Titikim ka pa rin ba?

[*Jessie*]

I'd like to share this too:

 

http://www.peakhealt...ar-risk-in-men/

 

this is interesting. i couldn't help but notice this though - “sudden coital death” . ano yun? namatay sa sarap???

[*Jessie*]

I remember my officemate who told me this. "Sabi ng nanay ko, di bale nang manloko at mambabae. Basta ang mahalaga, wag ko mamahalin. Kasi may nagmamahal na sayo eh. Don ka pa rin uuwi. Katawan lang kung katawan pero wag ko uuwian".

 

Lol. Watchutink?

[silvervic]

I remember my officemate who told me this. "Sabi ng nanay ko, di bale nang manloko at mambabae. Basta ang mahalaga, wag ko mamahalin. Kasi may nagmamahal na sayo eh. Don ka pa rin uuwi. Katawan lang kung katawan pero wag ko uuwian".

 

Lol. Watchutink?

 

Hey there, yes, you didn't say that, I just felt like you two are implying me as such. But anyways, it's all good, I just need to get it out there. As far as what your office mate said, well, that's one way of looking at it. Parang salita ng dad ko sa mom ko nung nawitness ko away nila nuon, "Kahit anong mangyari, sa iyo pa din ako umuuwi." We interact with people kasi e, we need to be friendly in order to build our professional network and friends, hindi naman lahat ng tao e pinili maging ermitanyo or ermitanya na ikukulong lang ang mga sarili nila. Sure, may flirting na nagaganap from time to time, lalo na kung towards the opposite sex, pero kung alam naman ang limitations e atska alam mo sa puso mo na may tao ka nang minamahal at nagmamahal sa iyo, e kahit maghubad pa iyan, hindi mo papatusin--unless kung may nararamdaman ka sa kanya, e tutukain mo yang pagkain na nakahain... anjan na e. I think flirting is one way of being friendly din e, pero kung magiging intense na ang flirting, e ibang usapan na yan... para sa akin, trap na un.

 

Lemme put it this way: To me flirting is like fire; it can make you feel nice because it gives you warmth but it can burn and hurt you at the same time. Know your distance to the fire and you'll be fine.

[silvervic]

this is interesting. i couldn't help but notice this though - “sudden coital death” . ano yun? namatay sa sarap???

Naalala ko dito ung lumang biro ng dati kong boss, "SLN: Sa libog namatay"

[Droidz1979]

"The grass is alwaysgreener on the other side of the fence"

 

This is a natural tendency of people irregardless of gender. And it would usually depend on ones level of contentment, lifestyle, self esteem and what not. People simply make up excuses to justify ones actions but in reality, its really ones natural tendency to wish for a life that somebody is having or look at a certain time slice of another person and hope that one could live that life for eternity which usually never happens in the real world. I emphasized the gender part earlier because when I had a short stint in Abu Dhabi 5 years ago,adultery is rampant among our kababayan there (including the opposite sex)based on the fact that they have all the time in the world (after work), are lonely or seek companion, wants to experience something new, lives on packed coed houses/apartments and the fact that sex simply is gratifying or there's a probability of one. Personally, I think the reason that men are associated to being one is cultural since there seem to be an unwritten rule that you are"The MAN" if you still get to have some variety on the sides even if you are tied-up with someone else and yet a woman tend to be labelled as a slut if they open up about it and therefore tend to bottle it up and keep it a secret.

 

Now to answer the question, yes I've cheated on my previous relationships and I've paid the price of its consequence. But there have been points in my life where i was content with what I have or there simply were more pressing matters that requires ones energy to be focused to that the thought of its probable consequence is not worth pondering upon to begin with. Do I still do it now and will I continue to do it in the future? Well I won't be a hypocrite to say never, after all, I do still have my needs and being separated doesn't make it less convenient.

Edited November 22, 2013 by Droidz1979

[viral]

I want it frank, straight and honest. Para sa may asawa, planong mag asawa, open mag asawa, or may jowa.

 

No matter how happy you are with your partner, do you still see yourself getting involved with another person?

 

Why, why not?

 

I think usually people enter into a commitment - marriage, a serious relationship - with the resolve to be faithful.

 

There's a saying that "time heals all wounds." The tongue-in-cheek reverse is "time wounds all heels." Similarly, relationships can get wounded by infidelity, because times change and time brings on changes. People change, their needs and wants change. There are no excuses, but s@%t does happen.

 

Frankly, it can be easy to say, "Oh, I'm going to be this and that the rest of my life."

 

But wait until you've been in a relationship 10, 15, 20, 25 years. Then maybe we can compare notes.

 

I'm not saying that lifelong fidelity is not possible, because I've seen it at work. But on the other hand, no matter how strong one's resolve, it can break down, given a conducive combination of circumstances and conditions.

 

Peace.

Edited November 22, 2013 by viral

[FOXY]

Yes, i have a husband and i have had several flings and bfs. I want to experience a young guy in his 20s. Any goodlooking guy here in MTC in his 20s?

[filibustero]

Haha. And I'm actually hoping to meet a woman who will understand and say: "ok lang yan, basta sa akin sya umuuwi."

HI Fil, you seem to have shared your thoughts pretty well. As much as I'm certain that this stamement of yours shakes the hopes of our women a little (lol), I can't help but admire how much you know yourself and how you acknowledge your being human.

 

 

[_mademoiselle_]

Definitely not

[userxxx]

Yes, i have a husband and i have had several flings and bfs. I want to experience a young guy in his 20s. Any goodlooking guy here in MTC in his 20s?

 

Present

[*Jessie*]

"The grass is alwaysgreener on the other side of the fence"

 

This is a natural tendency of people irregardless of gender. And it would usually depend on ones level of contentment, lifestyle, self esteem and what not. People simply make up excuses to justify ones actions but in reality, its really ones natural tendency to wish for a life that somebody is having or look at a certain time slice of another person and hope that one could live that life for eternity which usually never happens in the real world. I emphasized the gender part earlier because when I had a short stint in Abu Dhabi 5 years ago,adultery is rampant among our kababayan there (including the opposite sex)based on the fact that they have all the time in the world (after work), are lonely or seek companion, wants to experience something new, lives on packed coed houses/apartments and the fact that sex simply is gratifying or there's a probability of one. Personally, I think the reason that men are associated to being one is cultural since there seem to be an unwritten rule that you are"The MAN" if you still get to have some variety on the sides even if you are tied-up with someone else and yet a woman tend to be labelled as a slut if they open up about it and therefore tend to bottle it up and keep it a secret.

 

Now to answer the question, yes I've cheated on my previous relationships and I've paid the price of its consequence. But there have been points in my life where i was content with what I have or there simply were more pressing matters that requires ones energy to be focused to that the thought of its probable consequence is not worth pondering upon to begin with. Do I still do it now and will I continue to do it in the future? Well I won't be a hypocrite to say never, after all, I do still have my needs and being separated doesn't make it less convenient.

 

 

I think it's human nature na hindi tayo marunong makuntento. At natural sa atin na ma-curious or magsawa or maumay. Best example ay yung palipat lipat nang trabaho only to move to another company with the same job but of almost the same payscale. Funny, we just really needed to breathe once in a while.

 

Pero alam mo, sa mga nag-aabroad, common ang ganyan. Sa tingin ko, nangyayari din yun sa mga naiiwan. What I meant is I've seen long distance relationships where the one abroad became closer to his/her partner. Siguro kasi dahil kanya kanya tayong ng reaction sa paglabas ng comfort zone ntin. Kaya ang tendency, mas nakikipacommunicate - skype, ym ym, viber, chaton, kakaotalk (lol) , bbm etc.

 

Well, nakakatuwang di ka nagsasalita ng tapos. Pero base sa statement mo, masasabi ko na at some point, open ka pa rin talaga sa thought na yun. Hindi ka naman nag-iisa.

[*Jessie*]

I think usually people enter into a commitment - marriage, a serious relationship - with the resolve to be faithful.

 

There's a saying that "time heals all wounds." The tongue-in-cheek reverse is "time wounds all heels." Similarly, relationships can get wounded by infidelity, because times change and time brings on changes. People change, their needs and wants change. There are no excuses, but s@%t does happen.

 

Frankly, it can be easy to say, "Oh, I'm going to be this and that the rest of my life."

 

But wait until you've been in a relationship 10, 15, 20, 25 years. Then maybe we can compare notes.

 

I'm not saying that lifelong fidelity is not possible, because I've seen it at work. But on the other hand, no matter how strong one's resolve, it can break down, given a conducive combination of circumstances and conditions.

 

Peace.

 

 

That's one of the reasons why I try to keep a journal. It makes me look back to who I was years back. Back in elementary and highschool, I could be the most hopeless romantic yet melancholic damsel in the planet. I put all my heart in those sterling spring notebook. all the poems, the lyrics of the songs and even came up with a poem out of my crushes' letters of their names. Come college, i still tried to keep a journal till i stopped. I must had been growing up by then. years after and i started working, i no longer keep a journal in notes. I started blogging but only for myself to read. time past and i came to see my journal again. i couldn't believe what i was saying. and it was so funny.

 

i agree that people change. gradually over time. while some changes to be tame and to have stronger will, others change and accept and embrace their being human. everything only happens in time. i feel your attempt to keep your feet on the ground. thank you for sharing.

Edited November 22, 2013 by *Jessie*

[*Jessie*]

Yes, i have a husband and i have had several flings and bfs. I want to experience a young guy in his 20s. Any goodlooking guy here in MTC in his 20s?

 

feel free to look around. i don't even think you have to look.

[*Jessie*]

Definitely not

 

good to know.

although konti lang ang ganitong sagot. haha!

[*Jessie*]

Haha. And I'm actually hoping to meet a woman who will understand and say: "ok lang yan, basta sa akin sya umuuwi."

 

 

If there's someone who will explicitly tell you that, she might be for keeps or she might give me the creeps.