Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[maruchiaru]

If you are in love with someone and you can bear the fact na ginagawa siyang parausan ng kung sino sino para lang sa pera, then there's got to be something wrong with you... Libog lang yan.

 

I think kaya nga ginawa tong thread na to to have a deeper discourse about this topic. Because some GMs are in this predicament now, and some theras (s/o to Ms. shampooh) are here to banter and share honest thoughts and actual experiences.

 

If you could nonchalantly pass that of with "there's got to be something wrong with you, Libog lang yan", then there's got to be something wrong with YOU. Your bigotry and arrogance is poison to this thread.

 

Buti pa si georgemarts naghahalungkat for something that might change his mind.

[shampooh]

 

I think kaya nga ginawa tong thread na to to have a deeper discourse about this topic. Because some GMs are in this predicament now, and some theras (s/o to Ms. shampooh) are here to banter and share honest thoughts and actual experiences.

 

If you could nonchalantly pass that of with "there's got to be something wrong with you, Libog lang yan", then there's got to be something wrong with YOU. Your bigotry and arrogance is poison to this thread.

 

Buti pa si georgemarts naghahalungkat for something that might change his mind.

In a way alam ko sinasabi niya; in a way hindi normal sa lalaki na umibig ng damaged goods like us; tao din kami; marunong din kami umibig

[maruchiaru]

In a way alam ko sinasabi niya; in a way hindi normal sa lalaki na umibig ng damaged goods like us; tao din kami; marunong din kami umibig

 

In a way, I agree. I almost had a relationship with a top1 thera sa isang spa sa Antipolo. We had a connection, we had affection. Pero in a way, libog lang talaga pinagmulan ng lahat.

 

I know mahirap tapatan sweldo nya sa ESpa, I'm a learned professional and I can't even begin to think how to help her practically / financially. For me untouchable yung trabaho nya, we had "the talk" many times, kasi she's aware na she can't always make me feel special thru bareback sex while hanggang Body2Body and Jakol lang sya sa GMs nya.

 

Many times kinakaya ng libog at concern, pero di rin kami nagtagal. I ghosted her. I was in the wrong. Pero I wanna acknowledge it, it was the only way I can keep her existence present, by acknowledging that I ghosted a thera GF.

 

Lahat naman tayo damaged goods, we are all twisted. And these twisted stories we have won't be heard so much for sexism, double standards and hypocrisy. We are all twisted, I just loathe those to look down from their moral high horse when convenient.

[kuparas]

Korek. Plus the fact that most girls in this trade do not have the educational background to find a job that will earn even 20k a month. An amount they can earn with just two days of work as thera.

Isip ko lang, maybe they have learned to shut it out, so they no longer think may mali sa line of work nila.

 

Sabi ng mga nakausap kong girls sa industry, kailangan talaga nila i-shut out para magsurvive at magthrive. Iyong line na "trabaho lang yan" ang isa sa mga explanation nila bakit nila ginagawa iyon. After a while, nagiging madali na.

 

Dun sa mga nag-iisip na libog lang iyong dahilan kaya nai-inlove ang mga GMs sa mga girls sa ganitong industry, hindi ganun ka simple iyon. Iba iba kasi ang emotional needs ng tao. May kilala ako na na-inlove. Hindi daw libog. Ang sabi niya "she made me feel wanted."

 

Human nature iyan eh. Pag mahusay ang pakikitungo sa iyo, gagaan ang loob mo. Kung di mo kaya ma-control, one day magigising ka na lang na in love ka na.

[shampooh]

Kung kayo gm naiinlove samin; inisip ba nibyo na kami din kaya napapaibig ninyo

[maruchiaru]

Kung kayo gm naiinlove samin; inisip ba nibyo na kami din kaya napapaibig ninyo

 

 

Sa akin lang po, kung in love man ko sa isang tao, hindi ko iniisip na in love din sya sa akin, kasi mas masakit yung to much expectation at ang hirap mag speculate,,,it's up to them kung tutumbasan nila ang pagmamahal ko kahit na swempre ung ang hiniling ko...mahirap ipilit ang sarili, kasi hindi magiging masaya ang isang relasyon kapag sapilitan lang...magiging #onesidedlove lang un...sa akin lang po ito

 

 

Madaling malaman if napapaibig mo na ang thera mo. It usually starts with more mileage and leniency, then favors.

Also, being in a GM-thera setup in ESpas, usually you are in your own little world for at least an hour, usually no holds barred, usually heart-to-heart talks if you really are fond of each other.

 

Ewan ko sa iba, pero this kind of setup makes me sensitive thoughts/feelings ng thera. We bare our bodies to each other na rin lang, mas lalong madali to bare our innermost thoughts and feelings. Sabi ko nga about my past experience, madalas kami nagda-"the talk" ni thera ko, kahit nung hindi pa kami.

[Kingkongphils]

 

I think kaya nga ginawa tong thread na to to have a deeper discourse about this topic. Because some GMs are in this predicament now, and some theras (s/o to Ms. shampooh) are here to banter and share honest thoughts and actual experiences.

 

If you could nonchalantly pass that of with "there's got to be something wrong with you, Libog lang yan", then there's got to be something wrong with YOU. Your bigotry and arrogance is poison to this thread.

 

Buti pa si georgemarts naghahalungkat for something that might change his mind.

Lets not stir the pot siguro.. I think ang point lang nya e its not normal for a person to think its okey na may ibang gumagalaw sa mahal mo. Now if you can do anything about it or not thats a differe t question. Kaya point cguro is maging fuel or inspiration mo ung kalagayan nyo ng thra loves mo to do better in your job, in your business or whichever endeavour you are performing... Thats a GMs point of view na dapat sa tingin ko. A lighter way to say it is kung tlganng mahal mo cya weather tricycle driver ka, panadero, kusinero o waiter, dapat pagsikapan mo para hindi na kailangan bumalik c ther loves mo.. I think yun lang ang point nya...

[shampooh]

I was there not as a thera but a psp; mahirap talaga umalis at talikuran nakaraan ko pero kaya; may mahahanap ka na tao sasagip sayo; sex man o libog ang puhunan namin pero ganun natutunan namin ng murang edad; illegal man kapit patalim; sana mainindihan ninyo may pamilya kami pinapakain; mga gastusin na binabayaran; pero sabi ko nga tao lang kami; naiinlive di kami; respeto na lang sana minsan pag may meet up or guest; remember the term GM "gentle manyak" salamat

[piknip]

its getting interesting.i wanna share my story.medjo busy lang at akoy naglalaba hahahahaha.hirap magpatuyo e. coming soon ung story ko maybe later or bukas na.sana maenlightened ako at mashare nyo mga thoughts nyo to help me think straight. we all know why we are in this thread.

[piknip]

Paano kung sasabihin nyang nakakaraos din sya sa guest? Kasi tao lang sya. Sabihin nya na L lang yung sa guest pero walang love. Sakit pa rin di ba? The fact na na-L sya sa ibang guy. Isip mo agad: type nya yung guest? Baka palitan ka o maging sila pag naging regular nya yun?

di malayo brads.benefits of the doubt...parte ng trabaho..or should i say risk....hayyy.kaya nga eto tayo...nandito naghahanap ng sagot sa mga tanong na wlang kasagutan..

[piknip]

 

In a way, I agree. I almost had a relationship with a top1 thera sa isang spa sa Antipolo. We had a connection, we had affection. Pero in a way, libog lang talaga pinagmulan ng lahat.

 

I know mahirap tapatan sweldo nya sa ESpa, I'm a learned professional and I can't even begin to think how to help her practically / financially. For me untouchable yung trabaho nya, we had "the talk" many times, kasi she's aware na she can't always make me feel special thru bareback sex while hanggang Body2Body and Jakol lang sya sa GMs nya.

 

Many times kinakaya ng libog at concern, pero di rin kami nagtagal. I ghosted her. I was in the wrong. Pero I wanna acknowledge it, it was the only way I can keep her existence present, by acknowledging that I ghosted a thera GF.

 

Lahat naman tayo damaged goods, we are all twisted. And these twisted stories we have won't be heard so much for sexism, double standards and hypocrisy. We are all twisted, I just loathe those to look down from their moral high horse when convenient.

i agree with you sir lahat tayo damaged goods. nobody is perfect. in the end its just pure love.

 

anyway curious lang ako is it confirmed na b2b and hj lang? i dont mean to compare but according to my thera gf loves e if the competition gets stiff they need to upgrade.minsan FV and BV e di na umuubra....lalo na kung need na nila ng kita...

[mikebustos]

If you are in love with someone and you can bear the fact na ginagawa siyang parausan ng kung sino sino para lang sa pera, then there's got to be something wrong with you... Libog lang yan.

 

 

 

I think kaya nga ginawa tong thread na to to have a deeper discourse about this topic. Because some GMs are in this predicament now, and some theras (s/o to Ms. shampooh) are here to banter and share honest thoughts and actual experiences.

 

If you could nonchalantly pass that of with "there's got to be something wrong with you, Libog lang yan", then there's got to be something wrong with YOU. Your bigotry and arrogance is poison to this thread.

 

Buti pa si georgemarts naghahalungkat for something that might change his mind.

 

 

Lets not stir the pot siguro.. I think ang point lang nya e its not normal for a person to think its okey na may ibang gumagalaw sa mahal mo. Now if you can do anything about it or not thats a differe t question. Kaya point cguro is maging fuel or inspiration mo ung kalagayan nyo ng thra loves mo to do better in your job, in your business or whichever endeavour you are performing... Thats a GMs point of view na dapat sa tingin ko. A lighter way to say it is kung tlganng mahal mo cya weather tricycle driver ka, panadero, kusinero o waiter, dapat pagsikapan mo para hindi na kailangan bumalik c ther loves mo.. I think yun lang ang point nya...

 

no disrespect, but really, just wanted to say that if you love the thera then you should take her out of that s@%t place.. if you can bear having a nice dinner with her and hear her talk about her clients and how they trash her, then that's not love.. you just want company and some sex.. let me re-share my story..

 

Posted 17 May 2018 - 04:06 PM

mikebustos, on 02 Apr 2018 - 6:19 PM, said:

I'm in love with a thera, but there are circumstances that forbids us to be together.. Tanggap ko siya at mahal ko siya... i told her that she is very special to me... sent her gifts, flowers, went to the her spa to do nothing but talk to her and just gaze at her (promise wala kaming ginagawa natunaw lang ako sa titig nya but I give her money still every time I visit her.. )... but i never told her yet that I Iove her dahil alam ko namang hindi pwede.... I have never been to any other spa or mp.. I am also not a regular spa goer... i visit this site mainly to check her.. first and most likely last thera ko na siya.... it breaks my heart to read FRs about her, parang dinudurog yung puso ko pagnababasa ko ung mga FR... sa ngayon, i stopped communicating with her... 15 days na kami hindi naguusap sa FB... nakakalungkot lang kasi hindi niya ko kinakamusta.. it made me feel like she was just being nice to me because its her job.... saklap... i am well educated.. i came from a prestigious school and took a career which only a few can ever afford... i am financially stable.. lahat ng naging GFs ko were her opposite.. lahat ng GFs ko were aggressive and sophisticated as our profession requires... but there is something about this thera which made me fall head over heels... I feel like she's my damsel in distress and I'm her knight in shining armor... kaso mukang high paying client in a nice car lang ang tingin niya sakin.... i'm not ugly, pero hindi din naman ako artistahin.. i've had 5 GFs.. hindi din naman ako DOM, I'm only 30yrs old... saklap...

 

 

mikebustos, on 06 Apr 2018 - 1:23 PM, said:

thanks for everyone's insights. really appreciate this site. Kingkongphils, yes, tama ka "maliban cguro sa ibang cases na sila lang ang inaasahan ng family nila." kasi si thera ko, siya talaga ang inaasahan.. Actually, gusto nya na umalis, parati siya nag aapply kung saan saan na mall as sales lady kaso hindi siya matanggap tanggap... minsan nabiro nya ko, sabi nya i-hire ko nalang siya sa isa sa mga store ko.. sabi ko kung pwede lang, kaso joint namen un ng wife ko ung mga businesses namen, hangga't hindi kami annulled I can't just take you in... tumawa lang siya saba'y kabig, joke lang ito naman... pero i felt her strong desire to leave the spa.. ayaw nya din yung ginagawa nya, minsan naiiyak siya saken... breaks my heart... feeling ko minsan kaya ayaw nya din i-entertain ako mashado dahil gusto niyang magkabalikan kami ng wife ko kasi sabi nya sayang kasal na kami.. mashado siyang mabait.. kaya ganun nalang ung pagkahinayang ko sa kanya.. she's too kind.. too loving.. too wonderful to deserve that kind of life.... napaka buti niyang tao.. halos ibigay na niya lahat ng income nya sa pamilya nya.. but there were times na nagmemessage siya asking me to come over.. minsan nasabi nya pa sakin, punta daw ako dun wag na ko magbayad kahit sa lobby lang kami magusap.. whenever I visit her kasi I still pay at the front desk for a regular massage and still give her cash though we don't really do anything, we just talk.. i feel guilty taking her time at work and not give her money.. minsan pa i visited her, she didnt accept the money i gave.. kaya i dont know why suddenly she stopped communicating with me..

 

Pero yung ibang thera talagang alam mo na luho lang and just plain lack of effort.. ayaw nalang maghanap ng ibang trabaho.. dahilan nila un nalang ang nakasanayan nila na trabaho... i dont judge them nor their decision.. i just feel sorry for them.. when they hit 30, what will they do if no one avails them anymore? put a low ball price tag on their dignity?

 

UPDATE:

 

My wife and I started talking again and discussed about getting back together. Meanwhile, my love-thera messaged me and told me na pagod na siya sa work niya and that she wanted to leave the industry already but does not know how to start a new life. We had several exchanges. A day after that, she bid me goodbye and told me she has finally decided to leave the industry. She promised me that she will never look back. She told me how thankful she is for meeting me, that I am the reason why she is leaving her work because I made her realize her self-worth and that not all hope is lost.

 

My love-thera and I had a happy ending. But I guess a happy ending does not necessarily mean "they lived happily ever after". Yes, we do love each other and we're destined to meet each other. Not to be together but to serve a purpose to each other. I was going through rough times when I met her, somehow she helped me keep my sanity intact by making me smile all the time. I, in turn, helped her get out of that godforsaken place and help her get back up.

 

Masaya kami parehong nagpaalam sa isa't isa. Oo, malungkot.. Nagkaiyakan,. Alam kasi namen na mahal namen ang isa't isa.. Pero sa isang banda, masaya kami dahil naitama namen ang mga pagkakamali namen sa buhay... She gave me a kiss when we parted ways... That was the sweetest and most sincere kiss I've ever had... she gave me a kiss while holding my face and crying... Salamat sayo... May isang bagay na kahit kelan hindi ko nagawang sabihin sayo dahil bawal.. pero hindi ko na kailangang sabihin dahil alam naman naten ang nararamdaman ng isa't isa.. pero sasabihin ko ngayon, MAHAL NA MAHAL KITA...

Edited June 14, 2018 by mikebustos

[maruchiaru]

 

 

 

 

 

 

no disrespect, but really, just wanted to say that if you love the thera then you should take her out of that s@%t place.. if you can bear having a nice dinner with her and hear her talk about her clients and how they trash her, then that's not love.. you just want company and some sex.. let me re-share my story..

 

Posted 17 May 2018 - 04:06 PM

mikebustos, on 02 Apr 2018 - 6:19 PM, said:

 

 

mikebustos, on 06 Apr 2018 - 1:23 PM, said:

 

UPDATE:

 

My wife and I started talking again and discussed about getting back together. Meanwhile, my love-thera messaged me and told me na pagod na siya sa work niya and that she wanted to leave the industry already but does not know how to start a new life. We had several exchanges. A day after that, she bid me goodbye and told me she has finally decided to leave the industry. She promised me that she will never look back. She told me how thankful she is for meeting me, that I am the reason why she is leaving her work because I made her realize her self-worth and that not all hope is lost.

 

My love-thera and I had a happy ending. But I guess a happy ending does not necessarily mean "they lived happily ever after". Yes, we do love each other and we're destined to meet each other. Not to be together but to serve a purpose to each other. I was going through rough times when I met her, somehow she helped me keep my sanity intact by making me smile all the time. I, in turn, helped her get out of that godforsaken place and help her get back up.

 

Masaya kami parehong nagpaalam sa isa't isa. Oo, malungkot.. Nagkaiyakan,. Alam kasi namen na mahal namen ang isa't isa.. Pero sa isang banda, masaya kami dahil naitama namen ang mga pagkakamali namen sa buhay... She gave me a kiss when we parted ways... That was the sweetest and most sincere kiss I've ever had... she gave me a kiss while holding my face and crying... Salamat sayo... May isang bagay na kahit kelan hindi ko nagawang sabihin sayo dahil bawal.. pero hindi ko na kailangang sabihin dahil alam naman naten ang nararamdaman ng isa't isa.. pero sasabihin ko ngayon, MAHAL NA MAHAL KITA...

 

 

Pardon for the harsh words, brother. Ayoko lang i-pass off in general as "libog" yung mga ganitong kwento, pero I actually pale in comparison sa kwento mo. At least ikaw happy ending, hindi mo binigyan ng pera/trabaho like the typical route others might think of, dinaan mo sa matinong usap.

 

I tried talking her out of it, pero wala naman akong ibang kayang gawin to back my words. Siguro I should've just continued like you did until she finally leaves the industry, instead of ghosting her. I just happened upon her FB and nakaalis na sya sa industry, may BF na ding iba and happily shares her newfound Christian views sa buhay. Di ko na lang din kinausap, I'm just a non-existent shard of her past.

[shampooh]

i already have my happy ending; i'm married now with 2 kids; took me a while bago ako nakaalis at malaki pasasalamat ko sa kanya for helping me during my low low days; my current partner does not know my past and he is not asking na din which is good; just want to let the girls here know that there is a way out; and yes meron forever

[JakoDeLeon]

Anyone experienced na youve been dating this thera and you believed na she is single with no kids because that is what she has told you since the beginning. Everything is doing good until she ghosted you, she cut off the communication without any reason. Then one day malalaman mo nalang she has bf living abroad and supporting their kid. Feeling ko naging pampalipas oras lang ako kasi wala bf nya. t#ang%na. Hahahaha