Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[koraptor]

very perceptive amigo. from my experience hindi exclusive yong either 1, 2, 3, or 4...depende sa sitwasyon...sometimes, if i may add a #5, "the guy gets horribly guilty (me partner) or deathly afraid (ng-unprotected sex), swears not to indulge in the deed again, but repeats it anyway...

 

regarding sa possibility na mainlove sa sex providers? it could happen, they are people after all possessing beauty and charm consciously highlighted to get the desired effect. nasa sa tin na how we handle it...

 

 

 

i have had my share of adventures and misadventures mostly in the KTV world...i don't mean na ilaglag ang species namin (the male clubbers) but here is what really goes down...lahat ng nagpupunta sa KTV or MPA or kumukuha ng PSP ay MANYAK...parepareho lang yan...some are just smoother and more subtle than the others...this is why i always laugh my ass off whenever someone tells me that they go to KTVs because of the fun company of friends... ...tamaan na ang tamaan pero ang tumanggi ay HIPOCRITO...

 

now the way i see it, when you avail of extra service (whether free of with budget), these are four most common outcomes...

 

1. The guy doesn't enjoy himself and decides to never avail of the services again.

2. The guy is sufficiently satisfied yet still decides to get another service (tikim -tikim

lang kumbaga).

3, The guy enjoys himself and wants to keep things on a professional level. Get the lady

again and give budget everytime. Make her his regular.

4. The guy enjoys and uses his charms to make the girl vulnerable, fall in love with him,

and get freebies.

[soloflight]

im not against any man who falls in love with a mpa,psp,gro or thera, its his prerogative. what happens between the two persons is the subject of debate.

 

heres my two cents worth.

 

i think of two things why this kind of relationship doesnt usually work out, one is the line of work, the girl is so much exposed to temptation and meets many different guys. second, jealousy on the guys part will always creep in.

[jgc813]

I guess there is a general consensus about most of the posters here. What is being presented is "the rule," or to be more politically correct, what is the situation "in general." While it may be true there are exceptions, they do not make up "the rule," or what comprises "the majority."

 

So, if one intends to pursue a GRO, PSP, or MPA, he has to realize he is in a situation whereby...

 

 

(1) Women in this industry are generally in it for financial reasons. It's a profession, hence, they need cash. They may genuinely fall in love with a guy, nevertheless, they will always need money for one reason or another;

 

(2) As mentioned by soloflight and other individuals, they are in a situation whereby they are exposed to other guys. Let's face it -- flirting and hobnobbing are part of their work, not to mention, sex. On the psychological side, it is a big possibility that any girl may fall in love with not just a single individual, OR, may have to choose between a couple of guys as to who may give her the "total satisfaction package," part of which, is her financial need.

 

I guess, most of the gents here have said it right. Better not venture into falling in love with any of the damsels in this industry. Keep things casual, or professional, trabaho lang walang personalan eka nga.

 

There's nothing wrong falling in love with any of the ladies. Likewise, there's really nothing wrong in intentionally getting serious with any of them. Just be ready for any of the consequences that have already been mentioned. It's also best to have an "exit plan," as many have also pointed out.

 

If, by chance, you end up with "an exception" to "the rule," or to the majority, lucky you.

[SANTANDER]

better to treat them as your friends nalang...wag padadala sa akit at ganda nila...karamihan pa naman satin mga lalaki makita lang na maganda in-love na agad...huwag ganun...trabaho lang...well for some alam ko sasabihin nyo na "TAO LANG" but still you need to control yourself...kung di talaga mapipigilan ma-inlove umiwas kana...humanap kanalang ng panget bwahahahaaaaa!

basta huwag nyong seseryosohin mga MPA,PSP,GRO etc...baka sa huli kayo rin masasaktan...most of them will tell stories of their miserable life...take note,NOT ALL OF THEM ARE TELLING YOU THE TRUTH....hindi ko nilalahat...well some stories maybe true but mostly HINDI NA TOTOO...gumagawa nalang sila ng kwento para kaawaan nyo sila...ang dami konang narinig na story ng life nila halos pare-pareho lang ang kwento nila medyo naiba lang ng konti sa setting ng story hehehe! be wise...huwag padadala sa lambing or sweetness nila...baka pag uwi mo magulat kanalang sa pitaka mo SIMOT NA hahaha!

bibihira sa mga babaeng ganito ang magseryoso sa lalaki...you'll never know...karamihan pa naman ng mga babae ngayun na MAGANDA eh MASAMA UGALI....naku! hindi porke maganda na ang isang babae maganda narin ang ugali! karamihan sa mga magaganda PANGIT ANG MOTIBO...kaya kung may maispatan kayung maganda laspagin nyo nalang hanggang sa magsawa kayu hehehe! tapos hanap ulit ng iba...

[jgc813]

better to treat them as your friends nalang...wag padadala sa akit at ganda nila...karamihan pa naman satin mga lalaki makita lang na maganda in-love na agad...huwag ganun...trabaho lang...well for some alam ko sasabihin nyo na "TAO LANG" but still you need to control yourself...kung di talaga mapipigilan ma-inlove umiwas kana...humanap kanalang ng panget bwahahahaaaaa!

basta huwag nyong seseryosohin mga MPA,PSP,GRO etc...baka sa huli kayo rin masasaktan...most of them will tell stories of their miserable life...take note,NOT ALL OF THEM ARE TELLING YOU THE TRUTH....hindi ko nilalahat...well some stories maybe true but mostly HINDI NA TOTOO...gumagawa nalang sila ng kwento para kaawaan nyo sila...ang dami konang narinig na story ng life nila halos pare-pareho lang ang kwento nila medyo naiba lang ng konti sa setting ng story hehehe! be wise...huwag padadala sa lambing or sweetness nila...baka pag uwi mo magulat kanalang sa pitaka mo SIMOT NA hahaha!

bibihira sa mga babaeng ganito ang magseryoso sa lalaki...you'll never know...karamihan pa naman ng mga babae ngayun na MAGANDA eh MASAMA UGALI....naku! hindi porke maganda na ang isang babae maganda narin ang ugali! karamihan sa mga magaganda PANGIT ANG MOTIBO...kaya kung may maispatan kayung maganda laspagin nyo nalang hanggang sa magsawa kayu hehehe! tapos hanap ulit ng iba...

 

May idadagdag lang sana ako sa comment mong nakasalungguhit. I am referring more sa mga GROs.

 

Kadalasan, mukha lang sila maganda at kaakit-akit KASI nakamake-up sila, at sa loob ng club, madalim at ang mga ilaw kumikuti-kutitap.

 

Kung gusto mong malaman ang original nilang itsura, makipagmeet ka sa kanila during the day sa labas ng club na wala sila masyadong make-up, o wala talagang make-up. Kung minsan, nakakagulat kasi ibang-iba ang itsura nila!

 

 

 

[StoicVampire]

i think of two things why this kind of relationship doesnt usually work out, one is the line of work, the girl is so much exposed to temptation and meets many different guys. second, jealousy on the guys part will always creep in.

 

I agree with you bro. Especially if the girl is still young, temptation is always there. If you're a jealous type of lover, never venture out in this kind of relationship. You have to understand that its their job to meet and flirt with different guys. There's nothing wrong if you fall in love with them cause I myself experienced it before and let me tell you it'll be very hard. You have to sacrifice your pride, ego, and money. Sabi nga "romance should be a glimpse of heaven, but if it feels like hell, what's the point of continuing it?" You can and you may let your "angel" go anytime. Minsan na tayong nagpakatanga, wag naman po tayong magpakabobo. Cheers!

[ZariHemi]

Think with your mind not with your heart if your unsure why bother think of this as a simple thing why bet the one that you already have for the sake of that, what if you lose? then you already lost the things that you've got.its better to be alone when you still got a family to lean on rather than have a one but you did put your self in a box. Think well include some prayers to enlighten you it actually works just my 2 cents.

[orionquest]

tibayan ang dibdib pag na in love sa mpa,psp,gro at thera. sasakit ang ulo mo at siguradong palaging may problema.

[tazz611]

Who ever said it's wrong to fall in love with a person who works in this industry is right. Sa experience ko sa ganito it's really hard. Maski hindi ka seloso it will still get to you.I dated one for a year and 6 month nun nag live in pa kami.Doon ko nakita gano kahirap pala sa situation na ganito.It's better just to have fun but don't get too attached to them

[vulcanboy]

Who ever said it's wrong to fall in love with a person who works in this industry is right. Sa experience ko sa ganito it's really hard. Maski hindi ka seloso it will still get to you.I dated one for a year and 6 month nun nag live in pa kami.Doon ko nakita gano kahirap pala sa situation na ganito.It's better just to have fun but don't get too attached to them

 

Bro, sa akin lang naman ay ganito.

 

Who are we to say if it's right or wrong to fall in love with these ladies? These ladies definitely have something that is very appealing to us that's why we come back. If none, why even bother, di ba?

 

However, having stated that, it is a rather difficult relationship to maintain.

 

This is why if you are willing to accept her past then get her out of there and start anew.

 

I met ladies who are there but not of their own choice.

I met ladies who dream that someday they can get out of the trade.

I met ladies who also truly fell for their guests/clients.

These maybe few or even rare but they do exist somewhere.

If you really think that you have the "ONE" and you are ready for the consequences ... then again, it's upto you. First step is to get her out!

 

[mrbigtime]

An update on my last post dated 26th of April. I've totally rid myself of of my ex-PSP gf (now ex-gf).

Broke up with her 2 days ago over some petty reasons. One reason of course pertains

to money matters. Whats funny is that, that same night, I dropped by my ex-gf GRO/dancer's club.

Got her and requested f'or the VIP. Inside the room, I immediately caress her, grabbed what

should be grabbed, kiss, fondled, and basically ended up having sex or more apt, making love with her.

I was dumbfounded for what transpired & to think that no exchange of money ever took place, except of

course for the VIP charge. When I was about to leave, I saw what I thought were genuine tears from her.

She even tried to hide her face so I wouldnt see her cry. Damn I felt so sorry for what happened. I still have

some feelings for her really, but the situation now is quite complicated. Anyway we have opened up

communication again. But nothing definite yet...

[segasaturn08]

This happened to me. our relationship lasted for months. but i had to break everything apart for personal reasons... We had the right love at the wrong time.

just respect the ladies. know more about them. hindi sila gamit. , i did not expect this would happen, but i had no regrets on everything..

[pamboys09]

why not be inlove to them ?, babae parin sila, and tao parin sila tulad natin...

hindi nyo masasabi agad...

[Ramramboy]

I had a gf from a an MP. She was really nice, di mukhang pera and really tried to make the relationship work. She would take a leave from work just to be with me and I really appreciated that. However after a few months, I decided to call it quits. The reason, I was not feeling secured with the relationship because even if she tells me that having sex with clients is purely work, it still feels really different have a "normal" gf. I still have feelings for her, but it's really hard getting into a relationship with someone in this line of work.

[jgc813]

I can see by now there are different issues brewing in this thread. I'd like to deal with two that, for me, may be connected but can also be differentiated from each.

 

There's a difference being "in love" and being "in a relationship."

 

Getting "in love" is something natural, and I must say, wonderful. There's really nothing wrong with that. Again, one can remain in such a state WITHOUT going any further, and one can also choose to take it deeper by going "into a relationship." Definitely, that's something more serious.

 

Sometimes, I really wonder what we consider as "being in a relationship." For me, it's something that implies exclusivity. When you're in a relationship, it's you and her, and no one else. If there is a third party, that means being unfaithful.

 

But getting in a relationship is not suppose to be a permanent state. It entails the possibility of moving further, i.e., planning for permanency or marriage. Somehow, it's kinda strange maintaining a relationship when one knows it cannot go beyond that. Either you remain as FUBUs, or one of you, or both of you, is a/are KABIT(S). If both of you decide to just remain in the state of "having a relationship," you could end up as live-in partners with no legality existing between you, and you can call quits to your relationship anytime.

 

I'd like to point out one other factor that we gents have to consider if and when we do decide to get into a relationship with any of the gals mentioned here. It may not be important to some, but I think, we cannot also let go of this.

 

We have to consider WHAT OTHERS (especially family, relatives, and friends) WILL SAY.

 

Yeah, sure, some will point out that "it's none of their business." That's fine if you live with that. But in this country, it definitely has bearing on us and we can never dissociate ourselves from family, relative and friends.

 

I have a close friend who ended up marrying a GRO from abroad. They are ok, and as far as I know, they seem to be happy as a family. They have 3 children, all half siblings. The guy has a child from his former wife (they had their marriage annulled), his present wife has a child from someone else, and the two of them have one child.

 

Of course, they are the talk of their families. Good for them they are both residing in another country away from all intrigues.

Edited May 27, 2011 by jgc813