Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[MinsanLang]

On 11/12/2021 at 4:16 PM, Janine of Beppu said:

Thank you ❤️

Sa lahat ng GM's Dyan di lahat ng thera Pera lang habol sa Inyo may mga thera din Po like me na kaya iwan lahat para sainyo na kaya mag Bago. -sheena 

 

 

Di masama magmahal! Basta isa lang :D

[Cartof]

Not my story, but a friend's who was also a GM here. I think it should be safe to post because he no longer visits MTC. And even then, at some point this post should get buried far enough that he won't find it anymore if he does come back.

So he fell in love with a thera. Not sure if the feelings were reciprocated, but I'd like to believe so for his sake. However, there was never any labels between them as far as I'm aware. I asked him why he never tried to cement the relationship with labels, and he said that she had a GM who became her ex before and things got really messy for her, so he relented in order to not cause her trouble.

My friend would go the spa at 7 or 8 in the mornings and stay til past noon. He told me that at some point, they barely had sex anymore. Just breakfast/lunch, kissing, cuddling, and kwento. He would pay the entrance once, was never asked for fees to extend. He had to insist that the thera take his money to make sure she was earning and could go through with her plan on leaving the spa industry to continue her studies, but there were times she absolutely declined. Here, I'm making the assumption that the thera was using the money she took to pay for the time extensions every now and then, but I'll never know for sure. At the very least, he's told me that he was friendly with the other theras at the spas even if he never got them before. So they might have been cutting them some slack. Who knows?

What I am sure of is that she did things for him that she doesn't do for other GMs. I should know, I got her a bunch of times before I found out that my buddy held a flame for her. He knows and was really bummed out to find out that a friend had been with her, but found comfort in finding out that she at least treated him differently. She had a lot of restrictions, and despite my persistence, she never did those things with me (ie. kissing, bjs, meeting outside, etc.). FRs were also consistent with other GMs saying that she has a lot of restrictions that they respect - but all of those restrictions didn't seem to apply to him.

Honestly, wanted to tell him that love between a thera and GM was going to be hard considering their history, but I had never seen him so driven before. He worked on himself and focused on his job, because he wanted to be able to support her if she decided to leave the industry. This was because she was also supporting a basketball team's starting lineup worth of siblings. He told me he almost developed feelings for other theras before, but supporting their families deterred him from pursuing them, but not for this one. He basically doubled his salary and halved his workload in two years. I've known this guy for over a decade. Roughly 6 years ago he tried to kill himself and was basically a broken shell of a man. At the point of being with this thera, you'd never guess he was the same guy.

He wanted to help her out, but she would decline financial assistance. Back then he was looking and crowdsourcing for scholarships, ways to turn work experience into academic credits for degrees or certificates courses, or job opportunities for someone without a college degree but would provide assistance for those that want to pursue one. Basically, he was looking for ways she could improve her life by her own effort once she stops working in spas - and not only for her, I think. If I remember it right he was also looking for opportunities for her siblings. There was no established plan, but he had looked for options to lay out for her to choose. At that point, raids started becoming a common occurrence and he kept telling her to go home early to avoid them. She got lucky once because she agreed to go home early one day, and the spa she reported to got raided that night.

At some point, he was really pushing for her to quit the industry for her safety, but she didn't want to talk about these things because she still needed to work, so she moved to a different spa. Unfortunately for her, she got caught up in one of the raids later on. The experience traumatized her and she wanted nothing to do with the spa industry anymore, which included my friend. He begged her to give him a chance, but he told me that she said that she wanted to forget everything about this past of hers.

I tried contacting her via her MTC accounts and thera Viber, but I was left on seen. She at least still responded to my friend when he messaged her on her main number. He doesn't have her socials because he was respecting the GM-thera boundary he laid out before. Which was kind of dumb for him to do if he really wanted to pursue this girl.

Last thing my friend found out is that she continued her studies, no longer lives in her old apartment since she went back to her province, and got a boyfriend through Tinder. He's happy to know she was doing better but the last bit of info basically destroyed him and now he is a husk of his former self.

Honestly think that my friend dodged a bullet there. Theras can be lovable people, but they come with a lot of baggage and if a GM falls for one, he has to be prepared for a whole lot of pain to be with her. For this particular thera though, I wonder if she just missed out on a guy that really truly loved her despite her past and flaws, and worked hard to be a better man for her, because I can't help but think that her current boyfriend has no idea what she did for a living prior to them becoming an item. Will this be something that she'll hide for the rest of her life? Why do that when you already have someone who accepts you, warts and all?

I just don't understand these two making it harder for themselves. But that's the story. Just thought to post it now because my friend and I were part of the entourage at a wedding recently, and he got drunk (he doesn't drink) and told me this story again being the only friend he knows who is also an MTC GM. Sad shit seeing him like that.

Edited November 18, 2021 by Cartof

[Chiananicole]

 

Para sakin kung ikaw therapist servicese nalang muna at future at family, kung ikaw clients pay money servicese nalang muna wgna mgpa asa na mahal musya kung complicated or my family at laluna kung wala pa na pundar sa isat isa, dahil ang isang relationship pg ito pasukin mo kailangan handa kana para hindi kayo mahirapan sa isat isa. Mahirap yung uunahin ang feelings at Love din walang makakain ,wala pera walang work maayus at hindi nakapgpundar sa isat isa ang babae babalik parin yn sa spa para kumita ng pera para sa araw araw gastusin sa family, kung ito hindi nyo napaghandaan ang kinabukasan sa isat isa para sa family.

good reason about clients and therah..

Edited November 19, 2021 by Chiananicole

[rabbit1]

Here's some guide questions for you before considering falling inlove with your therapist.

Work

• Does she want to stop or does she want to keep working?
• If she keeps working have you two talked about the difference between work and private life? Do you understand this? Are you okay with this?
• If youre not okay with this, are you willing to keep working on it until you are? How is the communication between you?
• If she stops working and you are the only income, you will you both deal with that? How will you stop money problems from coming between you? Will you resent her for not working because it puts more pressure on you?

Family

• Do you plan to tell your parents? Do you want to keep it a secret? Are you willing to let her decide what is or isn’t shared? How does she feel if you don’t want to tell you family?
• What if your family disowns you? Will you resent her? Will you stand by her?
• Do you both want the same things in life like children?
• What if your friends make fun of her or disown you? What if they speak bad of you? Will you stand up for her or just play it down?

Relationship

• How well do you both communicate?
• Will age be a problem in having children later if you want them?
• Do you want a relationship for now or is this the woman you plan to marry?
• What does she know about you? What do you know about her?

 

If you have a good relationship you may want to discuss these things and work it out together. This a start to help you both work out what you want from the relationship.

[Harding]

On 11/12/2021 at 12:27 PM, Psari19 said:

Simula nung paiba iba na inaavail ko di na ko naiinlove basta sa iisang thera. Siguro baka mainlove ako pag gusto ng thera na lumabas kasama ako na walang bayad.

may ganyan na thera tumatanggi sa bayad kapag gusto ang gm. parang nainsulto oa

[AD3]

On 11/12/2021 at 6:10 PM, Retirong Manyakis said:

agree.. hanap ka nalang bago, theyll always be someone younger and fresher and better looking..

Ganyan naman usually ang plan...but biglan meron kang nakuhang thera na super click kau...b4 u know it, pabalik balik kna sa same thera...until eventually u fall...Lol

[Richang]

I was eyeing a thera before, but sked cant seem to match. I tried the next thera i like.  Afyer that 1st session, i always find myself always going back to her even  if the original thera that i like was available. Then napapansin kong dumadalas n than usual ang pagbisita ko. We also chat paminsan minsan.  Minsan hinahatid ko sa house. Parang tingin ko iba n yung nararamdaman ko.

Nag try ako n hindi n muna bumalik s spa for 4 months. Medyo nakalimutan ko n ying feelings. Then i got her services again. Ok nman n ko. Tried different theras na din. Yun din sabi nya sa skin, try daw ako ng iba nman. So i did.  But after 3 theras, bumslik ako ulit s kanya. Kala ko ok n ko. Pero after that 1 session, parang bumalik ulit lahat.  Tapos ayoko n basahin mga frs sa kanya. Para n kong nagseselos.

Just sharig this story. Currently trying to get rid of the feelings  even if i get her services still. 

[Harding]

21 hours ago, AD3 said:

Ganyan naman usually ang plan...but biglan meron kang nakuhang thera na super click kau...b4 u know it, pabalik balik kna sa same thera...until eventually u fall...Lol

as long as you know your set boundaries and limitations, you will not go astray

[esgiyera]

Sheena miss na kita. Balik ka na. Hehe.

[MusikLover]

Difficult

kahit tanggap mo

cant leave her own world due to situation specially financial. 

[Simpler]

If you fall for the thera accept her,pero if you can't take na may kahati ka make an effort to help her para magbago,hindi ung pagbabawalan mo sya mag trabaho kung alam mo yun  ang source nya pero wala ka nman ambag para sa kabuhayan nya.

[Chou2021]

Pwede yan basta wala ka pa sabit at single ka at open minded at marami pera at self confident at willing lumayo (migration perhaps) at marami pang iba. Naku, wag nalang kaya. 

[Daime2k]

On 11/12/2021 at 9:34 AM, Janine of Beppu said:

Nainlove Ako sa gm ko lang noon Hanggang ngayon kame pa din Naman kaso nag dadoubt na Ako sobra kase feel ko anytime mag hahanap sya ng iba behind my back kase sa spa lang nya ko nakilala. Willing Naman Ako di na bumalik ng spa for him. Kaso lately nag kaka problema Ako kase feel ko sinusubukan nya Ako..mas okay sana kung Ganon lang kase kahit subukan nya ko wala Naman sya makikita sakin dahil Wala na ko connection sa mga clients ko at etong acc na to sa friend ko ginamit ko pang stalk sa ginawang acc ng bf ko. Sad lang kase nag hahanap sya ng therapist nung kinompronta ko na sya if sya ba yon Hindi daw sya. Kahit napaka daming evidence na sya yon. Ang lungkot lang kase Ako binitawan ko spa for him..🥺🥺🥺 - sheena 

Sad to know.  may mga ibang theras kc na wiling bitawan lahat for the sake of love kaso minsan ung gm d cya kaya panindigan

 

[Kulamboo]

Dapat madami ka pera pag nainlove ka sa thera at willing ka suportahan siya sa mga pangangailangan nya hindi lng init ng katawan.

[rednapula]

Was backreading this thread and I was intrigued sa mga stories. I guess it can really happen.

Nature ng tao magmahal, minsan di mo napansin nahulog ka na pala. 

Oh well.