't or wouldn't you venture a guess? you were quick to assume on the relationship of the Villars. Isn't it easier since I've provided you a set of DATA to make an informed decision?

let's not use the Villars anymore as an example, replace Manny and Cynthia with random woman and random man#1 and #2, for objectivity's sake!

-I don't know them personally

then you don't really know if money played a part or not? as you have asserted that it didn't

1. it could have been that Cynthia used her money to win Manny's affection! (Manny then chooses Cynthia because it will guarantee his success in life)

2. it could have been that Manny's abilities (e.g. intelligence, ergo Cynthia makes the assumption that future Manny will be a successful businessman) is what won Cynthia's affection!

Depends on who is the smoother operator.

Again, all things being equal, means both are smooth operators! the only difference is one is rich, the other is poor!

-ability in what?

Ability to succeed in life! It could be intelligence (becomes a successful professional), or shrewdness or interpersonal skills (becomes a successful businessman), or ability in sports (becomes a professional athlete), all of which gives a man an advantage that is rewarded by money! Ergo making money the medium that represents ability, the more ability, the more money! That is the Capitalist system! That is the world we live in!

-This is your opinion.

No, it is nature, not just human nature, but nature in general! Although sometimes it happens, they are anomalies, making them statistically insignificant! It is worthless to give statistically insignificant anomalies any value in life! Do you put your hopes on winning the lotto? or winning big in casinos?

Why is it that you made the assumption that it is feelings and not money (medium for human ability) as important? Is it because you were taught that mantra since childhood?

Are you married sir? have a girlfriend/s? Would your partner have noticed you if you were broke? and wooed them using your wit, charm, and good looks alone? Meaning, no money for dates, no money for gifts, have to work 2 or 3 jobs just to survive?

Sir, money gives you the luxury (of time) to woo a girl! Money gives you the luxury (of health) to be a hot-blooded healthy male, by being able to afford the right sustenance! Money gives you the luxury to have children and ensure their success in life!

...and you say money is not important???

Feelings are merely by-products of all the luxury your money have afforded you and your loved ones!

I agree with you bro cause I have experienced it myself. Providing the girl financial support , decent shelter , branded clothes and accessories will not guaranttee that you win her love for you. I did split with this girl and was able to get back some amount she loaned which I guess came from another suitor . I consider it a blessing in disguise cause if I still have the relartionship with her , I may now have a broken family.. So not get into further trouble pa one night stand na lang...

no offense sir! i would just like to ask...

1. did you have a competitor when you were vying for this girl's affection?

2. you gave her decent shelter? does that mean she was yours? (even if for a little while)

3. are you sure that she was capable of a long term monogamous relationship? maybe she doesn't even realize that she prefers serial monogamy, or polyandry!

4. are you sure, your definition of love is the same with the girl?

5. maybe the one night stands are all she wants from a man, you have already won her love. should she change for you? why should she change for you?

With all due respect to MPAs, GROs and the like, most of them will consider the financial wherewithal of a man before going into a relationship with him but if you're gonna use money, in general, as an avenue to, as you said, buy the feelings of a girl, then I'd say you're dead wrong. Do you think you can use money as a weapon in wooing someone who was born with a silver spoon in her mouth? I don't think so. I'll give you an example. Manny Villar. He wasn't as well-heeled then when he wooed his would be wife who was, in fact, richer than him a thousand fold. It's a combination of factors and money is just one of them and not a major factor. Sometimes, money isn't even a factor. Cassanovas use their wit, charm and good-looks (if they have) to get girls. So there.

sir, did i not give the definition of "money" in my explanation???

of course, I did not use it in general, i used it in a specific way didn't I??? Please, use the definition I have given in order to understand the logic of the statements!

No, i did not say you use money to woo! (you are using the "monetary value alone" deinition)

I said you need money to woo! (I am using the "medium that represents man's ability" definition)

Woo someone born with a silverspoon? yes, you need money! (again, defined as the medium that represents man's ability)

imagine this...using the premise I have given before, 2 men, both kind, caring, funny, and so on...

Man #1 is 20 year old Manny Villar, who is still struggling to make it in the world

Man #2 is 30 year old Manny Villar, who is already a success

...who do you think will win the "feelings" of Cynthia?

but wait, do you know the Villar's personally? are you really sure that it was Manny who wooed Cynthia and not the otherway around? in that scenario, it was Cynthia (the one with the money) who wooed the Tondo boy Manny!

wit, charms, good-looks? those are all abilities, which a man can use to succeed in society! and a successful man is a rich man! it is just a matter of time before the boy becomes a man!

Imagine, 2 Casanovas...

Casanova # 1 - who works as an ordinary file and rank employee

Casanova # 2 - a successful businessman

...who would win???

As I've said, all things being equal, which means both are witty, charming and good-looking! The moneyed man wins because he has more ability!

The only way the penniless casanova wins a girl is if she has no option, meaning there was no one else vying for her affection!

Much as money is a major consideration for these girls, you also have to consider if they're really into you coz feelings can't be bought by money.

actually it can and it is! indirectly! the human brain is imprintable, and feelings are imprinted! and how do you imprint those feelings??? by spending time with the girl...through DATING! (or "ligaw" if you are the old-fashioned type)

dates cost money...you give gifts, take them out to dinner and movie...and so on! All to imprint on the girl that you are capable of providing for her! Basically, dating is not merely getting to know each other, but it is to impress the girl on what your resources are and what you are capable of giving her! (which fundamentally is to be able to provide for her and the children she will have with you)

animals, who don't have the same brain capacity as humans do this! and they do it by instinct! as I've said, money is the medium for human resources! in animals, the money used by human males is equivalent to the ability to hunt for food, or fend of predators or competing males and so on! this is the resources(money) the male uses to buy the "feelings" of a female.

with all things being equal(kind, caring, funny), how will a girl be "in" to you, when you spend, say an average of 1hr a day, while your competitor, with more money than you is able to spend 1/5 of the day?

do not make the mistake of defining money as per its monetary value alone (that is what the communists want, the ignorance they propagate, placing "feelings" above money), but rather define it as the medium that represents a man's ability within human society! the money you earn is the measure of your worth in society! and a woman who understands this fact, and "loves" you for your money, does so because she "loves" you for your ability to succeed in life, ensuring her survival as well as her children with you! no feeling can be more real or more significant!

In the end she wasn't able to change. The problem with her was 2 things: she was a playgirl, and she wanted to get rich at all costs. I didn't realize how materialistic she was until a few years after marriage.

May I ask, I get that she cheated because she was a playgirl, but what do you mean she wanted to get rich at all cost? Was she doing tricks? Or was she seducing and sleeping around with rich clients?