How Would U Know If He/she Is Cheating?

[Observer08]

Here are some signs that your boyfriend may be cheating on you.

 

1.) The Time Factor:

 

2.) The Fight Factor:

 

3.) The Affection Factor:

 

4.) The Guilt Factor:

 

5.) The Trust Factor:

 

6.) The Suspicious Factor:

 

7.) The Friend Factor:

 

Nice arguments HotSexyWitch, read through it and came out very enlightened.

 

Most of the signs are there but it is up to us to make something of it. People in love usually dismiss those signs as nothing or don't give it much thought until it's too late.

[dirigma]

How would u know if he/she is cheating?

 

This question is irelevant. If you can't trust your partner then i suggest you leave him/her.

makakatipid kayo ng sakit sa ulo....

[Seishi]

how would i know?

 

When one turns inconsistent.

[robsalvador]

how would i know?

 

When one turns inconsistent.

 

 

What if one is consistent despite..?

[Seishi]

^ hmmm well, either he's only after sexual gratification and not serious with the other woman or he's simply expert at hiding something

 

There will always be inconsistencies, no matter how small, especially when one finds a certain 'connection' from someone else.

[HAPONESA]

Walang ganang makipagusap

Lagi ka inaaway

Laging mainit ang ulo sayo

Walang time

Hinde na nag a i love you

Laging tinatago cellphone

Papapalit palit ng No. ng CP

Laging wala sa bahay

 

[robsalvador]

^ hmmm well, either he's only after sexual gratification and not serious with the other woman or he's simply expert at hiding something

 

There will always be inconsistencies, no matter how small, especially when one finds a certain 'connection' from someone else.

 

Touche'.. I guess if a partner is cheating, no amount of cleverness and cunning can cover all the bases. You are definitely correct that there will always be inconsistencies. But this will not be definite proof of infidelity.. It will sow the seeds of doubt at the least..

 

I have been inconsistent on very few occasions but not enough to set the tone for doubt.. At least not that I know of.. It is arguable that I may not know to what extent my spouse suspects of tomfoolery..

 

What I do rely on is the good relationship with my better half, my life partner. My priority as a husband, a lover and best friend is to that person. Whatever i have left for loving and giving attention to another person is secondary and that second (or third) person knows of it up front. This way nothing upsets the family/ marital set-up. For me extra-marital activities are merely that. Extra, addition, supplemental, icing on the cake, cherry on the float, etc..etc..

 

What about the second person? If that person accepts the situation then all is fine dandy. Keep an open relationship, keep an open mind. Nothing will be demanded because nothing was promised or made to be expected.

 

Why should such a second relationship exist then? Because we are people, sentient beings who act in ways we are not totally in control of. If two people like each other then that is the first step.. Where that can lead to is anybody's guess.. The worst we can do is make a mistake and move on, learn, try again.. But we may have lost the chance to be in something truly wonderful had we not given ourselves that chance..

 

My bottom line.. I will not upset the laws of nature. I will respect, love and never falter, never doubt. Most of all, I will be responsible for what I do. Own up to my actions and most of all.. Live and Love with all I've got..

[goemon06]

... My instinct never fails me.

[Seishi]

Touche'.. I guess if a partner is cheating, no amount of cleverness and cunning can cover all the bases. You are definitely correct that there will always be inconsistencies. But this will not be definite proof of infidelity.. It will sow the seeds of doubt at the least..

 

I have been inconsistent on very few occasions but not enough to set the tone for doubt.. At least not that I know of.. It is arguable that I may not know to what extent my spouse suspects of tomfoolery..

 

What I do rely on is the good relationship with my better half, my life partner. My priority as a husband, a lover and best friend is to that person. Whatever i have left for loving and giving attention to another person is secondary and that second (or third) person knows of it up front. This way nothing upsets the family/ marital set-up. For me extra-marital activities are merely that. Extra, addition, supplemental, icing on the cake, cherry on the float, etc..etc..

 

What about the second person? If that person accepts the situation then all is fine dandy. Keep an open relationship, keep an open mind. Nothing will be demanded because nothing was promised or made to be expected.

 

Why should such a second relationship exist then? Because we are people, sentient beings who act in ways we are not totally in control of. If two people like each other then that is the first step.. Where that can lead to is anybody's guess.. The worst we can do is make a mistake and move on, learn, try again.. But we may have lost the chance to be in something truly wonderful had we not given ourselves that chance..

 

My bottom line.. I will not upset the laws of nature. I will respect, love and never falter, never doubt. Most of all, I will be responsible for what I do. Own up to my actions and most of all.. Live and Love with all I've got..

 

 

well said... another post I love reading.

 

... and this is also my idea of living life to the fullest.

 

Extra marital activities are indeed just that --- supplemental. But feelings can also be sincere. The only thing is... it usually doesn't last. So just enjoy it, while you still can.

 

[wapacman]

You may never know. Smooth criminals don't get caught.

Spending all your energy trying to find evidence of infidelity will not do your relationship any good. Trust and not doubt can make relationships last.

[westell]

well said... another post I love reading.

 

... and this is also my idea of living life to the fullest.

 

Extra marital activities are indeed just that --- supplemental. But feelings can also be sincere. The only thing is... it usually doesn't last. So just enjoy it, while you still can.

 

 

I don't think it's supplemental. Moreso, an icing-on-the-cake. It's based on someone's systematic decision.

 

And infidelity does not always begin with attraction, but i think, of a reason.

[kitoy]

My gf and I have been together for 2 years already, we work at the same company. Before she was like super sweet and she wants to be with me every time, she would text always and she would call every hour. A few months back she got promoted and was assigned to another office, right now we are not working in the same building anymore and our schedule now is different(pang gabi ako at sya pang umaga na). When she got promoted and transferred, I noticed that she would not text or call me as often anymore. Given our schedule, we do not see each other as much as we did before(also sometimes kahit may time kami pareho, hindi pa rin kami nakakapagkita kasi minsan before we meet bigla na lang nya ko aawayin pero wala naman ako ginagawa masama tapos mauudlot na yung pagkita namin) . A lot of times I also noticed that after her shift she would text me to tell me that she will not go home yet because she has some errands to run.

 

Given the situation, minsan hindi ko napipigilan magisip kung bakit ganun na siya, minsan naiisip ko baka meron siyang iba. I tried to talk with her, I told her what I noticed about her, I asked her kung may problema ba sa amin. She told me wala naman daw siguro daw kaya ganun kasi magkaiba na kami ng building and pressured daw siya sa work ngyon. I'm not quite satisfied with her answer pero I just keep it inside na lang and I don't talk to her about it anymore.

 

Kaya ako nagpost dito kasi di talaga ako mapakali and I need some advice kung pano ko malalaman na kung meron nga siyang iba. This situation is killing me talaga. I don't know kung paranoid lang ako pero I get this feeling na may kakaiba talaga ngyayari eh.

 

Whew! Hope you guys can give me some advice.

 

Thanks.

[robsalvador]

My gf and I have been together for 2 years already, we work at the same company. Before she was like super sweet and she wants to be with me every time, she would text always and she would call every hour. A few months back she got promoted and was assigned to another office, right now we are not working in the same building anymore and our schedule now is different(pang gabi ako at sya pang umaga na). When she got promoted and transferred, I noticed that she would not text or call me as often anymore. Given our schedule, we do not see each other as much as we did before(also sometimes kahit may time kami pareho, hindi pa rin kami nakakapagkita kasi minsan before we meet bigla na lang nya ko aawayin pero wala naman ako ginagawa masama tapos mauudlot na yung pagkita namin) . A lot of times I also noticed that after her shift she would text me to tell me that she will not go home yet because she has some errands to run.

 

Given the situation, minsan hindi ko napipigilan magisip kung bakit ganun na siya, minsan naiisip ko baka meron siyang iba. I tried to talk with her, I told her what I noticed about her, I asked her kung may problema ba sa amin. She told me wala naman daw siguro daw kaya ganun kasi magkaiba na kami ng building and pressured daw siya sa work ngyon. I'm not quite satisfied with her answer pero I just keep it inside na lang and I don't talk to her about it anymore.

 

Kaya ako nagpost dito kasi di talaga ako mapakali and I need some advice kung pano ko malalaman na kung meron nga siyang iba. This situation is killing me talaga. I don't know kung paranoid lang ako pero I get this feeling na may kakaiba talaga ngyayari eh.

 

Whew! Hope you guys can give me some advice.

 

Thanks.

 

Not everything is evident.. First try and rule-out her relationship with her boss.. err.. promotion and relocation.. Ahem.. (Caution: Make sure this isn't a case of "I'm-insecure-because-my-GF-has-the-better-pay" syndrome..)

 

But seriously I don't think anyone can just give advice, much less a sound one based on the above alone..

 

I suggest you talk to a close mutual friend.. Even other friends close to her.. You may find your answers there..

 

The best you can do for yourself is just do your part in the relationship.. If she appreciates you, she should reciprocate.. If she doesn't and, you find your suspicions to be true, and I mean real or factual and not just mere conjecture, then that's the time you have to think of your next move..

 

Most importantly.. Communicate with her. If communication erodes, it usual means the end of a relationship. If on the other hand you can still really talk, the worst you can expect is a friendly break-up..

[westell]

My gf and I have been together for 2 years already, we work at the same company. Before she was like super sweet and she wants to be with me every time, she would text always and she would call every hour. A few months back she got promoted and was assigned to another office, right now we are not working in the same building anymore and our schedule now is different(pang gabi ako at sya pang umaga na). When she got promoted and transferred, I noticed that she would not text or call me as often anymore. Given our schedule, we do not see each other as much as we did before(also sometimes kahit may time kami pareho, hindi pa rin kami nakakapagkita kasi minsan before we meet bigla na lang nya ko aawayin pero wala naman ako ginagawa masama tapos mauudlot na yung pagkita namin) . A lot of times I also noticed that after her shift she would text me to tell me that she will not go home yet because she has some errands to run.

 

Given the situation, minsan hindi ko napipigilan magisip kung bakit ganun na siya, minsan naiisip ko baka meron siyang iba. I tried to talk with her, I told her what I noticed about her, I asked her kung may problema ba sa amin. She told me wala naman daw siguro daw kaya ganun kasi magkaiba na kami ng building and pressured daw siya sa work ngyon. I'm not quite satisfied with her answer pero I just keep it inside na lang and I don't talk to her about it anymore.

 

Kaya ako nagpost dito kasi di talaga ako mapakali and I need some advice kung pano ko malalaman na kung meron nga siyang iba. This situation is killing me talaga. I don't know kung paranoid lang ako pero I get this feeling na may kakaiba talaga ngyayari eh.

 

Whew! Hope you guys can give me some advice.

 

Thanks.

 

Paranoia is manifested fear. But fear can be overcome by acting on it. Intuitions are usually hit-and-miss. Unless you have proof that she's doing something behind your back, drastic measures can backfire.

 

Communicate with her. As I've said many times (and on the other thread), confrontations only lead to nowhere. Talk. Clarify things. Suspicions only damage the trust.

[silver_ff]

I don't think it's supplemental. Moreso, an icing-on-the-cake. It's based on someone's systematic decision.

 

And infidelity does not always begin with attraction, but i think, of a reason.

 

 

i disagree i think it begins with attraction..u are attracted to that person so evrything u see about her is right..therefore when u look at ur partner and dont see what u see on no. 2 that's when u start to reason out..u start to make excuses coz u wanted to succeed on no.2..that's when cheating starts to come in..