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How can a cheater stop cheating


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There are two sides to this cheating phenomenon: one is the cheater, and the other side is the partner of the cheater.

 

There are times, the partner of the cheater doesn't know that s/he is a no. 2, or, a 'side dish' of the cheater. If s/he doesn't know that the other side is cheating on his/her spouse or significant other, then, s/he may feign responsibility.

 

How about if s/he DOES know? Doesn't that make him/her a cheater as well? S/he may be free (single), but with a knowledge that his/her other half is cheating changes the rules of the game.

 

Many have already stated the principles. I don't think anyone in the game of cheating can deny they do not know what is right or wrong. Of course, they do, but the cheating has taken a better hold of them. There's always the thrill, the rush, the pleasure of trying out someone/something new and different, the escape from boredom or misery, etc.

 

There are people who outgrow cheating. There's an expression in Filipino which goes "pinagsawaan na rin niya ang pagkabinata niya," applies to men, of course. Somehow, one has to admit that in our culture, being a single male has its own share of exploring and experimenting, and gives one the license to a life of debauchery. Hence, getting hitched or married means "malagay na sa tahimik." (Kinda weird, if you ask me.)

 

But there are people who just don't outgrow cheating. And, there are countless reasons why men and women cheat.

 

How can a cheater stop? I guess it would really depend on his/her own determination and willingness, that is, if the individual finally decides to live the placid life -- translated: lumagay sa tahimik. Other than that, it's either the cheater may have some form of pathological/psychological deficiency, OR s/he just cannot control his/her libido.

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It is really hard to stop cheaters to cheat. Sabi nga "Once a cheater always a cheater." But there are ways how you can stop cheaters to cheat and for me these are some important points:

 

1. Let God be the center of your relationship. In that way, he/she will be enlightened by the words of God.

 

2. You need to communicate more often. Talking things openly can lead to more solutions than problems. The more you communicate, the more you know what he/she needs. This will understands you what causes him/her to cheat.

 

3. Forget the past. Stop him/her from seing, talking or in any means communicating with his/her past. Let him/her focus on the present and give him/her the chance to change.

 

4. Know you limitations. If you think after all you have done and still cheating is a normal habit for him/her, then you need to accept that not all things are meant to be.

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Yes. If you really love the person, you will put them above your needs. You would change on your own because you want to and not because you are being forced to. It would really be difficult at first. Temptations are everywhere. It's not a matter of not getting caught. It's a matter of showing respect and giving value to the trust that your partner has given you.

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