The Mail Box

[shrike]

AN OPEN LETTER TO MY FUTURE HUSBAND

Kcasey200kc

Even though I don't know exactly who you'll be yet, I think of YOU often. I wonder how you're living you're life now. It matter to me, YOU know, because how you live your life now determines what kind of MAN you're becoming…… and the kind of MAN I'll spend the rest of my life with..

Apparently, for some bizarre reason, manhood doesn't come automatically for males. Some GUYS seem to spend their entire lives trying to "PROVE THEIR MANHOOD"- by hurting, playing sports, driving past…. And fortunately by having SEX. It seems rather strange to us women that GUYS think having SEX proves you're a MAN. To us, it just proves that you've reach puberty. And we don't really consider that, in itself, to be any GREAT ACCOMPLISHMENT. Becoming a MAN is much more complicated process.

The funny thing is even in this day and age, most guys want to marry a women who respect her SEXUALITY. A guy doesn't like the idea of his future wife in the back seat with someone else, or her being the subject of a sexual conquest story in a locker room. They'll brag about the girls like that but they don't marry them. They want to marry a girl whether "SHE's NEVER DONE IT" or done it and regretted it, who recognizes that SEX speaks the language of FOREVER, COMMITTED LOVE…… someone like me.

But why would I want to marry someone like that…. Someone who want's to marry a virgin, but spend his dating years robbing other girls of their virginity so that they can prove their MANHOOD??? He's not a "REAL MAN" in my eyes, he's a selfish, immature by driven by insecurity, NOT LOVE. And I'm not interested.

I want more from YOU. I want YOU to respect your sexuality as much as I respect MINE. I want YOU to be a real, confident MAN, not a wimp has to use women to feed his insecurity. A GUY like that couldn't use all of those women, and then suddenly LOVE me. He must be "good in Bed" but "NOT in LOVING".

I want YOU to learn really to LOVE. Learning to LOVE is learning to put other first. A GUY who messes around outside of marriage isn't putting the good of the other first. He's using a girl…… speaking the body language of permanent commitment when the relationship isn't permanent. He's putting the girl at risk pregnancy. And he's putting himself at risk for some nasty diseases…… diseases he can then later give his wife. That's not MAKING LOVE. A real MAN LOVES A WOMEN- all women- and what's best for them. And he doesn't let his desires control his actions. He controls his desires instead.

I want YOU to develop self-control. That's important to me. I don't want to marry MAN who can't control himself. MEN like that make a LOUSY husbands. A GUY who isn't used of saying "NO" to SEX isn't going to be any better at 40 than he is 18. I've seen women who worry every time their husbands hire an attracted secretary. I don't want that. What kind of marriage could I have with someone I couldn't even trust on a business trip??

In the short run, I'm sure there aren't too many rewards for a GUY living this way. Society tells you what you're missing out on "SEXUAL PEAK". Your silence during the locker room bragging sessions can seem deafening. You may have even heard from the girls you date something must be wrong with you because you don't take them to bed. Deep down, you must know that having SEX won't prove you're a MAN. It's just irritating that no one else seems to know isn't it?

But somebody does know it. I know it. And in the end, I'm the only someone who matter. And no, I'm not narrow-minded as those GUYS who say they'll only marry a virgin. Society isn't too supportive of Virginity, especially MALE VIRGINITY. I can forgive mistakes in your past. But I'm interested in your future, starting now. When I met YOU, I want YOU to be a MAN who has made a conscious decision to wait….. out of LOVE for our FUTURE FAMILY and commitment to OUR MARRIAGE. And I want YOU to be a REAL MAN, who's develop the control, maturity and unselfishness that waiting brings. They may not be popular traits in the locker room but they're popular with me. They'll make you a better husband, and better father. To me that's SEXY.

I've abstained from Sex all these years, and it hasn't been for the lack of offers, I've plenty of opportunities, and saying "NO" isn't always been easy. I'm sure, it's not always easy for YOU, either. But it will make OUR MARRIAGE so much stronger. SEX will be our GIFT to each other, "OUR EXCLUSIVE LANGAUGE". It will belong to "US" not "US and everyone else we ever dated".

THANKS for waiting for ME. I PROMISE YOU WON'T REGRET IT!!!

 

 

---kcasey200kc----

Thanks !

now i know u better.

 

I haven't regretted anything .. yet

 

:mtc:

 

 

peace !

[sweetpsyche]

lets all be thankful today!!!

 

A Thanksgiving Reflection

Susan Polis Schutz

 

We don't often take the time out of

our busy life to think about all

the beautiful things and to be thankful for them

If we did reflect on these things

we would realize how very lucky and fortunate we really are

 

I am very thankful for the love of someone-

which is so complete and fulfilling

and is based on honesty, equality

intellectualism and romance

 

I am very thankful for the love of my children -

which is all encompassing

and is based on teaching, tenderness

sensitivity, caring and hugging

 

I am very thankful that I am able to love

and that the love is returned to me

I am very thankful that I am healthy

and that the people I love are healthy

 

I am very thankful

that I have dreams to follow and goals to strive for

I am very thankful for the beauty of nature -

magnificent mountains the colorful leaves

the smell of flowers, the roaring of the waves

the setting sun, the rising moon

 

Everywhere I look I see the wonders of nature

and I feel so proud to be a small part of it

I am very thankful for all the good people in the world

I am very thankful that I have good friends

 

I am very thankful to be alive in a time when

we can make the world a better place to live in

Thank you.

[drEVILmba]

:cry: :cry:

Hope i get to meet a lot of people mamya. kasi minsan shy type ako kaya tingin ng iba ay antipatiko ako. pero sa totoo lang masayhin ao pero pagcomfortable na ako sa groupo

[sweetpsyche]

Dear ...

 

i tired to stay awake today and waited for you para makausap kita..

but its already getting late (for me) and ur not yet here...

im too sleepy na po.. i cant wait any longer.. it seems the effect of the turkey i ate is kicking now haha...

well do hope to talk to u soon.. and hope u will bring good news on our future talk hehe

and thank u so much for what u did.. i highly appreciate it.

dami ko na utang syao ah hehe...

do take care and seeyah around... always...

right? heheh

 

justme

[Guest the_eight_of_orbs]

to that one person... don't mind the foul language... they're just fragments of an angst-filled, lyrical expression... and i keep my place... as it should have always been.

 

I LOVE, THEREFORE I AM.

 

 

untouchable face

ani di franco

 

think i'm going for a walk now

i feel a little unsteady

i don't want noone to follow me

except maybe you

 

i could make you happy, you know

if you weren't already

i could do a lot of things

and i do

 

tell you the truth i prefer the worst of you

too bad you had to have a better half

she's not really my type

but i think you two are forever

and i hate to say it but you're perfect together

 

so f**k you

and your untouchable face

f**k you

for existing in the first place

and who am i

that i should be vying for your touch

who am i

bet you can't even tell me that much

 

2:30 in the morning

my gas tank will be empty soon

neon sign on the horizon

rubbing elbows with the moon

safe haven of the sleepless

where the deep fryer's always on

radio is counting down the top 20 country songs

 

out on the porch the fly strip is

waving like a flag in the wind

you know i really don't look forward

to seeing you again soon.

 

you look like a photograph of yourself

taken from far far away

i won't know what to do

i won't know what to say

 

so f**k you...

 

see you and i'm so perplexed

what was i thinking

what will i think of next

where can i hide

in the back room there's a lamp

that hangs over the pool table

and when the fan is on it swings

gently side to side

there's a changing constellation

of balls as we are playing

i see orion and say nothing

the only thing i can think of saying

 

is f**k you...

[ravenreigh]

Dear IKAW,

 

Hindi ko ginustong maramdaman ito at lalong hindi ko inakalang mamahalin kita.

:cry: OO, MAHAL NA KITA! Pero paano mo malalaman, paano ko ipararating sayong MAHAL KITA?.Nahihirapan ako sa tuwing makikita ka. Naguguluhan kung paano nangyari. TAMA KA!, pagsisisihan ko nga ang naging desisyon ko noon. SANA palahindi ako naging TANGA sa nararamdaman mo, SANA hindi kita pinabayaang mawala at SANA naiparamdam ko noon na mahal din kita. . Pero sa isang banda alam ko na TAMA pa rin ang ginawa ko. TAMA ng ako ang nagtiis, TAMA ng ako ang nasaktan. :cry:

 

Hindi madaling tanggapin ang sitwasyon natin ngayon, pero alam kong walang ibang dapat sisihin kundi ako . AKO ang UMAYAW at AKO rin ng UMIWAS. Pero sino bang mag-aakala na darating tayo sa ganitong sitwasyon, sa puntong MAMAHALIN KITA AT LALAYUAN MO KO :cry:, Wala di ba? Naiintindihan ko, bakit mo nga ba ipagpipilitan ang sarili mo sa taong naging manhid sa nararamdaman mo? Pero sana maintindihan mo rin ako?

 

Alam kong hindi ka apektado sa mga nangyayari dahil para sa iyo naging laro lang ang lahat. Ang hindi mo alam ang larong yon ang naging dahilan ng PAGLUHA KO. :cry: Gusto kong kalimutan ka, pero paano? Paano ka lilimutin kung sa bawat araw na lumilipas ikaw ang hinahanap at sa bawat pagpatak ng luha ko'y ikaw ang dahilan. Paano ako magiging masaya kung sa tuwing makikita ka'y KASAMA MO SYA at paano nga ba tatanggapin na NAHULI KA NG DATING AT AKO'y GANUN DIN........?Ngayon sabihin mo sa akin,hindi ba tama ang naging desisyon ko ? Dahil kailanma'y HINDI PUPWEDENG MAGING TAYO.......... :cry:

 

Nagmamahal,

AKO :cry:

 

" Maybe it's worng to say pls love me too

Coz I know you'll never do

Somebody else is waiting there inside for you.

Maybe it's wrong to love you more each day

Coz I know she's here to stay

But I know to whom you should belong ":cry:

[Z]

LOVING EACH OTHER: Some Solicited Advice

 

....

 

 

:heart: :heart: :heart:

Hi kcasey! Seems you have read Leo Buscaglia's book. Very good insights In that same chapter there was on adive comprising 5 questions where a yes to any meant that the other person was better off with out you. May I request for that quote? My book is just two thousand miles away Thanks!

[Z]

Dear Partner,

 

What I am and the life I live today is what I offer to you. Understand that I love myself first and foremost with God's blessings for what I give myself, the dreams I fulfill and how I treat myself along the way is what I can truly offer you. I will love you as much as I love me - like life itself. Our time is near and I'll be seeing you soon.

 

Always,

 

Z

[lord_rochester]

to all the guys in my life,

 

for those who belong in my past.. it's over and i've forgotten why you belong in my past.

 

for those in my present... for the thousandth time... yes i am free... but no i don't want to go out with you...

 

for those who want to be part of my future...we'll see... but i am dating you now because i just want to go out.. no strings attached.

 

lord_r

 

to fhm,

 

you coul dhave been part of my future...if only you know what you want.

lord_r

 

to my ex-bf,

 

i love you still. but things have gone wrong between us and we had to say goodbye.

lord_r

[Alex_Corvis]

My dearest,

 

I have good news to you, i tried to call you but nobody answers.

Appriciation acknowledged. You know i would do anything for you. Your wish is my command and i'll even give you more.

[sweetpsyche]

Dear AEIOU,

 

i dont know what to say. and even if i do, i dont have the guts to say it upfront so let me express it here....

lotsa things are bothering me nowadays, one of these is the way you act. i miss our kulitans, i miss our asaran. i miss everything.. in fact i miss you more than i miss those things.

but what can i do... ur simply pulling away from me. why? that i dont know. i wish i know. i wish u will tell me. so i wont be left hanging in mid-air. i know there are lots of things under ur sleeve, i do not question that... all im asking is a little time. a little hello. a simple hi. am i asking too much? i dont think so.

for the little time we've spent together i've kinda know u a bit. and this isnt you.... i feel like something is going on that i do not know or perhaps u dont want to tell me... whatever that is... it bothers me.

i wonder what happened to us...

for what it is worth.... i just want u to know i miss you. thats all.

thank you.

 

..........

[drEVILmba]

Dear God,

 

I know you only give us problems that we can solve with your help. To everything there is a reason, but i don't know and can't find the reason.

 

Sana tulungan mo ako pumili ng tama.

[Guest the_eight_of_orbs]

Love

Pablo Neruda

 

Because of you, in gardens of blossoming flowers I ache from the perfumes of spring.

I have forgotten your face, I no longer remember your hands;

how did your lips feel on mine?

Because of you, I love the white statues drowsing in the parks,

the white statues that have neither voice nor sight.

I have forgotten your voice, your happy voice; I have forgotten

your eyes.

Like a flower to its perfume, I am bound to my vague memory of

you. I live with pain that is like a wound; if you touch me, you will

do me irreparable harm.

Your caresses enfold me, like climbing vines on melancholy walls.

I have forgotten your love, yet I seem to glimpse you in every

window.

Because of you, the heady perfumes of summer pain me; because

of you, I again seek out the signs that precipitate desires: shooting

stars, falling objects.

[drEVILmba]

:cry: :cry:

Hay nako bakit ba ganyan... tagal mo nang nagaral eh ala parin. kailangan parin mag aral ng mag aral.

 

Ngayon managament masterals naman. eh ang layo na nun. Buti ssana kung sure get rich.

[BulBangs]

I've got nothing on my mind: Nothing to remember,

Nothing to forget. And I've got nothing to regret,

But I'm all tied up on the inside,

No one knows quite what I've got;

And I know that on the outside

What I used to be, I'm not anymore.

 

You know I've heard about people like me,

But I never made the connection.

They walk one road to set them free

And find they've gone the wrong direction.

 

But there's no need for turning back

`Cause all roads lead to where I stand.

And I believe I'll walk them all

No matter what I may have planned.

 

Can you remember who I was? Can you still feel it?

Can you find my pain? Can you heal it?

Then lay your hands upon me now

And cast this darkness from my soul.

You alone can light my way.

You alone can make me whole once again.

 

We've walked both sides of every street

Through all kinds of windy weather.

But that was never our defeat

As long as we could walk together.

 

So there's no need for turning back

`Cause all roads lead to where we stand.

And I believe we'll walk them all

No matter what we may have planned.