Would You Go After Someone Who is Taken?

[coolmick99]

definitely NO! why waste your time going after someone who is taken? kung makukuha mo man sya sa tingin mo ba magiging masaya ka? madalas may kasamang panggugulo yan...

[Blackrules2323]

Yes, if its really worth the risk...

[jgc813]

When you are in a situation of meeting someone you really like, it's hard to synchronize yourself between your longing and your principles. You are in a constant debate whether "to do" or "not to do."

 

I have this female friend. We are close, but she always considered us to be plain and simple platonic even if outsiders think there's more to us than simply that. We could speak to each other hours on end, either personally, or through the phone. We can talk about almost anything and everything. And, yes, I do like her, but somehow, I never made any advance or attempted to bring our friendship a notch higher.

 

Three years ago, she introduced me to one of her seeker-friends. She thought I was an OK guy, and she knew I would be a good match for her seeker-friend. She left for abroad to work. In the meantime, I hit it out with her seeker-friend. She became overly jealous about my close friend who introduced her to me. She also thought we had something more than friendship.

 

Truth to be told was that, this friend of mines who left for abroad also broke off communication with me. She said she wanted to give me and her seeker-friend some space. If she would be the cause of a misunderstanding, she'd rather just keep her distance.

 

In the meantime, her seeker-friend also left for abroad after about a year. After 3 months, she found another lover, and eventually broke off with me. End of story with her.

 

Recently, my good female friend returned. The first thing she did was got in touch with me, and we met. Once again, the old times rolled, and things returned to usual.

 

Alas -- I found out that she has now a bf, a fellow-Filipino who was her work-mate abroad.

 

I know I can still get her off the clutches of the other guy. And, one of my friends did encourage me to try my luck. But principles are hard to dismiss, and a battle between the heart and the head has began.

 

It's difficult to be categorical when you are in a situation.

[j]

i might be convinced to give it a go only if she's after me...

otherwise, it is very difficult to pry someone away.

[friendly0603]

@jgc813, are you a what-if type of guy? Can you let go easily?

 

What is the worst thing that could happen if you don't go for it?

Options:

1) You will lose your friend anyway to the other guy and/or she will reject your relationship.

2) You will break their relationship, hurt the other guy. But you will have the start of new relationship

3) She's with him and you will remain friends if you never tell her.

 

If you don't say anything, 1 is the worst and 3 is the best thing that could happen.

If you say something, 1 is the worst and 2 is the best thing that could happen.

 

4) The last option, wait for her to break up with this guy but what if that doesn't happen then you actually lost your chance.

 

Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

Edited November 19, 2012 by friendly0603

[jgc813]

@jgc813, are you a what-if type of guy? Can you let go easily?

 

What is the worst thing that could happen if you don't go for it?

Options:

1) You will lose your friend anyway to the other guy and/or she will reject your relationship.

2) You will break their relationship, hurt the other guy. But you will have the start of new relationship

3) She's with him and you will remain friends if you never tell her.

 

If you don't say anything, 1 is the worst and 3 is the best thing that could happen.

If you say something, 1 is the worst and 2 is the best thing that could happen.

 

4) The last option, wait for her to break up with this guy but what if that doesn't happen then you actually lost your chance.

 

Hope for the best and prepare for the worst.

 

Well... I don't create such scenarios. I am not a "what-if" guy. I know where I stand, and I don't regret what I decide on or what I do.

 

I was just thinking aloud, but really, I'm fine the way things are -- status quo.

 

 

 

Edited November 19, 2012 by jgc813

[mr armed and dangerous]

Damn the missiles

Am going for it

Even if it takes me to hell

[friendly0603]

Well... I don't create such scenarios. I am not a "what-if" guy. I know where I stand, and I don't regret what I decide on or what I do.

I was just thinking aloud, but really, I'm fine the way things are -- status quo.

Great for you then. If you are fine, then it's no real loss for you. Sometimes for others, you really have to take the risk.

Better to find out if there's a chance of happiness there. Sometimes the woman is just waiting for the guy to make a move because like you wasn't prepared to lose the friendship if things don't work out.

Edited November 19, 2012 by friendly0603

[307]

its being logical

[Chi-Chi]

Kung worth it why not choc nut!

 

for example, sam milby!

Edited November 20, 2012 by Chi-Chi

[ron2b1l]

if sya ang nagpapakita ng intensyon.. y not.. palay n nga lumalapit tatangihan ko p b yun.. at nsa tao yun f wla nmn tlagang gsto yung girl eh wla tlgang magagawa...

[mikemahalmo]

Kung love pag-uusapan, no. Pero kung sex, sige lang.

[Ronnick]

Taken? as in bf/gf lang why not, however if taken as in married na definitely its a big NO.

[joggy061794]

Hindi po ser.

[wishywishylily]

No, definitely.