Would You Indulge In A Secret Love Affair?

[tagpi]

yes, and never get into something you cannot get out of. always.

[romyg]

Maybe I would, if it will make me really happy. It's difficult to be absolutely sure of anything nowadays.

 

I have a friend who seemed happily married. She and her husband has a daughter and they seem to have a perfect family. Her husband has a great job, she's a housewife, and their daughter is this lovely and smart little girl. But she shares that the passion in her marriage is waning. She says her husband no longer woos her, no longer takes her out on a date, and doesn't seem to show the same passion as before. When they go out, it's always as a family, and somehow she is expected to be "motherly". The problem is that she is the type of woman who wants the fire always burning. She says, there are times I want to feel like I am a woman-- not a mother but a woman. She says, I want to be treated the same way as when we were still dating. I want him to pay attention to everything I say, careful not to miss a word. But what's happening is awful, she confesses. We are this normal, boring family, and our marriage is turning out to be normal and boring, too. On the outside they really are a perfect family. But she and I know that inside she is dying. Then, as if to test her, an old flame comes to her life again. For months, the man is on a one-way street, wooing her and almost like courting her. But she wouldn't budge. She won't let him even hold her hands. But time passes and still her home situation doesn't change. She is still this beautiful but caged trophy wife to a successful and overly jealous husband. Then one day she decides to just give in. She tells me, my life is so short so be spent wishing that my husband would change. My resentment will just grow and God forbid, this marriage will end if it goes on like this. So now my friend, who is the least person you'd expect to cheat on her husband, meets her lover once in a while. They go out on dates, he treats her the way she wants to be treated. She says that this is the only way she can keep her sanity and her marriage--indulging in a secret love affair.

 

 

sad. the thing is, we men are not as intuitive as women, we really won't know what you exactly want if you wont tell us or give us a hint.... got me thinking, am i being like your friends husband. nice reminder for me...you have to excuse me now but i have to ask my wife for a date

[usptowshingtondc]

yes i am. . . . and i don't care if it is forbidden.... i dearly love her....

[peterforester]

Of course. But no commitments especially since we have our own separate commitments. The excitement is in the secret and the risks involved.

[vincent30]

y not?

 

y not?

[soloflight]

been there done that.

[sleekbabe]

been there and done.... twice!

[epsilon]

Of course. But no commitments especially since we have our own separate commitments. The excitement is in the secret and the risks involved.

 

On the SPOT

 

[secretleaf]

maybe yes? haven't done this yet

[pentax^27]

life is full of uncertainties, do it while you still can

[vulcanboy]

Heard somewhere, "Mabuti na ang lalaki ay may maraming babae kaysa isa lang. Pag kasi isa lang, kasama na ang puso."

 

You have alternatives - espa's, mp's, PSP's, flings and fubus.

Love affair... maybe you mean "LUST affair".

 

So "NO". If ever, it will not be a secret one.

Edited April 30, 2011 by vulcanboy

[boni]

Not for me. Too many people will get hurt.

[Narada]

love affair? probably not.

 

sex on the side, under the right circumstances (if i think i can get away w/it), why not.

[phookie22]

I watched this movie from Tyler Perry, title nya was Why did I get married. He had this 80/20 rule about marriage and relationships. According to him, we already get 80% out of a hundred of what we need from our current relationship but yet we feel incomplete. Then someone comes along and offers you only 20% of a hundred and since you think you're not getting that, you choose to have the 20%. The sad part is that in the end you realize you've lost more than what you bargained for, and it's too late to have that 80% back.

 

I'm not sure if I'm making my point clear here. What I'm trying to say is that I'm not willing to give up the trust that my husband and I have for each other and just throw it away for thrill. No judgement to those who've done it before. I mean I've done it in the past but right now, my relationship is much too precious to loose. I think I have found the love of my life, my soulmate and my best friend. He may not be perfect, neither am I. The good thing is we're both willing to work things out and keep the fire burning. We've been together for six years and counting, and the conversations are getting better in time just like wine.

 

Would I have an affair? I hope not, and I hope I have the same state of mind till the day temptation comes knockin' on my door.

[maches]

@boni-mabuhay ka!

 

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