complicated8 Posted December 18, 2010 Share Posted December 18, 2010 ^^i think because women mistake "good sex" for love. Presence is never to be taken likely. No matter how great the relationship is with your bf/gf, it can be taken over by someone who's just "there" at the right time. Quote Link to comment
maniaclara Posted December 18, 2010 Share Posted December 18, 2010 i agree. ive been there my friend. years ago i have a girlfriend who went abroad for work. she is sincere, honest and very loving. never expect that she broke up with me because of another guy she met while working there. imagine our 8-year relationship going strong relationship shattered because of that. all i know from my xgf they started with "flings"i hate to seem mean, or to contradict myself, but if their "fling relationship" grew into something more serious, then it's no longer a fling, right? to some degree, tama yung sinabi ni complicated8^. any relationship, no matter how seemingly great, can be taken over by someone who just happens to be there at the right time. but maybe, just maybe, both of them really fell for each other later on, even if it all started out as a fling. who's to say it didn't, except for the parties involved? i sympathize with you. i hope you've moved on. if not, then i can only tell you to look at the bright side - better you found out even after 8 years, instead of after 10, or longer, or when things have become irrevocable or complicated (like if you and the girl got married and had kids). sometimes the most hurtful things happen to us, so that much better things can happen next. peace. Quote Link to comment
friendly0603 Posted December 19, 2010 Share Posted December 19, 2010 i hate to seem mean, or to contradict myself, but if their "fling relationship" grew into something more serious, then it's no longer a fling, right? i sympathize with you. i hope you've moved on. if not, then i can only tell you to look at the bright side - better you found out even after 8 years, instead of after 10, or longer, or when things have become irrevocable or complicated (like if you and the girl got married and had kids). sometimes the most hurtful things happen to us, so that much better things can happen next. peace. He said it just started with a fling. Now it's no longer one since it became serious. 8 years would be tough to move on, unless they're relationship was already subsiding at the time. The last statement is wishful/hopeful thinking. We won't know until time tells us. Quote Link to comment
maniaclara Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 He said it just started with a fling. Now it's no longer one since it became serious. 8 years would be tough to move on, unless they're relationship was already subsiding at the time. The last statement is wishful/hopeful thinking. We won't know until time tells us.be that as it may, i still think better things are in store for people who experience any misfortune in life, whether from broken-up non-fling relationships or not. life is a vicious cycle of ups and downs, but if you keep dwelling on the hurt instead of the good that came out of it or that which is yet to come, then you'll just end up feeling like a victim all your life. good luck moving on then. Quote Link to comment
friendly0603 Posted December 20, 2010 Share Posted December 20, 2010 Nothing is certain in this life. Everyone needs time to heal. Just make sure you don't use other people to forget. Be sure that you are ready to move on and start a new relationship. If you are not ready yourself, more will get hurt. Quote Link to comment
Quinn Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 there is something sexually exhilirating sa fling relationship e. heheh. i have to admit. been into some. dont get me wrong, i love my gf in the truest sense. yun nga lang may ibang klaseng thrill lang talaga yung fling. one important thing lang. dapat both parties fully understand na its not permanent. short time lang. Quote Link to comment
opawgtnelis Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 there is something sexually exhilirating sa fling relationship e. heheh. i have to admit. been into some. dont get me wrong, i love my gf in the truest sense. yun nga lang may ibang klaseng thrill lang talaga yung fling. one important thing lang. dapat both parties fully understand na its not permanent. short time lang. Agree ako d2:D problem lng eh mahirap lng talaga pag ang babae nman ang nagkaroon ng fling:D iba ang dating. para kang binambo ka ng baseball bat:p hehe Quote Link to comment
j Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 think a fling should be a short term thing. once you start considering something longer then the status should change. weeks to months would be fine but a year might be too much.or we can apply what de niro said in "heat"... if you can leave in 15secs then it would be a fling. Quote Link to comment
Miss Zelda Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 No reason why we should dwell in such things because eventually people would expect and expect. Quote Link to comment
ICD10 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Hmmm... I have a gf pero I still engage in flings. Better if may ka-relasyon din na iba yung ka-fling ko. Like now, I have a fling that's some lawyer's gf. For me kasi, flings are fun and dangerous... I like the thrill of it, the hiding, the discreet dates, the fear of being caught etc... Sometimes iniisip ko din it's something like what serial killers feel. In the sense that serial killers somehow think that they'd be caught eventually but not too soon. Weird analogy Quote Link to comment
pepe8164 Posted January 24, 2011 Share Posted January 24, 2011 I dont believe that flings are justified but unfortunately I ended up in one years ago. We just started out as friends then ended up in bed. The problem is, its like a tiger who had its first taste of human flesh. Kahit na hindi natural maneater, the tiger develops a taste for human meat. Good thing Im not socially outgoing and guwapo, malayo sa tukso. Quote Link to comment
vulcanboy Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 No problem basta short term, no expectations, no commitments and above all - DISCREET. Quote Link to comment
ndn Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 No reason why we should dwell in such things because eventually people would expect and expect. I agree. Kung di mo din lang kayang maging serious then don't na. It's cruel to play with the emotions of other people. May mahuhulog at mahuhulog talaga whether you like it or not. For me ha,it's SERIOUS or NONE at all. Just my 2 cents Quote Link to comment
girl Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 Ayaw ko nang fling gusto ko direct! wala nang paliguyliguy pa! Quote Link to comment
cHinitababe86 Posted January 28, 2011 Share Posted January 28, 2011 not into flings. ang hirap kasi. kahit sa una, malinaw ang usapan na "fling" lang,unexpectedly, hindi na magiging fling. nagiging deep pa at times na hindi mo bastamapigilan. ang masama kasi, pag ganun na meron na nadevelop, tapos ung isa hindi naman tlgainterested, kawawa naman ung nahulog. yes, u DONT INTEND TO LET THAT PERSON FALL FOR YOU.pero dba, talking about surprises. may nangyayari beyond our control. if ur concernenough, wag mo nalang pasukin ang isang bagay na alam mong makakasakit ng iba,remember, if nakasakit ka, in other ways, bumabalik siya. at minsan, dumadatingun sa mga pagkakataon kung kelan seryoso kana. Quote Link to comment
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