zencalix Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 curian and simply miss HI! Mejo nga messed up. At di lang yon when we date he still wants to hold my hand, hug me and kiss my hand. Or before bedtime he will call me just to say good night. What else, he will tell me where he is and what he is doing. And when i discuss other man, parang sumasama mukha! Parang ewan talaga! Oh men pakispread to your specie..if they want space..they better show me that that is what they want and not hold on to me like i am still a gf na ala nga lang karapatang magdemend.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> naku sis, may kilala akong ganyan!! parehong pareho... i think nag-ego tripping lang mga guys na ganyan... u should move on na... sayang lang oras mo sa kanya!!! sa palagay ko lang naman... Quote Link to comment
Guest PK_pang_alis_kati Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 take it at face value. when i say i need space, i need space. let go muna. next steps later. Quote Link to comment
jinxo Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 when i say i need space, what i mean is pls break up with me Quote Link to comment
Rv Ice Posted June 25, 2005 Share Posted June 25, 2005 when i say i need space, what i mean is pls break up with me<{POST_SNAPBACK}> If I ask for space...I just want to exercise a little time of freedom! :evil: Jinxo I respect yours. Quote Link to comment
wyette Posted June 26, 2005 Share Posted June 26, 2005 The truth hurts, and being honest may set you up for rejection, which is actually how things should be, but people don't want that. People don't want their faults exposed, they don't want to be weighed. It makes them feel too vulnerable, I guess. I actually encountered a situation wherein my girlfriend met a guy at work. They were both nurses in the States, and it's been nearly 2 years since I've actually seen her. I've made arrangements to visit her, but by some unfortunate coincidence, ALL my efforts to spend time alone with her came to naught. Events have a strange way of conspiring against you. The moment she started speaking glowingly about her suitor (she merely referred to him as a friend, part of a close-knit group of homesick Filipinos, but I sensed something deeper.) I knew she finally found someone who could make it tolerable to be away from me for so long. I allowed her to speak freely in our succeeding conversations, and was able to establish this. I did express my concerns early on, but after that, I thought it better to let things go, because complications would arise. Shall I expound on this? My prospects in the States aren't as good, although I did discuss this before she left for the States. I gave her the opportunity for a fresh start---a clean break, so to speak---so as not to burden her. She chose to keep our relationship, which, gave me mixed emotions. I knew that eventually, time and distance would take their toll, and since I still had no means to visit her until at least a year later, my days were numbered. I kept at it, though, in the hope that we'd be able to weather the situation. The moment she began speaking of a certain someone, however, I knew it was only a matter of time before feelings changed. She still says she loves me in spite of it all...right up until the time her suitor proposed. That was our moment of truth. She said that the guy's father called her up one day, congratulating them for the engagement(?) I know her well enough to say that she's the type who can never say "no" if it would hurt another person. They've spent a great deal of time together, and it came as no surprise that at some point, there was already an "understanding". Anyway, that was her dilemma. She wants to make everyone happy. Problem is, someone always ends up being left out. She cried on the phone, saying that she didn't really love him, only that she learned how lonely he was all his life, and that she somehow felt that she could make it all better. One thing led to another, and... Now, I know that her friends, relatives and family are aware of the situation. Some of them have actually met the guy, and approve of him (which is more than what I can say for what they thought of yours truly.) Be that as it may, she never wanted to break it off with me. I've seen all the signs, explained our prospects if we decided to pursue a life together, yet it wouldn't register to her. I had to take matters into my own hands, at this point. I broke it off. I could feel my stomach sink as I uttered those fateful words. Not verbatim, but close enough. It's been two years since they've been married, and what I gather from a chance encounter with her close friends, she is happy. That's what made all the hurt worth it. Loved her. Still do. But now, I can finally be at peace with that decision, at least.<{POST_SNAPBACK}> This one made my night sad. Not because I feel for you Manticore, but I'd rather say, I empathize with your EX more. I'm sorry. I know it's kinda ironic. But just like her, I am "the type who can never say "no" if it would hurt another person." And that "She wants to make everyone happy. Problem is, someone always ends up being left out."But my story has not ended the way your ex's story did (primarily because, I am not HAPPILY married). I've been bad. I've been hurt a lot of times and I admit I have my share of hurting some of my partners too. All because I can't and don't want to hurt anybody for that matter even if "someone always ends up being left out." Those I have hurt are the ones who loved me truly but whom I have to let go because of several "selfish" reasons too. I admire men like you....who happens to stand up for what should be done and not for what choice is there to make. You got hurt but there is no glimpse of pain in the way you related your story. Congrats bro! you're one man, who makes a "bad" lady like me realize "bad" things I did in the past and might to in the future! :hypocritesmiley: keep it up! the world needs you! Quote Link to comment
jumpman23 Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 sino ka to tell me kung sino ang deserve ko? naiinis lang tlga ako sa mga ganitong palusot ng mga tao when they wanna get out of the relationship.<{POST_SNAPBACK}>which is exactly true. this line is just a lame excuse to get out of the relationship. :thumbsdownsmiley: Quote Link to comment
fashionmannequin Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 It's just a subtle way of saying "IT'S OVER!"...... :hypocritesmiley: Quote Link to comment
lonewabit29 Posted June 27, 2005 Share Posted June 27, 2005 which is exactly true. this line is just a lame excuse to get out of the relationship. :thumbsdownsmiley:<{POST_SNAPBACK}> i agree tapos dadagdagan pa ng hahanap kita ng friends tutulungan kita..parang hello ano ako inutil na walang mga kaibigan...pity is good pero it should be given in a proper place and time..mas lalo lng sumasakit sa taong tinatamaan...minsan try to be in the person's shoe's lets see how they would react...ive been there just makes me mad everytime i remember it...sensya na just voicing out my feelings...fish tyo :cool: Quote Link to comment
cho_clitz888 Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 tell that moron that u can find somebody on your own. but then, malay mo tama sila na u deserve someone? kasi loser sila! Quote Link to comment
wongski Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 Minsan mas maganda pa kung prangka ang kausap.. Prangka pero di bastos, i mean, di ka na bobolahin or sasabihan ng pampalubag loob, I prefer telling me the truth kung di mo ko type.. Mapaguuspan naman lahat eh.. at least di na ko manghuhula kung 22o nga ba ang alibi mo or "polite" ka lang masyado Quote Link to comment
Wyld Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 (edited) That line is such a cop out... The guy who uses that line doesnt have enough balls to tell the truth so he uses that euphemism for... "I want out of this relationship, I have found someone else." <_< Edited June 28, 2005 by Wyld Quote Link to comment
Guest globetrotter Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 others use this line so as not to hurt the opposing party that much.they want to be polite when breaking up a relationship that had gone sour.honestly, i dont believe in such crap.just be honest. Quote Link to comment
zencalix Posted June 28, 2005 Share Posted June 28, 2005 its just another way of saying ayaw na sa yo... he/she is trying to let you off easy... trying to be kind... yun lang yun... we all know its BS! fish :cool: Quote Link to comment
cho_clitz888 Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 dapat kung may balls silang manligaw.. dapat may balls din sila na magsabi ng totoo! wala ng paligoy ligoy pa. no BS.. no kind words! Quote Link to comment
katieholmes Posted June 29, 2005 Share Posted June 29, 2005 i agree tapos dadagdagan pa ng hahanap kita ng friends tutulungan kita..parang hello ano ako inutil na walang mga kaibigan...pity is good pero it should be given in a proper place and time..mas lalo lng sumasakit sa taong tinatamaan...minsan try to be in the person's shoe's lets see how they would react...ive been there just makes me mad everytime i remember it...sensya na just voicing out my feelings...fish tyo :cool:<{POST_SNAPBACK}> as for me, if i say to a guy that "you're too good for me, and that you'll find someone better", I MEAN TO SAY "tell me what i want to hear, that I am the one for you and that you want all of me". The truth is, women fish for things they actually want to hear by saying words opposite of what they mean Quote Link to comment
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