Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Charmonder]

do you think falling for a therapist and having it not go well would make you not book massages anymore?

[Zych]

3 hours ago, Charmonder said:

do you think falling for a therapist and having it not go well would make you not book massages anymore?

baka nga mapabook ka pa ng sunod sunod para maka get over 😂

[twelfth]

On 7/24/2024 at 12:08 PM, AngGwapo said:

Wow Sir @plug

Bilib ako sa inyo.

Ano po ang monetary costs on your end if okay lang mag share?

 

Assuming pinapantayan nya rate ng nakukuha sa spa or more, pretty big? Nasa hundreds yan a month. 

[twelfth]

1 hour ago, Zych said:

baka nga mapabook ka pa ng sunod sunod para maka get over 😂

Depends siguro. Some will pine for a while, try to book others, only to remember the woman they fell for. So relapse hahahaha. Depende pano mag move on yung tao

[twelfth]

4 hours ago, brun0magtangol said:

twice happened 
lately nangyari ang last
ok lang naman ma fall without asking in return
ok na din mainis if ma disregard and sampalin ka ng reality 
sarap kaya main love, sarap din makararamdam ng kirot
else u would not know the difference and appreciation of the better will make it sweeter, 
 

Agree! This is a sign you're alive. Bask in the happiness, enjoy the downhill spiral. Yon naman point of loving someone. It's always a risk. 

23 hours ago, Rolf.go.06 said:

Oo nga noh baka mag cause ng argument nanaman. hehe

Pero tingin ko naman maiintindihan ren ng mga GMs na may kanya kanya talaga tayong opinion, tsaka 
mga GMs malalawak ang pag iisip dahil sa gantong laro o bisyo kailangan successful sa buhay. 

Agree here. Pero chiming in on "men don't care about their woman's occupation"- depende talaga to. Usually sa start ng relationship when all sweet and dreamy pa, OKs lang. Afterwards, pagtapos ng honeymoon phase, don na matetest both sides. Is the guy really " Open minded" And hindi mag seselos / magkaka trust issue considering the work revolves being around potential replacements (assuming tuloy mag work sa industry yung girl)? And is the girl secure with her feelings for the guy na hindi sya ma huhulog for other GMs kapag may disagreements sila nung guy? Since Na-meet rin ni thera si GM in this setting, there's also the thought na baka kumukuha pa sya ng iba on the side. All of these are theoretical though, but rooted in human nature hahaha

 

Then again, kahit naman sa non GM-thera relationship I think above scenarios still apply. Mas complex lang siguro in this case. Mas explicit na clash ng trust and insecurities kapag ganito. Another option is yumaman kang malala so girl can quit (hustle hard bro hahaha). 

 

Tingin ko nasobrahan ako sa panonood ng expensive candy(spoiler alert, corny ending)  at sa feedback lang rin I got last year nung na-curious ako about this topic sa dami kong ebas tonight hahaha

[Farrel]

7 hours ago, Charmonder said:

do you think falling for a therapist and having it not go well would make you not book massages anymore?

move on agad ☺️ wak na pahirapan sarili. mag book ng mag book or baka di para sayo ang buhay spa. di rin naman maiiwasan na di kaya ibalik ni thera ang handa nating ibigay, just like any other girl.

Edited July 27 by Farrel

[Julio777]

12 hours ago, twelfth said:

Agree here. Pero chiming in on "men don't care about their woman's occupation"- depende talaga to. Usually sa start ng relationship when all sweet and dreamy pa, OKs lang. Afterwards, pagtapos ng honeymoon phase, don na matetest both sides. Is the guy really " Open minded" And hindi mag seselos / magkaka trust issue considering the work revolves being around potential replacements (assuming tuloy mag work sa industry yung girl)? And is the girl secure with her feelings for the guy na hindi sya ma huhulog for other GMs kapag may disagreements sila nung guy? Since Na-meet rin ni thera si GM in this setting, there's also the thought na baka kumukuha pa sya ng iba on the side. All of these are theoretical though, but rooted in human nature 

Very well said on this statement sir @twelfth. Been in one before and this is very relatable and somewhat accurate. The first phase which is the honeymoon phase. Both sides will see and feel that they long for each others company and ramdam ang happiness pag magkasama sila. Once this phase is over, and the first real disagreement happens especially if it involves a lie, everything will be in question. Mapapaisip ka na if totoo bang sayo lang sya ganito, na ikaw lang tlaga ang gusto nya makasama at purely trabaho lang ba talaga para sa kanya yung pagiging thera? Malawak na panguunawa ang kailangan at kung hindi ka handa ibigay yun at hindi ka handa masaktan, wag ka na pumasok sa relasyon. Madami ka makikita at mababasa tungkol sa thera mo since trabaho nya to. Kaya mo ba basahin na hindi maapektuhan ang relasyon nyo? Hindi madali

Ibang klaseng saya din ang makukuha mo pag ok kayo (can't deny), pero ibang klaseng sakit din ang mararamdaman mo along the way (kaya mo ba isustain). 

In the end mas ok pa din to just keep everything professional. Service availment lang, wag na pasukin ang relasyon. Mas magiging masaya ang lahat.

Edited July 28 by Julio777

[TitoKaloy]

24 minutes ago, Julio777 said:

In the end mas ok pa din to just keep everything professional. Service availment lang, wag na pasukin ang relasyon. Mas magiging masaya ang lahat.

May mga pagtatalo talaga lalo na kung may nabasa ka na FR niya na may dagdag bawas ng GM para lang magpasikat... iisipin mo yung nabasa mo pag sinabi niya na di naman ganun ang nangyari mag dadalawang isip ka na maniwala... "iyot iyot lang, unang mainlove, TALO"

Edited July 28 by TitoKaloy

[Julio777]

1 hour ago, TitoKaloy said:

May mga pagtatalo talaga lalo na kung may nabasa ka na FR niya na may dagdag bawas ng GM para lang magpasikat... iisipin mo yung nabasa mo pag sinabi niya na di naman ganun ang nangyari mag dadalawang isip ka na maniwala... "iyot iyot lang, unang mainlove, TALO"

For 14 yrs in and out sa spa purely professional service lang din ako. Walang emotions involved. Along the way may isang naging katapat who became my regular. It was unexpected. Walang ligawan, nagkagaanan nlang ng loob and bigla nagkainlovan dahil sa constant communication and visits (lots of time together in and out the spa). Kept the relationship without any monetary involve para maiwasan din yung thought na baka pera pera lang. 

After that incident, back to professional services nlang ulit. I wont dare to go look for another one. The emotions are too much to handle.

[Max Pervert]

1 hour ago, Julio777 said:

 

no thera would ever fall for you, you ugly sack of shit                                                      

[Julio777]

2 minutes ago, Max Pervert said:

no thera would ever fall for you, you ugly sack of shit                                                      

Once a loser, always a loser. Get a life! 

[twelfth]

17 hours ago, Julio777 said:

Very well said on this statement sir @twelfth. Been in one before and this is very relatable and somewhat accurate. The first phase which is the honeymoon phase. Both sides will see and feel that they long for each others company and ramdam ang happiness pag magkasama sila. Once this phase is over, and the first real disagreement happens especially if it involves a lie, everything will be in question. Mapapaisip ka na if totoo bang sayo lang sya ganito, na ikaw lang tlaga ang gusto nya makasama at purely trabaho lang ba talaga para sa kanya yung pagiging thera? Malawak na panguunawa ang kailangan at kung hindi ka handa ibigay yun at hindi ka handa masaktan, wag ka na pumasok sa relasyon. Madami ka makikita at mababasa tungkol sa thera mo since trabaho nya to. Kaya mo ba basahin na hindi maapektuhan ang relasyon nyo? Hindi madali

Ibang klaseng saya din ang makukuha mo pag ok kayo (can't deny), pero ibang klaseng sakit din ang mararamdaman mo along the way (kaya mo ba isustain). 

In the end mas ok pa din to just keep everything professional. Service availment lang, wag na pasukin ang relasyon. Mas magiging masaya ang lahat.

wow. haha well all relationships do start with the honeymoon phase. yung next phases ang magdedetermine if it will last. arguably mas complex lang sa context na to.

 

16 hours ago, Julio777 said:

For 14 yrs in and out sa spa purely professional service lang din ako. Walang emotions involved. Along the way may isang naging katapat who became my regular. It was unexpected. Walang ligawan, nagkagaanan nlang ng loob and bigla nagkainlovan dahil sa constant communication and visits (lots of time together in and out the spa). Kept the relationship without any monetary involve para maiwasan din yung thought na baka pera pera lang. 

After that incident, back to professional services nlang ulit. I wont dare to go look for another one. The emotions are too much to handle.

damn, speaking from experience ka pala sir hahaha. if it’s ok to pry a bit, how did the split happen? amicable naman, stayed as friends / gm-thera setup? regardless, hope the two of you are ok!

[reyjun47]

I am slowly falling to a therapist. Only to find out that she lied that she don't have a baby. She also have a red flag hits of borrowing money. Oh well..

[twelfth]

11 hours ago, reyjun47 said:

I am slowly falling to a therapist. Only to find out that she lied that she don't have a baby. She also have a red flag hits of borrowing money. Oh well..

TL;DR: pre baka nalilibugan ka lang, nakasama mo lang saglit dapat kilalang kilala mo na?

On a serious note:

Keep in context on how you guys met man. Knowing her private info is very dangerous for her given the society here in ph still is conservative in nature. Hindi masyadong kahihiyan sa lalaki malaman na nag a-avail ka, pero kahihiyan sa thera kapag malaman na nag papa avail sya. At least, sa society natin. marami nang open minded, pero mas marami parin ang closed.

Secondly, she doesn't owe you the truth given above risks. Why, just because you frequently avail, you're entitled to those info already? Does she really know you (have the same details you want of her), how you would use that information? it's her choice if she wants to trust you, and yours as well to trust her. Always take what they say with a spoon (or more) of salt. Given rin yung info na she lied about, big deal yon considering we go to this industry with specific preferences, and others might stop going to her if they found out about it. Why should she give you that power?

 

On the borrowing money side, I don't see the act of "borrowing" as a red flag, unless "they don't pay" in some shape or form, or at least acknowledge she did borrow. This is trust basis already, and she might be comfy enough to ask you for that "favor". OR, she could be manipulating you given she thinks you're deep into her (no pun intended) already. This applies not just in this industry tbh, friends and relatives pwede ka rin naman ganyanin. 

regardless, I think you should reflect hard if you really are falling for her, o lustful at na-aattract ka lang sa nabibigay nya. Very convenient lang kasi ang industry na to for emotions- no hard work required to understand and care for each other. Pasok ka lang, and meron ka na kagad. Afterwards, you can forget about it. no extra worries and maintenance. balik ka nalang kapag need mo ulit. I think given rin yung reaction mo about her lie, you're just infatuated / obsessing over a potential relationship with her. 

 

I sympathize though, it's hard to fall for someone and discover things aren't exactly as it seems, but that's the risk of falling for anyone, and a test if you're really interested to pursue her, or just wanting her for what she can give. 

kapit lang lods, ijabol mo muna yan

 

 

[Max Pervert]

On 7/28/2024 at 3:24 PM, Julio777 said:

 

get the fuck outta here. you're more annoying than diarrhea