man63 Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 this is a guy-question. but girls are welcomed to contribute. being in love, but not having desires of the flesh, for the woman in your heart. Quote Link to comment
vincent_o3 Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 it is possible, if you really love the girl not for her looks or you want her in bed, you love her because she makes you happy every time you are with her. and if you really respect her, then it is possible. but lets face it we are men and we are tempted,but if she says no and you respect her you wont force it anymore. and i know a friend with a two year relationship they didnt do it, and the girl is still a virgin up to now. Quote Link to comment
p5yf3r Posted August 18, 2003 Share Posted August 18, 2003 hmmm, i can't think of any reason why you would not want to have sex for someone you are romantically involved with...for me, it is not just possible Quote Link to comment
man63 Posted August 20, 2003 Author Share Posted August 20, 2003 thanks for your posts, guys. love without sex is a state - sex is bound to come into the relationship - whether to enhance or destroy - is another matter. its just so common to have the reverse nowadays... that is - sex without love. Quote Link to comment
sinister Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 possible.... getting in love w/out getting a hard on... masarap yun.. parang corny at plastik s tenga pero masarap ma-inlab na walang ibang iniisip kundi lab lang hehehehehehe parang having an orgasm without touching ung sex cguro kapag gani2 enhancement nlang ng intimacy....to explore furthero dba exciting... ala joe the mango shake gandang hapon sa inyo sana hindi eto ang naging epekto ng bagyo Quote Link to comment
Guest templar Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 Of course it's possible! ..... and it's happening everyday .... maybe not in the same sense that people past 50 yrs view or experience it compared to the still sexually active, but it's definitely true ..... that's why we still see golden and silver wedding anniversaries being held all around .... tapos ang nakakatuwa pa e ang wedding march song nila ay "Beautiful Girl" (at least dun sa mga napanood ko!) Love in a pedestal - galing ng sub-title ..... to me it means loving someone only from a distance or at a distance because the intensity of loving her up close might consume you .... just like the sun, we admire its radiance and beauty from afar but never wish to come close to it.... yes, definitely this phrase describes best my feelings for her .... Quote Link to comment
go2hell Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 I think, sexuality is integral part of a relationship. the are 5 aspect of man 1. Spiritual2. Emotional 3. Sexual4. Social5. ( i forgot, parang Psychological ) cguro, the relationship can on emotional level lang, but as the relationship progress, it must and it will reach the point of sexual needs. Quote Link to comment
executive Posted August 20, 2003 Share Posted August 20, 2003 anything can happen Quote Link to comment
Goddessa Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 hmmm teka lang... Man63 the scenario is kinda vague...if ya mean loving someone without wanting her in a sexual way, then that's platonic love...the love you feel for your parents, siblings friends, relatives...for the elder people naman na who can no longer manage the sexual exertions, andun pa mandin 'yung pagka-turn on nila...the mind is the sexual organ that motivates the body...hindi ibig sabihin na dahil ala ng physical intimacy, ala ng libido... if ya mean passionate love, the kind of love you feel for a person that moves you in all aspects, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, then i think it is impossible to love this person without wanting her/him physically as well... the lack of physical contact between you two doesn't mean that the longing is not there...maybe, circumstances don't permit the act...he is unavailable/physically incapacitated/or she's/he's sumone that intimidates you stongly...in short, natotorpe tayo...but the wanting is still there...only it is not consummated...this kind of love can exist...and what torture it is...you love the other person with your spirit...you put her/him in a pedestal...this kind of love often lasts a very long time before it finally burns out...because there are a lot of repressed feelings involved, a lot of curiosity unsatisfied...a lot of questions unanswered...it would make ya want the person more, make you burn to have her/him more...and makes you love him/her more... but you can't...and this is like an addiction...that is very hard to fix... unless you fall out of love... :flower: Quote Link to comment
|cemaiden Posted August 21, 2003 Share Posted August 21, 2003 it is possible, if you really love the girl not for her looks or you want her in bed, you love her because she makes you happy every time you are with her. and if you really respect her, then it is possible. but lets face it we are men and we are tempted,but if she says no and you respect her you wont force it anymore. and i know a friend with a two year relationship they didnt do it, and the girl is still a virgin up to now. hmmmm..may friend akong ganyan....its all about respect naman talga eh...sila nga is 5 yrs na..but still virgin pa rin ung girl...they believe kasi sa sacrament of matrimony...waheheheh..bihira lang yan..pero un talga ang totoo eh.. Quote Link to comment
ziggyzag Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 i call it platonic love.. i keep the lady as a friend.. basta wag lang sya magpakitang nangigil sya sa akin.. kundi patusin ko sya.. kaya mas ok sa akin na i find the gurl physically/sexually attracted first, before i decide na love ko sya.. determining whether u love the gurl or not takes a long time kasi.. pero ang lust.. wow.. pag tumango tango na si pitoy.. yun na yun.. :evil: Quote Link to comment
contradictorybabe Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 well, love without passion is cake without icing...but there are no rules, really... it doesnt mean naman na just coz ur horny u have to rip her clothes off Quote Link to comment
chewie Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 there are times when you see a girl, in which lust takes over, "man i like her body" but then when in falling in love, you tend to see beyond the outer looks & reaching out the the person & getting to know her. it's like, you like the package, then you would want to find out what's inside it. falling in love with someone has no borders or bouderies. there are really no big reasons for but, but just because. sexual attraction is a given. but if it is the only reason for the "relationshp", then i suppose it's no worth getting into. ang babaw lang kung ganon. falling in love doesn't choose. you can say that may gusto ka sa isa, but you have developed feelings for another. oh well, please excuse my gibberish. Quote Link to comment
_eRon_ Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 in my case, i haven't experienced this..because when i fall in love with someone, i can't take my hands off her..i think its called "passion" not lust, i guess..maybe in the future, i can be lucky enough to feel this way, i think you can sort of call this a "clean" & "respectful" relationship, based on what you can call clean & respectful, right?.. Quote Link to comment
chelly Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 you know...somehow i could relate to this post...from a girl's point of view that is... you see...my bf seems to have less of an inclination to do the "nasty" with me...especially in places where doing the nasty seems to be on 24/7. don't get me wrong...we do make love...at least once a week but that's because i get all pouty if we don't. we started getting hot and heavy even before we became bf-gf...ganun katindi yung attraction namin...we we're like doing it 6-7 times in like 24 hours. we were so hungry for each other. pero alam ko naman that the love grew na lang between us because nga we didn't start off in the traditional way..and he just got out of a stiffling relationship with his now ex. now that he's really in love with me...he seems more reserved with me. he's refuses to take me to a motel kahit na raring to go ako. he could sleep beside me hugging me all night without getting it on with me. okay lang sana yun kaso ang problem eh...gusto ko! it sometimes get me frustrated...parang ang ingat ingat niya sa akin eh ako naman gusto ko na na bastusin na man niya ako in bed minsan...get's nyo? hehehehhehehe...wala lang exciting kasi yung medyo gugulatin na lang niya ako ng quickie. oh well...anyways...this dosn't just happen for platonic relationships...this happens even to those who are in love. ewan ko ba...may nangyayari atang transformation sa guys eh. if the guy takes the girl seriously enough to marry her...he holds a higher regard for her...and he would avoid anything that would tarnish that image. madonna-whore complex ata...duhhhhhhh.. paano na kung gusto ni madonna? huhuhuhuhuhuh... Quote Link to comment
raistlin Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 It's a possibility.. Falling in love with someone changes the whole concept of things.. A friend of mine they are in a relationship since high school till now and they are still together and much in love... Love is something difficult to explain that people would not just crave for flesh.. It's a whole lot different then what it seems.. With regards to consumating the marriage or the sexual experience, I believe they (who believe in love) would do the deed when they get married. Don't you think that despite the fact of physical attraction, people do find some other things in their partners that they care about or see that they feel passionate about. Couples who have remained with each other to reach either their silver or golden anniversary do love one another without having to crave flesh. A state of mind, or conversation may allow the person to love their respective partners.. Quote Link to comment
cedric_errol Posted July 5, 2004 Share Posted July 5, 2004 this is a guy-question. but girls are welcomed to contribute. being in love, but not having desires of the flesh, for the woman in your heart. it happened. Quote Link to comment
shark bite Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 it happens....but i gotta say it rarely happens. :evil: Quote Link to comment
chris_md Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 to each his own i guess. people express love differently. Quote Link to comment
cockie Posted July 6, 2004 Share Posted July 6, 2004 sex, although misused a lot, is the perfect physical expression of love. if you really are in love and aren't horny, well first ask what "horny" is. Quote Link to comment
mazinger Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 usually a person will have an instinct whether its true love or lust......being in love is one of the best feeling in the world while to be horny is temporary only........but sometimes love and horniness can be mixed up..........as long as both parties feel the same way then there's not problem of having an extra fun within the relationship....... Quote Link to comment
Chi-Chi Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 this is a guy-question. but girls are welcomed to contribute. being in love, but not having desires of the flesh, for the woman in your heart. Well there's no passion though.. I mean if you have feelings for someone the easiest way to show it is to kiss and hug her.. so. how can guys not get get horny with kissing and hugging when they can feel the girl's breasts? Quite impossible.. Quote Link to comment
ALLMight Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 Getting horny is just one of the many byproducts of the physical love you express with someone else. It is just a precursor for sex. Love can still thrive even without being horny. However, it is difficult to find that kind of love these days, but I believe it is still possible. Somewhere in this world, there is a boy loving a girl in its purest and most innocent sense. Quote Link to comment
darkpaladin Posted July 7, 2004 Share Posted July 7, 2004 Getting horny is just one of the many byproducts of the physical love you express with someone else. It is just a precursor for sex. Love can still thrive even without being horny. However, it is difficult to find that kind of love these days, but I believe it is still possible. I agree... because i belive that there is a fine line dividing love and lust... and yeah, it's really difficult to find TRUE love these days... but we know better right? Somewhere in this world, there is a boy loving a girl in its purest and most innocent sense.Naks! Gandang punch line ah! :cool: Quote Link to comment
Guest Insomnia Girl Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 Yikes! If I fell in love with someone and didn't feel horny for him then I think I'd be very sad. I'd consider it the worst thing to happen to me since my first pet dog died. Hehe. Quote Link to comment
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