Raising Children

[Itto Ogami]

Train up a child in the way he should go,

And when he is old he will not depart from it.

-Proverbs 22:6

 

just came from Sunday mass.

my son isn't too enthusiastic about this ritual, though.

i don't think i can force God on him.

that's something he has to discover for himself.

scaring kids that God will get angry

if they don't do this or that doesn't work for me.

 

would appreciate your parenting tips.

tia!

[jcdel]

Bro...I suggest you start on where the child came from and be thankful that the child exist.

Church is the house of prayer..not a house of asking so many things...

Try to thank GOD once in a while. Not just going to Church to ask for more.

Pray to thank GOD that you live another day, that there is food on the table and you don't have a problem what you are to eat tom and where you gonna get it.

 

The reason why its not been appreciated because we have not lost HIM.

But try to loose something you love or love one, then pity & look for GOD?

 

Think those who are less fortunate, whom food has been scarce on their day to day living.

 

Then and only then you will appreciate HIM since you are not the person who is outside the window of your car begging.

 

Hope it helps BRO.

[Itto Ogami]

Bro...I suggest you start on where the child came from and be thankful that the child exist.

Church is the house of prayer..not a house of asking so many things...

Try to thank GOD once in a while. Not just going to Church to ask for more.

Pray to thank GOD that you live another day, that there is food on the table and you don't have a problem what you are to eat tom and where you gonna get it.

 

The reason why its not been appreciated because we have not lost HIM.

But try to loose something you love or love one, then pity & look for GOD?

 

Think those who are less fortunate, whom food has been scarce on their day to day living.

 

Then and only then you will appreciate HIM since you are not the person who is outside the window of your car begging.

 

Hope it helps BRO.

 

thanks for the reply, saer.

i find most of it OT, though.

 

i started this thread for parents

to share their insights on raising children.

 

i'm very thankful to God for all

the blessings He has given me.

i wish my son would be just as thankful.

 

peace...

[dOoOm]

how old is your son?

[dOoOm]

- your son needs guidance in order for him to know God, that's why parents are there to lead the way, to guide them...

- you can't force God on your kid, but God made a way... you're there and the reason why He gave your son to you its because He trusted you and wants you to be His instrument for your son to know about Him.

- you can bring your son in a Bible Study (for kids) or they have this Kids for Christ (i dunno if that's the right name), he will have fun cause they have games and story telling and foods...

- If you attended the normal mass (for older people) it would really bore him, cause he wouldn't understand what the priest is talking about... i guess there's this mass for children where he can see lots of kids and the sermon would be way different... i bet he'll enjoy it.

 

i hope this will help you...

[Itto Ogami]

- your son needs guidance in order for him to know God, that's why parents are there to lead the way, to guide them...

- you can't force God on your kid, but God made a way... you're there and the reason why He gave your son to you its because He trusted you and wants you to be His instrument for your son to know about Him.

- you can bring your son in a Bible Study (for kids) or they have this Kids for Christ (i dunno if that's the right name), he will have fun cause they have games and story telling and foods...

- If you attended the normal mass (for older people) it would really bore him, cause he wouldn't understand what the priest is talking about... i guess there's this mass for children where he can see lots of kids and the sermon would be way different... i bet he'll enjoy it.

 

i hope this will help you...

 

thanks, saer.

i find this more helpful.

my son's 13.

 

the best way for me to let him

know about God is by example.

 

i'm far from perfect,

but i'd like to believe

my heart is in the right place.

Edited May 21, 2010 by IttoOgami

[Itto Ogami]

NEVER FIGHT IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN.

my parents did this, and it was

very traumatic for me.

 

when my wife and i have a misunderstanding,

we just don't talk while we let our heads

cool off.

[MRROUGHSEX]

I think it would be great if the kid can approach you and open up to you and I think that is made possible if you bond with him with his interests. So the question is what is he into? Or is there something like sports or hobby you want to share with him and get him interested?

[Itto Ogami]

I think it would be great if the kid can approach you and open up to you and I think that is made possible if you bond with him with his interests. So the question is what is he into? Or is there something like sports or hobby you want to share with him and get him interested?

 

thanks, saer.

 

i don't think i have communication problems

with my children. they're free to talk to me

regarding any topic under the sun.

 

he's into Naruto, i'm into aikido.

it's just not in my character to force

things on people. i want him to be

naturally curious on what i do, and then

get him involved in it.

[Itto Ogami]

IT'S GREAT TO SHOW AFFECTION

IN FRONT OF THE CHILDREN.

 

no torrid kissing, of course, but

HHWW, a kiss or a hug every now

and then shared between the parents

is a wonderful way of showing them

what love is all about.

[ganid]

Monkey see, monkey do

[Itto Ogami]

SHOUTING AT YOUR CHILDREN

ISN'T GOING TO GET YOU ANYWHERE.

 

even this one is tough on me, but i try.

once i shout, the child just gets scared,

and i'm not able to get my message across.

 

i sometimes get out & cool off first

before i talk to them.

[Seishi]

nice thread...

 

I don't have kids yet and I'm no expert in raising kids. But just to share on how my sister raises her kids, i remember her telling me this - as early as 5 years old, always treat your kids like adults.

 

Talk to them using words that they can really understand. Remind them over and over about the possible consequences of their actions. Not to scare them but to teach them what's right and wrong at such an early age.

 

Be expressive in showing affection. If you are (parent)troubled at something, sad perhaps because of their disobedience , let them know about it and the child would learn to understand and obey. Teaching empathy to kids is amazing.

[Itto Ogami]

The greatest gifts you can give your children are

the roots of responsibility and

the wings of independence.

 

-Dennis Waitley

[miyong76]

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