Bullying In Campus

[Edmund Dantes]

in fairness kasi i had a classmate na girl almost the same kay sir edmund. hindi ako yung binubully nya pero maiinis ka talaga sa kanya kasi nangbubully siya ng iba dahil nga maganda sya, problem mahina ang utak. masakit man sabihin pero mahina talaga, feeling magaling lang.

 

anyway, totoo na pangit ang bullying, may it be physical, mental, psycological at iba pang al. ahehehe!!! tayo mismo alam natin kasi 1st hand experiences yun.

 

tulad sa sinabi ko sa isa kong post, swerte tayo, kasi tayo naka recover o may natutunan, pero hindi lahat katulad natin.

 

Tama! Sabi nga di ba, meron pa ngang mga bata na nadedepress ng sobra nagpapakamatay na.

 

Tayo pinalad na magkaroon ng maayos na magulang at mga kaibigan para tulungan tayo magcope up sa isang negative experience and gawin itong positive. Pero tulad ng sabi ko, pano kung yung bata magulo rin tahanan? Kaya dito pumapasok yung responsibilidad ng mga pangalawang magulang sa buhay nila.

 

Dapat kasi alam ng mga bata, na its ok magsumbong. Kahit din naman tayong matatanda di ba? Pag me nangaagrabyado, mas mabuting tumawag ng tanod o kaya pulis. Tapos dun sa presinto ayusin ang problema. Kesa magsaksakan pa kayo eh di pareho pa kayo kulong.

[r35gtr]

kaya ko siya tinawag na Granada, na agrabyado ako. sa PE nag lalaro kami ng basketball bale pag nag depensa siya at tinaas ang kamay nahihilo ako. iyon ang rason kaya ko siya tinawag na Granada. more like for self preservation.

 

Yung duon sa hitsura na bulldog, diet and exercise can go a long way. May kaibigan ako ang taba na , umoorder ng 4 na kanin pag lunch then pag sasabihan mo mag diyete iiyakan ka. ang labo.

 

 

In this world na pinapaniwala tayo that everything will balance out. that the evil will get what they deserve, that is not always the case. Bullies are here to stay and some will become succesfull too. kaya learn to fight them. Do not assume that they will be punished in the end. it is not how it works.

[Edmund Dantes]

kaya ko siya tinawag na Granada, na agrabyado ako. sa PE nag lalaro kami ng basketball bale pag nag depensa siya at tinaas ang kamay nahihilo ako. iyon ang rason kaya ko siya tinawag na Granada. more like for self preservation.

 

Kung tatanungin din yung mga naging bully mo, probably they have something similar to say about you, justifying why they did what they did. Na naagrabyado mo din sila, tulad ng pangaagrabyado na ginawa sayo ng taong ito kaya tinatawag mong granada. But like I said, you are entitled to your biases. Nonetheless that doesn't mean tama ka sa ginawa mo. Maraming paraan ng pagaayos ng agrabyado, and its not by becoming bully yourself. Self-preservation? So pag di mo hiniya itong taong ito ikaw mapapahamak ganun? Hindi ba pwede kausapin mo na lang sya tungkol sa personal hygiene nya?

 

Kaya nga sabi ko, mas maganda kung talagang magmediate yung teacher or any figure of authority sa mga away ng pangaralan mabuti both sides. Kahit naman ngayon na matanda na tayo di ba? Mainam na magusap sa presinto na me pulis na namamagitan kesa maghabulan ng taga.

 

Yung duon sa hitsura na bulldog, diet and exercise can go a long way. May kaibigan ako ang taba na , umoorder ng 4 na kanin pag lunch then pag sasabihan mo mag diyete iiyakan ka. ang labo.

 

Again, its still not an excuse to make someone feel ugly. Meron mga taong hindi kasing blessed ng genes na meron ka. Pano kung me sakit sa puso yun tao? Pano kung diabetic pala? At ibang issue yung pagiging matakaw nila. Kung umorder man sila ng 4 na kanin, me inaagrabyado ba silang ibang tao? Mataba man, pangit, o kung ano pa, you do not call someone a "bulldog". Kasi tao yan na binigyan ng tamang pangalan ng magulang nya.

 

Maiba ako bro. Ako ha, I am into all that health and wellness lifestyle. I love training 5 times a week. Pero like our coaches say, kung aesthetics lang ang motivation ng isang tao, chances are hindi sya magiging consistent. lol. Kaya nga kakainis yung mga taong panay tingin ng sarili nila sa salamin imbes gamitin yung mirors para icheck yung form. Symptom yan ng GSD. Point Im making is, I would never invite someone to go to the gym for them to look better physically.

 

In this world na pinapaniwala tayo that everything will balance out. that the evil will get what they deserve, that is not always the case. Bullies are here to stay and some will become succesfull too. kaya learn to fight them. Do not assume that they will be punished in the end. it is not how it works.

 

 

First of all, I never prayed for ill-faith to any of my bullies. That was not the point of all those stories. I did not sell my soul to the devil, so that one day I can see them the way they are. Wala tayong magagawa. Yun ang kwento. Ang mensahe lang naman, bullying is wrong. Dont make other people feel small or ugly. Hindi maganda yan. You have your biases I have mine and that is that.

 

Personally, marami akong naging kaaway na pinatawad ko din eventually at nitong huli nagiging friends na sa FB. I believe in forgiveness actually. Its a favor you do more for yourself than the other person. And though I sometimes tell stories like this, di naman ibig sabihin na di ko sila mapatawad. I would never wish ill-fate on any person because that is just juvenille

[r35gtr]

hmmm, sa nababasa ko sayo Edmund Gusto mo lagi ikaw ang may say sa dulo at lahat ng sinasabi mo ay dapat sang ayunan ng tao. tignan natin ang mga main points ng reply mo sa mga tugon ko.

 

Maraming paraan ng pagaayos ng agrabyado, and its not by becoming bully yourself. Self-preservation? So pag di mo hiniya itong taong ito ikaw mapapahamak ganun? Hindi ba pwede kausapin mo na lang sya tungkol sa personal hygiene nya?

 

Una sa lahat, grade 4 ako niyan. nag iisip na ba ikaw ng feelings ng ibang tao nung grade 4 ka sorry kung di ako kasing righteous mo nung grade 4 ako. kasalanan ko na, panala ko na

 

 

Kaya nga sabi ko, mas maganda kung talagang magmediate yung teacher or any figure of authority sa mga away ng pangaralan mabuti both sides. Kahit naman ngayon na matanda na tayo di ba? Mainam na magusap sa presinto na me pulis na namamagitan kesa maghabulan ng taga

 

lagi bang may teacher ? lagi bang may malalapitan ang tao? Ilagay sa utak ba na lagging may masusumbungan at malalapitan at all times? para sa akin learn to stand up

 

Again, its still not an excuse to make someone feel ugly. Meron mga taong hindi kasing blessed ng genes na meron ka. Pano kung me sakit sa puso yun tao? Pano kung diabetic pala? At ibang issue yung pagiging matakaw nila. Kung umorder man sila ng 4 na kanin, me inaagrabyado ba silang ibang tao? Mataba man, pangit, o kung ano pa, you do not call someone a "bulldog". Kasi tao yan na binigyan ng tamang pangalan ng magulang nya.

 

 

hmmm, napapansin ko parang tanggap sa kultura mo ang excuses, may sakit sa puso, diabetic? eh baka kaya nagkaganun kasi sa diet ? they may be geneticily predisposed to develop such diseases but lifestyle can be a big help. I do not accept any excuses like you. Sino inaagrabyado nila? wala naman hanggag kung mamatay sila , o di inagrabyado nila ang magpapaburol sa kanila. kung may pamilya sila inagrabyado niya anak niya.

 

 

Ako ha, I am into all that health and wellness lifestyle. I love training 5 times a week. Pero like our coaches say, kung aesthetics lang ang motivation ng isang tao, chances are hindi sya magiging consistent. lol. Kaya nga kakainis yung mga taong panay tingin ng sarili nila sa salamin imbes gamitin yung mirors para icheck yung form. Symptom yan ng GSD. Point Im making is, I would never invite someone to go to the gym for them to look better physically.

 

 

WTF? what a load of crap. ang daming mali ditto sa sinabi mo. train 5 times a week? sino ka si wolverine na may healing factor? The cycle of a work out is this. 1. Stimulus(work out) to break down your muscles . 2. Rest and Nutrition . your muscles needs several days of rest to fully recuperate , you need nutrients etc. etc. if you do not give your body enough rest after you broke it down thru stimulus. then you will enter a catabolic state. ditto mo siguro nakuha na hindi importante ang looks kung nag wowork out ka. a good looking body is a byproduct of an effective training regimen. so kung effective ang training mo(and diet) gaganda katawan mo. bakit? as you develop more muscles, your body will increase its metabolic rate. 1lb of muscle can burn 50 calories a day at rest. so kung tama ang training mo at dumami muscle mass mo , normal na mag lelean ang katawan mo. then sasbaihin mo sa tao huwag sila mag work out or into fitness kung gusto nila ay gumanda katawan nila? mali training niyo

 

First of all, I never prayed for ill-faith to any of my bullies. That was not the point of all those stories. I did not sell my soul to the devil, so that one day I can see them the way they are. Wala tayong magagawa. Yun ang kwento. Ang mensahe lang naman, bullying is wrong. Dont make other people feel small or ugly. Hindi maganda yan. You have your biases I have mine and that is that.

 

 

Personally, marami akong naging kaaway na pinatawad ko din eventually at nitong huli nagiging friends na sa FB. I believe in forgiveness actually. Its a favor you do more for yourself than the other person. And though I sometimes tell stories like this, di naman ibig sabihin na di ko sila mapatawad. I would never wish ill-fate on any person because that is just juvenille

Hmmmm. you never prayed for them to hit rock bottom (bullies) pero dun sa write up mo eto lagi ang theme. Inapi ka, then guminhawa ang buhay mo. then nakita mo sila na pangit ang buhay.. then nagpigil ka, kasi ang taas na ng estado mo .(you have to say that you are enjoying the amentieis of Shangrila for free whilst your "Friend is a doorman" if this is not putting yourself in the pedestal I do not know what is) di mo sila pinitik, you forgave them. bida ka . sa write ups mo kasi parang ang taas taas mo na ngayon. well that is how I interpret your self uplifting write ups . you have your opinions and I have mine. Ang difference lang end result ang tinitignan ko at hindi mga excuses. Its ok to be weak pero it is not ok to remain weak. if lagi ituturo na magsumbong

Bullying is wrong pero huwag umasa na lagi kang may masusumbungan. Sa campus man o Sa labas. For sure marami kang sasabihin . Ikaw na panalo. Di ko lang tanggap ang way of thinking niyo ditto. I do not accept excuses

[Edmund Dantes]

hmmm, sa nababasa ko sayo Edmund Gusto mo lagi ikaw ang may say sa dulo at lahat ng sinasabi mo ay dapat sang ayunan ng tao. tignan natin ang mga main points ng reply mo sa mga tugon ko.

 

Hindi ko pinpilit sumangayos ka sakin, hindi mo ako kilala ng personal at ni wala kang mukha o pangalan sakin. Ano mapapala ko sa pagsangayon mo? Tataas approval rating ko? I am just exercising the right to argue as much as you do.

 

 

Una sa lahat, grade 4 ako niyan. nag iisip na ba ikaw ng feelings ng ibang tao nung grade 4 ka sorry kung di ako kasing righteous mo nung grade 4 ako. kasalanan ko na, panala ko na

 

 

Now look here who is making excuses. Hindi komo bata ka eh tama na ang ginawa mo. Kung ganyan ka, then you are already admitting to the fact that you are a bully.

 

 

lagi bang may teacher ? lagi bang may malalapitan ang tao? Ilagay sa utak ba na lagging may masusumbungan at malalapitan at all times? para sa akin learn to stand up

 

 

 

How? by becoming a bully yourself? by remembering its ok to be a douche? So pano? Kung walang pulis eh di ok na makipagtagaan ka na lang sa kapitbahay mo? Sus this is a very lame copout

 

 

 

hmmm, napapansin ko parang tanggap sa kultura mo ang excuses, may sakit sa puso, diabetic? eh baka kaya nagkaganun kasi sa diet ? they may be geneticily predisposed to develop such diseases but lifestyle can be a big help. I do not accept any excuses like you. Sino inaagrabyado nila? wala naman hanggag kung mamatay sila , o di inagrabyado nila ang magpapaburol sa kanila. kung may pamilya sila inagrabyado niya anak niya.

 

 

 

Actually, ikaw ang gumagamit ng excuses sa sinasabi mo. If a person is fat and ugly its justified to call them names. Yan ang gist ng pinagsasabi mo di ba? Na kasalanan nila kung bakit sila nilalait? Mali ang manglait o manakit ng kapwa kahit saang anggulo mo tignan. So the next time you wanna say I do not accept any excuses BS, check mo muna pinagsasabi mo kasi you already made a few yourself.

 

WTF? what a load of crap. ang daming mali ditto sa sinabi mo. train 5 times a week? sino ka si wolverine na may healing factor? The cycle of a work out is this. 1. Stimulus(work out) to break down your muscles . 2. Rest and Nutrition . your muscles needs several days of rest to fully recuperate , you need nutrients etc. etc. if you do not give your body enough rest after you broke it down thru stimulus. then you will enter a catabolic state. ditto mo siguro nakuha na hindi importante ang looks kung nag wowork out ka. a good looking body is a byproduct of an effective training regimen. so kung effective ang training mo(and diet) gaganda katawan mo. bakit? as you develop more muscles, your body will increase its metabolic rate. 1lb of muscle can burn 50 calories a day at rest. so kung tama ang training mo at dumami muscle mass mo , normal na mag lelean ang katawan mo. then sasbaihin mo sa tao huwag sila mag work out or into fitness kung gusto nila ay gumanda katawan nila? mali training niyo

 

 

 

Wait let me get this right, you guys measure effectivity of an exercise program based on muscle aesthetics? That sounds homoerotic. lol. Its about overall physiology and function not aesthetics. The mere fact na natagalan ko 5x a week, for almost 2 years without seriously injuring myself means something right is being done. We do not measure effectivity based on aesthetics. Aesthetics means nothing if you can't run in the cold, or if you have zero reflexes. lol.

 

I dont know what kind of culture you have in your gym, but samin we encourage people to exercise to develop better discipline, focus, and overall physiology. Hindi kami pinapangakuan na magiging mga supermodel kami. Syempre yung ganda ng katawan saka na lang lalabas yun.

 

But I wasn't looking for a fitness advice from you dude. That wasn't the point I am making. The point I am making is this, if you think its ok to make others around you ugly just because they do not go to the gym as often as you do, or they do not have your genes na sabi mo nga gumagandang lalake ka habang tumatanda..... Then ill feel sorry more for you than those people. Kasi at least sila di nila kelangan mangmaliit ng iba para maramdaman maganda sila.

 

 

Hmmmm. you never prayed for them to hit rock bottom (bullies) pero dun sa write up mo eto lagi ang theme. Inapi ka, then guminhawa ang buhay mo. then nakita mo sila na pangit ang buhay.. then nagpigil ka, kasi ang taas na ng estado mo .(you have to say that you are enjoying the amentieis of Shangrila for free whilst your "Friend is a doorman" if this is not putting yourself in the pedestal I do not know what is) di mo sila pinitik, you forgave them. bida ka . sa write ups mo kasi parang ang taas taas mo na ngayon. well that is how I interpret your self uplifting write ups . you have your opinions and I have mine. Ang difference lang end result ang tinitignan ko at hindi mga excuses. Its ok to be weak pero it is not ok to remain weak. if lagi ituturo na magsumbong

 

 

I get it, nayayabangan ka sakin. you are entitled to that. Ano magagawa ko, sa nagaral ako mabuti at nakakalibre ako sa hotel sa trabaho ko? At kwento ko ito. Natural gagawin ko sarili kong protagonist.

 

Pero tandaan mo lang, do not be a preachy hypocrite because you are equally guilty of all that. Me mga kayabangan ka din dito sa thread na ito pre. OO na, magandang lalake ka na. Pero sana huwag mo ipaparamdam sa iba na pangit sila komo lang hindi sila singdalas mo maggym. Tsaka yung mga kwento mo din naman di ba? Demonized din yun mga nangbully sayo. kung hindi ikaw yung martyr, ikaw yung nakaganti kasi binuhusan mo elmer's glue bag ng nangaway sayo.

 

 

Bullying is wrong pero huwag umasa na lagi kang may masusumbungan. Sa campus man o Sa labas. For sure marami kang sasabihin . Ikaw na panalo. Di ko lang tanggap ang way of thinking niyo ditto. I do not accept excuses

 

 

 

Bullying is wrong ka dyan, yet you justify being one yourself because either inagrabyado ka, o hindi mo gusto yung tao for some reason. The way I see it, its you who is making excuses dito.

 

Hindi lang ito tungkol sa pagsusumbong. Whats wrong with saying we all need a little help sometimes? Hindi naman lahat ng problema sa mundong ito kaya mo lutasin magisa. Hubris ang tawag dyan.

 

Again kung ayaw mo sumangayon at tingin mo I am arrogant, karapatan mo yan. But just remember, you are guilty of the same hypocrisy.

[Flirtpool]

ako i support how edmund dantes thinks. when i read his post, i never felt that he always wants to be the best. he is objective to what he is talking about. he never "name called" anyone, (correct me if i'm wrong edmund) kasi nga 1st hand experience nya ang ma name call, so most likely he would not do that kasi hate nya yun. He gave them title but not name call at never sya ng antagonize ng mga nagshashare ng experiences sa thread, he would emphatize with the person kasi nga he knows what it feels how to bullied.

 

on the hand r35gtr. how you antagonized edmund and glut. it makes me wonder kung alam mo ba talaga ang feeling ng na bully? ano ba ang psyche ng na bully? kaya nga meron tayo tiantawag na psychological trauma, you cant always blame kung yung nabubully e naging reserved dahil sa experiences nya. ikaw sinasabi mo na si glut excuse nya yung sinisisi nya sa mga nambully sa kanya and yet ikaw ang excuse mo e kasi grade 4 ka lang? hmmm. ang grade 4 marunong na magisip, marunong na nga magcutting classes ang mga grade 4 e, tpos ikaw excuse mo yun? sinasabi mo wag umasa na laging may masusumbungan, e kaya nga nagiging reserved ang iba dahil walang malapitan.

 

lets just share are stories... tpos support natin yung mga nadodown. di ba? that would work better. tingin ko kasi yun yung potential ng thread na ito.

[Edmund Dantes]

ako i support how edmund dantes thinks. when i read his post, i never felt that he always wants to be the best. he is objective to what he is talking about. he never "name called" anyone, (correct me if i'm wrong edmund) kasi nga 1st hand experience nya ang ma name call, so most likely he would not do that kasi hate nya yun. He gave them title but not name call at never sya ng antagonize ng mga nagshashare ng experiences sa thread, he would emphatize with the person kasi nga he knows what it feels how to bullied.

 

on the hand r35gtr. how you antagonized edmund and glut. it makes me wonder kung alam mo ba talaga ang feeling ng na bully? ano ba ang psyche ng na bully? kaya nga meron tayo tiantawag na psychological trauma, you cant always blame kung yung nabubully e naging reserved dahil sa experiences nya. ikaw sinasabi mo na si glut excuse nya yung sinisisi nya sa mga nambully sa kanya and yet ikaw ang excuse mo e kasi grade 4 ka lang? hmmm. ang grade 4 marunong na magisip, marunong na nga magcutting classes ang mga grade 4 e, tpos ikaw excuse mo yun? sinasabi mo wag umasa na laging may masusumbungan, e kaya nga nagiging reserved ang iba dahil walang malapitan.

 

lets just share are stories... tpos support natin yung mga nadodown. di ba? that would work better. tingin ko kasi yun yung potential ng thread na ito.

 

Hehehe, inaamin ko naman na hindi ako perpektong tao. I have offended people in my life, but I do not think I am a bully. And yes, I do not remember verbally bullying anyone in my life, much more name-call someone. Siguro the closest thing I did to that was address a person with his funny nickname which he gave himself because he was tall and scrawny (worm).

 

r35gtr. Ok andun na kami, bata ka pa nun. Grade 4 ka pa lang. Sige for the sake of the argument nga. Pero if you still look back at that experience thinking tama yung ginawa mo, then it means you have not really matured from it. If you think people deserved to be called ugly just because they have bad genes or are not into the fitness lifestyle, then that makes you a bully to tell you frankly. Remember hindi lahat kagaya mo na habang tumatanda gumagandang lalake at maraming oras pagtuunan ng pansin pagpapagwapo. Tandaan mo iba iba priorities natin sa buhay. Iba iba ng goals, at iba iba din ang kahulugan ng success.

 

I agree we all should learn to properly stand up for ourselves and be strong on our own. I advocated emotional independence. But the reality is, hindi naman lahat ng problema sa mundo kaya mo lutasin magisa. And there is nothing wrong with reporting incidents to teachers cuz in the first place trabaho naman nila magturo ng mabuting asal at ipagtanggol bata na naagrabyado. Tayong matatanda pag naagrabyado, hindi ba pumupunta tayo sa pulis o kaya sa abugado kasi nga, hindi lahat ng conflicts sa buhay na ito kaya mo resolbahin magisa. And just because you asked for a little help, it does not mean you are not standing up. Not standing up is being silent. And what is wrong with solving your problems without having the need to pull a prank on someone else and be a jerk?

[Flirtpool]

Actually isang tao lang na pwede mo masandalan, makes a big diffenrence.

[Edmund Dantes]

Actually isang tao lang na pwede mo masandalan, makes a big diffenrence.

 

Ako here is one simple trick that works. Nung 4th year hangang college hangang ngayon ito ginagawa ko.

 

Be confident lagi. Huwag mo papakita sa body language mo na nasisindak o takot ka. But don't be overbearing naman to the point nagiging provocative ka na. Firm handshake lagi. Tignan mo kausap mo sa mukha pero huwag magfocus sa mata. Shoulders back and don't stoop down.

 

Bullys prey on people with low self-esteem. Many of them really just wanna enjoy the feeling that they can intimidate someone, kaya huwag ka papasindak. Pag nagawa mo yan, you half won already

[Flirtpool]

 

Ako here is one simple trick that works. Nung 4th year hangang college hangang ngayon ito ginagawa ko.

 

Be confident lagi. Huwag mo papakita sa body language mo na nasisindak o takot ka. But don't be overbearing naman to the point nagiging provocative ka na. Firm handshake lagi. Tignan mo kausap mo sa mukha pero huwag magfocus sa mata. Shoulders back and don't stoop down.

 

Bullys prey on people with low self-esteem. Many of them really just wanna enjoy the feeling that they can intimidate someone, kaya huwag ka papasindak. Pag nagawa mo yan, you half won already

i learned this too when i was in college. its how you speak to a group of people. ginagawa ko pagmay reporting and i still use it when reporting sa work. pero pwede mo sya apply individually. stern voice, not intimidating or nagyayabang. basta mapapakita mo lang na confident kaand you know what your saying. wag slouching yung tayo. sa akin maintain eye contact. pero wag naman titig na titig and non-provoking. baka naman kasi naka tingin ka sa mata tapos naka salubong kilay mo, e baka away kalabasan nyan. and always smile, hindi ngiting aso, natural smile. baka kasi isipin nila e nakakaloko ka.

 

totoo, pagnagawa mo yan you almost won na.

[Edmund Dantes]

i learned this too when i was in college. its how you speak to a group of people. ginagawa ko pagmay reporting and i still use it when reporting sa work. pero pwede mo sya apply individually. stern voice, not intimidating or nagyayabang. basta mapapakita mo lang na confident kaand you know what your saying. wag slouching yung tayo. sa akin maintain eye contact. pero wag naman titig na titig and non-provoking. baka naman kasi naka tingin ka sa mata tapos naka salubong kilay mo, e baka away kalabasan nyan. and always smile, hindi ngiting aso, natural smile. baka kasi isipin nila e nakakaloko ka.

 

totoo, pagnagawa mo yan you almost won na.

 

Kung me isang sinabi yun isa na agree ako hindi nawawala ang mga bullies pag laki natin. Dito sa current lab ko, medyo bully yung isang postdoc. Palibhasa foreign ako so syempre mainit mata sakin. Inaantay niya ako pumalpak. Pag nagpre-present ng data, di pa ako tapos ng sinasabi ko, binabara na agad ako. GUsto ako hiyain. Minsan nagtataas na nga ng boses at galit na tono.

 

Strategy ko sa kanya, huwag papasindak. Maintain confidence kahit nga mali ka. Kasi lahat naman nagkakamali. Sa trabahong ito you fail more than you succeeed. Pag kinakausap ko sya tinitignan ko sa mukha pero iniiwasan ko na eye to eye kami. Concentrate talaga lagi ako sa exchanges namin. Mapaliwanag ko data ko ng maayos, ng hindi pinapakita na pikon o takot ako sa kanya. Minsan nginignitian ko pa nga kahit sya na itong gusto na ako pagalitan.

 

And so far, hindi naman nakakaapekto sakin pangungulit nya lately. Besides I survived bullies worst that him when I was young so balewala ito.

[bonanas]

When I was still a student, I secretly loved bullies. I trained boxing at an early age and was told to use it only to protect myself or the people around me.

 

With bullies I have a chance to whoop someone's ass. Dito ka matututo sa bullies, pano i handle ang mga kupal sa buhay.

 

 

But to me, wag mo lang gatungan yung pagbubully ng iba. Avoid them, but if need be talk to them with dignity and respect them still, talk to them man to man.

And when they challenge you, k*ll them with your kindness, tell them you win I give up. Magmumukha lang silang tanga at kataawa tawa.

 

Pero when they invade your personal space and they're about to attack you physically.

 

 

Whoop they ass!

[r35gtr]

ako i support how edmund dantes thinks. when i read his post, i never felt that he always wants to be the best. he is objective to what he is talking about. he never "name called" anyone, (correct me if i'm wrong edmund) kasi nga 1st hand experience nya ang ma name call, so most likely he would not do that kasi hate nya yun. He gave them title but not name call at never sya ng antagonize ng mga nagshashare ng experiences sa thread, he would emphatize with the person kasi nga he knows what it feels how to bullied.

 

on the hand r35gtr. how you antagonized edmund and glut. it makes me wonder kung alam mo ba talaga ang feeling ng na bully? ano ba ang psyche ng na bully? kaya nga meron tayo tiantawag na psychological trauma, you cant always blame kung yung nabubully e naging reserved dahil sa experiences nya. ikaw sinasabi mo na si glut excuse nya yung sinisisi nya sa mga nambully sa kanya and yet ikaw ang excuse mo e kasi grade 4 ka lang? hmmm. ang grade 4 marunong na magisip, marunong na nga magcutting classes ang mga grade 4 e, tpos ikaw excuse mo yun? sinasabi mo wag umasa na laging may masusumbungan, e kaya nga nagiging reserved ang iba dahil walang malapitan.

 

lets just share are stories... tpos support natin yung mga nadodown. di ba? that would work better. tingin ko kasi yun yung potential ng thread na ito.

 

 

hello Edmund and Flirtpool. I guess we will never see eye to eye sa bullies because we have different experiences. pero eto tanong ko, ever wondered why yung mga Magaganda at guwapo iisa ang barkada? ever wondered why ang mga mayayaman iisa din silang barkada? Don't you think nabubully din kami? we are stereo typed and minsan may masaya ang kuwentuhan sabay pag dating ko tatahimik sila?

 

On the other side of the spectrum pag may galit sa amin, di naman naming alam kung bakit. I remember nung college, pag nagdala ako ng magandang kotse "Mayabang" na daw ako , then pag balik ko may gasgas pa.

 

Pag meron ako babaeng di pinansin , ang suplado ko daw? ang feeling ko daw. First creepy talaga ang makatanggap ng liham na may pabango sa bag mo na walang pangalan. habang naglalakad ako nag amoy pabango akala ko may multo yun pala may nag iwan na ng letter sa bag ko. pag punta mo sa upuan mo may brownies. siyempre di ko kakainin paano kung ang nagbake nung naglagay ng bulbol niya? tapos ng iniwan ko ang brownies ang kapal ko daw, suplado, cono , etc. etc.

 

how many times ko narinig na . si ""r35gtr...wala iyan.. anak kasi ni... kaya andito sa school natin, otherwise di iyan makakapasa dito" sabi ng mga kaklase kong pangit na mukhang bulldog pero funny thing is, never ko naman siya nakausap.

 

OR kung may gf ka ang sasabihin " Pera lang ang habol ni girl diyan eh. tiniis na ang masama niyang ugali"

 

 

so ano ginawi ko, ininggit ko sila lalo, that is how I fought my bullies in college. I even bought my dad's car para maasar sila lalo.

 

bullying is a two way street kasi. if some bully's get satisfaction by intimidating other people physically, there are some less fortunate individuals who 's only taste of success is getting a bite out of those fortunate people na wala namang ginagawang masama sa kanila.

[Edmund Dantes]

 

 

hello Edmund and Flirtpool. I guess we will never see eye to eye sa bullies because we have different experiences. pero eto tanong ko, ever wondered why yung mga Magaganda at guwapo iisa ang barkada? ever wondered why ang mga mayayaman iisa din silang barkada? Don't you think nabubully din kami? we are stereo typed and minsan may masaya ang kuwentuhan sabay pag dating ko tatahimik sila?

 

On the other side of the spectrum pag may galit sa amin, di naman naming alam kung bakit. I remember nung college, pag nagdala ako ng magandang kotse "Mayabang" na daw ako , then pag balik ko may gasgas pa.

 

Pag meron ako babaeng di pinansin , ang suplado ko daw? ang feeling ko daw. First creepy talaga ang makatanggap ng liham na may pabango sa bag mo na walang pangalan. habang naglalakad ako nag amoy pabango akala ko may multo yun pala may nag iwan na ng letter sa bag ko. pag punta mo sa upuan mo may brownies. siyempre di ko kakainin paano kung ang nagbake nung naglagay ng bulbol niya? tapos ng iniwan ko ang brownies ang kapal ko daw, suplado, cono , etc. etc.

 

how many times ko narinig na . si ""r35gtr...wala iyan.. anak kasi ni... kaya andito sa school natin, otherwise di iyan makakapasa dito" sabi ng mga kaklase kong pangit na mukhang bulldog pero funny thing is, never ko naman siya nakausap.

 

OR kung may gf ka ang sasabihin " Pera lang ang habol ni girl diyan eh. tiniis na ang masama niyang ugali"

 

 

so ano ginawi ko, ininggit ko sila lalo, that is how I fought my bullies in college. I even bought my dad's car para maasar sila lalo.

 

bullying is a two way street kasi. if some bully's get satisfaction by intimidating other people physically, there are some less fortunate individuals who 's only taste of success is getting a bite out of those fortunate people na wala namang ginagawang masama sa kanila.

 

 

Hmmmm I don't know where you went to school, pero ako yan ang kinatuwa ko nung college na ako is that sa Diliman pantay lang ang mayayaman at mahihirap. I had friends na 3 pa mercedez benz. Some did part time modeling. Me anak ng mayamang aktibista kaya me personal security. At syempre me mga galing sa uring mangagawa. But that was just the culture in the campus. Lahat kami pantay pantay lang. Naalala ko nga yung thesis advisee tandem ko kasi polar opposite sila one was a tall big dude who was prematurely balding and galing sa isang simpleng blue collar na pamilya. His partner was a smaller dude na gwapo at galing sa mayamang pamilya. But they got along just fine and they are 2 of the best that I handled. I guess the point I am trying to make here is that we all could really get along, all it takes lang naman is tamang pagpapakumbaba at pakikisama.

 

One thing bullies have in common is insecurity. Sabi nga, mga duwag ang mga ito sa totoo lang. If that is the kind of bullying you got, then maswerte ka pa! At least di ka naman hinaharass. At least di ba nakakapasok ka pa. Pero if I may say so, your behavior shows that you too are insecure hence you act like a bully yourself. Despite of being good looking and rich, naapektohan ka din so you bully them back. Which is well.... juvenille sa totoo lang.

 

Ako I always say na the most elemental approach to avoid bullies is be confident. You dont have to be perfect but at least be confident. Stand up straight, shoulders back, look a person in the face when you talk to them.

[r35gtr]

Well I get picked on talaga nuon, dami parinig sa mga tao. Hard not to be insecure if you here bad stuff about you from people you never even met. imagine people saying na

 

"Ang yabang nito" pero wala ka ginagawa, I just showed up.

 

"Feelingero yun... puro hangin naman laman ng utak"-san nanggaling iyon

 

"Kaya iyan may gf naka Porsche kasi (way back in 1998 lumabas ang boxster ditto sa Pinas)" then pag balik ko sa car park may gasgas.

 

then may chismis pa na " Kaya yan pumasa dinate si mam". then kakalat pa sa school. tumawa na lang ang Professor ko. Perhaps this is the reason why I reacted dun sa kaklase mo na maganda na nilabel mo na bully. Naka relate kasi ako. Pero if she does make other people feel that they are ugly, then masama ugali niya.

 

There are other types of bullying ika nga, not just yung physical na pananakot.

 

now that I am working, may corporate bullying din. Pati sa munisipyo. BIR, Immigration, may mga bully din.

 

kaya as early as now learn how to stand up against bullies.

 

Ang bullies lang na di ko pinapatulan ay yung nasa kalye na may road rage, baka kasi may baril.

 

BTT: pag bukas ko ng diyaryo nung sunday, nakita ko ang advertisement ng iba't ibang school (they call it up to k12 na now). Pinagmamalaki nila na " bully free campus" sila. I guess bullying is considered serious now.

 

back in the day ( 1987-1997), bullying is accepted . Dati nagsumbong ako sa tatay ko na may nangbubully sa akin, ang solusyon niya isama ko kuya ko at bugbugin daw namin. now it seems that people try to talk things out which is good.

 

Pero ang bullying, I do not think totally mawawala . Ex, Sa sports, baka mamya pag di pinili ang mababagal na players dahil mataba sila , tawagin na pangbubully na or ang pandak ayaw ipa volley ball kasi pandak.