Guest the_eight_of_orbs Posted April 8, 2005 Share Posted April 8, 2005 AMEN. It's futile. there's no such thing as a perfect speech to dump someone. just be honest and go straight to the point. don't let it drag on...it will only hurt the both of you. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Quote Link to comment
MTCBOSS Posted April 8, 2005 Share Posted April 8, 2005 if you wana dump girls or boys. :cry: dont do dialog or make a speech. coz in the end u cnt even be friends but nenemies... :evil: :evil: just tel wat u feel and be honest w ur self.... :hypocritesmiley: Quote Link to comment
cho_clitz888 Posted April 8, 2005 Share Posted April 8, 2005 true! dont make a speech! just talk to her and tell her honestly what u feel, and dont push the" lets just be friends " issue first, it might have time for that to happen if she had gotten over u laready.. but right after? she might not be ready for her to have u as a friend.. so give her ample time. Quote Link to comment
Expedia33 Posted April 9, 2005 Share Posted April 9, 2005 no sugar coating...tell it like it is... It's going to hurt...but that's just the way it is :evil: Quote Link to comment
cho_clitz888 Posted April 10, 2005 Share Posted April 10, 2005 there is NO perfect way for u to dump her.. It will hurt either way! Just tell her what u feel HONESTLY!dont PICK UP FIGHTS JUST BEC U DONT LOVE HER ANYMORE! COZ SHE WILL HATE FOR FOREVER! Quote Link to comment
best_X_girlfriend Posted April 10, 2005 Share Posted April 10, 2005 i agree with most of the guys here. THERE IS NO PERFECT SPEECH TO DUMP ANYONE. leaving them is enough to wound them, that's it Quote Link to comment
probpt Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 my GF asked for some space and right now cool-off kami. she still calls and asks how i am, she still calls me what she used to call me, ayaw nya pabago ang friendster namin, yung scrapbook namin wag ko daw aalisin sa auto ko. when i asked her if i should move on, sabi nya ako daw bahala yun nga lang "poor her" daw. pag tinatanong ko naman sa kanya kung pwede kami na lang, ayaw naman, wag daw ako makulit...when i asked her if she would still want to get married, sabi nya oo daw in the future. sabi nya she cant see herself with someone else and pag lumalabas sha and may nanghingi ng number nya, di daw nya binibigay. sabi nya sa sis ko na she needs time off lang daw, sakal daw kasi sha. eh hindi ko naman pinagbabawalan mashado e. ewan ko ba... ano sa tingin nyo? may pagasa pa kaya na maging kami ulit or wala na talaga? Quote Link to comment
missmanners Posted April 29, 2005 Share Posted April 29, 2005 she is unsure.. whether it's about you or the relationship or her own feelings, these doubts are obviously strong enough for her to ask for some space from you... in order for her to figure it out. there is no security in her words at this point. she might still want to get married to you eventually. but things can change tomorrow. you'll simply have to allow for that possibility. if you love her, let her be for now. if she really loves you and you still love her then, things will work out. and if they don't, i believe that in the long run, it will be for the best. your happiness might not lie on each other. and it's better to find that out now than twenty years down the line with four children and bills to worry about. good luck. Quote Link to comment
MTCBOSS Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 wen i girl or man say they need space it does not mean totally wala na kayo.... parang naguguluhan sya kung anu b talaga ang dapat.... i got this exp. also wen my gf told me this.... kala ko wala na kami.... :cry: yun pala she just want to make it clear to herself about wat is right... bro. wag k magalala things will get better....... :thumbsupsmiley: Quote Link to comment
probpt Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 hey guys thanks...nalinawagan ako dun... the past few days kasi sobrang down ako e. im really praying that it does work out for us...i guess you know naman the feeling when you've found the right person e. that's what i feel now...nakailang GF na din ako, ngayon lang ako naging sibrang sure sa isang tao. in the two years plus namin together, i never even thought or had the temptation to cheat on her, unlike in my past relationships. thanks ulit guys Quote Link to comment
TipsyBoi Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 space? hmmm try downloadin "men are from mars, women are from venus" it'll xplain to u, wut dat space means... k? Quote Link to comment
chelly Posted May 1, 2005 Share Posted May 1, 2005 well...clearly that girl doesn't know what she wants because she's asking for space but then wants you to just wait around for her. when a person asks for space...then that person needs time for themselves...without you around. In short they want to be free of you and the relationship to do whatever they want and what other single people do...so that means they can date, they can go with other people...they can even choose to fall in love with someone else. They want to be free. the bad thing about your sitch is that she wants to be free but she also wants you to be around just in case she cant find whatever the heck she;s looking for...bottom line...she's stringing you along. Is that what you want? what if she doesnt come back? what if she says...hey, thanks for waiting but i already found someone else to love...what would you then? dude...you also have a choice. dont ask her what to do...make choicesfor yourself too like she has. if she wants to go on a journey to find the answers to her questions then let her go...then you're also free to find the answers to your own questions...take a journey too...don't wait by the port for a ship that may never find its way back. if she comes back...and you're still free and you find that you still love her...then by all means...sail together again...but for now...take your own journey you'll never know what you might discover...it might even be better for all you know. Quote Link to comment
mariejoy Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 i think " i need space " means cool off for the meantime. she wants to weigh everything. i guess shes confused right now. have a heart to heart talk. Quote Link to comment
fashionmannequin Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 You see, it depends on the person.....Kapag ako ang sinabihan ng "I need space", pwedeng yun yung talagang reason. Like, the person is at a stage of confusion either with the relationship or with himself. For some, pwedeng "alibi" lang to get out of the relationship. Pero kung ako yun, why ask for a space pa, di ba?.... Kung ayaw ko na, I'll tell it straight!...Mas mabuting sa akin n'ya marinig at malaman yung totoong dahilan ko kesa mag-assume pa s'ya ng kung anu-ano..... :hypocritesmiley: Quote Link to comment
ihateyouandme Posted May 18, 2005 Share Posted May 18, 2005 hhhmm..this i need space thing...i believe the one posted by chelly is more likely to be what is going to happen when a guy or girl ask for space...They are looking for something else and they are stinging you along in case they didnt find what they are looking for....oh well why wait for a ship that might never find its way back home. Go for a journey also. Quote Link to comment
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