Sana Dalawa Ang Puso Ko!

[robsalvador]

Alright.... I got your point. Pinahirapan lang talaga kita.

 

So for married people like me, I'd rather use the term "being in love" with someone else at the same time. But seriously, I don't understand why we ever wish "Sana Dalawa Ang Puso Ko"... Falling in love is just a wonderful feeling and like any other feelings, it will just die like a natural death... oh yeah, sadly. In fact, you can "be in love" with many people at the same time... at varying degrees.

 

Does that make a person bad? NO... Falling in love is something we simply can't control. And take note, the more you deny and hide it, the stronger feeling it becomes.

 

Wait... am i violating now your parameters?.. let me review again.

 

 

hmmmm..... as long as you don't break anyone's heart intentionally, then yes, this does exist.... when you seem to feel that someone else is making you smile everyday, when you seem to do more than what is expected for you to give, yeah... it happens.

 

 

But I don't consider AWA as Love, okay? Medyo mahabang usapan na yon...

 

Ahmm.. Excuse me.. Tulungan mo ako sa kabila.. May sinabog ako na parang pinagsisisihan ko ata! At May utang ka pa ngang sagot mo doon, todo chika ka na dito! :lol:

 

On topic: On the above highlighted.. No, once you are in love, its very difficult to control.. The heart has its own agenda.. Its just doing its job.. Loving..

 

However.. Falling in love can be averted or denied.. The question is.. Can we resist what our heart wants to do? :wub:

 

h e l p ...

[dirtypop2]

treesome FTW!

[jgc813]

Ahmm.. Excuse me.. Tulungan mo ako sa kabila.. May sinabog ako na parang pinagsisisihan ko ata! At May utang ka pa ngang sagot mo doon, todo chika ka na dito! :lol:

 

Hahaha... hindi ka na rin nakatiis. Tinatagalog mo na!

 

 

On topic: On the above highlighted.. No, once you are in love, its very difficult to control.. The heart has its own agenda.. Its just doing its job.. Loving..

 

However.. Falling in love can be averted or denied.. The question is.. Can we resist what our heart wants to do? :wub:

 

h e l p ...

 

Good point! How many times have we heard the saying, "that's why the head is above the heart... it has to rule over the heart because the heart does not think."

 

Very true... very true... How many times we get hurt, cry, sob, feel guilty, have remorse, feel sorry... just because we followed our heart? How many times we have heard expressions like: "I should have listened more, I should have thought it out more..." Unfortunate?

 

To some extent, yes. It's very hard to resist what the heart wants to do. It does not think, it just feels. And when it gets full, it drives you towards your objective, which is usually, the object of love. And that's why, I guess, it's hard to define what love is just because it is -- usually -- thought of to be IN THE HEART.

 

With the above in mind, why do people (mis)judge the mistresses, and those who find no. 2's or 3's? They have just followed their hearts. They have have just allowed themselves to be ruled by their hearts. (Hopefully, not their sex organs! )

 

That's why I so want to hear opinions about: "sana dalawa ang puso ko." Why the fuzz? Because sometimes, it's really hard to contain the heart, or perhaps, one (1) heart. Hence the reason why some of us prefer to have two or more of it.

 

But wouldn't that even complicate matters? Hindi nga kaya ang isa, dalawa pa?

Edited September 28, 2010 by jgc813

[Seishi]

To some extent, yes. It's very hard to resist what the heart wants to do. It does not think, it just feels. And when it gets full, it drives you towards your objective, which is usually, the object of love. And that's why, I guess, it's hard to define what love is just because it is -- usually -- thought of to be IN THE HEART.

 

With the above in mind, why do people (mis)judge the mistresses, and those who find no. 2's or 3's? They have just followed their hearts. They have have just allowed themselves to be ruled by their hearts. (Hopefully, not their sex organs! )

 

 

hmm okay, opinion ko lang naman ito as I don't misjudge mistresses, Malay natin, I might be on the same boat.

 

This is because we are taught to feel and react that way. Maybe when we were little kids, we heard conversations from adults that "makakati talaga yang mga babaeng yan! salot!" sorry for my words and too many to mention hurtful words about mistresses. This is what we commonly witness in Family conflicts... "may kabit si Papa OR may kerida asawa niya". okay, i'll stop na.

 

 

So saan ba nagsimula ang ganyan thinking? Honestly, I don't know. Is it because of our Religion? I don't honestly know. Maybe someone can explain... I'm curious too.

[jgc813]

 

So saan ba nagsimula ang ganyan thinking? Honestly, I don't know. Is it because of our Religion? I don't honestly know. Maybe someone can explain... I'm curious too.

 

Actually, much depends on our environment, our society, and yes, even our religion.

 

Most of us have been raised as Christians. In this religion, only one spouse. Having more than one is immoral.

 

But there are other religions that allow for polygamous unions. One even grants up to four wives.

 

In such a case, what then is being unfaithful? Who's right? So, for us, when you have one, then get another, you're unfaithful. But for someone who belongs to another religion, you can have four, and when you get a fifth, you're unfaithful.

 

Somehow, there's a lot of subjectivity even in somethings that seemingly appears to be absolute.

[Miss Zelda]

Yes! oh you can love three or four

[Seishi]

Actually, much depends on our environment, our society, and yes, even our religion.

 

Most of us have been raised as Christians. In this religion, only one spouse. Having more than one is immoral.

 

But there are other religions that allow for polygamous unions. One even grants up to four wives.

 

In such a case, what then is being unfaithful? Who's right? So, for us, when you have one, then get another, you're unfaithful. But for someone who belongs to another religion, you can have four, and when you get a fifth, you're unfaithful.

 

Somehow, there's a lot of subjectivity even in somethings that seemingly appears to be absolute.

 

 

Ito talaga ang masarap pagusapan eh.

 

I remember asking my husband "What makes Infidelity wrong?" and he answered me with another question, "Why do you want to make it right?" :lol:

 

And I answered him directly "To preserve the value of Women".

 

But then again, we live in this kind of society. We have to abide the laws and honor Christian values.

[robsalvador]

I don't remember sharing this.. If I did already (maybe in another thread), sorry if I'm repeating myself..

 

My take: I feel that having two hearts (in the context of being able to love 2 at the same time) is not the "solution" to what we are after.. Its not about how many hearts we have but rather how "Big" enough heart we have to enable us to give a lot of loving.. Or to love as much as we want.. (within all natural boundaries)

 

In my case, its really only up to me whether or not I limit myself or allow myself to love less or more.. There are no set formulas, no pre-planned agendas.. It just is..

 

If it were a matter of matching hearts to loving, then where's the line where I can buy more hearts?.. And do they come cheaper by the dozen?..

 

I only have one.. I make mine work hard, exercise, multitask, and most of all..

 

Let it Love as much as it can..

Edited October 5, 2010 by robsalvador

[jgc813]

Ito talaga ang masarap pagusapan eh.

 

I remember asking my husband "What makes Infidelity wrong?" and he answered me with another question, "Why do you want to make it right?" :lol:

 

And I answered him directly "To preserve the value of Women".

 

But then again, we live in this kind of society. We have to abide the laws and honor Christian values.

 

I guess you got your answer. There are so-called universal or absolute concepts. There is such a thing as right and wrong. However, much of these are interpreted depending on which society, and which religion, we belong to. And, of course, we cannot also "live by ourselves," meaning, just throw away the norms of society and religion. (Well, the latter may be thrown away especially for those who profess not belonging to any. But, definitely, the former... hmmm... it's kinda hard because wherever we go to, there are always social norms and precepts.)

 

So, absolute norms have their own definition and parameters depending on where you are, and which group of society or religion you belong to. Heck, even such a thing as "value of women" will depend on what part of the globe you are living in. If you are Japanese, then, you definitely will still be a "second-class citizen" whereby you have a very low glass ceiling in the office, will stand up every tea/coffee break to prepare the beverage for your male counterparts, will always be standing on the trains and buses because males take the privilege of sitting down, will always stand back when entering the elevator or a room because in Japan it's always "men first," etc...etc... (I'm glad I didn't grow up in Japan. It feels a lot better to live with the "ladies' first" practice.)

 

Are there absolute notions of "being faithful" and "unfaithful?" Of course. Then, again, the parameters of such will depend on where you are, and which religious group you belong to. Hence, for most of the western Christian world, the usual norm of being faithful is "sticking to one spouse." More than that would be deemed "unfaithful." And if you belonged to the other group that espouses the teaching of the prophet Mohammad, you could, under certain circumstances, have even up to 4 wives.

 

Now, I'm not an authority on the four-wives concept so I can't really say what is "faithful" and "unfaithful" as far as the Quran teaches. Hehehe... pardon my ignorance. However, I can make a conjecture that, well, if you have four wives, then, you just have to stick it out with them, and not have "a fifth."

[richardigop]

sana nga po. yung isa ipapang lahok ko kasama sa bopis. sarap.

[graphik]

ilan sex organs

[naughTyMelanie]

This is a tough question without having more information.

 

This is a dilemma that you will have to sort out with lots of thinking. Are you sure this is love? Are you possible not happy with something in your marriage and don't know it? Then you would be looking for outside happyness. If you are completely unhappy in your marriage and want to work it out then do that, if you don't then you do deserve to be happy and should tell your spouse before any feelings come about between you and your new interest. People get married for the wrong reasons sometimes and then realize that it just wasnt what they wanted. Be honest with yourself and other from start to finish and then you would agonize about it later. Be ready though for this to backfire on you too. Do you know if the other person loves you, too. What if you separate or divorce your husband to find out the other person isn't in love with you? Sit down and weigh all the options and do what is best for you with the least amount of hurt to be felt by all. Dont stay in a relationship that you are not happy in, we only live once and you do deserve to be happy.

 

-- Anonymous

Edited March 2, 2012 by naughTyMelanie

[SaintPeter5858]

Magulo yan hehehe. Patago na lang yun isa

[friendly0603]

So, absolute norms have their own definition and parameters depending on where you are, and which group of society or religion you belong to. Heck, even such a thing as "value of women" will depend on what part of the globe you are living in. If you are Japanese, then, you definitely will still be a "second-class citizen" whereby you have a very low glass ceiling in the office, will stand up every tea/coffee break to prepare the beverage for your male counterparts, will always be standing on the trains and buses because males take the privilege of sitting down, will always stand back when entering the elevator or a room because in Japan it's always "men first," etc...etc... (I'm glad I didn't grow up in Japan. It feels a lot better to live with the "ladies' first" practice.)

Yet I heard this anecdote before - "when choosing a wife, choose Japanese"

 

Now, I'm not an authority on the four-wives concept so I can't really say what is "faithful" and "unfaithful" as far as the Quran teaches. Hehehe... pardon my ignorance. However, I can make a conjecture that, well, if you have four wives, then, you just have to stick it out with them, and not have "a fifth."

You can actually divorce any of the wives and replace if you want a fifth and can't have it.

This is unfair. Aren't we all entitled to have our own harems?

Edited November 15, 2012 by friendly0603

[chinesebeautyme]

kung dalawa ang puso mo .. isa kang mutant and a multi-tasker...buti naman hindi ka napapagod..lolz

Edited November 16, 2012 by chinesebeautyme