napV200 Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hello everyone, Hey guys post naman kayo dito, marami kasi akong friends... problema bf nila mahirap daw intindihin same with mine at times anlabo niya kaya suko na ko. Girls are also welcome to post. Thanks... Quote Link to comment
rascal Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 well same thing goes to girls.. din minsan hindi mo rin alam ang gusto nila... siguro openess to each other... understanding and respect best of all is communications frends? Quote Link to comment
HanSolo Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Im replying to encourage the starter of this thread to post more...seems our little mimi has been doin "extra" lately on this site... Its really about clearing the channel for commmunication. The single reason for not being heard or understood is not really knowing..... Lay it on the table..Talk some sense....sometimes just askin how was your day? is a good way to start...most important of all..have an objective or a clear idea of what you want to know... Quote Link to comment
vogharth Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 ... basta don't ask for anything you cannot handle... Quote Link to comment
Guest ginny Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hmm.. I don't think your dilemma is gender-sensitive. Men is also having a hard time understanding women. Sabi nga, Men are from Mars while Women are from Venus. For me... I don't think you need to wring your head dry to even try to understand them.. all you need to do is to accept them that they're different from us women.. then, LIVE WITH IT. Quote Link to comment
vogharth Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hmm.. I don't think your dilemma is gender-sensitive. Men is also having a hard time understanding women. Sabi nga, Men are from Mars while Women are from Venus. For me... I don't think you need to wring your head dry to even try to understand them.. all you need to do is to accept them that they're different from us women.. then, LIVE WITH IT. right on. Quote Link to comment
beefcake Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hmm.. I don't think your dilemma is gender-sensitive. Men is also having a hard time understanding women. Sabi nga, Men are from Mars while Women are from Venus. For me... I don't think you need to wring your head dry to even try to understand them.. all you need to do is to accept them that they're different from us women.. then, LIVE WITH IT. You took the words out of my mind. I couldn't agree more. Quote Link to comment
rascal Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hmm.. I don't think your dilemma is gender-sensitive. Men is also having a hard time understanding women. Sabi nga, Men are from Mars while Women are from Venus. For me... I don't think you need to wring your head dry to even try to understand them.. all you need to do is to accept them that they're different from us women.. then, LIVE WITH IT. You took the words out of my mind. I couldn't agree more. way to go you guys!!! Quote Link to comment
triggerFinger Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 tumpak ginny! hirap man intindihin ang opposite sex... sarap naman sila mahalin! i guess... openness nga din ang kailangan... you can never exactly guess each other's thoughts.. so better speak your mind out... and as much as possible, as much as you can....... be honest. Quote Link to comment
jason_lee Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hi, I think You should ReaD slef HelP booKs like Men R from MaRs & WoMen r from VeNus... Tho...Filipino mEn r AsiaN...Its ReaLLy HarD eh...everyThing DepenDs on how He was brougHt up...whAt PeEr grouP he grEw up with.. His PrioRity in LiFe... SigUro...me haLong ADveNtUre...Fun....ExCiTeMent...RoMance...and u knOw.....eveRyThing in BetwEEn.... DepenDe talaga... Quote Link to comment
bods1000 Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 the key is to empathize, not to understand; to feel, not to think. well, whatever, the key is to enjoy the company of the opposite sex Quote Link to comment
soul Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 appreciate everything you see on a girl! you'll win all of them! hehehehe Quote Link to comment
pink2lips Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 i guess it starts with us understanding that men & women think differently...to us, men are from mars, to them, we are from venus... sometimes we gotta go to their planet to understand them...that means to observe, listen (really listen) and even do some research...that's what brothers & cousins & best friends are for: resourceslearn the language...not just the verbal: include the body language...then you gotta learn how to read minds too...(prerequisite: dapat me mind...hehehe...joke lang po) sigh...dami no? and yet, even with all these... they will remain as creatures from another planet......not to worry...we are to them too... *peace* Quote Link to comment
mr. e Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 ei thats the beauty in the relationship....both your imperfections and incompatibilities gel into one couple.... kasi kung totally naiintindihan mo ang nasa isip nang opposite sex then life will be boring... mas maganda yung may challenge diba? Quote Link to comment
napV200 Posted July 25, 2003 Author Share Posted July 25, 2003 Hmmmmmm!!!!! may mga nagreply na pala... thanks guys. You're all right but all women here said men are harder to understand as they dont express/show themselves that much unlike women and men are more hypocrite than women. Friends po tayong lahat... Mga tsong, some more tips pls. on how to keep a man, ano ba yong mga ayaw at gusto niyo... Many thanks... Quote Link to comment
Goddessa Posted July 25, 2003 Share Posted July 25, 2003 here's something to ponder about guys... MEN by nature are goal-oriented...they see the big picture, the finished product and they don't care too much about the process of achieving these goals as long as they achieve them...kinda Machiavellian if ya ask me. So most of the time Women call them insensitive, manhid, callous. But really, it's unintentional naman on their part...Ganun lang talaga ang psychological make-up nila. Blame society for this or maybe their biological make-up too...para kasi silang may tunnel vision, alang ibang nakikita kundi ang dulo... WOMEN on the other hand are detail-oriented. We see the nitty-gritty of things and every given situation, we scrutinize, we think twice, thrice before acting, we speculate on possibilities of errors along the way. Men would often call us makulit, maarte, sensitive, konting kibot tampo, nagger, at kung ano-ano pa. It's not really intentional on our part din. Ganun lang talaga kami, gifted ng intuition. Mas matalas siguro ang senses namin, specially sa emotional aspect that sometimes we give out the wrong signal . Kaya hayun, away. advice to women...remember, men are not confrontational. if ya wanna drive a point, don't do so with your machinegun mouths...try a different tactic...u can still use your mouths , but choose an easier target eh? the ones which would likely respond positively to whatever you want to happen...afterwards hmmm, they'd most like be more amenable for " serious talk advice to men...women talk too much i know, we like to express our feelings verbally...it can get pretty damn annoying, but if you only have the sensitivity to listen to what we are NOT saying, man, things would be so simple and you can be king of our Eden for as long as you want ala lang...yun lang Quote Link to comment
napV200 Posted July 25, 2003 Author Share Posted July 25, 2003 here's something to ponder about guys... MEN by nature are goal-oriented...they see the big picture, the finished product and they don't care too much about the process of achieving these goals as long as they achieve them...kinda Machiavellian if ya ask me. So most of the time Women call them insensitive, manhid, callous. But really, it's unintentional naman on their part...Ganun lang talaga ang psychological make-up nila. Blame society for this or maybe their biological make-up too...para kasi silang may tunnel vision, alang ibang nakikita kundi ang dulo... WOMEN on the other hand are detail-oriented. We see the nitty-gritty of things and every given situation, we scrutinize, we think twice, thrice before acting, we speculate on possibilities of errors along the way. Men would often call us makulit, maarte, sensitive, konting kibot tampo, nagger, at kung ano-ano pa. It's not really intentional on our part din. Ganun lang talaga kami, gifted ng intuition. Mas matalas siguro ang senses namin, specially sa emotional aspect that sometimes we give out the wrong signal . Kaya hayun, away. advice to women...remember, men are not confrontational. if ya wanna drive a point, don't do so with your machinegun mouths...try a different tactic...u can still use your mouths , but choose an easier target eh? the ones which would likely respond positively to whatever you want to happen...afterwards hmmm, they'd most like be more amenable for " serious talk advice to men...women talk too much i know, we like to express our feelings verbally...it can get pretty damn annoying, but if you only have the sensitivity to listen to what we are NOT saying, man, things would be so simple and you can be king of our Eden for as long as you want ala lang...yun lang Galing mo sis. Thanks... Quote Link to comment
SideWinderX Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 most of the time sex siguro. minsan companionship Quote Link to comment
HanSolo Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 here's something to ponder about guys... MEN by nature are goal-oriented...they see the big picture, the finished product and they don't care too much about the process of achieving these goals as long as they achieve them...kinda Machiavellian if ya ask me. So most of the time Women call them insensitive, manhid, callous. But really, it's unintentional naman on their part...Ganun lang talaga ang psychological make-up nila. Blame society for this or maybe their biological make-up too...para kasi silang may tunnel vision, alang ibang nakikita kundi ang dulo... WOMEN on the other hand are detail-oriented. We see the nitty-gritty of things and every given situation, we scrutinize, we think twice, thrice before acting, we speculate on possibilities of errors along the way. Men would often call us makulit, maarte, sensitive, konting kibot tampo, nagger, at kung ano-ano pa. It's not really intentional on our part din. Ganun lang talaga kami, gifted ng intuition. Mas matalas siguro ang senses namin, specially sa emotional aspect that sometimes we give out the wrong signal . Kaya hayun, away. advice to women...remember, men are not confrontational. if ya wanna drive a point, don't do so with your machinegun mouths...try a different tactic...u can still use your mouths , but choose an easier target eh? the ones which would likely respond positively to whatever you want to happen...afterwards hmmm, they'd most like be more amenable for " serious talk advice to men...women talk too much i know, we like to express our feelings verbally...it can get pretty damn annoying, but if you only have the sensitivity to listen to what we are NOT saying, man, things would be so simple and you can be king of our Eden for as long as you want ala lang...yun lang hmmm..interestin....these could go EITHER way...i see a fairly good commentary but not "accurate" as it is...women have this keen sense or instinct of "always" tryin to generalize men or women....putting it all together makes it seem easier to understand... but that is not always the case.... for one...not all men by "nature" are goal oriented(eg.one night stand..men like it more than women else prove me wrong, that is definitely not goal oriented but very..very short term)....if we do accept this statement....does this mean that women by nature are not goal oriented as well?and all they care about are nitty gritty details? Great Scientist, Engineers, Inventors, even philosophers are a great majority--MEN..and these are the people to had to make sure of the nitty gritty details. And not all WOMEN are makulit, maarte, sentitive etc.....I've seen a lot of powerful women who would greatly object to this... I think the question of the thread of "what men wants on women" is so general we have to consider age, status, education, and family. But since the author has asked this thread....i think there is nobody else is so QUALIFIED to answer the most than your MAN--- Go ahead NapV200, ask your man.... because in making things work.....i believe contrary to the saying...."what you dont know..would actually hurt you..." ---Hans Quote Link to comment
Goddessa Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 hmmm..interestin....these could go EITHER way...i see a fairly good commentary but not "accurate" as it is...women have this keen sense or instinct of "always" tryin to generalize men or women....putting it all together makes it seem easier to understand... but that is not always the case.... for one...not all men by "nature" are goal oriented(eg.one night stand..men like it more than women else prove me wrong, that is definitely not goal oriented but very..very short term)....if we do accept this statement....does this mean that women by nature are not goal oriented as well?and all they care about are nitty gritty details? Great Scientist, Engineers, Inventors, even philosophers are a great majority--MEN..and these are the people to had to make sure of the nitty gritty details. And not all WOMEN are makulit, maarte, sentitive etc.....I've seen a lot of powerful women who would greatly object to this... I think the question of the thread of "what men wants on women" is so general we have to consider age, status, education, and family. But since the author has asked this thread....i think there is nobody else is so QUALIFIED to answer the most than your MAN--- Go ahead NapV200, ask your man.... because in making things work.....i believe contrary to the saying...."what you dont know..would actually hurt you..." ---Hans Point taken, dude I guess i've kinda generalized things and i've read a comment somewhere (by Ginny if I'm not mistaken) that generalization is always false... you have a point when you said that not all men are goal-oriented and not all women are detail-oriented... i've just been speaking from my own experiences, and personal observations and based on a lot of readings din, mostly psychological/self-help/history books... i'll say some more later...work calls Quote Link to comment
pestor Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 napv200, simple lang sagot ko...d more you try to understand... lalo ka lang magugulohan... kaya don't! hayaan mo na lang na sya maubusan ng buhok na intindihin ka... marami na ko nakita na nabaliw kaiisip... don't take life so seriously! enjoy! baka talagang d kayo para sa isa't isa. but to answer your question , i like simple witty women... Quote Link to comment
johnnybgood Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 most of the time sex siguro. minsan companionship correct ka dyan...sex ang #1 answer Quote Link to comment
Guest ginny Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 ...but all women here said men are harder to understand as they dont express/show themselves that much unlike women and men are more hypocrite than women. Again... it's not gender-sensitive. Some women are also like that. It's really hard to generalize.. every person is special kaya iba-iba yan. Now, what I can advise you... men generally loves challenges. Mas sineseryoso nila ang girl na hindi madali makuha.. pero tingnan mo ha, ganun din naman ang mga babae di ba? Ayaw natin yun mga patay na patay sa tin. Kaya sa dulo dulo nyan.. unahan na lang yan... pag nauna ka.. panalo ka.. hehehe.. teka panalo ka nga ba? Doesnt really work that way.. what's important is that you're happy with him. Kung hindi, di stop mo na ang relationship. Ganun lang kasimple yun. As I've posted earlier.. just learn to live with them (guys)... don't even try to understand or analyze their actions.. kung ayaw mo lang naman maloka ha.. .. ang tawag jan, ACCEPTANCE.... na hindi talaga kayo pareho ng diskarte sa buhay. Quote Link to comment
Guest templar Posted July 28, 2003 Share Posted July 28, 2003 Again... it's not gender-sensitive. Some women are also like that. It's really hard to generalize.. every person is special kaya iba-iba yan. Now, what I can advise you... men generally loves challenges. Mas sineseryoso nila ang girl na hindi madali makuha.. pero tingnan mo ha, ganun din naman ang mga babae di ba? Ayaw natin yun mga patay na patay sa tin. Kaya sa dulo dulo nyan.. unahan na lang yan... pag nauna ka.. panalo ka.. hehehe.. teka panalo ka nga ba? Doesnt really work that way.. what's important is that you're happy with him. Kung hindi, di stop mo na ang relationship. Ganun lang kasimple yun. As I've posted earlier.. just learn to live with them (guys)... don't even try to understand or analyze their actions.. kung ayaw mo lang naman maloka ha.. .. ang tawag jan, ACCEPTANCE.... na hindi talaga kayo pareho ng diskarte sa buhay.Galing mo talaga pards! This is exactly the same advice I would give to a "friend" who is so perplexed by the very same topic you just replied to ..... you must have eaten something special for lunch Quote Link to comment
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