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#1 FleurDeLune

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 03:15 PM

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 03:47 PM

I used to have a gf in my work but one time we just fell out of love.
We decided to give space to each other while we assess our feelings.
However, she moved on very fast and soon had a new lover.

I knew I still love her but I am quite sure she doesn't feel the same way to me anymore, so I had to let go.
I started having panic attacks whenever I see her and my work was slowly getting affected.

I decided to seek help from a professional/therapist about my anxiety.
She really helped me a lot to get back on track and soon I am back on my feet.
She is in her mid 30s, single mom, and quite pretty and well-maintened body.
I started to feel attraction to her but I am trying to fight it as I know it's unethical.
I still visit her from time to time.
For now, I just enjoy her company whenever I have the chance and let things fall to where it should fall.

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 04:44 PM

Falling for a therapist is the most challenging part in loving a woman. There are lot of consequences you need to face and sacrifices you need to consider. I'm inlove with this cute little nuru princess. She's not that beautiful but she has this strong personality that I admired most on her. I told her what I felt for her from the start we met. She knows about it and she told me straightforward that she also likes and have a special feelings for me but not to the point that she loves me too. She accepts me as I what I am and we enjoyed each other's company. She doesn't allows me to visit and avail her at the SPA because she don't want to me spend money for entrance and tip just because I want to see her. She even threatened me that she will block me in all means of communication even if I attemp to go to her SPA. Because it's already awkward according to her. She instead allows me to see her and we go outside sometimes as long as she is free. We enjoyed each other's company and i'm proud that i'm with her and I don't even care if some of our colleagues sees us because we are both single. She can't accept me for now because she don't want to have a commitment while she's still working in SPA industry. I told her that I will still love her and offer myself to be her for now while she's still not engaged with someone. I will accept the pain and heartbreak in the future because what important to me right now is that i'm happy with our set up. I will still continue loving her and hoping that she will love me too in the future but i'm always ready whatever happen. It's unconditional love that I have for her.

As what I always tell her, "Di bale nang ako ang masaktan huwag lang ikaw dahil ako ang may pananagutan sa nararamdaman ko. Ang importante masaya ako kung anong meron tayo ngayon kahit malabo sa hinaharap."

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 08:31 PM

Awww, all the old content is gone

Anyway, to repost: it will always depend on both parties to make it work. Definitely the circumstances will he unique. But in the end, the couple will have to work to make their relationship last, just like any other couple.

Siguro, kelangan din ng personal clarity, lalo na sa client. Talaga bang mahal mo yung thera? Or baka naman akala mo pagmamahal, yun pala infatuation na may halong libog lang? Or baka akala mo special ang trato sa iyo ni thera, not knowing na ganun siya sa lahat ng client niya?

Love that is not reciprocated isnt love. It is infatuation. Mas malala, baka obsession na.

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Posted 02 November 2018 - 09:23 PM


As what I always tell her, "Di bale nang ako ang masaktan huwag lang ikaw dahil ako ang may pananagutan sa nararamdaman ko. Ang importante masaya ako kung anong meron tayo ngayon kahit malabo sa hinaharap."


Hmmm.. Parang narinig ko na etong exact words na ito boss.... Unconditional love pla ang magandang tawag matagal ko na hinahanap ung term na yun. Para sakin, I can probably give unconditional, but I could not give un ending love. Kailangan may katapusan dn ang ginagawa nya, like what one GM said on the previously closed forum, kailangan may timeline, and I guess thats the right approach. Sakin lng the good thing about loving, is that it makes you want to be better, to do better. Kung hindi mo nakukuha yun e I think its bound to fail.
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Posted 02 November 2018 - 11:07 PM

Hmmm.. Parang narinig ko na etong exact words na ito boss.... Unconditional love pla ang magandang tawag matagal ko na hinahanap ung term na yun. Para sakin, I can probably give unconditional, but I could not give un ending love. Kailangan may katapusan dn ang ginagawa nya, like what one GM said on the previously closed forum, kailangan may timeline, and I guess thats the right approach. Sakin lng the good thing about loving, is that it makes you want to be better, to do better. Kung hindi mo nakukuha yun e I think its bound to fail.



Exactly boss. UNCONDITIONAL LOVE is the best term to describe.

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 10:27 AM

Mahirap talaga Ma in Love sa kanila, everyday kelangan mong harapin sa sarili mo na ME makakasama na naman s’ya na ibang lalake, ang hirap tanggapin pero kelangan tibayan mo ang loob mo kung gusto mong mag work ang relationship n’yo, napakarami pang lalake na gustong kunin s’ya syo dahil ginagamit nila ang weakness ng thera na kelangan ng pera kya binibili nila ang feeling ng thera, nakakainis pero wala lng magagawa dhil part ng Risk yan pag ng mahal ka ng isang thera. Siguro dun mo din masusubukan kung mahal ka tlga ng GF mo na thera. Andun pa ung mga lalaking mga Aya sa labas ng spa para mgawa nila ung mga gusto nilang gawin na hindi pwede gawin sa workplace. Right now im in deep s@%t im so in Love with her pero parang nagbago na s’ya sa akin ginawa n n’ya ung mga hindi n’ya dapat ginawa. Iniiwasan n’ya na din ako its Been 4 days na hindi ko na s’ya nakikita, and im so lost im so down right now, gusto ko na nga tapusin tong buhay na ito andami ko ng lumalabas na problema sa trabaho dhil D nko makatrabaho ng maayos kaka isip sa kanya at kung ano bang nagawa ko para bigla siyang magbago skn, hindi ko na alam ang gagawin ko andami ko ng iniiisip isang araw na lng cguro bibigay na ung katawan ko para matapos na ito

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 10:53 AM

Eto lang yan mga tol, Don't get involved, it won't end well, constant stress lang yan...yang love-love na yan hindi naman nyan mapapakain yun family ng girl eh...but if you love drama in your life, then go for it...

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 11:02 AM

Mahirap talaga Ma in Love sa kanila, everyday kelangan mong harapin sa sarili mo na ME makakasama na naman sya na ibang lalake, ang hirap tanggapin pero kelangan tibayan mo ang loob mo kung gusto mong mag work ang relationship nyo, napakarami pang lalake na gustong kunin sya syo dahil ginagamit nila ang weakness ng thera na kelangan ng pera kya binibili nila ang feeling ng thera, nakakainis pero wala lng magagawa dhil part ng Risk yan pag ng mahal ka ng isang thera. Siguro dun mo din masusubukan kung mahal ka tlga ng GF mo na thera. Andun pa ung mga lalaking mga Aya sa labas ng spa para mgawa nila ung mga gusto nilang gawin na hindi pwede gawin sa workplace. Right now im in deep s@%t im so in Love with her pero parang nagbago na sya sa akin ginawa n nya ung mga hindi nya dapat ginawa. Iniiwasan nya na din ako its Been 4 days na hindi ko na sya nakikita, and im so lost im so down right now, gusto ko na nga tapusin tong buhay na ito andami ko ng lumalabas na problema sa trabaho dhil D nko makatrabaho ng maayos kaka isip sa kanya at kung ano bang nagawa ko para bigla siyang magbago skn, hindi ko na alam ang gagawin ko andami ko ng iniiisip isang araw na lng cguro bibigay na ung katawan ko para matapos na ito


Nako brader, baka kailangan mo na ng professional help, mahirap yan, hndi ka na maka trabaho nasisira pa ulo mo kakaisip dun sa girl, wag ka ma ooffend brother ah, been there done that, pero eto garantisado it will not end well para sayo, kasi sya at the end of the day, madali sa kanya makakahanap ng papalit sayo pag naubos ka na, take this with a grain of salt, pairalin mo yun isip mo brader...huwag mo sayangin buhay mo para sa ganyan lang...believe me, s@%t is about to hit the fan if you won't take control of your life...

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 11:31 AM

Rule no. 1: There are no rules, just be prepared for the ride of your life. Exciting...rollercoaster of emotions. No judgement, everyone is free to love and to be loved. No rule of thumb to follow. Magpakatotoo lang po tayo. It will be a memorable experience.
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Posted 03 November 2018 - 11:59 AM

Nako brader, baka kailangan mo na ng professional help, mahirap yan, hndi ka na maka trabaho nasisira pa ulo mo kakaisip dun sa girl, wag ka ma ooffend brother ah, been there done that, pero eto garantisado it will not end well para sayo, kasi sya at the end of the day, madali sa kanya makakahanap ng papalit sayo pag naubos ka na, take this with a grain of salt, pairalin mo yun isip mo brader...huwag mo sayangin buhay mo para sa ganyan lang...believe me, s@%t is about to hit the fan if you won't take control of your life...


This is so true. Madali ka nyang palitan pag ubos ka na.

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 12:10 PM

I am glad that I have experienced it, falling in love with my therapist before. But she has been long gone in the industry. 2016 pa nag-retire.

Why am I glad? Kasi, whenever I meet a new therapist that I get attracted to, easily, I would tell myself - I cannot fall for her, because I still love that former therapist I fell for, two years ago.

But, I am not so sure now.
Until this therapist.

Now I'm going to see how long I can fight against this beautiful dilemma.

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 12:20 PM

Mahirap talaga Ma in Love sa kanila, everyday kelangan mong harapin sa sarili mo na ME makakasama na naman sya na ibang lalake, ang hirap tanggapin pero kelangan tibayan mo ang loob mo kung gusto mong mag work ang relationship nyo, napakarami pang lalake na gustong kunin sya syo dahil ginagamit nila ang weakness ng thera na kelangan ng pera kya binibili nila ang feeling ng thera, nakakainis pero wala lng magagawa dhil part ng Risk yan pag ng mahal ka ng isang thera. Siguro dun mo din masusubukan kung mahal ka tlga ng GF mo na thera. Andun pa ung mga lalaking mga Aya sa labas ng spa para mgawa nila ung mga gusto nilang gawin na hindi pwede gawin sa workplace. Right now im in deep s@%t im so in Love with her pero parang nagbago na sya sa akin ginawa n nya ung mga hindi nya dapat ginawa. Iniiwasan nya na din ako its Been 4 days na hindi ko na sya nakikita, and im so lost im so down right now, gusto ko na nga tapusin tong buhay na ito andami ko ng lumalabas na problema sa trabaho dhil D nko makatrabaho ng maayos kaka isip sa kanya at kung ano bang nagawa ko para bigla siyang magbago skn, hindi ko na alam ang gagawin ko andami ko ng iniiisip isang araw na lng cguro bibigay na ung katawan ko para matapos na ito


Yun lng. Pero why dont you try others kasi. I remember the previous thread d ba may GM dun na nag proprofess ng love nya sa isang thera, and then yun pla kumikikig sa iba. Bat d mo gayahin yun. I mean wala nmn masama dun, its no different sa may nililigawan kang regular girl pero may ka txt ka pa na iba. I think there is no shame in that. I remember you, ikaw ung hindi nag bibigay ng pera right. The good thing in your case is hindi nauubos ang caban ng bayan. Feelings mo lng ang puhunan mo, but in my expiencs, what is feelings anyway. There was this one GM here that said love is just in the mind. Isip mo lng yun. Try mo isipin parati na hindi mo cya mahal, you will be surprised.

Alam ko sinabi ko na dn ata syo to or its another person, napakaraming isda sa dagat, at mas maraming pang isda sa espa, or mp, or walk, or ktv.

Nobody is worth destroying your life, kahit na sing ganda ni pia wurtzbach yan hngang sa kamukha ni kiray. Or isang virgin hngang sa bulatlat na ang bilat sa dami ng gumalaw. Kaya if I were you, dahil no money involved ka nmn, try other theras kung thera hunter ka dn lng nmn, kung ayaw mo ng regular girls. Dont overthink the matter.

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 12:28 PM

Awww, all the old content is gone

 

 

It will be visible soon but remains locked--just for reference. Kelangan lang linisin muna. Medyo matrabaho lang. 



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Posted 03 November 2018 - 12:31 PM

 
It will be visible soon but remains locked--just for reference. Kelangan lang linisin muna. Medyo matrabaho lang. 

Pwede bang mabasa ung unedited version kung bakit nag sara.. Hehehhe... Mukhang super juicy e... Hehehhehe

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 12:37 PM

This is so true. Madali ka nyang palitan pag ubos ka na.


Ako brother aminado ako na ulol din ako way back dahil nakaka confuse ang libog at love, pero there is only one way out of this mess, gathered all my testicular fortitude and drove my self out of that mess where i was back then...nung na rehab ko sarili ko emotionally and financially, tikim tikim nalang ulet, iba iba nalang para hnd magkaroon ng false sense of love and attachment sa isang babae...

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 12:50 PM

Does falling in love with a psp counts in this thread?

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 01:10 PM

Does falling in love with a psp counts in this thread?

 

Yes



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Posted 03 November 2018 - 01:27 PM

Ako brother aminado ako na ulol din ako way back dahil nakaka confuse ang libog at love, pero there is only one way out of this mess, gathered all my testicular fortitude and drove my self out of that mess where i was back then...nung na rehab ko sarili ko emotionally and financially, tikim tikim nalang ulet, iba iba nalang para hnd magkaroon ng false sense of love and attachment sa isang babae...


Yan ang tama. And again the right term boss... Rehab.. Kasi talagang it will take a toll on you emotionally and financially. Alam namam natin na talagang ubos ka pag pumatol ka sa thera. That is sure. Real talk lng tyo girls. Emotionally, kasi a lot of people have this notion na porket thera o psp e madaling makuha na kaya kpg sumablay c GM e parang lagpak ang confidence level nya. Pero mind you napaka hirap makuha ang puso ng thera or psp. You think you are the player pero you are the one being played kasi andami na nilang na experience kaya kung minsan they can block their feelings in a snap of a finger. Kaya sakin pag sumablay ka sa thera or psp there is nothing to be ashamed. Wag mong kaawaan ang sarili mo if it does not work out or kung niloko ka ni thera/psp. Ganun talaga.

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Posted 03 November 2018 - 01:35 PM

Here's my experience. I had a relationship with a psp, nagumpisa lang dahil crush namin isat isa hanggang sa nadevelop na. Lagi ko sya pinupuntahan kahit nga nung umuwi sya sa Mindanao, pumupunta ako every 2 weeks. Tapos ng bumalik sa manila ako nagbayad ng rent ng condo nya (pero di na ngayon). Mahirap din kasi, kailangan mo iaccept na iba ibang lalaki kasama nya everyday. Di sya nawawalang ng sched everyday (min of 2 scheds) except pag may period. Tapos maskait pa dun ipopost pa nya sa fb wall nya ung pic nilang gms nya at mga FR sa kanya. Kakainin ka talaga ng selos and like the other guy, naapektuhan na din work ko. Ang mahirap pa di bawal ako magselos kasi nga dun daw kami nagkakilala. May masabi lang ako na di maganda sa gm nya nagagalit na sya. Sa GM nya napakabait at sweet nya, pero sakin sobrang maldita at pag nagaaway kami nasasaktan na nya ako as in physically, panay kalmot at sugat mukha ko kasi di ako gumaganti. Pati fb ko pinadeactivate nya kasi nagseselos daw sya sa mga babaeng friends ko, pinagawa nya ako ng fb na sya lang friend ko. Anyways, nakipagbreak na sya sakin kagabi kasi nga di ko na kinaya ung selos sa mga pinagpopost nya. Lumabas ako pa masama kasi wala daw ako karapatan magselos, nakikipagbalikan sya pero di ko na alam kung kakayanin ko pa.

Anyways, payo ko lang kung papasok kayo sa ganitong relasyon kailangan matibay loob mo. Kasi kung hindi, mababaliw ka lang sa selos. Sorry haba ng post ko, kulang pa nga yan ehehehe.
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