Falling For A Therapist - Merged Thread

[Rasc]

tama na naman we need to set boundaries... lalo na kung may sarili tayong pamilya, mahirap makuha ulit ang trust. we need to have self control para na rin sa sarili natin, hindi natin hawak ng buhay ng taong mahal or minahal natin... it really come from ourselves, sariling desisyon. sadyang may ganitong mga tao na sanay na sa ganitong kalakaran, lahat siguro nangpambobola alam na nila, kaya in the end tau yung nagiging vulnerable... pero hindi ko naman nilalahat meron pa rin talagang tunay na tao.

 

tama rin naman, pagnakakaramdam ka na... nag hint na kesyo ganito ganyan... at kailangan ng pera. or manghiram ng gamit hindi na sinoli, yun na ang isa sa mga hint that she's not into you, leecher yan. pero kung emergency maari mu naman pag isipan, nasa iyo yun kung bibigyan mu or hindi patibayan na lang ng loob at konsenya... malay mo nadapa lang or talagang need ng pera para sa med, hindi masama ang tumulong, wag lang labis.

[TanglewoodBoy]

mas ok na tong sagot nito....

dapat binasted na lang niya ako nung umpisa pa lang..... :cry:

well, whatever it is, the experience made you a wise person, ako naman if the girl said may chance ako, i would have pursued her but i will still think it out..hahaha

 

:thumbsupsmiley:

[Rasc]

di bale. ilang swelduhan lang naman to eh. may jacket uli ako bago. tsaka summer na. di muna advisable bumili ng jacket. wahehehe!

 

mura ang jacket ngayon bro, haha discounted kasi summer... good for me, never heard a hint na akin na lang tong jacket,

 

ilang swelduhan din toh pagnagkataon hindi kasi one time salary toh at may sukli pa, no return policy. t

[Rasc]

well, whatever it is, the experience made you a wise person, ako naman if the girl said may chance ako, i would have pursued her but i will still think it out..hahaha

 

:thumbsupsmiley:

 

 

exactly, experience made us Wise... paano kung hindi pa natuto ano tawag dun?

 

 

Master TWB you have far more experience when it come to this situation... kahit siguro pagsabihan ka ng chance ng babae, hindi ka pa rin kakagat, heheh

[StoicVampire]

mura ang jacket ngayon bro, haha discounted kasi summer... good for me, never heard a hint na akin na lang tong jacket,

 

ilang swelduhan din toh pagnagkataon hindi kasi one time salary toh at may sukli pa, no return policy. t

 

hindi naman niya sinabing akin na lang tong jacket eh. sabi pahiram daw muna. "nakukyutan" daw siya sa jacket na panlalaki. eh nagkaroon kami ng sagutan sa text. lumabas yung usapan sa jacket na ipinahiram ko. ended up giving it to her....TSK! :cry:

[StoicVampire]

well, whatever it is, the experience made you a wise person, ako naman if the girl said may chance ako, i would have pursued her but i will still think it out..hahaha

 

:thumbsupsmiley:

 

well as they say, "experience is the best teacher" and in the hard way also....

[Rasc]

hindi naman niya sinabing akin na lang tong jacket eh. sabi pahiram daw muna. "nakukyutan" daw siya sa jacket na panlalaki. eh nagkaroon kami ng sagutan sa text. lumabas yung usapan sa jacket na ipinahiram ko. ended up giving it to her....TSK! :cry:

 

dapat at the end of the day kinuha mu, hindi mu talaga pinaabot dun... i already learn this from experience from my bro, diba

 

uso dati yung mga american football jackets? yun hiniram lang yung jacket, met her daw sa mall, working in a club that my

 

bro didn't tell where... yung nag set ulit sila magkita, sinama na ako, magdadala daw sya ng friend na taga club din. ayun

 

namuti ang mata namin sa kakaintay, sa wala... tried to call, out of coverage probably change number... ended up buying a

 

one yung kuya ko, with my half of the money with it, kaya simula nun every time na pupunta ako sa club or something, i

 

make a habit, kukunin ko gamit ko at the end of the night. kahit sabihan ako madamot, patibayan lang ng loob yan...

[StoicVampire]

dapat at the end of the day kinuha mu, hindi mu talaga pinaabot dun... i already learn this from experience from my bro, diba

 

uso dati yung mga american football jackets? yun hiniram lang yung jacket, met her daw sa mall, working in a club that my

 

bro didn't tell where... yung nag set ulit sila magkita, sinama na ako, magdadala daw sya ng friend na taga club din. ayun

 

namuti ang mata namin sa kakaintay, sa wala... tried to call, out of coverage probably change number... ended up buying a

 

one yung kuya ko, with my half of the money with it, kaya simula nun every time na pupunta ako sa club or something, i

 

make a habit, kukunin ko gamit ko at the end of the night. kahit sabihan ako madamot, patibayan lang ng loob yan...

 

malay ko ba naman na ganun mangyayari. eh sa kin jacket lang naman kasi yun. plano ko nga ibili na lang siya tapos ibalik na lang niya jacket ko. di bale may vest pa naman ako. hehe! :thumbsupsmiley:

[Rasc]

malay ko ba naman na ganun mangyayari. eh sa kin jacket lang naman kasi yun. plano ko nga ibili na lang siya tapos ibalik na lang niya jacket ko. di bale may vest pa naman ako. hehe! :thumbsupsmiley:

 

pwede nasa atin din naman kasi yung choice eh... sa akin lang kasi hindi naman importante yung material na bagay ang ibigay ko sa kanya... yung time ko, kasi paguukulan mu sya ng oras at panahon, without the guarantee of loving back...

[StoicVampire]

pwede nasa atin din naman kasi yung choice eh... sa akin lang kasi hindi naman importante yung material na bagay ang ibigay ko sa kanya... yung time ko, kasi paguukulan mu sya ng oras at panahon, without the guarantee of loving back...

 

bro, buong panahon at oras ko iniukol ko sa kanya. minsan pa nga ginagawa kong straight duty sa trabaho para lang makita siya. as in walang lunch break. siya tong ayaw makipagkita sa kin. for the reason she would never tell to me. yung mga materyal na bagay pwede at madali yang pag-ipunan. (depende sa presyo....hehe) but seriously, she would have given me a small time of hers even if she is busy. yun ang hirap eh. yung foundation na gusto kong buuin para sa aming dalawa di masimulan at di na talaga nasimulan. am i bitter? wala namang mangyayari kahit magalit ako di ba? i'm just keeping myself happy. it's not the end of the world anyway. i had plans in the future and i frankly told her that she is a part of it. hanggang ngayon siya pa rin naman ang dahilan eh. yun nga lang para na sa ibang tao ang pangarap na yun....

[Rasc]

bro, buong panahon at oras ko iniukol ko sa kanya. minsan pa nga ginagawa kong straight duty sa trabaho para lang makita siya. as in walang lunch break. siya tong ayaw makipagkita sa kin. for the reason she would never tell to me. yung mga materyal na bagay pwede at madali yang pag-ipunan. (depende sa presyo....hehe) but seriously, she would have given me a small time of hers even if she is busy. yun ang hirap eh. yung foundation na gusto kong buuin para sa aming dalawa di masimulan at di na talaga nasimulan. am i bitter? wala namang mangyayari kahit magalit ako di ba? i'm just keeping myself happy. it's not the end of the world anyway. i had plans in the future and i frankly told her that she is a part of it. hanggang ngayon siya pa rin naman ang dahilan eh. yun nga lang para na sa ibang tao ang pangarap na yun....

 

pero dapat magtitira ka ng oras para sa sarili mo... yun ang sabi sa team building, mahal mo nga yung tao... pero dapat mo rin mahalin ang sarili mo... siguro kaya ayaw nya sabihin dahil sa nahihiya or something stopping her to say it to you... yung time talaga minsan mahirap ibigay yan... kung sa atin meron tayong binibigay na oras... pag sa kanila minsan talaga mahirap sila magbigay ng oras, dyan na yung nagiingat dahil sa ganitong trabaho, hindi pa sila willing mag give up, base na rin sa nababasa ko dito sa tread... may masasama ang loob at sukdulan ang galit, pero tama ka bro, ano magagawa ng galit... yes tama naman talaga may plans tau kahit walang pang ipaguukulan... kasi hindi naman natin masasabi kelan dadating yung right person para sa atin... mabuti na yung handa.

[Itto Ogami]

she's a beauty, Master Itto.

 

 

it really sad... sa nangyari, lalo na napamahal na sau... you could not help, but to feel sorry.

 

wonder what she looks like now...

 

she is quite a stunner, isn't she?

she was only 17 when i met her... unang kaso ko ng statutory rape.

 

kaya nga malakas ang loob nya - even if she gets dumped by her current bf,

marami pang nakapila na manliligaw sa kanya.

 

but, the question is: how long can she keep this up?

in five years time, may maghahabol pa kaya sa kanya?

[Rasc]

she is quite a stunner, isn't she?

she was only 17 when i met her... unang kaso ko ng statutory rape.

 

kaya nga malakas ang loob nya - even if she gets dumped by her current bf,

marami pang nakapila na manliligaw sa kanya.

 

but, the question is: how long can she keep this up?

in five years time, may maghahabol pa kaya sa kanya?

 

yup... lethal injection pala yan...

 

you said, last 10 years that would be 27? pwede pa siguro not unless mukhang na sya

losiang. somewhere, sometime she has to stop... mahirap pa naman ang panahon ngayon

because of the dreaded disease... hindi alam nakapag hawa na pala...

[Itto Ogami]

even though my story here has ended, i'm still addicted to this thread.

you know why? it's the romantic in me, men!

 

i'm still waiting to read that story from a fellow member with the much-coveted "happy-ever-after" ending.

 

inspite of the cynicism offered by this world,

i still would like to believe that LOVE DOES, INDEED, CONQUER ALL.

 

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[Rasc]

even though my story here has ended, i'm still addicted to this thread.

you know why? it's the romantic in me, men!

 

i'm still waiting to read that story from a fellow member with the much-coveted "happy-ever-after" ending.

 

inspite of the cynicism offered by this world,

i still would like to believe that LOVE DOES, INDEED, CONQUER ALL.

 

:heart:

:heart:

:heart:

 

that's very true, kaya andito rin ako coz i also experienced it twice, ended in good terms... thanks for my bro, who always tug me along and taught me some lessons experience wise... kung hindi mu feel or gusto yung babae, palit agad no more why or reason... first rule enjoy lang... kasi babalik ka rin kinabukasan sa real world. added bonus na lang kung nagka-gustohan kau ng babae, but don't blame anybody even the girl on what happen to you. because we had a choice.

 

right now... im seeing someone that i like, but she's doesn't know about it, all that she know i'm her regular... hindi ako kumukuha ng iba kahit gustong gusto ko na... the reason that i like her, she's straight to the point.. although already a veteran at her young age, but she doesn't apply it to me... knowing her bit by bit, mahirap kung makahalata eh, that the sign kasi that im in to her, and its a sign of my vulnerability... when im there we talked about anything, hindi lang namin pinaguusapan ang work nya, which means she already got the idea, that im not interested in her work. its only time consuming, sabihin natin mabagal ako... mabuti na yung nagiingat...

[btdeadlock]

sabihin natin mabagal ako... mabuti na yung nagiingat...

Ako mabagal din. Ayun, naunahan tuloy ako ng isang guest niya kahit na mas matagal akong regular (by about a year in fact). Ngayon, sila na at wala na siya sa club. Ako broken hearted.

[lankaface]

Ako mabagal din. Ayun, naunahan tuloy ako ng isang guest niya kahit na mas matagal akong regular (by about a year in fact). Ngayon, sila na at wala na siya sa club. Ako broken hearted.

Ang advice ko lang, we have to work fast and if it doesnt work out, change the girl. If it took you a year and you still dont have her, just think how much money and time you have used up without the result. Not only that, baka nawalan ng gana yung girl sa yo, dahil she might think you are just playing with her mind and not really interested in a relationship.

[Curious]

Mayroon din naman cguro magkakaruon ng happy ending, at least baka.

 

There is this girl I met in a MP, way many many years ago. Bago lang siya nuon and I am a regular at that place. She was fairly new and by chance I saw her and took her the next time I went. At the first encounter, it was a great experience. She was malambing, sweet and just about the girl you would want to bring home to mama. Kwento kwento about life and a 2nd and a 3rd visit. She wanted to save up for her family and then go back to school. Back then and maybe even today the top grosser makes lots of bucks monthly as they have quite a few guest and some guests are more generous than others. To make the long story short, I asked if she was serious to going back to school and I would help her get through it. Of course I liked her then, maybe great affection as I am a married man. So she quit her job, barely 6 months into it. she had a kid, less than a year old then, separated. Now kids is no longer a kid and we are still together, so to speak. In the time I dont have to see the wifey, it was being with her. We have travelled a lot overseas together and she is truly happy being with me. She was done with school and working now for a few years.

 

The beauty of things are, as long as my family is not disturbed and she never insist on it though it is quite natural for her to ask for a weekend or some longer time together than just a few hours and an afternoon. She does not want to be seen with me outside eating just in case we bump into someone I would know and Manila is a small place. Very understanding, very caring and we are a perfect match in bed. Never had sex with anyone so good ( i mean compatibility wise).

 

The past is over for her and I never ever brought up where she had been once upon a time, I live for the present and the future never dwelling on the past.

 

Money is not issue for me and I have helped her but she never ask for it even knowing how easy it would have been for me to give. Things I want to spend for her or do for her, sya pa and umaayaw. Things that would have made her future secure without having to work anymore but she insist on not doing or take.

 

Hard to find a girl like that. I am happy being with her. As a columnist once said, the reason why men has the other girl is that because when the man goes to see her other girl, she is at her best and wants to make it the best time possible being together, as the time is limited and few. Unlike the wife, who after all may have had too much of the man already or takes the man for granted. So imagine if every single hour, single minute is being happy. When I am stressed up with work, and I see her or be with her, I am just relaxed and even just lying down in bed doing nothing is already good enough to call off a business meeting.

 

Will this last a lifetime, why not? As long as she is able to balance between the peace I want in my home and just be happy with the restrictions, then I can see myself growing old with her.

 

Maybe so far this is one with a happy ending ( but mind you I have had my share of the horrors you guys talk about.) But hey its been almost ten years and each moment with her is just like it was the first time or to be realistic like the first few months, full of passion and joy.

[JustSmile=)]

Mayroon din naman cguro magkakaruon ng happy ending, at least baka.

 

There is this girl I met in a MP, way many many years ago. Bago lang siya nuon and I am a regular at that place. She was fairly new and by chance I saw her and took her the next time I went. At the first encounter, it was a great experience. She was malambing, sweet and just about the girl you would want to bring home to mama. Kwento kwento about life and a 2nd and a 3rd visit. She wanted to save up for her family and then go back to school. Back then and maybe even today the top grosser makes lots of bucks monthly as they have quite a few guest and some guests are more generous than others. To make the long story short, I asked if she was serious to going back to school and I would help her get through it. Of course I liked her then, maybe great affection as I am a married man. So she quit her job, barely 6 months into it. she had a kid, less than a year old then, separated. Now kids is no longer a kid and we are still together, so to speak. In the time I dont have to see the wifey, it was being with her. We have travelled a lot overseas together and she is truly happy being with me. She was done with school and working now for a few years.

 

The beauty of things are, as long as my family is not disturbed and she never insist on it though it is quite natural for her to ask for a weekend or some longer time together than just a few hours and an afternoon. She does not want to be seen with me outside eating just in case we bump into someone I would know and Manila is a small place. Very understanding, very caring and we are a perfect match in bed. Never had sex with anyone so good ( i mean compatibility wise).

 

The past is over for her and I never ever brought up where she had been once upon a time, I live for the present and the future never dwelling on the past.

 

Money is not issue for me and I have helped her but she never ask for it even knowing how easy it would have been for me to give. Things I want to spend for her or do for her, sya pa and umaayaw. Things that would have made her future secure without having to work anymore but she insist on not doing or take.

 

Hard to find a girl like that. I am happy being with her. As a columnist once said, the reason why men has the other girl is that because when the man goes to see her other girl, she is at her best and wants to make it the best time possible being together, as the time is limited and few. Unlike the wife, who after all may have had too much of the man already or takes the man for granted. So imagine if every single hour, single minute is being happy. When I am stressed up with work, and I see her or be with her, I am just relaxed and even just lying down in bed doing nothing is already good enough to call off a business meeting.

 

Will this last a lifetime, why not? As long as she is able to balance between the peace I want in my home and just be happy with the restrictions, then I can see myself growing old with her.

 

Maybe so far this is one with a happy ending ( but mind you I have had my share of the horrors you guys talk about.) But hey its been almost ten years and each moment with her is just like it was the first time or to be realistic like the first few months, full of passion and joy.

Just a question sir..

 

I know, from ur story, that u really helped her.. A LOT i might add..

 

But have u ever wondered if she would search or find someone that she can call her own? If ever that time comes, would you allow her to be happy with that guy knowing what you have done for her..

 

Wala lang, tipong pang telenovelang tanong lang.. hehehe.. peace!

[lankaface]

Mayroon din naman cguro magkakaruon ng happy ending, at least baka.

 

 

 

Will this last a lifetime, why not? As long as she is able to balance between the peace I want in my home and just be happy with the restrictions, then I can see myself growing old with her.

 

Maybe so far this is one with a happy ending ( but mind you I have had my share of the horrors you guys talk about.) But hey its been almost ten years and each moment with her is just like it was the first time or to be realistic like the first few months, full of passion and joy.

I had a friend in high school whos father died early. We went to the wake then, and saw a little scuffle just in front of the coffin. After the comotion we were told that theydiscovered that the father had a second family and the kids were exactly the same age as my friend and his siblings. That was a happy ending for the girl who was an mpa before in Timog, but the place closed down a long time ago.

[Rasc]

Ako mabagal din. Ayun, naunahan tuloy ako ng isang guest niya kahit na mas matagal akong regular (by about a year in fact). Ngayon, sila na at wala na siya sa club. Ako broken hearted.

 

bro sa pakiramdaman din yun, kung feel mu na yung right time sabihin sa kanya, sinabi mu na... in my case alangan pa eh, pagsinabi ko sya kanya agad yun maaring magbago sya or biglang umilag, kumbaga hit or miss...

[btdeadlock]

Ang advice ko lang, we have to work fast and if it doesnt work out, change the girl. If it took you a year and you still dont have her, just think how much money and time you have used up without the result. Not only that, baka nawalan ng gana yung girl sa yo, dahil she might think you are just playing with her mind and not really interested in a relationship.

Hmm, how do I answer this without inadvertently revealing the identities of the involved parties?

 

The first year that I took her wasn't because of attraction. It was out of guilt. I wish I could say more but lets leave it at that. Later on, it was starting to feel like an obligation. She would call me up asking if I would come over and I would drag myself over to the club even if I didn't feel like it. Through all that time, we never flirted with each other. I never gave any her indication that I was trying to get into her pants nor was she affectionate towards me (at least most of the time). What I didn't realize was that I was slowly falling for her, and when I did realize it, it was too late.

 

Regarding the time and money I spent, I guess a quote from "The Little Prince" sums it up quite nicely...

"It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important."

-- The fox from "The Little Prince" Chapter 21

[Rasc]

Hmm, how do I answer this without inadvertently revealing the identities of the involved parties?

 

The first year that I took her wasn't because of attraction. It was out of guilt. I wish I could say more but lets leave it at that. Later on, it was starting to feel like an obligation. She would call me up asking if I would come over and I would drag myself over to the club even if I didn't feel like it. Through all that time, we never flirted with each other. I never gave any her indication that I was trying to get into her pants nor was she affectionate towards me (at least most of the time). What I didn't realize was that I was slowly falling for her, and when I did realize it, it was too late.

 

Regarding the time and money I spent, I guess a quote from "The Little Prince" sums it up quite nicely...

"It is the time you have wasted for your rose that makes your rose so important."

-- The fox from "The Little Prince" Chapter 21

 

 

maybe its just because that time your vulnerable... you should have a choice when to say no... in my case, i simply said i'm busy. most the time women think that we are trying to get in there pants... since they are working in this industry. but when they know that we are falling in love, its either we win or lose.... there no such thing a late... because we decide on which path we will go through...

[btdeadlock]

you should have a choice when to say no... in my case, i simply said i'm busy.

... yet I still decided to go. I guess what one of my friends told be was right, that deep down inside, there was already something there.

 

Funny. I remember last year, Valentine's day, I was all set to stay home the whole night playing computer games, then she texted me asking if I could go see her at the club. She hadn't planned on going to work, but she didn't feel like staying home alone on Valentine's day either. So, I quickly ran to a nearby supermarket, bought a small box of Ferro Rocher, and went to the club. During my time with her, she revealed her frustration that she had a lot of guests courting her, but none of them showed up for Valentine's. "If they're just going to play with me, I'm going to play with them too," she said.

 

I was with her sister last Friday and poured my bleeding heart out for five hours. She mentioned how I was there for her sister before anyone else and when no one else was there. She didn't say the usual "maybe it wasn't meant to be" line, but rather "maybe it just wasn't the right time yet".

 

I just hope she's right.

Edited February 14, 2010 by btdeadlock

[TanglewoodBoy]

... yet I still decided to go. I guess what one of my friends told be was right, that deep down inside, there was already something there.

 

Funny. I remember last year, Valentine's day, I was all set to stay home the whole night playing computer games, then she texted me asking if I could go see her at the club. She hadn't planned on going to work, but she didn't feel like staying home alone on Valentine's day either. So, I quickly ran to a nearby supermarket, bought a small box of Ferro Rocher, and went to the club. During my time with her, she revealed her frustration that she had a lot of guests courting her, but none of them showed up for Valentine's. "If they're just going to play with me, I'm going to play with them too," she said.

 

I was with her sister last Friday and poured my bleeding heart out for five hours. She mentioned how I was there for her sister before anyone else and when no one else was there. She didn't say the usual "maybe it wasn't meant to be" line, but rather "maybe it just wasn't the right time yet".

 

I just hope she's right.

 

that's hard bro,. saan ka kumukuha ng lakas to go on??? me, i would have given up had i had the chance...

 

such harsh realities of life....

 

good luck on whatever bro!!

 

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